Heal In Place. Fill Your still. (Toxic Shame)

Toxic shame infects every part of your mind, body and soul and will severely damage your spirit and identity. It often begins in childhood and as adults, distorts reality and leaves us totally unable to see anything or anyone as they really are. I lacked a sense of self and was dominated by my false-self, which I created. My false self was a chaotic combination of survival skills, defense mechanisms and poor coping strategies all developed as a reaction to being emotionally abused.

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I put “sh*tshow” into the search box. This was 5th on the list, the others did not apply and were just stories. The Meat of this resonates and spoke of addiction which I am challenged with in social situations, including family holidays like today (Thanksgiving in the US). Even though my dad has long been gone, and I am an older very very successful RN in the field of Trauma/Emergency and Critical Care, I haven’t realized that my addictions (alcohol and nicotine) can be boiled down to “Shame”. I appreciate what this talk has to offer and am looking forward to this internal investigation as to why Chaos I choose (Emergencies) and also create with excess (addiction) seems to be actually soothing. Thank you for this insight into my “Value” today and for your explocit and informative talk as a springboard. I appreciate you.

Thank you for sharing and mentioning radical self acceptance. Toxic shame seems to make one forget tools that are soothing.
I appreciate your guidance.

Excellent talk. While I lived with toxic shame most of my life, it didn’t know it was toxic shame. It was my normal I didn’t know differently. Thank God I woke up and I work something similar to your 5 steps. What a ton of bricks have been lifted off my shoulders! Everyday is better while I continue to learn and educate myself!

The work is hard but so worth it. If you think you can’t do let me be the first to say you can! You just have to start!! 💜