How To Heal Negative Thoughts

Welcome back to another episode… here I will be talking about How to heal Negative thoughts. And how to do them in easier bite-size ways. What are the negative emotions? Where are they coming from? What happened when we hold them? Use the meditative process to clear away the pressures by solving all your problems. Begin to enjoy every moment of life! Now.

Transcript

Hello beautiful selves welcome back to another wonderful episode here at life is magical today I'll be talking about negative emotions and also how to overcome them or even the not so great feels that we get out of those that inner chatterbox that we have here today will go a little deep dive maybe have a notes or a journal beside you to take some points down and work towards it. So let's get started. This topic came into my mind as we were doing the weekly meditation and always being positive. It is so hard and this is where my thoughts went deep down. I was thinking about it many times before why is it so challenging to be positive all the time and why should one be always be positive. Life is a package with up and down 360 degrees with all the curves and everything so how is it that we need to only be taking a side of being positive and not looking at the other angles in our life and this is where I realized couple of years ago it's not so relevant to be positive it is more important that you're happy that you're accepting emotions that you have. I do have my set of chatterbox my set of downfalls my set of things that I criticize about but I do even understand where is it coming from and how I can shift in. It's that thing that I always say first is to acknowledge the emotion that we are having and then work towards it rather than ignoring and going over the bump and just trying to be on the positive side because that's not going to be much balanced not much even a sturdy one because you're only seeing the angle of life from one side you're not witnessing the other side of it and also like you know being positive always be positive this is kind of a bit pressure as well when you say to someone because if someone is going through a traumatic situation or has lost a loved one or dealing with cancer or something very deep when you say be positive doesn't sink in because they're already in a well-off thoughts but it might be rather much worth when you say how can I help you what can I do for you is there anything you want me to do or say or be there for you and that might shift when just saying be positive think about it like you know if you were in the situations what would you have loved to hear and what is that you will take back to other people as well just give it a thought. In life as it is it throws many things at our way and if we don't allow ourselves to feel these emotions we cannot heal them there is always definitely a brighter side to the things but if you don't look at the dark clouds how do you appreciate the bright blue clouds like you know the clear sky how do you appreciate if you haven't seen the darkness of it it's just that you need to wait for that storm to pass and when there is a storm you need to look into what is your first things that you need to be in that safety net like you know have you got yourself protected have you got your loved ones with you are you taking care of yourself are you in a good mindset that you're choosing to be in so these are the things that we really need to observe and look deep into it. So positive being positive is impossible and also I wouldn't recommend it personally I mean like don't take my word but sit with your experience and hear what you feel about it and how much pressure is it right for the past year and a half I don't know anyone that has been positive all the time I have been doing my spiritual work for past 12 years but yet I have been into my moods I have been into the low moment over the year I have found my own hardness to come out of it and I found a way that I'm able to be in a better side let's say that you know and see how I can utilize myself how I can be of service what can I do but I did go into those spaces but with all the tools and techniques I have gathered over the years now I don't sit with it for too long I know I can come out of it and this is where I want to share few of the tools that has worked for me are working for me and also where I'm doing a deep dive and constantly looking out for the things that will help and if something has helped me I'm always ready to share as well so here let's take a step back you know let's think about what are the negative emotions and how do we heal them and where are these coming from like you know and what has happened like in our lives and how do we release as well like these are the things that we need to acknowledge first thing before even we surrendering or saying oh you should not think you should not be here you should be like joyful happy smiling and everything like you know but let's begin with a very basic step of it like here so think about it like you know what are the negative emotions like how do you feel about it like have you ever felt miserable sad hate anger or jealousy these are some of the things that do weigh us down because these are heavy terms as you hear them also these are the heavy things that weigh us down as if you're carrying a kind of a heavy backpack and walking around that affects our confidence self-esteem the way we communicate the way we speak as well like you know it's not only right now but it might have been that you're carrying this weight for a very long time so think about it this is an energy weight that you're carrying in literally equal to the physical weight and i don't know if you ever noticed it someone being into the spirituality or being on the joyful side of it they they look happier inside out because they are doing their work that's the most important thing anytime they are carrying extra weight they're trying to take it off or release it and try to go lighter and this is where these negative emotions uh thoughts uh have to be first set all right i do know what it is like you know um so yeah think about which are the ones like these are not only yours think about it very cold names in school from your family members or from the society like you know have you been said like um why are you so anxious why are you so hyper or why are you so afraid of many things like you know as fear being weighing you down or um why are you so um raging with anger and have you been lonely as well for a long time like you know and where is that coming from has people not been hearing you or they're not acknowledging you or you're in a group of people and they don't recognize that you do exist in their lives but so think about what's happening in your current situation