Being A Player In The Game Of Life

This is probably one of the most important sessions you will listen to, why? because I talk about taking the edge off this whole spiritual process and success creation in life. How? By gamifying life, making it a play rather than being so serious, even amongst the most challenging situations. This has been a game changer for me as its allowed my heavy overthinking mind to ease. Its allowed the entire fear response to switch off. If you get something from the session, message me! Enjoy

Transcript

Okay,

Recording started.

So,

Today we are,

I started laughing because I was going to say today we are gathered here today,

You know like a priest would say when he's marrying people,

Today we're gathered here today to speak of being a player in the game of life.

Being the player in the game of life.

Let's marry that,

Let's marry that actually.

Maybe I'm a priest who's declaring a marriage right now.

Let's marry ourselves to being in that conversation.

Being a player in the game of life.

What does that mean?

I choose words very carefully.

It's something that has appeared,

You know I didn't try to do this,

But since I've gone on this journey we can call it,

This inner journey,

This awakening,

This I don't know,

Whatever word you want to use,

I have become so enthusiastic about the use of language and voice.

And people used to say to me,

And they still do sometimes,

They say Raj did you always have this kind of voice and this way of speaking?

And I say no,

I was a very anxious wreck in the past.

I was using other people's voices.

I was speaking with someone else's voice.

And what I mean by that is the psychological things I collected through my life of what it is like to be a confident person.

How a well spoken person sounds.

Trying to use good language on purpose.

Thinking about what I will say.

Worried about what other people will think.

That was my voice.

So it wasn't really this voice that's coming through right now.

And the sounds and the tones,

I was influenced by everyone around me.

Like seeing other people,

How do they speak?

Oh cool,

Oh that word sounds nice,

Ah cool.

So there's this weird jumble of,

No wonder I didn't feel confident speaking and using my voice,

Because there's this jumble of things.

Now I'm so fascinated by doing talks like this because I'm just expressing what's coming through inside.

So I made the title of this session,

Being a Player in the Game of Life.

I want to break that whole thing down for you.

Being,

Let's start with being.

Being.

Anything we do has to start from a place of being.

Look I'm here right now and what's next?

I start from here,

I start from being.

Being is the thing that's inside.

It's where I'm coming from.

It's an inner stance.

So that's what being means to me.

A player.

A player.

So there's a few meanings to being,

To a player.

A player is firstly being playful.

That's a huge lesson I've learnt.

It's a huge lesson I've learnt.

Because a lot of people will say to me,

Raj you're very intense.

And I am intense.

I love being intense.

But there's this playfulness about my intensity at the same time.

I'm enjoying it.

I'm not a drill sergeant.

I'm enjoying it.

This is like something is moving through me.

So player,

A playfulness.

And I have to remind myself sometimes,

Like playfulness.

You know like children,

They're playing with stuff.

We as adults tend to get very serious about this and that.

And they said this,

So this means that.

And I must do it this way because this is a correct thing.

Let me think about that for a long time.

Let me analyse that.

Hmm.

Serious.

Tense.

And it feels like when I'm doing that,

It feels like there's like a,

You know there's things that boxes wrap around their wrists,

Like wrist wraps.

It feels like there's a red wrist wrapped tightly being wrapped around my head and my head is exploding and it's like pressure.

Can anyone else relate to that?

Put a yes in the chat.

If you're in a place of like the opposite of playfulness,

When you're really tense,

Does it ever feel like you've got something wrapped around your head?

That's the fun analogy that came up for me just now.

I don't know where that came from.

So playfulness.

Playfulness,

Despite all this amazing work you want to do on the inside.

Like I say to my clients when I'm working with them,

I'm playing games with them sometimes.

And not in like a manipulative way.

I mean like,

Let's make this into a game.

What do you want in life?

Oh,

Someone might say I want to be able to walk up to people and be confident and just say things.

Someone said that to me once.

They said,

I'm worried about speaking to strangers.

So I said,

Okay,

Yeah,

We can look at what's happening on the inside.

