Getting Beyond Our Limiting Beliefs

Think of the hill in your life you just can't get over. The weight, the job, the relationship - that thing that you strive for but always come up short. You have just met your limiting belief. "But I really want the thing!" you say. First, we have to find out what your subconscious mind has to say about it. The beliefs under our spoken desires are driving the bus. Tara Greenway takes us Beyond Our Beliefs. Life's about to get good. I hope this takes you just where you want to go. xo Kacey

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Hi,

It's Casey.

Thank you so much for tuning in to Shine On.

We're going to talk about our beliefs,

The things we think we believe,

And then the beliefs underneath those beliefs that are maybe getting in the way of our progress,

Those subconscious beliefs.

Tara Greenway is here and her business is called Beyond Your Belief.

So Tara,

I guess your work is helping us uncover the thoughts under our thoughts that are really driving the bus.

Like,

You know what your political beliefs are.

People know what their religious or spiritual beliefs are,

But we have even more subconscious beliefs.

And that's kind of unfortunately what's running the show of our lives,

Because our beliefs help create a reality.

But by bringing those subconscious beliefs to our consciousness,

Then we're empowered to change them and change our lives.

So that's what I help people do.

What would that look like in someone's life if they believe one thing or believe they believe one thing,

But there's something else underneath that's opposing that?

Can you give us a for instance?

What you have to do is look at what keeps on happening in your life.

So a really common example for many of my clients and students is a woman who's in her 30s,

Maybe 40s,

And she just wants to find her soulmate.

You know,

Her career is going pretty well and she's really proud of that,

But she wants that love of her life.

So with her,

Her conscious belief system is,

I deserve love.

I want love.

Where is my love?

But she has a subconscious belief system that says,

Whenever I love someone,

They abandon me.

And so of course inside she's like,

Ooh,

Lovely.

She comes close and she's like,

Oh,

Better stay away from that because I'm going to get hurt whenever I get loved.

Better stay away from that or perhaps better trip that so it doesn't move forward or sabotage that.

Is that possible too?

Absolutely.

So people will,

You know,

People keep getting involved.

Like they're these wonderful humans and they get involved with people that are just like,

Like need a lot of help,

You know,

Are just not good for them.

And that's one way of sabotaging your life,

Your love life.

And our subconscious beliefs always serve us in some way.

So like that would make somebody think that she's doing a good thing because she's helping people.

She's helping men to be better people.

But then it also protects her from ever having to really dive deep into that love relationship.

She stays with these people who can't really commit or who do keep hurting her.

Tara Greenway is our guest,

A mind body healer,

A spiritual coach.

And we're talking about what we believe and what we think we believe and how we uncover our unconscious beliefs.

I think it's pretty safe to say,

Look at what's not working in your life.

And there underneath that could be a subconscious belief that opposes the path that you think you're on.

Is that true?

Is that fair to say?

Yes.

That's it.

That's it in a nutshell.

You're good at putting things into a nutshell.

Yes.

People need nuggets.

You know,

Some people will read books.

I'm always at all times reading seven or eight books.

Right now I'm reading the one that you recommended recently.

It didn't start with you by Mark Wolin,

Which is about the same stuff that I do.

The level in my,

I use several different techniques.

One of them is theta healing and theta healing,

The technique created by Diana Stibel.

And it focuses a lot on beliefs.

And we talk about four different levels of beliefs.

So there's the core level,

Which are beliefs that kind of programmed into you in childhood.

Some of them,

Your parents meant to program in like,

You know,

Whatever religion you were raised in,

Whatever,

You know,

Political environment or maybe a belief like family,

It's always first,

You know,

But then a lot of beliefs at that core level,

Your parents really didn't mean to program in because if they like,

Say they were strict disciplinarians,

Right?

Because they were trying to teach you right from wrong.

So maybe when you were little,

They spanked you when you did something bad.

