21 Days Mindfulness Practice - Day 13

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Hello,

This is Sumit Jain and welcome to day 13.

We've turned the corner already and we are heading back for the home and this is day 13.

Well,

We've explored a lot of different aspects of ourselves over these past few days and a lot of different aspects of meditation and one of the most powerful aspects that we can really explore is our emotional side and specifically forgiveness.

I read in a book somewhere that says that transforming judgment into understanding allows peace to replace hostility.

I repeat it again for you,

Understanding fosters forgiveness which dissolves anger and fertilizes hope and this is the foundation of emotional freedom.

And in Sanskrit that term for emotional freedom is referred to as moksha and the foundation of forgiveness is that this what goes back,

It goes back to the biblical times which says that when we forgive we don't free the other person but we free ourselves from the ties and the ropes that bind us to the one that has hurt us or to that thing which has disturbed us.

But when we forgive we free ourselves from the ties that bind us to the one that hurt us and we are the ones who are holding on so tightly to others to those threads that connect us to people who have long forgotten that they hurt us or that we hurt them.

And so the first step to forgiveness truly begins with the self-forgiveness.

There are a lot of times when people have hurt us but there are also times when we have hurt other people but we have forgotten it or we remember but it is disturbing us emotionally.

But that has to be the promise that you are entitled to be happy,

That you deserve it and if you don't feel that way right now it's time for you to take a deep breath in and accept that it's okay.

And that's the kind of universe we live in where sometimes people will disturb us and sometimes we disturb some other people.

And there are some reasons for it.

There are some karmic accounts because of which all these things are happening.

And that if you can keep moving in the direction of your dreams,

In the direction of fulfillment of your deepest desires you will have a more happy and a more fulfilling life.

And if your life is happier and more fulfilling then those around you are also going to be showered by that effect which is created by you.

Because if you are happy people around you will also start becoming happier.

And that emotional,

Those bondages they will start getting released.

So instead of looking at the emotions all the time and the pain we start diverting our mind and our energy towards something which we want to accomplish in our lives.

And we start moving towards that transformation which we truly deserve.

Isn't it?

And so let's just sit for a moment and think about it.

Is there something that we are beating ourselves up?

Is there something out there that we think might be perfect except for something we said or did?

Or maybe it can be that there has been something we didn't say or we didn't do which we wanted to do.

So let's bring our awareness to that.

And if during this meditation if this brings tears to you that's okay.

It's perfectly fine.

If you feel emotional in any way that's okay also.

So let's bring our awareness not on something somebody else did but something which we did to somebody onto that thing.

And that is the thing that we would like to give ourselves the opportunity.

We would like to grant ourselves permission to forgive.

This may be very hard for you.

You may have had a pledge that you will never forgive yourself for this until you leave this life.

But I can assure you that time has come.

The time has come for you to be a little more gentle with yourself.

A little more tender with yourself.

A little more understanding with yourself.

And on a deeper level a little more forgiving with yourself.

You deserve that and you're entitled to that.

And always remember transforming judgment into understanding always allows peace to replace hostility.

And understanding fosters forgiveness which dissolves anger and fertilizes hope.

And this is the foundation of emotional freedom.

So what is the understanding of our emotional pain with or for someone?

Why is it that some people come into our life and give us so much of pain and suffering even though we have not done anything wrong to them?

Why despite our best efforts we cannot make someone ever happy and contented?

The answer is very very simple.

They are not at fault.

They are just doing to us what we have done to them in our past lives.

And they are just paying back the debt.

And this understanding alone changes everything in our life.

And that's why I always say understanding fosters forgiveness.

And forgiveness brings divinity to humanity.

It radiates from the heart that has released the pain,

The resentment,

The regrets,

The disappointments and the guilt.

But we must also remember that forgiveness is a practice.

It has the power to release constrictions in your heart.

And that also is closing you from your ability to love.

So just close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.

And tune into the feelings in your body.

Whatever you are experiencing just allow yourself to experience those feelings.