We will do that in our work.

But also this is how I play.

How about a challenge?

How about you're going to,

She was going to work at the time.

And I said,

On your way to work,

How about you walk to five strangers and you stop them in the street and you just talk to them.

And she was like,

Oh my God,

That's so scary.

But she was smiling at the same time.

I brought her playfulness out.

I got her into the game of this.

We gamified the whole thing,

You know?

And anyone that's played a game,

This is why kids are addicted to games.

This is why any game on an app,

Even you look at social media,

They've made that into a game.

They've put notification,

Buttons,

Sounds,

Buzzing,

Your phone is buzzing,

Is all turned into a game because they know that that's how we work.

We love to be in a game.

I don't want them to mess with me in that way.

So I turn off all notifications.

All.

There's no sound.

This phone doesn't have sound or vibrate function.

There's nothing that will tell me that I've got a message or anything,

Nothing,

Until I go and check.

Because I don't want to be in the game of that,

Right?

But if I want to be in the game of life,

I get to make up the rules.

So I said to her,

Go and speak to five people.

She was scared,

But she knew this would be kind of fun to challenge herself in this way.

So she went and did it.

She's like,

Oh,

It wasn't as bad as I thought.

So we started destroying this idea in her head,

Which was I am uncomfortable around strangers.

So I destroyed it by being a player in the game,

Being a player,

Being playful and then playing in a playful way.

Even if it's scary,

Even if it your it feels like your worst fear,

If there's a little bit of gamifying this personal development thing,

This life development thing,

I found it's been huge for me to do this with myself,

With clients as well.

Even when I run these sessions,

I've done it with you guys sometimes.

I've said,

Hey,

Okay,

You want to do this?

How about you send me a message?

For example,

This guy wanted to write a book.

I keep using that example because it was amazing.

He said,

Okay,

I'm going to write a book.

He said,

Raj,

I'm going to do it because of that session that we had.

I said,

Okay,

Write every day.

How many words are you going to write every day?

He said this number.

I said,

Okay,

Great.

Write that many words every day for seven days and then email me after you're done.

Make sure you commit to this.

This is your game.

So he was excited because now he's turned it into a game.

Oh,

Look,

In this game,

I have to reach this many words.

Oh,

Look,

In this game,

I have to do it every day.

These are the rules now.

We define the rules of the game.

He emailed me after said,

Wow,

That was enlightening.

He said,

It didn't go as amazing as I thought.

It was still challenging,

But I still did it.

Awesome.

The book that you wanted to write for the last five years is look,

Now you've started on it.

Oh,

Great.

You see how this is what this is so useful.

So let me pause there.

Let me ask any of you guys right now in the chat,

If you're still here,

If you've been listening,

What is something that you want to create in your life?

What is something that you want to create in your life?

What transformation internally or what outer thing do you want to create?

Put it in the chat.

I use this phrase,

Share it to declare it.

Because if you share it,

If you get it out of your head and say,

Oh,

My God,

I'm typing this out in the world,

Our words start creating things.

It's like in,

You know,

Like spells.

We create spells by writing things.

So my invitation right now,

There's no pressure.

I'm not saying,

Hey,

Because you're here,

You must do this.

It's a game.

We're playing a game right now.

We're playing a game right now.

What is something that you want to transform inside yourself?

Or what is something that you want to create in the world?

Tell me anything.

Put it in the chat,

Share it to declare it.

And I can't wait to see what comes up.

This is the Friday night game,

Guys.

Let's play.

Okay,

We've got some there.

I'm going to start reading these out in a moment when we get a few more.

Yeah,

Just put down whatever's happening.

Like just like someone's just put down,

I want to create a strong connection with my body,

Abundance and freedom.

Travel is a large part of that.

Nice.

It sounds like we've got some similarities there.

Yeah,

I'm going to speak on that in a moment.

Who else?

I'd like to create harmony,

Acceptance,

Surrender,

Emotional freedom,

Adventure,

And a soul tribe.

That all sounds beautiful as well.