But maybe the belief that you got from that wasn't like,

Oh,

This is right and this is wrong,

But I'm bad.

I deserve to be punished.

So that's the core level.

But like with It Didn't Start With You,

Which is all about the belief that we literally inherited,

Parents,

Our grandparents and on back,

That's in theta healing,

What we call the genetic level.

And so and that's particularly annoying Casey to me,

Because,

Okay,

I'll be responsible for my beliefs and even my childhood and my parents,

But I have to be working through what my grandparents and great grandparents went.

But yeah,

We kind of do,

Because we're here not just to heal ourselves,

But to heal our whole genetic line,

Our ancestors and our descendants,

As well as of course,

Everyone around us,

You know,

Because when we heal ourselves,

People around us feel that higher vibration that we're now putting out.

And then they get the change too,

If they want to.

Can't make them.

Yeah,

But they do.

But they do.

They do see it and witness it and then have permission to change.

And yes,

I've spent hours screaming at my ancestors like,

Really people?

What have I done to you that you left me with this?

So we've got the core level,

The genetic level and And then the third level is the history level,

We call it,

Which would be both past lives.

And some people don't believe in past lives,

And that's fine.

You don't have to,

But it also includes group consciousness.

So there's always a group consciousness feeling like in our family,

There's a group consciousness in our town,

In our state,

And in our country,

In our ethnicity,

Everything has a group consciousness.

It's not just our own belief.

So we're having to deal with that too.

Have you ever yelled at the group consciousness?

You know,

I've never even thought about group consciousness of a community until you said it.

And then like enormous pictures started to go through my head.

Of course.

And,

And what came to my mind right away is the people who turn 18 and get out of town.

Yeah,

They're like,

This is not the group consciousness I was thinking,

Guys,

I don't know what I'm doing here.

Yeah,

My husband grew up in Miami.

And it sounds like,

Oh,

That's so beautiful.

That must have been so cool.

He always disliked it.

He always felt like he wasn't in the right place.

He went to NYU and has never left New York City.

Well,

Now we live in Croton,

But never left the New York City area,

You know,

And many people,

I mean,

Half the people in New York are from Ohio.

Have you ever noticed that they were in the wrong group consciousness.

And then I was like,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No.

This isn't quite it.

And then,

I'm sure you probably know people like I do,

Many of my friends,

Since the pandemic,

They were just like,

They're New Yorkers.

They came like my husband,

Like,

Okay,

I'm 19,

I'm going to conquer the world.

I'm a New Yorker.

And I'm not really from Kansas or whatever.

I'm from New York.

And then when the pandemic changed everything,

They realized,

Wait,

The group consciousness of New York is changing.

And the group consciousness,

Other places,

Other cities is changing as well.

And I actually could work into the group consciousness of Oklahoma City,

Or LA,

Or Tennessee,

You know,

My friends have gone back to where they swore they never would go back to,

Because group consciousness does change.

So is this why perhaps the circle of women feels so good?

That Facebook group because the group consciousness there feels,

I don't know,

So nurturing?

Exactly.

The word I just thought of with circle of women group consciousness is supportive.

And also,

Those women and I am one of them want to grow so that when you say something to them,

Like,

You know,

There's this book that I read,

That's really good.

Most people will go,

Really?

Oh,

That's nice.

Those women go,

Where can I buy it?

When do you want to talk about this?

Because they have a group consciousness of I want to evolve.

And they also do have a really lovely group consciousness of,

I support you,

I nurture you,

I'm here for you.

And that's what community is or should be.

Right.

And what I love about the group,

Too,

Is that there isn't a lot of a term that I just found recently,

There isn't a lot of spiritual narcissism there.

Nobody's feeling holier than now.

Everybody is not,

You know,

Most people are really cool about authentic,

Authentic,

Like I had a bad day.

And let's laugh about it.

You know,

I love Yeah,

I love nobody takes themselves too seriously.

My pet peeve is spiritual bypassing,

Which is like,

Oh,

No,

Positive vibes only.

