How To Stop Shaming Yourself For Mistakes With One Word

We have a tendency to beat ourselves up about mistakes we've made. This short track will help you learn a single word change that you can make to change the way you relate to your mistakes, transforming them into a positive and productive way to relate to them instead.

Transcript

Today we're going to talk a little more about labels and one label is mistake.

Now remember everything that happens is just something that happens but it gets created as a story in our minds and that story gets created with a label and that label is something that we judged about the story.

Mistake is one label that we tend to give to a story about something that happened that we judged that we did wrong.

That this was the wrong thing to do and it was a mistake.

But let's take that label and change it for a moment.

Let's change it to lesson.

This was a lesson.

It's something I learned.

It helped me know that that was not the way I want to do things.

I want to do things differently and so as I move forward and do things differently I have learned a lesson.

I am smarter,

Wiser,

More capable,

More loving,

More of who I want to be and therefore I'm not gonna be like mad at myself for having made that mistake.

I am going to instead think I learned something.

That was a great lesson.

So with changing the label from mistake which is a shameful kind of a label to lesson learned I'm also giving myself what's called grace which is like forgiveness and forgiveness is very very powerful and for a lot of people it's hard to come by.

So I want you to use this label changer today to give yourself grace about things that maybe you've been beating yourself up over for some amount of time.

So for this lesson take some time and think of things that you think are mistakes that you've made and I want you to intentionally relabel them and say to yourself that was a lesson.

A lesson learned and I am now better,

Stronger,

Smarter because I do this instead.

And see how that feels.

Really feel into that okay because I want you to get to a place where you shift from feeling mad at yourself,

Frustrated with yourself,

Ashamed,

Annoyed to feeling empowered,

Forgiven.

This is really really healing.

So I hope you'll take it seriously and remember throughout the day anytime you notice yourself having a grudge against yourself or something like that coming up you can apply the label,

The label changer from mistake to lesson learned.

Alright my wise friend,

Try this out.

Reviews

Thank you a great reminder that how we speak to ourselves changes the outcome. 💫

It’s a great reminder! I do not like labels and this particular word is something I’ve worked on a lot. Thank you for a quick lesson I can revisit.

love the reframe! this is so perfect a message today for me! god bless you

Lessons learned feels lighter than I made a mistake. Thank you for your guidance 🙏

Thank you for some good simple and easy to remember advice 🏆⭐️✨🏆⭐️✨🏆⭐️✨

Right to the heart, so well said! Thank you for sharing this delightful bit of knowledge. I will listen again. 🙏🥰

This is very meaningful for me. A lesson. An opportunity to learn more. A way to move forward. Thank you.

Clearly stated suggestions that are easy to employ immediately. Thank you, Alice, for your wisdom and for sharing the knowledge in simple terms. Go well! 💌

I loved this. Definitely a game changer for my thoughts. Thank you! 😊

Just what I needed today. From a mistake to a lesson….beautiful

Hi Alice! This is a great mind changing way to address the negative speak we tend to use as labels, yes! Thank you for this important change in our labeling! Wow!

Sometimes the simplest tips in life are the best ones, I just wonder why they are so hard to see. Thank you this might just help 🙏

I love this! 😄 I often repeat it’s okay to make mistakes to myself, but that one slight word change does make me feel like I’m lending myself more grace gently so I need to come back to this repeatedly! Short “lesson” ( 😉), yet very powerful burst of forgiveness offered here. 🤍

The beauty of a simple tweak to the immensity of powerful change! Thank you! ❤️

This felt so healing. I’m very good at beating myself up and listening to your message was really helpful.
Many thanks…

Great lesson here...and I didn't even have to make a mistake to receive it.
Thanks ❤

What a beautiful meditation. One simple change that changes everything Thank you so much. 💕

Thanks for the change in perspective. I’m in the midst of a great lesson learning period of my life so your teaching was exceptionally well timed.

It’s all in how you look at things. Thank you for the shift in thinking.

Thank you for this lesson of kindness to oneself. Namaste 🙏🏼✨💕