And just the way you wrote that,

There's just something in there,

Which it really feels like you went to a creative place.

Awesome.

Anyone else want to create something in the world or within themselves?

Put it down and I'll tell you how to create it.

If you put it down right now,

I'll tell you how to create it.

And again,

I'm not saying this is no pressure.

This is a game.

If you want to play the game,

It's like we're at a place to go to casinos quite a lot.

Well,

Not quite a lot.

I wasn't a gambling addict,

But I remember some of my friends on a Friday night,

We used to say,

Oh,

There's a casino.

I used to do a lot of drinking and playing when I was younger.

And we said,

Oh,

Drink,

Let's get some food and let's go to the casino.

And there'll be like different tables for different things.

I'm sure you guys are familiar.

And sometimes I'll just be watching.

I'll be watching other people play.

And that's okay.

If you're in that zone right now,

Where you're just watching,

You're just listening,

That's cool.

You can just watch.

And then there's other people who watch for a bit.

And then they'll be like,

Okay,

I'm in,

I'm in,

I'm playing.

So I'm calling anyone else to the table.

Anyone else want to play creating,

Put it in the chat right now and I'll help you to create that,

Whatever it is.

And whilst I wait,

You're going to talk about the rest of the topic.

Well,

The topic title,

Because I told you,

I like words.

I love,

I'm fascinated by language,

You know,

Being a player.

I've talked about that already.

Being really being person right now here,

The way you show up,

Being a player,

A player is someone who is playful.

A player is someone who's going to try something.

They're going to experiment,

Who's willing to play,

Willing to try despite all of the fears and doubts.

And then the part where I say in the game of life,

I'll explain what that means.

In the game of life,

The game of life,

How long do we have in this game of life?

I don't know.

It depends,

Right?

Some people will disappear out of the blue.

You won't even expect it.

And that's tragic.

You can say it's tragic,

Right?

How many dice rolls do we have in this game of life?

Now someone said to me when I turned 30,

I wanted to do all these amazing things like being here,

Guiding people to transformation.

I wanted to be a personal trainer.

I wanted to have my own business.

I had all these ideas,

Right?

For years and years and years.

I just never went through with any of them,

Even traveling.

Like I went to travel for nearly two years.

I left everything behind nearly two years.

I was on the road basically.

And before that though,

It took me six years.

It took me six years to actually go and do it.

Six years of like anxiousness.

The same with all these things I wanted to do like career wise.

And someone said to me when I turned 30,

They said,

Don't wait any longer because you don't know how long you have left.

And I was like,

Damn.

Yeah,

That hit me.

That hit me deep.

And it's with everything in life.

I've said to some of my clients before,

If they're having challenges with people,

Relationships like their parents,

Say to them,

Hey,

Like you're having challenges with your parents.

How long do you think you have with them now?

How much time do you think you have left?

We think that we did there all the time.

Yeah,

Consciously we know,

Right?

We know that time is not forever.

We know people are going to leave.

But still,

We're not always making the most of it.

And I'm the same.

I have to remind myself of this all the time.

We're not making the most of the time we have with people,

With our lives,

With things we want to create.

Because it feels like this time is forever.

But then like me,

Six years flew by.

And sometimes I had these thoughts and I'll be straight up with you.

Sometimes I have these thoughts of,

Oh my God,

Raj,

Like,

Imagine you started working on this stuff earlier.

What could have happened?

And it's not like from a place of,

Oh my God,

Raj,

I hate you for that or regret.

It's just realizing that what could happen when time is spent,

When life is played,

When there is a playfulness to life.

When we realize like,

What are we really capable of?

And that this is not like,

Oh yes,

You must achieve,

Achieve,

Achieve.

You can achieve.

Yeah,

I'm not against that.

I'm not against like going and achieving things and creating success,

Creating business,

Creating money,

Whatever you want.

What I'm really talking about is just being in your potential,

Like getting the most out of yourself.

And yeah,

The number one thing or actually not number one,

But one of the biggest things that helped me with that is being a player in my life,

In the game of life.