And it's like,

Oh,

We must live on a different planet,

You and I live in reality.

I just learned about that,

Too.

Like I obviously you know about it.

I didn't,

I knew what it was.

And I knew I didn't like it.

But I didn't know it was called spiritual bypassing.

When you say to somebody,

How are you?

And they're like,

Oh,

Too blessed to be stressed.

And I'm like,

You know,

And God bless you.

I know one person,

She's done so much work on herself.

And she's been through so much that she is I actually believe her I think it's possible.

She is just joyful.

She is just she really,

You know,

So I think that every once in a while,

There's somebody that actually is too blessed to be stressed.

But I would say 98% of the time,

No,

You're not too blessed to be stressed.

You might be stressed,

But if you but some people think if they just put this huge,

You know,

Sunny billboard out in front of them,

That'll be okay.

Spiritual bypassing.

All right,

So we got the core level,

The genetic level,

The history level,

The deepest level of beliefs that we you know,

We get programmed is the soul level.

So that's our you know,

We're all of course,

You know,

Huge spiritual beings,

We have these huge souls that right now are in these little physical bodies,

You know,

Like our avatar really our little human body.

And so the soul level is that which our huge spiritual being is wanting to learn this time around and even throughout our different lives.

So it kind of correlates a little bit to the history level,

You know,

They're all related,

All connected,

Right?

But the soul level like that's as far as I'm concerned,

That's why we came early when people come in like,

Why does this keep happening to me?

Why does that keep happening to me?

I say,

Well,

I think your soul is really,

Really wanting to learn something.

What is it?

What is it?

And sometimes they actually know right away,

They just needed someone to ask the question.

And then other times they're in too much pain,

And they really don't know.

So we figured it out together,

You know,

And often it's exactly the opposite of what keeps happening.

So like with the woman that wants love,

Wants love,

But unconsciously,

Subconsciously holds a blank because it feels dangerous because whenever she loves someone,

They abandon her,

Because that's,

You know,

And that's another thing I say,

When was the first time you felt this way?

When was the first time?

And with that example,

People like,

Well,

In college,

My boyfriend,

Really the first time maybe it was,

But usually it's like,

Oh,

But when I was eight,

My parents got divorced,

My dad left,

And I saw him every other weekend,

But really,

It was never the same.

I felt abandoned.

So what that woman will be trying to learn is,

I do deserve love and love,

Faithful,

Ongoing love is possible,

Even here on this earth.

So sometimes it's the opposite of what keeps happening.

When you finally bring that subconscious stuff to your conscious mind,

And also realize your connection to the universe,

The divine source,

Whatever you want to call that energy of all things,

Then you know,

Oh,

You ask that energy to change your belief.

And to,

In fact,

We usually use the word download,

Just like you would load a different program onto your computer from the internet,

You can download yourself with a different emotional spiritual program from the universe.

And so you ask for that.

Oh,

I do deserve love.

Let me know what that feels like.

It is possible to have ongoing love.

Let me know what that feels like.

So you don't have to keep learning that same lesson over and over and over.

Right.

Wow.

Wow.

Wow.

Tara Greenway is our guest.

She's the founder of Beyond Your Belief,

Because I help people go beyond their beliefs,

Their old beliefs,

And their old stuck energy patterns to talk to the women who have been carrying around extra weight for 20 years and really want to take it off,

But can't.

You know what,

For one thing,

The first thing I would say,

Even though they've probably heard this before,

Is you are beautiful how you are.

And the most important thing would be to accept who you are and how you are right now,

Not 20 pounds ago and not 20 years ago and not two years from now,

If,

If,

If,

Because acceptance actually,

Astoundingly,

Is the first point of change.

If you keep rejecting yourself and saying,

I need to lose 20 pounds,

I need to lose,

Need to lose 20 pounds,

Something inside you is going to be like,

I think I'll stay right here at this weight until I feel some freaking acceptance,

At least own self.

