My name is Sangeet,
And today I am speaking about friendship.
We all interact and come across many indifferent people during our lives.
Many of them we call friends,
Or we expect them to be our friends.
What does this mean?
What do we actually want from this concept and from these connections?
Sometimes we simply want people around,
Who we can call friends,
As an attempt to convince ourselves that we are seen and that we are loved.
Sometimes all we want is to feel included,
While we go through so many ups and downs in this lifetime.
Sometimes we want to believe that by calling friends to so many people,
We have something of value,
We have achieved something.
And as the number of friends increase in our collection,
Then we are in a good place,
Right?
We are safe,
We can count on these people,
We are not alone.
Well,
Friendship is a term that we all can define in several and unique ways,
And that,
As all other concepts,
Can be seen through different perspectives,
Depending on what we are looking for.
But despite of that,
I am sure we all agree on this.
Friendship is supposed to be true and honest and fair.
It is supposed to feel good and to embrace joy and happiness and peace.
It is supposed to bring the best in all of us and to make our path easier and lighter as we grow and expand.
If this is what we are focused on,
Then friendship can definitely add a tremendous value in our lives,
Because it actually promotes our healthy evolution as souls.
It is like a push towards enlightenment,
Towards a clear mind,
A clear body and a clear path.
Now,
If it comes from a place of fear and desperation,
Where we don't discern what is and what is not best for us,
Where we don't pay enough attention to how it really feels and to what actually brings into our lives,
Then friendship can turn into one of the most toxic things that we can experience.
If all that matters is the surface,
The quantity,
The events,
Being social,
Pleasing others,
Then we risk absorbing random energies of all kinds that may not serve us at all.
So,
How do we discern if it is good or not?
First of all,
We fully embrace and practice the art of being alone,
Loving ourselves in every single way.
As we do this,
Naturally a question will come to us.
How do we feel before,
During and after that or those particular interactions?
Every time we ask this question,
We give a sincere answer,
Then we fearlessly filter it,
By removing or allowing it to stay according to our own boundaries.
We do this for life.
Now,
We may still struggle in doing this,
Because people and relationships are not always linear and easy to define.
We may doubt of a connection,
And still we find certain positive aspects to it,
Right?
And we have so many limited beliefs about so many things,
That we may lose ourselves in all of that confusion,
Ending up giving excuses to everything and everybody.
For this reason,
I will give you a push.
True friendship feels good,
Safe and peaceful.
True friendship doesn't judge,
Humiliate or accuse,
And it doesn't play games of entrapment.
True friendship truly understands,
Listens,
Respects and honestly reciprocates the constructiveness that supports the relationship.
True friendship doesn't hurt,
Manipulate or pull down.
True friendship truly loves,
Without asking for something in return.
True friendship includes,
Supports and stands up for the other.
True friendship doesn't deplete,
Distract or confuse.
Instead,
It is consistent and it has pure intentions.
It doesn't take or subtract,
It gives.
True friendship takes responsibility.
True friendship doesn't take it for granted.
It is always grateful and appreciative.
True friendship accepts and embraces fear,
And it elevates themselves from that.
True friendship brings us back to us,
As the divine beings that we are.
True friendship is performed by us,
Human beings,
And we are not always in perfect alignment.
We have our moments,
But at the core,
If it is true,
It is always,
Always about love.
If after all of this,
You are still doubting,
Then put all this information aside and ask yourself one simple question.
How much do I feel myself running towards this person or this people?
Do my feet walk towards them freely and happily?
Or do I feel them hesitating,
Stepping back,
Running away?
Energies don't lie,
And our bodies always,
Always react to energy.
It's just that sometimes,
We have the tendency to cover it with fear,
Choosing to be polite and following the norms,
Or to surrender to certain tempting connections out of mental patterns and defense mechanisms created by painful past experiences.
But today,
It is a new day.
Today is the day that we give ourselves the chance to select our relationships the best way possible.
Nothing justifies our unhappiness,
We all deserve much better.
So let's be kind towards ourselves and see behind the veils.
Let's give ourselves permission to experience true friendships,
Because it feels good,
It feels right,
It feels amazing,
It is real,
And it is for us.
For whom else would it be?
Now,
Remember,
To manifest true friendships,
We have to be true friends with ourselves and with Source,
Understanding that that is the base for everything else.
This way,
We can then create and experience true friendships with others in a solid and sustainable way,
In which we not only gain true friends,
But we also reciprocate,
By being a true friend as well.