So anyway,

I wanted to just share that.

And by the way,

If anything comes up,

Anytime I speak or anyone else says something,

Yeah,

Just play in the chat.

Play,

Let's play in the chat.

It's fun.

Play,

Write anything you want,

Whatever comes up,

Just write it down.

It doesn't matter.

You know,

No one cares.

No one cares.

No one cares enough to judge you.

If they do whatever,

You know,

It doesn't mean anything.

Anyway,

I'm going to read out in the chat what else has come up.

I want to create freedom and courage in my heart to move freely in life and start painting again.

Nice.

I know we've spoken about this before because you've been in a few of my sessions,

Right?

So let me,

Let me use that as an example.

If that's okay,

Let me,

Let me use your example.

So how can you be a player in this?

You want to start painting again?

Because you're,

Because what I'm hearing is you want to create freedom and courage in your heart to move freely in life and to start painting again.

So I'd,

I'd ask,

Are those things interconnected?

So is it like you need freedom and courage in your heart to move freely and start painting?

Is that the like requirement for it?

That's what I'd ask someone if I'm coaching them.

Cause it's like,

I know a lot of inspiration will come when there's more space inside,

Right?

I get very inspired a lot.

I write articles,

I create videos and meditations and stuff.

And I know when I'm,

When I'm in space,

Yeah,

I can create my art a lot better.

Then the other side of me is like,

You want to start painting again?

How about we play?

How about we make this into a game?

How about we set the rules?

And this is just,

Cause I'm not in front of you directly.

It's difficult for me to have a conversation with you about this.

So just to throw it out there,

Is another option is how about you start painting tomorrow?

How about you sit there with your painting gear and you start painting tomorrow?

Because sometimes we can show up.

Now I remember this phrase that stuck with me for a while.

Commit first and then show up later.

Commit first and then show up later.

And I've done this in the past when let's say for example,

Like these sessions,

I've just created them in my calendar.

I've written a title that I think would be fun.

And then I just show up here.

I'm not thinking about how I'm going to talk.

There's none of,

There's no conscious effort involved.

I show up later or I've created some kind of program and I feel scared and anxious about,

Oh man,

Like I've got to,

Now I've got to find people to join my group program.

Like what if no one comes?

What if no one's interested?

If I listen to all of that doubt and fear,

Nothing's going to happen.

You know,

If I say commit first,

I'm running this program.

It's happening on this date.

I'm looking for this many people and then I start showing up because now I've committed.

It's happening now.

It's happening no matter what.

Now I've got to find people to fill it up.

Okay,

Let me do that.

I can do that.

If no one comes,

Okay,

Fine.

At least I tried.

So commit first and show up later.

Let me know if anyone connects to that.

If that created some insight in for you,

Commit first show up later.

I'll say,

You know,

When you say I need to feel free and brave to paint again,

Look,

Look,

I'm saying straight up,

Like I'm,

I'm not in front of you.

We're not having a two way dialogue.

So if,

If like what I'm saying doesn't really connect with you,

That's cool.

Right.

And I appreciate that.

We're not having a conversation,

But if I was in front of you,

I'd say,

What if you didn't have to feel something first before you paint?

What if when you start getting in front of it,

Something just comes through you?

I've done this with writing before.

I said to myself,

I'm going to write a book.

This was like last year.

I don't know,

February time,

Something like that.

I said,

I'm going to write a book in two months.

I'm going to write a book in two months.

The book is going to be 70,

000 words and is,

I don't know,

Something like 250,

I don't know,

Something like that,

250 pages.

I'm going to write a book in two months.

And I set myself this like hard,

Not hard,

But this like box of time.

Let's say every single day,

Raj,

You will show up and you will write.

At first I was like,

Hmm,

It was going well for the first week or so.

I went at nine o'clock and did the writing at nine o'clock each morning.

And then something started slipping inside of me.

Like,

You know how we work,

Right?

We avoid things.

I was doing everything I could to avoid it.