So that is the download I would give somebody who is trying to release weight and just can't do what they do and then it bounces back,

Is I know what it feels like and how to unconditionally love and accept myself and my body right now.

And from there,

I would say that a lot of times when people have a weight that they can't seem to release,

It's because their weight is protecting them.

And so I would say,

What is that extra weight protecting you from?

Because it might be their one excuse standing between them and really taking a risk in their love relationship,

Whether it's with their own husband that they think,

Oh,

Well,

He,

I'm not attractive anymore,

So therefore I don't have to deal with the problem of our sex life.

Or if it's like I said before,

They're not in a serious relationship right now and they keep holding it at arm's length and oh,

Being what they consider overweight is just the very easiest excuse to use to not be in a relationship.

Well,

I can't be,

I can't go on an app because I have to lose this weight first.

And ask yourself compassionately,

Like,

Oh,

What do I think this is protecting me from and why do I think I need protection from love,

From talking to my husband about our sex life,

From maybe they think it's,

I've had clients that feel that they didn't get a promotion and they could be right,

But they didn't get a promotion because the skinny person got it and not the bigger person,

You know?

So that's why I would say accept yourself and then ask yourself,

Well,

What is that weight protecting you from?

And then work on that instead of the weight and then it can follow all the exercise and dieting programs can follow.

And what about the person that's stuck in a job and they feel they just can't get out from this stuff?

Job that they don't like.

Yeah.

Yeah.

That does happen a lot.

That I would say has a lot to do with beliefs.

So look back at that core level,

That childhood level has more power than we like to admit.

So if your dad or your mom was,

You know,

I've heard this story so many times Casey,

I can't even believe it.

People say in a,

You know,

Cause I do one on one sessions as well as groups and somebody will,

They come in and they talk about events because that's what we talk about.

And I listened to the beliefs that are underneath the events,

You know,

Like it's the waves on top of the ocean or the events and the tide underneath really is the beliefs.

So people come in with this awful story of,

Well,

Whenever I would come home and I'd be so proud,

I got a 98 on a test and my mom and my dad would say,

What happened to the other two points?

Oh,

Can you imagine that instead of saying,

Good job,

You tried really hard or wow,

You are so smart.

My child,

What happened to the other two points?

So that instilled a belief of no matter what I do,

It's never enough.

And people will go and recreate that circumstance.

They'll be in a job where no matter what they do,

They're never enough.

Their boss doesn't recognize them or their colleagues steal their ideas or whatever it is.

Why,

Why do they keep doing that?

To find a different ending to the story.

Their souls will keep recreating the same experience until they learn the lesson of oh,

I am enough.

I am enough.

I trust my own intelligence,

Even if people that I love fail to trust my intelligence.

So that's the belief that would be underneath that.

Probably we're saying for example,

You know,

Everybody is different.

Yeah.

So I would go into each person's example differently.

Tara Greenway,

Founder of Beyond Your Belief.

What is,

I love to ask this question of almost every guest that comes on,

What is the one thing we could do right now to get closer to a more authentic belief?

To me,

It's all about understanding your already existing connection to the universe.

Our,

And that sounds very like,

What?

Very spiritual,

But it's actually the basis of everything.

I find that when people feel a real lack of love in their life or a real lack of abundance or success in their life,

They feel that they,

Of anyone on the earth,

Are disconnected from the rest of the universe.

Again,

That's not a conscious belief.

If you said,

Do you think you're the only person in the world who's disconnected from everyone else?

They'd be like,

Well no,

They can't possibly be true.

But underneath,

They have this subconscious belief of I'm alone.

I'm unconnected.

I'm not connected with other people.

I'm not connected with the divine.

And they might have been taught that when they were little.

They might have been taught that they're sinful and wrong and they don't have to change their religion,

But they just have to find that part of their religion that teaches,

Like,

Actually,

God loves you.

