Detachment.
What is it really?
What can it be emotionally?
I do not mean indifference.
And I want you to think about detachment,
Not as withdrawal.
Instead,
Think of it as a conscious,
Compassionate choice.
Hello,
My name is Maria Baltazzi,
Author of the award-winning book,
Take a Shot at Happiness,
How to write,
Direct and produce the life you want.
Right now,
Let's talk about detachment as something that is actually an inward turn,
Where you stay with your body to explore what it means to soften the grip,
Physically,
Emotionally and mentally.
You may not even realize where you are holding on until you pause long enough to feel it.
You know,
Think about something that you are gripping right now.
It may be a decision that keeps circling in your head,
A conversation that left you unsettled,
A plan you feel pressure to control,
Or a relationship that drains you more than it nourishes you.
The grip shows up in your body,
Tight jaw,
Raised shoulders,
Shallow breath.
It shows up in your thoughts,
Replaying what you said,
What they said,
What you wish you had said.
It shows up in your actions,
Over-explaining,
Micromanaging,
Second-guessing or avoiding entirely.
Detachment gives you permission to stop managing what is not yours,
Not from apathy,
From clarity.
The clarity to say,
I am showing up with presence,
Not pressure.
And here is what that can look like.
Your friend goes silent after a hard truth.
Instead of chasing an explanation as to why they're not returning your calls,
You allow them the space to process whatever they need.
Your pitch meeting gets rescheduled for the third time.
You choose not to spiral.
You return to the work itself and trust that your efforts matter.
A production delay puts everything in limbo.
You use the gap to reset instead of scrambling to fill it.
Someone you care about continues to make choices that hurt them and ultimately hurt you.
You stop giving and offering advice they do not want and let your love speak quietly through consistency rather than correction.
Letting go here is not a loss.
It is a relief.
So with that,
Let's move into a meditation.
So find your seat.
Let your hands rest gently.
Close your eyes.
Take a full breath in and a steady breath out.
Again,
Deep breath in and a long slow release.
Let your body settle into a rhythm.
Now bring your awareness to the top of your head.
Soften your forehead.
Relax the space around your eyes.
Release your jaw.
Let your shoulders drop just enough to notice the change.
Soften through your upper back,
Your arms,
Your elbows,
Your wrists.
Let your hands stay open.
Let them be open without gripping.
Notice your chest.
Feel it rise as you breathe in.
Let it fall as you breathe out.
Soften through your belly.
Let it move with the breath.
Feel your seat supported.
Scan through your hips,
Thighs,
Knees,
Calves,
Ankles and feet.
Now settle into the full weight of your body.
And let go.
And let go just a little more with each breath.
And now ask yourself,
Where am I holding tension that belongs to someone else?
Where am I gripping out of fear that I will lose control?
Let the breath meet that place.
Let it soften.
And imagine gently setting something down beside you.
Maybe it's a conversation that you keep rehearsing.
Maybe it is a role that you are tired of playing.
Maybe it is the idea that you have to hold it all together.
You are not abandoning anything,
You are choosing to carry less so you can return to yourself.
So bring your attention to the center of your chest.
Let your breath meet the space.
Feel your heart soften.
And be available to ask some soul questions and just see what comes up.
And here you are just noticing you're not attaching to a story.
So right now this is just information for you to revisit later,
After our time together.
So just breathe in with the questions and let them move through you.
Who am I without this tension?
Who am I when I am ready to set down what is so heavy?
What is asking for my attention instead?
And where can I soften the grip without losing what matters most?
And allow these words to wash over you.
I let go when the world opens up in unexpected ways.
What was unpleasant becomes pleasant.
The ordinary becomes extraordinary.
Where there were boundaries,
Now there are none.
So may I detach from any thoughts or feelings that no longer serve me.
May I detach from what is harmful and seek what is good.
Instead,
May I attach to words,
Thoughts,
Feelings and people who lift me.
I let go of regret,
I let go of fear,
I let go of worry,
Knowing that a loving universe is always there to guide and support me.
And so let it be.
And let that prayer,
Let those words just settle in to yourselves.
Let it settle into your choices.
Thank you for sharing this space.
Detachment is not something you master.
It is something you practice one breath at a time,
One release at a time,
You are allowed to stop gripping,
You are allowed to hold fast,
You are allowed to feel relief without guilt.
So until we meet again,
Lots of love.