I was saying,

No,

I've got to make my food.

No,

I've got to do this.

No.

Sorry,

Something stopped recording.

Anyway,

Yes,

Continue.

Yes,

I said,

I don't have time.

So yeah,

I can't do it now.

But nevertheless,

I just made myself do something each day,

Like a tiny bit.

I gave myself a target or number of words and I just wrote and wrote and wrote and wrote because all of that resistance was only happening before the action.

It was all in my head.

The whole story I was making up as soon as I sat down.

Yeah,

Like the first five minutes was just like nonsense and I was resisting.

Then I got into a flow and I couldn't stop writing.

I was like,

My eyes were going white.

I was like this in the matrix.

I was like losing myself,

Let's say.

I was playing piano.

I was mad.

It was like a mad scientist.

I love it.

And I wrote that book.

No one's seen it and no one may ever see it.

But I wrote the book.

I wrote the first draft because I wanted to get into the creative process.

What does it feel like to go into a creative process?

That's what I wanted from that.

So now I know if I want to create anything,

I can do that now.

I can just go into that process.

If I really want to,

It's possible.

So that's what I'd say to anyone here.

If there's something that you're resisting,

Something you're scared of,

You can do scary.

You can do scary because once you're in the thing,

The fear will start going away.

Let me know if that was useful and let me know if you want to make a commitment to painting.

I'm putting you on the spot right now to challenge you and not in a mean way,

Like in a loving way.

I want to challenge you.

What's going to happen with your painting?

What's the next step?

How are you going to play?

How are you going to make this into a game?

I'm going to leave you with that.

I'm going to leave you with that to ponder upon it if you want.

And then if you decide something,

Put it in the chat and let everyone know.

Okay.

Let me see what else is.

I love to create peace within myself and build courage to become more open for joy instead of being stuck in crippling anxiety.

One of my clients once came to a session.

I think she's here,

But I won't say who it is.

She said,

I want to create joy.

And I was like,

Huh.

Because I always say to people,

What do you want to create or what do you want to explore?

I said,

I want to create joy.

So if joy was your game,

If joy was the game you're playing,

How do you know if you've won?

How do you know if you've got joy?

That's my question to you.

And if you want,

You don't have to answer that right now.

If you want to write that down somewhere,

Get a piece of paper,

Explore.

If you had joy,

If joy was the game you were playing,

How would you know you've won?

How would you know you got joy?

If you want to be more open for life,

How would you know you have that?

What would tell you that?

Explore that answer.

And that's for everyone.

Explore the answer.

Like this thing you say you want,

How do you know you have it?

That's what I want to suggest.

And it could be,

Here's an example.

If like,

Let's say I wanted to say I want to create joy.

What would joy mean to me?

Well,

I know I'm in joy when I'm feeling lighter or smiling more or my body's digesting food well.

You know,

Maybe that's my one only.

You know,

I know that there's just this like this fluidity for me.

I feel light when I walk.

Ah,

That's nice.

Now I've defined what joy means to me.

Then I'd say to someone,

What's taking you away from joy?

And you mention anxiety.

And then explore that with someone and say,

Okay,

What type of situations create anxiety?

What's your thinking around it?

What do you think might happen?

What is true?

You know,

Byron Katie does a lot of this work of like,

Is it true?

Are you 100% sure it's true?

It's a really challenging the way we look at things.

And again,

That's a game.

If you go into a playful state about answering these questions,

You access like what children are wired to do more often than adults,

Let's call it,

Which is get creative.

You get creative with like what's possible.

So let me know if that was useful.

Or if it sparked anything exciting.

Let me know.

If it didn't,

That's that's okay too.

But yeah,

I'd love to hear.

Okay,

Someone said I'd also.

Oh,

Okay,

We got a painting update.

Let me just see.

I will start playing with paints and colors again.

Awesome.

Here's what I'd say to you.

And you don't have to answer this to me.

This is more for you.

I'd say when when let's make this real.

Let's make this real.

You say you're going to start playing with colors and paints.