That was the whole point that they were trying to say there in your religious program.

You know,

Actually,

You already are connected.

What I help people do,

And what I would encourage your listeners to do,

Is to realize and understand and actually feel.

You already are connected.

You just didn't know it.

Even that person out there that you think is the most lost,

The most ridiculous,

Maybe politician or professor or family member that you kind of love to have,

They're connected to,

To the divine,

To the universe.

They just may not know it.

And so once you realize your connection,

Then you can ask the universe,

Where is it that I am like,

That my beliefs are like getting tripped up.

And I usually tell people,

I can,

Can I tell you like the few broadest categories and most common categories that people feel like they're lacking in?

Once you feel your connection,

And you can do that simply by meditating.

And I have a feeling most of your listeners know how to meditate.

They don't,

I have a lot of info and little videos on my website,

Beyondyourbelief.

Com that will lead them in this,

But everybody does.

Any kind of meditation that helps you to feel your connection,

Do that.

And then ask the universe,

What is it?

What belief is it that my soul came here to learn about?

And I bet you anything,

One thing is that it's that belief like I am connected to the universe.

I am connected to other people.

I deserve to be connected.

I can feel my connection.

So connection is a big one.

The other,

Another really big one is to love and be loved.

Many,

Many people came here to earth this time around to learn to love.

And a lot of people are super good at that and they keep loving and loving,

Loving,

But they don't know how to receive love or that they deserve to receive love.

And it might take them like 30 or 40 years to burn out and to be like,

I'm actually tired of just giving love.

I want to receive love.

But someday they will.

They reach the point of like,

Oh,

Why can't I just get love like we've been talking about?

And it might be because you thought love was dangerous or you thought that you weren't worthy to receive love or you thought,

Oh no,

No,

I'm only here on this earth to give people love.

These people don't understand love,

So I'll teach them.

But it's a circle.

You have to receive it to give it.

You have to receive it to give it.

So it's about connection.

It's about love.

And then it's about forgiveness,

Forgiving yourself,

Forgiving others.

Those are the three big things.

And I could go on and make like three more,

But that's what I would say to your listeners is like,

Get in place where you can do a little meditation,

A little visualization,

Feel your connection and then ask.

The universe is here to support us.

If you ask a question,

The universe will answer.

Say,

What is it?

What is my soul trying to learn?

What belief can I change?

And you'll get a feeling,

Maybe a word,

Maybe an image,

And it might be love.

It might be connection.

It might be forgiveness,

But you can work on that.

Again,

I use this technique,

Theta healing.

It's an amazing technique to help you change your beliefs.

You can take a whole workshop about it from me.

You can have a session for me.

You can also just buy a book on Amazon called theta healing by Viennese Bible.

So if you got 15 bucks,

You could do this.

It outlines every single step that you need.

It's a very generous book,

So it tells you what to do to change your beliefs because you get to,

You get to change your beliefs and change your life.

That's Tara Greenway.

I just signed up for my first session with her.

I'll tell you how that goes.

I want to uncover my subconscious beliefs and I want to introduce you to Tara at the retreat in February.

We're going to get together at the Marian Dale Center in Ossining and Tara is going to be our speaker Friday night.

And of course,

I'd love for you to be there.

You can get details at kacysplace.

Com.

Also join a circle of women.

So you may have heard me say before I get a bunch of emails delivered to my inbox every morning.

So before I turn on my microphone,

I can feel nurtured and feel like I've given my mind and spirit something nutritious.

And one of the emails I get every day is from Napoleon Hill's foundation.

That really helps at work.

So our thought for the day is from Napoleon Hill,

Who said,

The subconscious mind makes no distinction between constructive and destructive thought impulses.

It works with the material we feed it.

The subconscious mind will translate into reality of thought driven by fear just as readily as it will translate into reality of thought driven by courage or faith.

So we've got some work to do programming our subconscious mind.

Find yourself a good mantra and shine on.

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