Maybe sadness or disappointments or anger or regret,

Irritation or confusion.

Just allow yourself to feel.

And most likely you will feel a little bit uncomfortable with this.

But each time you feel a pain in any part of your body just use your breath,

A deep slow breath in and just surrender.

Just take a deep breath in and take it into that space where you feel the pain.

So let's say if you have a pain in your belly just take a deep breath in and feel that discomfort and then just release a little bit.

That will make you a little bit lighter.

And our emotions they anchor the stories that we tell ourselves about our life and about the pain all the time.

And so here is the opportunity for us to observe these stories.

These are the stories we have been telling ourselves over and over again.

But today we understand the things happening in my life are due to my past actions and they are just coming back to me now.

And we all are in pain on this planet right now.

So many lives of karma looming over our soul.

And all these karmas are now continuously playing around us and in us.

And we all are emotionally touched or disturbed.

It's like when we get hurt in some part of the body.

Supposing you stumbled against the wall and you hurt your leg.

It really hurts at that time in the leg.

But if you try to rub it,

It will hurt even more.

But what we need to do is we just have to leave it for some time and the pain will go away.

It will go away automatically without making any efforts.

So you don't know whether to surrender to the pain or to ignore it or try to move it away from it or you try to move away from it.

And exactly the same situation is with our emotional pain.

It will not go away magically by rubbing it.

But we certainly have the opportunity in every moment to forgive,

To lighten the load,

To accept,

To understand.

And understanding the why,

Why it is happening is most important.

But what we are doing in our life is we are trying to judge.

And that judging does nothing.

Pointing the fingers of blame will never accomplish anything.

So if we can just acknowledge upfront that yes,

You own your life,

That you are accountable for your life,

That you are responsible for other people's actions also,

Then you don't need to point the fingers of blame.

Isn't it?

We get it,

We own it and the accountability is really important and completely relevant.

And when we are not the owner of the process,

But in this instance we are the owner of the process.

We must accept that every moment in your life has led up to this very moment.

And we must also acknowledge that everything is exactly as it should be.

Because every moment that has led up to this moment was exactly as it had to be.

Because I brought these moments in front of me because of my actions.

So now let's just close our eyes and let's say to ourselves,

I forgive myself for.

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And then just complete this sentence by thinking of instances in your life where you were angry frustrated with other people's actions.

And again for something else.

So I forgive myself for.

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And again for something else.

I forgive myself for.

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And again I forgive myself for.

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And again I forgive myself for.

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Just keep repeating it.

When you find you've shifted away to some other thoughts or you start analyzing the situation so much more deeply and you start becoming a judge,

Just drift back to I forgive myself.

And it can be your mantra in this moment.

So just take a deep breath in and let's say.

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Just release.

Just openly.

Again take a deep breath in.

Let it go.

And now you can begin your mantra with your eyes closed.

I forgive myself for.

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And keep continuing to repeat it.

I will watch the time for you.

So don't have to worry about anything.

Just repeat your mantra.

I forgive myself for.

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And again I forgive myself for.

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And again I forgive myself for.

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Om Shanti,

I am the master of my emotions and my life.

So you can stop repeating your mantra right now.

And you should have a small smile,

A little smile on your face right now because you should be a little bit lighter than before.

Just a little bit,

Isn't it?

Great that you finally released at least one thread that was binding you,

That was limiting your potential for happiness.

It was constraining you and preventing you from deeper fulfillments.

Just take a deep breath in and gently release.

Take a deep breath in and slowly let go.

Let's seal this meditation back by chanting Om all together.

Take a deep breath in.

Om Then when it feels comfortable,

You can slowly open your eyes and look around.

These thousands of people who along with you give themselves the permission to forgive themselves as well.

Just know that in this moment you are wonderful,

You are beautiful,

You are doing a great job and I love you all.

This is Sumit Jain wishing you peace,

Unbounded forgiveness.

Om Shanti and Namaste.