When when is this going to happen?

Oh,

Cool.

It's happening tomorrow.

Oh,

It's cool.

It's happening in two days time.

Okay,

Awesome.

Great.

If I was working with someone,

I'll say how did that go?

You know why?

Because it's so easy for us to say we're going to do things and then slip out of it.

I do this all the time with myself.

I'm going to do this and I just don't do it.

Idea sounds nice.

Oh,

Cool.

I'll do this.

And then I let myself off the hook.

So that's why I challenge anyone to if they if you say you're going to do something,

I ask for commitment and I say when?

Definitely 100% is going to happen.

Cool.

Okay,

Wait.

Okay,

Now we're playing the game.

Great.

You know,

The more we do these things and commit to these things and change happens.

But let's say we're talking about now living with more calm and peace.

I'd say,

Okay,

Like,

Let's make that into a game.

What's helped you have that before?

You might say,

Hmm,

When I go out into nature,

Or when I'm with certain friends.

Well,

You might even say after I've meditated.

That's okay,

Cool.

So these things are giving you that already.

What about you did more of the meditation?

Would that make you have more joy?

Yeah,

Maybe it will.

So in that example,

It could be okay,

Let's play more of doing this thing.

That's working.

Commit to it.

Then you just test it out and see,

Oh,

How did the game go?

You know,

Like when you go and play a game you I used to play a lot of games,

By the way,

If you haven't noticed or thought about that,

It's played a lot of like video games.

So you go into the video game of your life,

And you say,

Okay,

I'm gonna go and do this.

Let's go.

Let's press the buttons on there.

In our life.

Let's press these buttons.

I didn't quite work out so well.

You know,

Like in a game,

You say you lose,

You lose at a certain stage.

Oh,

I've got to go back and try something different now.

Okay,

Let's try something different.

That didn't help you become karma.

Okay,

What else is going to help you become karma?

Letting things go.

I said my someone said letting things go gracefully letting things go.

I set myself a game of 30 days of letting things go.

I called it this was like last time.

No,

Sorry,

This was like a year ago and something like that.

I said for 30 days because I read this book by David Hawkins.

If anyone hasn't read it,

Wow,

Mind blowing.

David Hawkins letting go.

It's amazing.

I read it.

And then I said for 30 days,

I'm going to practice letting go.

I don't want to just read the book and get a mental massage and say,

Oh my God,

I can be wow,

This is so nice.

This book is so amazing.

It giving me hope.

That's amazing to open things up inside of us,

Right?

But then I also want to try and implement that into my life,

Right?

So I said for 30 days,

I'm going to let go.

How did that look?

And actually,

I wrote an article about this.

If anyone wants to hear more details,

I'll send you it so you can try it yourself.

But very briefly,

It was for 30 days.

If I feel any desire to force myself to plan something,

I feel my mind trying to control or trying to like,

Feel okay about situation by by using control by analyzing things.

If I sense that I'm going to just sit and breathe.

And how did this look?

So I'll tell you how this looked practically.

I went into a session where I had to lead a is just like this,

But it was on zoom.

I had to lead a group of mindfulness teachers.

So they're like,

Must have been like 50 of them.

Like these experts,

These people are teaching mindfulness to other people,

Right?

I had to go and lead this group.

And I was like the,

The,

What do you call it,

The host of this session.

I had to lead a practice.

And I had,

I decided I'm not going to plan a single thing.

I'm not going to think about what I'm going to say.

I'm not going to think about how I'm going to spend this hour with them.

I'm not going to prepare any slides.

I'm going to do nothing.

I'm going to do nothing,

Nothing at all.

And it was so uncomfortable.

I remember like the days before I was getting so anxious,

Worried.

I was like,

Oh my God,

Like what,

What the hell are you doing,

Raj?

Like you should,

You got to plan something like what,

How are you going to show up to this meeting?

I was freaking out.

But I said,

No,

I've committed to this.

I trust,

I trust that in that space,

In that present moment,

I will know what to say.

I will be able to guide them.

