Forgive, Forget, Move On

Is there something you keep remembering? A person? An event? An idea? An experience? Something you did? Something someone else did? Something unfair? Something unfinished? Are you fed up with thinking the same old things and feeling bad? Are ready to say: Enough of this?

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To forgive,

To forget and to move on.

And unless I start looking at the way I think,

It won't be possible,

Actually.

I'll just keep.

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Because if we feel that something has happened that I'm so upset about,

I can't forget,

It's ingrained because I don't know how many thoughts we may have given to certain things,

But we will have thought and been annoyed and thought and wanted revenge and thought and been upset and thought and thought and thought and thought.

All the thinking didn't change anything.

It's still there.

If we look carefully,

It's still there.

And so.

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I have to look at what it is we keep remembering.

There may be a particular thing or there may be quite a few things.

Actually,

As we go along,

We can have quite heavy thoughts about almost anything.

And it stays with us unless we're going to change that.

So the good news.

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Is that all we're responsible for.

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Are our own thoughts,

Words and actions.

If I could focus my energy on this,

My own responses,

My own attitudes,

My own way of thinking,

Because as long as I go down the track of revenge or dislike,

That's pulling me down and pulling me down.

So whoever has caused us a hurt.

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Are very successfully pulling us down.

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For years after the hurt.

And added to that are many other hurts,

Because everyone's totally filled there with not even knowing that they're hurting us.

Sometimes being hurt is such a personal thing that the person who's quite casually going around slapdash doesn't even know.

So a lot of the time it wasn't intentional.

Sometimes it is intentional,

But a lot of the time people would be completely unaware and in shock if you said that you'd been so hurt over so many years.

They'd think,

Well,

I've always respected you and felt liking for you.

So they wouldn't know that you were hurt.

They'd be liking for you.

So they wouldn't understand,

You see.

So it's all to do with our own,

The way we take things,

The way we process things,

The way we worry about things,

The way we go on and on and on in our own head.

Oh,

Why could they be like that?

Oh,

Why could this happen to me?

What happened here?

Oh,

My heart's broken.

I'll never get over this.

And so it goes on and on and on and all the time I think like that.

I deepen the wound.

I deepen the wound.

I myself deepen the wound.

Sometimes it may only have been a scratch,

But I've made it into a huge wound.

Other times it could be quite a severe thing.

And then that's when I really need to think,

What am I going to do?

And it seems like,

How can I possibly forgive?

But remember,

Anyone who's wounded you has deeply wounded themselves because they will have to pay the price for want of a better word for whatever action they performed.

That's part of their thoughts,

Words and actions.

And maybe they regret or maybe they completely don't even think about it.

Because sometimes people think if they do something really forceful that they've won.

They have won.

And that's just too bad.

And so they're so pleased with their success in winning some energy relationship that they think that all is well for them.

They've managed to win.

But the person,

The other side could be devastated,

But keeps on on weeping inside,

Crying inside,

Angry inside,

Want them to get their comeuppance,

Want revenge.

And that is bad for that side of the relationship.

So both are going to end up equally damaged.

Both.

One who's not even aware or maybe is aware,

But who is so triumphant at hurting someone and it's ingrained in them.

Because they will do this over and over to different people because there's been no comeuppance,

If you like.

And the people who are hurt will weep and wail inside and be upset.

So.

Do you keep remembering a person,

An event,

An idea,

An experience or something you think that you did?

So maybe you feel you hurt someone.

Or you think of something unfair or something that is unfinished.

I can't seem to settle this.

I can't get away from this.

Are you fed up thinking the same old things and feeling bad?

Because you will,

You'll feel,

You won't feel uplifted.

So rad yoga meditation is telling us to always go for the positive take on things,

If possible.

When you go on the positive take,

You start to lift your energy and you're actually triumphant over the damage.

But if I keep buying into the damage,

I'm pulling myself down and down and down.

So whoever hurt me has won a hundred times over.

That was their aim and objective to hurt me.

They've done that beautifully and it's still happening maybe years after they hurt me.

So we really do have to have a look at my own thoughts,

Words and actions.

And that is the energy that can lift me up and make me let everything go like it's past.

Can't hurt me anymore.

And all I have to deal with now is the old feelings and just don't go there every time they come up.

Just don't wallow anymore.

Let it go.

So do you feel you're ready to say,

I've had enough?

I can't go thinking this anymore.

It makes me feel so disempowered,

So frustrated,

Like can't do anything.

And whoever it is,

If they were close enough,

They think you're talking nonsense.

They think,

What do you mean?