so these are the negative emotions generally come from these triggering um events that happen in our lives or uh situations circumstances and they leave like a trauma in our minds that we go back and into that comfort place of self engaging with ourselves into that deep thought it is that weight is so heavy that you feel comfortable of knowing situation say for example if someone has called me angry i'm an angry person and um rather than fighting against it and coming out and sharing myself my choice much easier is to all right they're calling me that i do accept it i'm an angry person i accept and move further which makes me accept that weighted and that becomes my constant trigger but the choice is for me to say no i'm not this is my fair point this is why i feel uh discomfort about your opinion here and this is what i don't like about it so this is a new way of communicating and this can leave me to uh discomfort the new terms that i'm going to talk the new way that i have to explain to people it's an effort that comes now it is about am i ready to take this effort and change or am i happy being whatever the tagline i'm being given the choice is mine choice is yours and with that choice i have chosen to overcome my beliefs of what people have tagged me and worked on it and found my authentic self my own self of who i am and what are my triggering points and where are they coming from and then accepting are they mine are they not mine if so who has said it as long as the memory goes backward i'm able to go into those answers and get it out and that may it made me get into a freedom less stressed about the things i have no control on say i have no control on who is going to come in my path and say i'm an angry person or a situation so it's about like i'm just going to be truthful to myself and my intention is not to hurt anyone and i'll do my best to express myself in a calm manner and that's it that's what i'm in control of the rest i'm not so i'm not going to worry and stress myself and weigh myself down and this is one way you can do it and that takes a little bit of a deep process and also deep understanding and you should be surrounded with a soul tribe to do this work so if you are stuck someone can bring you out and show you the light and this is really needed having those wonderful people in our lives yeah and because these are old emotions these have a trauma associated or a grief of a loss of yourself soul loss happens that you feel so strong about these negative emotions with the fear shame guilt anger all these and we we lose our abilities to express ourselves freely and that's where you notice some people are lost for words or they are more introvert or they just silence themselves because they just are tired of speaking up but that's not the case though that is not the case our natural state is to be happy and that is who we are we are born with that as a baby you weren't born with all these other emotions all you need was to do give smiles be happy be content and get some attention that's it and that is who you are and it doesn't take much effort but because we are being pushed down to the other side now to lift ourselves back from the deep well this is where our effort is coming in this is where we are struggling to be more positive or uplift or a growth mindset that we are missing out there's someone say something to us we sulk we pondered about it for months years and then at the end the person has forgotten even they ever mentioned anything to us or they didn't mean in the same way as we have thought and wasted all our years and we haven't even seen the self-worth in ourselves what a beauty of years wasted right do you relate to this have you been in such situations has anyone said to you and you kept thinking about it over and over isn't it amazing what our monkey mind does it can take you to the places where we lose the support where we lose who we are and we are left with that vulnerability and we just need to build our self back again but in this whole process our identity is lost it is that mind that plays the games and just pushes us deep and then the struggle comes in how to be positive you go onto the internet how to be positive if you type up you get all these beautiful quotes or reminders of course they are inspiring of course they are inspiring i have written a book connect your inner guide so i do know um they they shift they change they move us but sometimes they don't inspire us in those times you definitely see them as a hurdle and even those can be challenging like you know i remember saying ah this person must have been in a good place maybe they never felt any um deep down hurts that's the reason they can write all these beautiful things but until i was in my own journey i realized unless you are not hurt you don't come up with those beautiful quotations you don't come up into the life reality of those thoughts and the wonders and here are the things like you know so one is addressing where it is coming from and connecting to it the other is then working towards it is it really words to hide your emotion i say no i mean like if we can't live our life for ourselves who else are we going to live our lives for right so there is no point in hiding your emotions either the good or the bad positive negative in and young masculine feminine everything has to be balanced and visible as well no this is this is the step that you can start taking to change to shift for yourself like you know fake your smiles if you're really upset about it fake you're smiling by smiling or even the fakeness that you give in your mind the mind doesn't know any different it will believe actually you are happy and slowly it it tries to go inwards as oh this person is happy let me not go into the deep well now let me be bouncing back over is that shift that happens it's also that thought changes by just a simple fake smile and sometimes what i do is i have my phone the wallpapers of my happy moments so that gives me a smile a fake smile a good smile um as the brain doesn't know the difference i try to bring that up through different uh sides of my brain where we will have compartmentalized like you know it's like for some people it's the flowers that inspire them and bring the smile for some it's the babies for some it's the pets for some other people it's talking to a friend so we all have different channels to bring a smile and forget the story that we were telling to ourselves until then so that's the one thing that you can do uh fake smile the by doing it just do it right now you will notice that your face muscles are relaxing you are so like you know shifting your uh away from your shoulders into your body and relaxing and that's the most important thing to be done like you know when we are wound up we need