Welcome,
Everyone,
To today's meditation,
Be Free to Grieve.
I have been absent from writing meditations the past few months due to my husband's sudden and unexpected passing.
So if you're listening to this,
I want to extend my deepest sympathies to you.
And in the next several minutes,
I want to help you find some peace and hope for your future.
Start by finding a comfortable position and close your eyes.
Take a deep breath in through your nose and say our mantra,
Be,
And a slow,
Calming breath out through your mouth,
Saying our mantra,
Free.
While you listen to my words,
Continue your slow,
Calming breaths while repeating our mantra,
Be free.
Let's bring to mind our loved ones.
Can you see their face clearly?
In your thoughts,
What are they doing?
Are you picturing yourself right there with him or her?
Some people live with grief all around them.
They place pictures on the walls of memories past.
They constantly talk about the person to keep their memory alive.
They relive in their minds all the memories of their person,
Good and bad.
They may visit the cemetery often,
Or they may just walk through their home looking at their loved one's favorite chair,
Favorite shirt,
Or any favorite that brought your person joy.
It's almost like walking through a museum and seeing the whole person's history before your eyes and wanting nothing more than your person to walk through the door again and envelop you in their arms and never let go.
While others may compartmentalize their grief,
Keeping it in a special place,
Only to visit when mentally able or capable,
Not allowing themselves to fully feel their grief,
Whether it's because it's way too painful or they don't want to appear weak in any way,
For showing this very human and very normal reaction to such a great loss.
So many days the weight of grief is crushing your heart,
Making it hard to breathe at times,
Even to the point of not wanting to be on this earth without your loved one.
Then something positive happens or a special person in your life keeps you going,
Gives you that little or sometimes big push to take that next step and keep putting one foot in front of the other.
I know our loved ones are in heaven,
Either because they have finished their work here on earth or because God saw that they were suffering and needed to go home to rest.
Either way,
We need to carry on.
Our work here is not complete yet,
So we need to keep living our lives,
Doing our work here on earth until God feels it is our time to join him and our loved ones in heaven.
It is not our decision when our time is up.
God is always and has been in control,
And we need to all keep hope and faith that he will guide us and take us in the direction our lives are destined to go.
How one grieves is a very personal and private matter.
Only the one grieving knows how long they need to grieve or how they choose to grieve to honor their loved one.
The length of time or way one grieves does not measure the depth of love they had for their lost loved one.
All people,
All grief are different.
No one way is right or wrong.
Keeping busy is the best advice I can give and do at least one nice thing for others each day.
This will have a positive effect not only on the souls of others but our souls too.
I choose the honor and loss of my love,
My dear beautiful husband,
With love,
Giving and kindness to others instead of drowning in constant misery,
Sadness,
And anger.
I hope you can find inner peace and comfort to keep living a fulfilling life around the hole in your heart.
And eventually when you are ready,
Start filling that hole with the memories of your loved one,
The love you both shared and the love you can share with others.
Now let's open our eyes and feel the peace inside you of hope,
Of new and better times to come,
Never forgetting our loved ones but living in memory and honor of their lives and how they touched ours and so many others.
Be free to grieve.