Because a lot of people are just completely unaware that they're causing problems.

Sometimes they are,

But,

You know,

There's all the different ways.

So what could you practise every day to give you a new attitude?

So something different from the old patterns of thinking.

Because the old will come in and be away again.

So it's not about struggling with whatever the person or object of your discomfort is or was.

It's about refocusing and using your energy in a constructive way.

Lift yourself up,

Get yourself away from that,

Because it's going nowhere.

Well,

It is going somewhere.

It's pulling you further down,

Further down,

Weakening your own energy.

So if you start to think in a more constructive way,

You will naturally lose interest in negativity.

You'll think,

Why should I do this?

Why should I keep thinking this?

Whatever is done is done.

And if I keep reliving it,

I'm doing it over and over and over in my mind.

So that whatever was done,

It could be very,

Very severe.

But there it was.

And now I'm going over it detail by detail by detail by detail,

Over and over and over and over.

So if I come doing that same act now to myself.

Over and over,

Over and over.

And even though you become very positive,

It will try to pop in every now and again to remind you,

Because why?

You've made it big.

And you've gone over it so much that it's big and it's strong and it's saying,

I'm still here,

I'm still here.

So you need to really have a determination that it's over.

It's over.

And start to lift yourself up.

And start to get your dignity up and running,

Your self-respect up and running,

And then you can help others.

Everyone has a tragedy somewhere,

Has a sob story,

Has a this happened and that happened and oh,

My goodness.

And they may be sitting talking to you about it,

But they themselves will have gone over it at least a thousand times,

Maybe more.

So it will be so strong and actually by that time it will be slightly distorted as well.

It won't quite be the same.

And so we're punishing ourselves over and over and over and over and over and over and over.

So let me now forgive myself for being unkind to myself now.

I'm doing exactly to myself what I feel someone did to me.

I've been doing that now over and over.

That is quite something.

And if I'm doing it to myself,

I will start to do it to others.

That's another thing.

You think never,

But you will,

Because now you have the full pattern in your mind.

You've made it very strong.

You've gone over it again and again.

You're slightly distorted.

Even if it was bad,

You've made it even worse.

And now,

Quite easily,

You will do that,

Use that energy on others.

If you think that you're not comfortable with them or something,

You'll be quite good at pulling them down.

You become an expert.

So let me make a promise to learn about the treasures,

The natural energies that are in the soul.

So I've lots of beautiful things to think about.

And we're aware of our journey and by being aware of my journey,

But deciding to choose a more positive take on my lifestyle,

I can be very useful to others.

I can understand immediately what people are going through and be useful and helpful.

So the treasures I have inside belong to me completely.

They're part of my original nature.

Peace,

Love,

Happiness,

Kindness,

Sweetness,

Strength,

Courage.

To name a few,

They're part of my original nature.

I can teach myself to keep going there and keep lifting my energy up.

The more I lift my energy up,

The more strength I have to not go the other way anymore.

So this is the Wandereraj yoga meditation,

And this is why we have to practice it.

Can't just listen about it and say,

Well,

I heard that.

If you could treat it the way you treated the hurts that you feel that you've received,

How you thought of that every day,

Thousands of times.

If you could think of your peace and love and happiness every day,

Thousands and thousands of times,

You become super powerful,

Super happy,

Super cool,

Steady,

Lighthearted,

Cheerful,

Smiling,

Sweet,

Kind,

Helpful.

You become all of these things if you think of these every day instead of thinking,

Oh,

My goodness.

Oh,

What did I do to deserve that?

What can I do about this?

And this keeps going on.

Well,

We keep it going on.

We ourselves keep it going on by thinking about it over and over and making it deeper and deeper.

I'm a spiritual being and I'm naturally full of peace and love.

So that's the message from Braj yoga meditation.

The more I practice that side of myself,

Which I have,

Which has actually been hidden away from me for a long time.

And now it's time for those energies to take center stage in my life.

I am a being of peace and love and happiness and cheerfulness and friendliness and kindness,

Helpfulness,

Courage,

Strength,

Power.

To be an example to myself and an example to others around me,

I can lift them up.

And also I can have huge understanding when people have a problem about forgiveness.

So this is all human beings.

Some people feel they've been having a worse time,

But everybody,

If they were to sit and really talk about it,

Could tell you how unhappy and even things that sometimes seem to be quite good.

But that person may be controlling them and they feel they can't be free.

It's very complex.

But I think you have to talk to yourself inside a lot and make decisions.

You can't just sort of float off into the wonder.

You have to say to yourself sincerely,

I don't want to go there anymore.