to learn to calm ourselves like yeah pretending to do this way is not harming you it's going to benefit you as well as you acknowledge your emotions do not blame anyone do not blame yourself as well all right i just had this emotion i am feeling frustrated right now um by someone who has triggered me but it's not them it's you who was uncomfortable with something it's coming out so it is about you owning them and you accepting and releasing it okay i do accept that i'm comfortable uncomfortable right now i'm going to release this emotion and get into my comfort but before that i'm just going to understand where this uncomfort is coming from um what is that i it's like all right i wrote a blog and someone commented uh there is a grammatical mistakes there i get so uncomfortable because first thing first up um i'm not sure if my english is so expressive even though i had a good education in english school but somewhere i i doubt myself because it wasn't my first language um back in my school days and that's where like when we set ourselves to that boundary of we may not be good enough anything that comes around that picture will never be good enough then it took a lot of courage for me all right mistakes can be done by anyone even if someone is a english-speaking person if they have dyslexia or if they have a writing skills issues they're not going to be good at grammar that's fine then someone point it out to me thank you for that i'm just going to correct it thank you for sharing that you know and this is how the shift has to happen after you acknowledge rather than it pushing you backwards you know um then you'll feel the vibration your mindset the vibration changes and you feel becoming more connected to the light inside you and you thank them actually thank you for raising that thank you for telling me that you know in a way i have a victory smile or a dance in my mind or i celebrate it just becomes much easier and as it you can see my voice changing right now that is how even the situation we can do change it and you can breathe into it by breathing in you just are melting that tension away like you know and that is the best thing like shifting and melting the tension away you are connecting back to your body and being grateful for those people that are coming and teaching you these valuable lessons and if these people situations are not coming into your lives what is that you're going to learn think about how flat your experiences would be like how your life would be like you know so definitely these people are coming in and teaching you so many wonderful things yeah so start appreciating all your rough the thoughts the processes that you're going through now the fake smile is great to shift everything also you can have for me sticky notes are the best things or decals are the best things that i go by i have my sticky notes right in front of me i have a sticky note saying i love and accept me for me i deserve to enjoy life and its pleasure and these are the reminders that i need to hear whenever i see them right in front of my computer these are the ones and i'll be shifting up if i need something else if i see they're not doing anything for me i'll just write new things down like you know so having these precious images constant reminders help us to hook onto um the better side of our mind and when we are on the other side it just gently lifts up it's not rather than not going there but if i'm there i'm just going to come out of it much is like you know and life need not be so hard as we make it like you know life is something that you get an opportunity to live by once with this same body with the same consciousness so living it fully is so vital and so important as well like yeah so it's about us how we make the most of it and pausing thinking and speaking from that balance tone is so important if you have worries like your son has a tricky question if you pause your mind will process and will have a better answer better resolution and you can speak with a balanced tone or if there is an argument happening in the family i generally try to walk out of the room get some water and connect back into that family space so my energy is shifted and i can have a better conversation that i have learned over the time like you know how to engage with it because there is some things that you just can't avoid or these things that happen and but there is a way you can come out of it that's the most important thing to remember like in your precious image have your affirmations um quotes beautiful pictures your happy uplifting moments in your life yeah i also love um watching comedy shows if i'm so upset i love to go for a drive connect with the nature or if i don't feel inspired to do that then watch a comedy show that has no agenda it just loosens up my mind uh stand up comedies which are quirky things and have nothing to map into my current life that helps you to change shift and diver your attention because sometimes deep thoughts deep thinking are not going to give us a solution because you're so deep inside the problem that we are not able to see any solution any new idea any new uh inspirations to come out of it because you're on and on and on thinking the same thing so disconnecting and connecting back will help us to shift the wavelength and also connect in a better ways yeah i teach this in the kids uh schools with the mindfulness activities if you have a worry if you have a fear if you have anxious moment imagine you need to be in a ball a football and you're just kicking out of your head it's amazing how the kids laugh and try it out and they feel so good so shifted and so relieved as well because it's like knowing that how much can i control that worry what is that my objective there like you know life is beyond our controls but that something keeps us going but don't get stagnant with it that you need to control everything did we control last year are we able to control anything this year no all you can control change your situations change the way you see change your flexibility and welcome the life bringing with the new possibilities new lessons that you're going to learn and that will help you to push you forward and that's the most important thing yeah and definitely the negative energies emotions does affect our health i always believe the mind and the body are so connected if there is a physical issue in our body there is someone something triggering in our mind as well so think about how much are we pushing the thought and where in which part of our body is being affected at 29 when i had arthritis i came across this book by louis haye heal your body and in that you you get to see what which parts of your body are affected and what are the affirmations to use and what are your thoughts at the time so i