Hey loves!
Today's talk is about letting go of the past self.
And these are just some of my personal tips that have helped me soften the resistance of my past self.
And they go into three main points and the second one goes into four other points.
So let's begin!
So firstly,
When we look at the past self,
Sometimes it can start out as people uniting the fire.
In terms of others reminding us of our past self,
Or our behavior,
Or treating us in a pattern they have in the past.
This can coexist with people's memories of us.
However,
The idea of someone's character won't change unless we see physical proof is setting up others for failure.
Also,
It's a lose-lose situation because we are programming ourselves that people can't be trusted nor can they change.
This translates into our subconscious that if people can't change,
Nor can we change.
Whether we want to accept it or not,
People can change and this gives us permission that we can change too.
This is an exterior reason of why we hold onto our past self.
The reality is that we can't control how people view our past selves.
We can though vocalize how we want to be treated by others in a compassionate way.
Also,
This is why the words we say to ourselves is so important because it's how we treat and speak to others.
A second point of letting go of the past self is our own memories of ourselves.
So this goes into four points and two of them I'm going to mention and elaborate on them.
The first one is we attach people to our memories.
The second one is or we associate memories with any negative feelings.
So the first one,
We attach people to our memories which creates unresolved issues.
Ways that we can change the narrative of attaching people to our memories is by realizing that we only knew what we knew then and it's similar in viewing others as well.
It's not saying what they have done to us is okay but that we are making these connections to let go of the blockages.
We have to solve all of the unresolved issues to make sense of it all in order to find peace with it all.
Second,
We associate memories with any negative feelings such as shame,
Pain,
Embarrassment,
Failure and or regret.
Ways that we can change the narrative of how we associate memories with any negative feelings are again by realizing that we only knew what we knew then and that we didn't have the tools and this can be said to any young age.
We only knew what we were taught or what we weren't taught.
As for teen years for example,
If issues weren't resolved,
Let's say like emotional intelligence,
Then those issues would continue until it's resolved.
We do however in areas have to take responsibility as we age which is key for human growth as hard as it can be.
So tying up these two points is our third point which is that we all make mistakes,
Big or small in all shapes and sizes.
It's okay to make mistakes.
For example,
All my life I have been influenced by people so much so that I basically never made time to get to know myself in some ways.
My vision was influenced and swayed and my spiritual journey lacked with little to no attention to it which basically led to me forgetting my values.
However,
Forgive yourself and forgive others who wronged you.
Sometimes that can be hard but you are doing it for yourself to be lighter and peaceful.
Forgive yourself and don't punish yourself forever for the mistakes you have made in the past.
These are some questions that can get down to the core reasons as to why we made the mistakes which can help to let go of the past memories.
So ask yourself,
Why did you make the mistake?
What was I needing?
What am I needing now?
And a really powerful way of addressing triggers of negative patterns of the past self is by changing the narrative of a memory into a positive affirmation or some sort of souvenir like,
Let it be a reminder of how far you have come.
Finally,
Remind yourself of the good memories too.
Don't let people or emotions completely change or paint a memory.
Really practice not taking things personally.
Realize we can make stories out of simple things.
We see through the eyes of pain,
Sadness and trauma which can affect the representation of reality.
Painting stories of our reality may never go away but we can catch it faster and faster by practicing the awareness of it.
And our third main point is don't be afraid of your past self.
Hold hands with it,
Give your past self what it never got which is love,
Compassion and understanding.
The truth is we have 100% control over the narrative of our past self and our reality.
I think sometimes we don't want to accept that we are responsible for how we feel and how we feel about the past self but we have control.
Also,
You can put these feelings into art or write about them or anything that will help you let go to soften the resistance of the past self.
Finally,
Think about who you are now,
The steps you have taken and who you want to become.
Write about it,
Craft it or meditate on it and visualize it.
You are beautiful as you are now.
The moment we think we have figured it all out means we have so much more to learn.
Therefore,
We are right where we are supposed to be right now,
Always improving and taking the steps we need to take and the truth is the future is now.
So a quick summary of letting go of the past self is that we attach people to our memories and realize that we can change the narrative of how we view the memories of our past self.
And finally,
Focus on your journey now and what you have accomplished so far and who you want to become.
So thank you for listening to this talk.
I really enjoyed doing these.
It really helps me clear my mind so I love knowing that I'm able to help others.
It definitely motivates me to do more.
So thank you so much.
Namaste.