And somehow you have to make a promise when you feel the prompt to go there.

You have to have something there to tell you,

Stop.

The only people who can put a stop to it is ourselves.

Someone else is not going to do it for us.

So we have to say to ourselves,

Don't go there,

Just don't go there.

Think of something else quickly and put something in place that you can quickly think about anything.

Laugh,

Dance,

Do whatever,

But stop that wallowing.

It's as if you had a little cut.

And what would happen if you keep going back to that cut and you're doing that yourself?

So you end up with a dreadful,

Deep injury.

So we have to look at it like that.

What am I keep doing to myself now?

Like,

Oh,

It's me.

Oh,

My goodness,

Why is this person?

And then you'll keep tugging to try and get out of that,

But you can't get out of it until you decide it's over.

You have to decide it's over.

No one else can do it.

And even when it's over,

It seems to not be so easy to just go like that.

But you've still made that decision and you remember it's over,

It's over,

It's over.

Because it means that if it's a person still has power over you,

You're still bowing to their power over and over again.

And that joke is saying,

Be free,

Have your own power.

I have to take time,

I have to have time and peace,

I have to process.

I have to look,

I have to make decisions,

I have to understand the hurt,

The damage and decide that I'm not going to continue in this way anymore.

It's finished.

It's like a relationship when you can say it's finished,

But this is a relationship now with yourself.

You've created that with yourself.

Yeah.

And I think we're waiting for someone to say,

I'm so sorry,

As well,

But that,

I would say,

Mostly that will never happen because people have forgotten.

And at the time,

The women have even thought that they did that much,

Or if they did,

It's passed.

Do you think that even if they did,

Though,

I would find something else?

Because,

Like,

I've developed such a habit now.

Of finding sorrow.

Yeah,

Yeah,

You would find something else.

So it's a bit of a trap,

Actually,

Because you'd keep looking for someone to insult you in a way so as you could then start to go on about that inside your head.

Oh,

My goodness,

I thought this person was my friend.

So you see,

It's habits in ourselves as well.

That's the bit that's tricky for us to face,

But we need to face.

And when we practice Rajoka,

We develop the power to face and say enough is enough.

But sometimes you can't just draw the line just like that,

But you've started it and you'll remind yourself and you'll keep going and begin to step back.

So,

Yeah,

Very powerful.

But where can you get that power?

The power is already in the soul,

The peace,

Love,

Happiness,

Courage,

Strength,

Kindness,

Friendliness.

It's all there.

Make a decision,

Stick by your decision.

See the best,

All of these things you can practice through beginning peace and stillness in your mind,

Called meditation.

Without that,

There's no way because you'll be here,

There and everywhere and you'll be jumping at the next insult or the next.

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Thing that's going to give you something great to work on again.

Because we will have developed the habit of blaming others.

And others could be pretty much to blame in a lot of ways,

But in other ways,

Sometimes they don't even know that they're doing something that's causing you a problem.

They're just insulting you as far as you're concerned.

There are abusive things.

We know there are situations of extreme abuse.

It's very easy to see that and maybe even easier to come away from because it's very definite.

So,

Again,

We have to have a look at what it is that troubles us.

And if you look,

You'll feel there's many things that trouble us.

And so where do I start?

Because the only person that can do anything about anything connected with the self is the self.

So you need to have that strength and courage and definite attitude.

And that can only come if you become peaceful and calm and see things more and more clearly and look for the best solutions and stop blaming others as much as possible and start looking at the habits you've now developed from these situations.

Closeness to God.

That's the only way,

Actually.

That is the only way.

The one we call God is the highest energy that ever there was.

Point of light.

Completely.

Ocean of love,

Ocean of peace,

Ocean of bliss,

Ocean of happiness.

And so if I can touch base with that one,

I can start to make my energy go up very quickly.

And if I share my sorrow with that one as well,

Sometimes I can see a solution quickly and clearly.

So it's personal for everyone.

But I would say create a personal relationship with that one.

Make that one your anchor.

The one who doesn't have any physical things to.

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That you can misinterpret.

The one who's energy,

Light energy.

Who's completely pure.

And would be on your side no matter what,

Whether you're right or wrong,

Good or bad.

Will be on your side and support you.

Whom you can trust completely to be there at every step.

Aum Shanti.

Again sitting comfortably and bringing the attention to the centre of the forehead.

I visualise myself as a point of peaceful energy,

The soul.

And now the soul can connect with the divine God,

The one above.

Just with a thought.

I am peace and I am connected to the ocean of peace.

Aum Shanti.

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