looked into because my arthritis was so bad in my leg hold my body but like i was not able to move so i checked on my knees what is it and it said anger and first i didn't agree with that like me and angry but then after a while i realized right i'm finding everything to be so stagnant i'm not seeing my life to be a free flow everywhere i'm being stuck um being coming to a dead end in my life whatever i try um a lot of things that i was not comfortable with as a child it was all coming in in magnified way when i accepted it and i started using the affirmations and along with reiki and the growth of the mind and everything things started getting better and now if i have any other physical issues to me or my family first thing is i refer like where are our emotions what is it saying like how to address it as well like you know and that helps us to shift think about these emotions are hard crystals they are sitting in our body you need to melt them away you need to release them out yeah if not they become the chronic stress or hormonal balance also it changes our immunity um the way we our body deals with it as well it just becomes so lethargic so tired all the time you just miss the inspiration in your own life yeah so think about it which part is your body been connected or disconnected and how you can shift him and here i would like to um i'll share the book in the show notes and also i would share a chakra guided meditation that you can try to send some healing light to these areas if you're having a physical issue in your body you can try this meditation which allows um this stagnant energy to be melted and released and you see a uplift and change in your physical body as well it's just that you know that one gap is what is needed one change in the frame of mind and that's it you will be having much more uh content side of things yeah so now what i do is definitely i like to set my day on a better side on a positive set so i think about three things that i'm so grateful for today um by recollecting like you know any things that i i'm so happy about it go in a nice detailed ways and that is my affirmations and that way i'm much much more easier and i try to focus on the present that i i can deal with and that where i'm much organized about it yeah i try to have my soul tribe my circle of friends who can uplift and hold space for each other which i have learned to have a boundary of only letting the good vibes come in because when you are in a group of people who are only sulking about their energies about their events tragic things um over the small things meaningless things from my point of view it's like oh this person has given me this particular dress which i'm not happy about it or gifted me something like you know that i'm not happy about it these things are not having much value and when you keep repeating about it it just drains the energy around everyone so i try to keep my circle small and uplifting so where we are holding the space for each other and shift our own ways like you know if i have a challenging moment someone else lifts me up and if someone has a challenging moment in their lives i try to hold their space for them and allow them to shift in their own thoughts so practicing gratitude and meditation does help i don't want to be so cliche about it but meditation is not something that i always tell about for an hour for me it's that mindfulness practice being present being aware of where you are finding the peace breathing into your body allowing the breath to go in deep into your belly and out that's it itself that is amazing that it can shift many perspectives and being nice to yourself you know which is the most important thing as well it's so important to be nice to you because i said like you're going to live with you only once in this lifetime so better be nice you know um so this is where engaging in the things that you love about like i love art so if something is really really stuck with me i'm just going to go and draw and connect back into my soul and that will help me shift or hold a crystal or get a reiki or just try to balance with a guided meditation or something you know and this helps me to be positive with an optimistic attitude and absolutely that brings us the success like you know and don't let yourself accept anxiety and frustrations are just the way of life they're only part of the life remember i know a lot of people feel comfort feel uh thinking that uh they only know how to worry that's it nothing else they can do about it but that's not the life there is much more beautiful things you just need to lift your neck a little higher to see what things are around you as well you know so that is the so important thing so here uh i would just like to rephrase everything uh bring into a recap for you guys to think about it firstly acknowledge them acknowledge your thoughts don't blame anyone thank those thoughts and events or the people and celebrate that that knowingness of where it is coming from and breathe in have a positive images affirmations bring in gratitude fake smile watch some comedy shows hold a crystal or get reiki or listen to a guided meditation and ground yourself and practice gratitude for being in the present moment and these are the things they'll definitely shift if nothing else have a cup of tea with your loved ones and that again can shift as well like you know it's such a powerful thing these simple things we think and take for granted are actually so powerful and intense as well so begin to enjoy every moment of your life right now right now is what you have got in control right now is what you can do any change not in the past not in the future just now is what you are doing it you know so absolutely bring your vibration back to yourself uh spin in and do what you're passionate about it bring that smile back in your life so hope you enjoyed it and please do leave a comment or a review which i would love to see if this has been impactful or you got to see a different dimension or learn something new i'd love to hear back from you guys thank you thank you so much for listening in have a wonderful day evening wherever you are stay safe take care namaste

Reviews

That was amazing Thankyou
So helpful and insightful
These tools are really going to help me

Thank you so much. Some great tips re: awareness, acceptance & ways to move away from our negative thoughts

💜 I love her concepts and how she presents situations with solutions and experiencing feelings with acceptance. Some ideas I’ve heard from Louise Hay which is comforting. Yet her fresh perspective on Louise’s ideas are inspiring and motivates me to try again in a different way. I’ve changed. So can my thoughts and my feelings around them. Seeing them in a new way is very healing! Dhanyavaad ji! 🙏🏼💜