Do You Need Spiritual Validations?

This is a fascinating subject I have today. Do you need spiritual validations? What does that mean to you? Sit with it for a moment and think… Validations have been a part of our lives since informative young ages. We always look up to our elders to see if they are nodding yes or no before we do anything. If you don't remember, then watch a toddler; e.g., They know they shouldn't access the laptop, but they keep trying to go to the computer and then look for our facial expressions to go or not.

Transcript

Hi beautiful cells this is Sriman Jyotirakar,

Welcome to your Life is Magical podcast.

Hope you are enjoying all the episodes and welcome to episode 28.

And this is an interesting topic,

Do you need spiritual validations?

So this was the topic that I have been thinking about like the thoughts over the interactions that I was having with the clients and the students over the time and felt like sharing my thoughts about it.

So this is a very interesting subject,

So do you need actually any spiritual validations and what does that mean to you?

And just before we get into deep dive,

Sit with that for a moment and grab your kapha and listen to this and do share your thoughts by emailing me,

It's in show notes or in the comments as well.

I love to hear your thoughts and connect with you guys,

There is no right and wrong,

All our thoughts are valid to us,

First thing first,

Till begin with.

So validations has been a part of our life since very young transformative ages right,

We always look upon to our elders around us to see if they're nodding yes or no before we do anything absolutely correct right.

This has been started when we were around like two years,

Three years,

Like you know if you don't recollect any situations like that,

Observe any toddler around you and if they go to the candle or if they go to the laptop they look at our facial expressions,

Are we saying yes to go or no and yet some toddlers do go,

Be cheeky there but it's always a confirmation that is what they are looking for here.

We all do and that is where it begins and we do for every single thing that we do when we are not unsure about it but some of them are very much beautifully open and do what they want to and no matter what they take their responsibilities but some lash back and fall back and try to rise up and do what's right for them again.

So we're all different like you know there is nothing absolutely like you know walking on a straight line,

