I just want to say a huge congratulations for being here because if freeze is your trauma pattern,
It's the hardest one to spot while you are in it.
You might not be feeling much at all and that's because your clever body is keeping you safe by taking your awareness up and out.
See if you can breathe a little deeper and notice the sound of my voice.
You are not alone with this.
Think of all the other zoned out parents listening to this audio.
I've been there plenty of times myself and I'm here with you now.
You can start to pay attention to your body.
Just see what you can feel.
It's okay if you feel kind of numb.
Sometimes it helps to pay attention to your feet for a few minutes.
Keep your attention on the soles of your feet and your toes.
Can you feel any sensation?
Keep feeling.
You might start to feel a tingling or buzzing,
Maybe cool or heat.
It's all good.
Just keep noticing your lovely feet and you can expand up through your ankles and shins,
Calves,
The backs of your knees.
Pay attention to your knees and thighs and keep feeling your feet.
You might want to move your body so you can start to inhabit it more fully.
You can pace while you listen to this.
Another thing that helps is squats.
Use those lovely big muscles in your bum and thighs.
You are here.
It's safe to be here.
I'm here with you too.
So let's take a little look at what sent you out of your body.
What happened that made you panic or feel overwhelmed?
And just notice any sensations in your belly or your chest or throat or face,
Jaw,
Head as you remember that.
If it's causing you to go back out again,
You can feel a bit deeper down into your pelvis.
Let your pelvic floor and your anus go or you can pace again.
Your feelings are safe.
Let's just dip back into that panic or overwhelm.
What does that feel like?
Is it a familiar feeling?
Can you feel it all the way back to when you were little?
Who helped you when you got scared as a baby?
What happened when you asked for help?
It's okay to get cross about this.
Us freezy types tend to collapse into sadness,
But we can get stuck there.
See if you can lean into the part where you are frustrated,
Where it feels unfair,
Where you are out and out livid.
It really helps to use your strength to push against something or beat up on some cushions.
Make some noise if you can.
You have a good reason to be angry and your body was clever to freeze.
That was how you stayed safe.
You can also remind your body that time has passed and you are safe now.
It's okay to come back into your body.
How are those feet doing?
Keep breathing.
I hope as you come back in,
You'll find it easier to be with your children.
Remember to reach for this audio when it happens again.
You might need to ask someone to remind you.
Much love to you and go gently.
