Welcome to this self-coaching meditation.
Just taking a few moments to get comfortable,
Moving your awareness to your breath and taking
a few purposeful breaths in through the nostrils and out through the nostrils,
Exhaling completely
and feeling the body softening.
I want you now to do a quick audit,
An audit of how you've spoken to yourself over the
last while,
Maybe the last week,
The last few months,
Or if it comes easily,
Over your
whole life,
Auditing the voices or thoughts you use internally.
Were there times when you were harsh and critical,
Beating yourself up?
Were you ever fair and honest when evaluating yourself?
Do you have the ability to be positive during self-talk,
Using encouraging or supportive
language?
Has that ability ever shone through?
Spending a few moments thinking of the dominant features of your self-talk,
Even if your mind
wanders or lapses during this meditation,
How do you get yourself back on track?
What attitude is there towards yourself?
That comes up when you're returning your awareness back to the meditation.
Now thinking of some of the most supportive and encouraging things you or others have
said to you.
What kinds of words did you or these people use?
How did those words impact your mood,
Your motivation,
Or your confidence?
Could you picture yourself saying words like these more often to yourself?
Could you coach yourself in a more supportive manner?
What kind of coach,
Manager,
Leader,
Luminary do you want to be to yourself?
Are you the shouting and angry type or the kind and encouraging and motivating type?
What impact would it have on your life if you changed your coaching style in the direction
of these kinder,
More compassionate,
More encouraging words?
Our body and mind reacts to words.
Our self-talk prepares our nervous system for what is potentially coming.
When self-talk is harsh and critical,
The nervous system is aroused because something
is going wrong.
When self-talk is fair and encouraging,
The nervous system can prepare in a calmer manner.
Setting an intention over the next few days,
Each time you have a chance to reflect,
Ask
yourself,
Does my self-talk have more negative instances than positive?
Remembering that if the negative outweighs the positive,
The nervous system will remain
stressed and unable to relax.
Moving to this style of self-talk,
A lot of people have concerns about feeling sorry for
themselves,
Full of self-pity.
But you can motivate yourself using very different language.
You can encourage yourself.
You can inspire yourself without being harsh or aggressive or angry.
So evaluate your self-talk and find a balance point of fairness and honesty that will help
you reach your full potential.