I will be able to serve them in that moment.

So even before the session,

I was freaking out.

Like the guy introduced me,

He's like Raj.

And you know,

The worst thing is every,

Every time someone comes to those sessions,

They spend the whole week preparing.

They get all these like fancy poems and,

And they do all this stuff.

Like some people make slides.

So there's this whole thing about preparing for it,

Right?

So I show up and he's like,

Raj,

We're welcoming Raj Garcia today,

Who is,

You know,

He introduced me and he said,

Raj,

I'm sure you've been preparing all week for this.

He said like,

Raj,

I'm sure you've been preparing all week for this.

I'm sure you put a lot of work into this.

And I was just sitting there like,

Oh my God,

What the hell is going on?

What is he saying?

This is like the opposite of what I've done.

So I'm still freaking out at that point.

And then I'm in this,

I'm on zoom and I see like 50 faces just staring back at me,

Just blank faces.

And I noticed myself sweating.

And it's just the mind,

The mind and the body are creating all of these fear scenarios,

Danger,

Danger,

Raj,

Danger.

You're doing something wrong.

Why are you doing this?

So I slow myself down.

Listen to my breath.

I stare at these faces.

Stare at these faces.

And I say,

Hey guys,

How about we start with this?

How about we just breathe together?

And they're like,

Yeah,

Yeah,

I see these nodding heads going up and down.

Yeah,

Yeah.

And I really connect to them.

I'm looking at all of their faces saying,

Wow,

These are human beings.

We're all human beings.

Why am I worried about myself?

I'm here to be with humans.

Why is this about me?

This is not about me at all.

Not one bit of this is about me apart from in my head.

I'm here to be with humans,

To serve them,

To,

To guide them through some things,

To talk to them about things that are important.

This isn't about me.

That was a huge moment for me.

And I just led the session and it went great.

I asked them questions.

I was with the people.

It's not about me.

If you can do that with anything in life,

Then you are really playing the game of life now.

Because life isn't a singular activity.

It can't be because the sun and the moon are keeping us alive.

And water and air and it's all keeping us alive.

So how,

How can there be a singular here?

How can there,

Like,

And this is going a bit deeper,

How can there be a me that is separate if I would die without the sun or food or water?

I have a relationship to these things and so does everyone.

If,

If,

You know,

Simply put,

If we all need water and we all need the sun,

Like we're all really just like brothers and sisters.

You know,

Really simply,

This is not like some,

Hey,

Let's dance around a fire and sing kumbaya.

Like I'm telling you scientific things.

That's how I think a lot of the time.

Makes sense,

Right?

So if you're,

If you're in that place,

Then you get past all of the fears of the mind.

And you see life is a game.

Life is this game that we're all in together.

Where we're playing it with each other,

You know,

In harmony almost.

Anyway,

I don't even know how I got there.

I don't even know how I got to that place.

But let me know if that,

Let me know if that spoke to anyone.

Someone said I'm in the versus of reading it now.

Yes,

I highly recommend it.

Winging it is horrifying.

It is horrifying for the mind and body.

The mind and body are horrified.

The mind and body are horrified because they're used to being prepared and danger preparation.

You know,

When you show them,

When you show mind and body,

You say,

Hey,

Mind and body,

Look,

Look,

Look what I'll do.

I'll show you that I'm okay.

It's like parents.

It's like showing your parents that you'll be okay.

Look,

I can,

I can do it.

I'm safe.

Don't worry.

Don't worry about me,

Dad.

Don't worry about me,

Mom.

You teach the mind and body.

You say,

Hey,

I'll teach you because they're,

They're machines.

They adapt.

Anyway,

Let me know if that was useful to your speaking about,

I think that's how I got there to your speaking about letting go.

Let me know if that was useful.

Letting go and happiness.

Okay.

60 people here.

Time to do a meditation.

It's a good point to do it.

So we're going to end pretty soon.

And if you have questions,

Ponderings,

You want to ask me about the game of life.

How do you play?

How do you make this thing you want?

