My name is Sangeet and today I want to tell you something about forgiving.
Many of us struggle with forgiving,
Whether it is to forgive ourselves,
Others,
A group,
A society,
The world,
Or even God,
The universe,
Or life in general.
Why do we struggle when it comes to forgiveness?
Or why do we even think that there is something to be forgiven?
Let's think of those moments in which we feel that there is something to be forgiven.
In these moments,
We can feel bothered,
Sad,
Frustrated,
Disappointed,
Haunted,
Miserable,
Angry.
In those moments,
We basically feel fearful.
Sometimes we can't even think of anything else,
Right?
This happens because something made us feel unease,
Whatever it was,
And it can go through many levels.
In these moments,
All we want is to get back into a state of peace.
And here it comes the dreaded concept of forgiveness,
And we struggle.
Why?
In a comprehensive way,
It is because lower frequencies can be felt as quicksand.
Once we get in,
No matter the reason,
It may be hard to come out.
Now,
Talking about forgiveness itself,
Usually,
When we feel like forgiving is required,
It is because whether someone did something to us or we did something to someone,
Which can be ourselves by the way,
And in both cases,
We think that particular thing wasn't right and so it brought some sort of pain,
Suffering and regret.
So basically,
And generally speaking,
Whether we hurt someone or someone hurts us,
At this point we know that something has to shift for us to feel better.
But what is it?
Do we have to agree with what happened?
Do we have to like it?
Do we have to erase it?
Do we have to continue in the same situation or we the same people?
No is the answer for all of these questions.
And what about forgiving?
Do we have to forgive?
Before answering this question,
We have to know what we mean by forgiving.
When we feel and say that we forgave something or someone,
It means that we let go,
Nothing more and nothing less.
We didn't have to agree with it,
To like it,
To erase it,
Or to stay in that reality,
We simply let it go.
And this means that we are no longer holding on to something that makes us feel bad.
Instead,
We allow ourselves to be happy again.
This is the true meaning of forgiving.
When we forgive,
We accept and we acknowledge that we deserve the best,
That we are worthy,
That we are souls in expansion,
And that we are beautiful and abundant beings of light.
Now we may ask,
But how does this actually happens on this third dimension?
This can of course be done in many ways,
But for now,
Let's keep it simple.
So in case the action that is asking to be forgiven came from us,
We can right away fix it or at least bring some sort of easiness by simply saying I am sorry to someone or even to an entity like God or whatever thing we feel that we may have hurt.
Now,
For those of us who struggle in saying these words,
Know that if consciously applied,
They can be very powerful.
These words are not about being worse or better than others,
Or having to be punished or rewarded for anything,
Or sacrificing something or someone.
These words represent a sense of acceptance of our whole experience here on Earth,
The embracement of the duality that is part of this entire process of being human.
When it is genuine,
Saying or hearing these words can automatically restore chaos.
Now in case we feel hurt by something or someone,
We may feel stuck while waiting for some apology that can come or not.
But if we pay close attention,
When we feel hurt by something or someone,
We not only tend to blame the external part,
But we also tend to blame us for putting ourselves in that situation,
Right?
So in this case,
Because we can't force external elements to say sorry,
The key is to say I'm sorry to ourselves.
If it is authentic and consistent,
For as long as it takes,
As a meditation even,
It can bring an enormous amount of healing,
To the point that we not only no longer suffer,
But we also can very well attract the apology that we so much wanted from the other element.
The funny thing is that at this point,
Because our energy and focus already shifted,
This external apology may not even be required anymore,
And if it comes,
It may sound like a vague distant random thing that someone says to us.
Now did you notice that in both scenarios,
The words I'm sorry come out of our own mouth,
Whether towards something external or towards ourselves,
Did you notice that in any case it is always about us?
Did you notice that this is all happening in us,
Through our perception,
Thoughts and beliefs?
This is because every experience lived in this planet is as if we go through many scenes of a movie in which we are always the common denominator,
The main character,
In which everything that comes out of us keeps coming back.
And this is why saying sorry to others has the same effect than say sorry to ourselves.
And saying sorry to ourselves can actually manifest an apology from others,
Because everything is always about us anyway,
Whether it is a reflection or a projection.
So in whatever situation,
If we feel the need,
We simply forgive or let go by saying I'm sorry,
Whether to someone,
To something else,
To ourselves or all of them.
In any case,
All we are doing is to free ourselves,
To release,
To surrender to the higher consciousness,
To the universe.
All we are doing is to cut the cords with what doesn't make us happy,
So we can follow our heart again.
All we are doing is changing our perspective on something,
Towards an open mind that liberates us from negative thoughts and toxicity.
All we are doing is to help us coming out of the stuck quicksand and getting into the beautiful waters of the seas.
All we are doing is to heal our hearts with true love and compassion.
Now back to the question,
Do we have to forgive?
No,
We don't have to forgive,
As long as we don't carry any burden,
But if we do,
Then another question comes up.
Do we want to be happy?
If we do,
Then forgiving is the key to drop that burden and have the life that we want.
So today,
Let's make peace with ourselves and others and everything through forgiveness.
Let's make peace with the words I'm sorry by understanding their meaning and power.
And let's also bring more and more consciousness to our choices and actions,
Because then we have less and less to forgive.