There is no line,

Whatever we are walking is a line we are creating in and that's the most important thing to agree with our souls or understand about our souls here and as we step into spirituality or getting to know ourselves further or beyond the layers of our layered truth we are seeking for validations from other spiritualists or soul tribe and here this is even interesting because first thing is when we are stepping into our spirituality there are not many people around us who can guide us or anchor us so we are doing something new and there is the moment we are looking for the validations once again in our lives and what is the right thing or right path there is no verifications again given like you know some have a spiritual awakening through your dream state some have through a healing session or some have through a book or medications it could be or just by like a click of moment and absolutely nothing is being validated this is how you need to have it or this is how you shouldn't have it and even if there are any rules made for it think about where are the rules coming in from such a billion population like you know who is creating the rules how do we define those rules whereas we know that we are all unique and we have our own amazing gifts that we need to be agreeing with right and we are constantly connecting to each other to check in i absolutely see this as like you know our wi-fi bars moving throughout the time like you know the click in and out that is how these validations search or seek for it yeah and but the fun part is we don't know yet what is right or wrong and nobody knows it the way we get the information what we are looking for what we are receiving is it even valid is it the right thing but you know what one thing is common one thing is absolutely common is all that information is within us we know that information yeah that's the best thing about it but i'll be sharing as well further into the episode um how it is and what we can do about it or what helped me as well young when we are uh when we are new to this path we are tumbling upon the information because there is so much worst information it's like you're in the ocean you need to know your directions and you need some guide to be there and we try to get into the mentor or a guide trying to seek the information but only we are going to seek is through their experience which is our experience or maybe not our experience even but somewhere a structure comes into place yeah and we meditate not knowing like you know what is that we are expecting just because our mentor has an experience we are trying to validate our experience to map it to it if they see a purple light we expect ourselves to see a purple light but if they see a white light and we see a purple light we feel like oh my god i need to definitely get a white light you know and we question our own process of fate and we don't agree what's happening with us is a right thing here so think about like you know um are you stumbling in your meditation journey or your spiritual practices journey as well i think the before episode is what are your spiritual practices so go back listen to it if any of those spiritual practices do uh bring in anything for you but otherwise like you know every experience is unique it just happens that like you know we have something similar sometimes sometimes absolutely opposite but also it's getting us to the destination of it here there is five types we can cook or more than that how you can cook a rice but and is a rice cooked is that how you consume like you know everyone has a different texture to the rice or um how they cook or how far they overcook or undercook as well so everything is so different right so that difference is what brings a uniqueness to you that you have to remember and what i would suggest is have your journal have your practices the information to you so you are holding what is the truth for yourself yeah that you understand yourself better than any other versions being told you know you can tell yourself better than any other versions being told to you you know hey what exactly do i like what color am i seeing what is happening to me and this is your experience here like people do give up eating meat or alcohol and they feel like you know it is the thoughts um about giving up will make them a better version of a human because their masters have been doing it but think about being validated that you're doing it right way and maybe your inner conflict is not yet ready because you're being influenced but your body your mind is not ready for it and that is where you need to be thinking about am i totally ready with this practice can i do this can i create this habit and is this right for me at this moment of time or can i go rather than the frozen turkey can i go by step by step stages and see how i feel how i grow into it here so that is the other way you can bring in yeah people do say hey can i have meat while i'm practicing reiki i totally leave it to personal experience because sometimes your body needs what it is used to sometimes your body doesn't need it but when you're intuitive your body will tell you either you will have indigestion or you are able to process you're fine you're spiritually connected as well and there are different factors that brings in your journey like you know and also think about like you know how you're raising your karmic ties in this lifetime also affects into it here and also you may not be ready like you know your mind will be having much more inner conflict and your purpose may not be resolved by doing someone's practice but not when you're not ready with your own practice yeah and spirituality essentially means one's ability to experience life by transcending limitations of the physical so you are growing understanding your needs and understanding your vibes and moving further along yeah so that's the most important thing you need to be drawn into and in spiritual awakening you begin to clear certain things out of your life like habits relationships old belief systems that we have created or we grew into and we get to invite new things much more happy fun things that are making us grounded that are making us be cheerful that are making us to be alive the soul to be alive inside out yeah and you may sometimes as process of this shredding you may notice something is missing but you haven't quite figured it out yet and this is where in this phase it's common to feel lost confused and down and this is the phase that we seek for the validations but remember it's like you are shifting the old layers coming into the new layers and you're readjusting say for example you are changing your styling of your garments you are so used to the jeans now you want to wear skirts or like you know trousers and you are maneuvering this change it's uncomfort for your body for your look that you're getting into but you want to do it and you want to enjoy this new process so there is a readjustment is happening but again check in always check in am i feeling good am i comfortable in this is this right for me or what is my mind saying now and always do those check-ins within yourself those are the most important thing and our ego is battling with ourselves we look out for verifications right here isn't it and what are others doing or if i do the same to be in a good place and we definitely i think we are kind of a herd of community we don't like to be the odd ones we like to be part of something and we like to be recognized but hey when you're going through this spiritual awakening you're always going to be that white sheep or the black sheep in a crowd always going to stand out but that is standing out is the unique thing about you there is nothing wrong about it but standing out in our logical mind or the process mind is about shaming or rubbing alone is how we identify and then we don't want to be in that part right we are always trying to recheck and not be in that same space but hey when you do something that stands out is where you're creating your own identification your own personality there and that is unique and that is beautiful that is who you are so always check in your process and then look no further than within because that's a unique thing about your personality in the shift yeah and when that peace is not inside and create more havoc how is that even a spiritual process right and even before that we need to understand what exactly is our spiritual process yeah all the growth and experiences are valid by the time we realize in fact like you know we could have done this journey for several years spiritual process is something for me where it is about agreeing with my soul being happy or being conscious about my deeds my expectations and living a life contentfully and bringing myself into right now and doing things that excite me those are the simple things that you can get into like you know and able to control your control ourselves control our mind and lead into the right directions here and also like you know there are some things that i did mention in my connect your inner guide book and if you're interested link is in below some other guidances like you know how do we seek this spiritual quest like you know for more fulfilling lives some things that you can do is always begin the practice with small like either you are trying to meditate are you trying to learn reiki or are you trying to walk up be mindful start small because any new habit you're going to cultivate if you don't start it small it's going to be backfiring because we can't hold on and do it any further so definitely starting small will help us to be conscious about what we are doing it here silence yourself train your mind to silence when it's looking for those wi-fi signals validation say hey my truth is my truth by affirmations it could be or reminders it could be or you telling it out loud to your mind hey mind come back and be here present with me you're silencing yourself and commit to yourself yeah commitment is the most important thing like you know anything we do like some of us do love our commitments they can keep up if they enjoy it forever some people after two days or two hours they lose the commitment because they are not finding the joy but when you don't find the joy shift and check in what else is a way to get in yeah so commitment to what excites you is much easier rather than what doesn't excite you internally as well um for me like you know sound crystal sound baths is not something that i would love to do or learn right now at this stage like you know um and there i wouldn't be able to take a commitment to practice it but if you tell me like hey listen to this uh music um of the drumming and that will be your commitment uh you can do it i absolutely would love to because that speaks to my heart and soul so always think the things that you are committed to are they exciting you and is that the reason you are doing it and the things that don't excite you give you a fire within you of course you're not and see if it's really a need to do it or is there anything you can change about it yeah and decide what you want what you want to become as well not by someone's else thoughts but by yourself yeah and by all that you're sitting and reconfiguring yourself you're observing you're accepting and your reconfiguration to your soul is happening in that moment here and when you're reconfiguring you are checking what are the things that are happening around you what kind of a people are you hanging out with and who are around you and in that moment of process you are finding your soul tribe and your soul tribe is the tribe that holds on to you understands you nurtures in your growth maybe you don't have similar experiences but at the end ultimate goal is the same so you're able to be there together yeah and listen to your intuition that is always always right it speaks up the right things and you benefit out of it yeah so always think about like you know hey what is my intuition speaking about here am i doing the right things how am i able to bring myself together into this process yeah and being yourself so that's the most important thing so do do check in with yourself and constantly work on yourself with that yeah and when the work is exciting having fun it actually is not a work it's like living your life and that is where the true spirituality comes into place as well or the existence yeah and here i am able to speak all this from a place in my life form that i'm comfortable with all my experiences i'm seeking for more experiences to come in my life by that i'm learning as well right now i'm glad like i don't look for many validations sometimes i do still um because every growth every set of next journey leads you into that path the natural thing so i'm trying to learn as well as i'm talking but anything is of my experience i hold to that truth i either journal it down write it down express my emotion my feel at that moment of time and let the next step flow in yeah just like think about like you know uh like you read a book you got a plot uh and but when you read it for the third time you get more details like more words more emotions more essence to the whole thing that's happening and as we are growing in words in spirituality the life inside us is more interesting more expansive as well and we grow and we understand from different realms every time we have an upgrade as well like you know if i'm going to do this topic in a year's time i might say something more as well on this topic like you know because i am growing with my experiences collecting my experiences and i'll be sharing them like you know definitely maybe 10 years ago i wouldn't have said all these things as well because maybe i didn't have so much of experience at the time so here we are constantly evolving and changing and in this spiritual progress like we no longer fight the nature of our life instead you work with it you stop pretending that life is supposed to be in a certain way and accept it on its own terms you size up the human story and get on with living itself like you know that's the most beautiful thing about it yeah um it's not you're in imaginations anymore and you're just having your life with your authenticity with your purpose yeah you're not asking anyone to validate your life as this is your life you know you walk your truth and live with your truth and no one knows any better than yourself not even your partner not even your parent not even your siblings because you show only one side of the life to each one of them but only you know the whole spectrum and the dimension of your own life yeah and always be open and accepting to your truth as you know the best version you walk in your shoes and you know what's right and wrong and your own experience is what it makes it interesting and here is one thing love yourself unconditionally and learn to love yourself first that's the best growth that we can ever have in this spiritual life yeah we will all reach our destinations and how we make it our destination is our choice or how fast we can reach is our choice or how interesting we make it on the way is our choice yeah walking on someone's path may be right at this moment of maybe not in the long term or maybe it is totally wrong to walk on someone's path here but your intuition will always guide you and speak out about it yeah so that's the most important thing to observe and notice and there is so much difference like you know there is this analogy I was thinking about is there is so much difference in the British English to American English like there is no right and wrong way right some of the words that we say it out all my life I grew up with the British English in India and being in Ireland and coming to US like all my even the words everything in my laptop everything has to be shifted to accommodate to the American English but at the end are the receiver able to understand me yes the essence is the same but the way we use the Z's are different or some of the vocab words are different right and that is how we differentiate and we accept hey I'm in the learning process of the new things here this could ever as well exist which I didn't realize or I realized I didn't need to use it before so now you're accommodating more of yourself yeah and right now accepting yourself is most important than any other spiritual validations so that's the key thing yeah if you ever can do that that will be the fantastic things yeah and if you have been dreaming about like aliens and no one speaks about it to you so think about like you know of course you don't deny it but they may not be courageous to speak about it or they don't they didn't have the same dream as you but maybe they had another set of fairies in their dreams and where they are not open to speak about it because in case you don't agree with it like you know so that's the best thing about like you know what we have is the right things and there is no right or wrong someone to validate us or we can't do the same to others as well yeah we are meant to coexist with our differences and even like I always like think if we are so alike how boring this world will be I'm a typical Gemini I like life to be interesting and meet people of different diversities or cultures or different ethnicities or cultural backgrounds where they grew up and everything because you got so much to learn even like you know right and that is where it is interesting about it and their experiences of the situations they were in is making them right for them but maybe because I didn't have that experience doesn't mean they are wrong it didn't happen to me that's it so with that I would like to end this podcast and ask you to think about it and validate and not validate yourself yeah do what's right for you at this moment as that will make you happy and remember that the more happier you are more shining your path becomes and the more you are into your spiritual progress and that is itself is your spiritual practice yeah and that is what spirituality is from my angle and with that think about it and let me know if you listen to this far at this podcast do drop in and say hello if any points connected to you or where you are in your spiritual path do let me know love to interact and connect and thank you thank you so much for listening and supporting me my work and I'm looking forward to connect to you guys yeah have a wonderful day and whatever you're doing have fun thank you namaste loka samasta sukino bavan too