Put it in the chat.

Might as well do it now or send me a message.

Contact me on with Raj dot com.

It's my website with Raj dot com.

The little contact form.

And I want to invite everyone here to join my email newsletter.

There'll be a button saying contact.

And then you just type in your email.

And if you don't like the emails you're getting,

Cool.

Just you can,

You can unsubscribe.

And I asked,

I'll tell you this because I'm writing more of these emails where you'll see me going into that zone where my eyes turn white.

And I go into my creative zone.

I'm just going to share stories like this,

But in the written format.

And I'll share videos that I've stored somewhere where I talk about certain things as well.

So join my list.

I invite you and send me a message.

I want to speak to more people because the more I say this,

The more I keep voicing this into the world and saying,

Hey,

Send me a message.

The more connected,

Like minded individuals I'm getting to know.

And this is pretty cool.

It's super cool.

I'm loving it.

So connect to me and tell me if there's anything you got from today,

Anything you want to explore,

Any challenges.

I get emails all the time about some deep stuff that's going through people's lives.

I'm open to support.

So feel free to connect.

And on my Instagram,

There are 50 book recommendations.

So you can find my Instagram on my website as well.

Otherwise,

You can just search for Raj Korsia,

My name on Instagram and you'll see the books.

And there's actually a series which you might like called ego talks.

Yeah,

It was cool.

30 days I talked about ego.

Anyway,

That's that guys.

I always like to put that out there because some people want to talk more and I'm open to it.

Name a book.

Which book?

I think you're talking about letting go by David Hawkins.

That's the book that I recommended here.

But there's 50 other books on my Instagram if you want to check.

Cool.

Let's go.

Let's go into meditation time guys.

Friday fun meditation to end the session.

All right,

Get yourself into your position.

Position of choice.

Whatever that is for you.

I don't know what your what your what your preferences.

Close your eyes.

Take a long breath in.

Feel the belly,

Feel the nose.

I'm going to sigh it out.

Come on,

We're playing guys.

Let's play.

Let's let's make a sound.

No one can hear you.

Hopefully.

So breathing in again,

Breathing deep belly.

Feel it go to your throat,

Chest.

Make a sound as you say that.

That's a nice one.

Last one guys.

Make this one count.

Come on.

I'm sure you can make a nice sound.

Breathe in.

Let it go.

Keep your eyes closed.

Start to connect to your stomach.

So if you can play this game or follow the breath.

Where does the breath start from?

Is it traveling through your body?

Like one of those pinball machines?

Watch the breath move.

As you breathe in,

Goes down the throat and the stomach.

As you breathe out,

It moves around.

Play the game or following the breath.

Smile a little.

Make this a little playful smiley game.

Because if you lose the breath,

You lose your awareness.

You have unlimited lives.

You can play again.

Breath comes in and breath goes out.

If you're having any thoughts,

Judging yourself at all,

That's okay.

It doesn't mean anything.

Just keep playing the game.

Now we're going to play what I call the Yoga Nidra roulette.

Have you ever done a Yoga Nidra before?

It's like a body scan.

I will name areas of the body randomly.

Just bring awareness to that area.

And that's all.

That's all you've got to do.

It's not a game.

It's just a game.

So bring your awareness to your left foot.

That's all.

To the smallest toe on your left foot.

And to the big toe on the left foot.

To the right hand thumb.

To the left hand thumb.

To the throat.

To the right ear.

To the left ear.

To the right knee stroke.

To the left knee stroke.

To the forehead.

To the jaw.

To the right chest.

To the left chest.

To the lower back.

To the stomach.

To the right knee.

Left knee.

Right foot.

Left foot.

The whole back of your body.

Top of the head.

Both feet together at the same time.

The space inside the mouth.

The heart.

The heart.

The heart.

The right shoulder.

Left elbow.

The right hand.

The right elbow.

The right hand.

The right elbow.

The whole of the front of the body.

The palm of the hand.

The palm of both hands.

The whole body.

Whole body.

The whole body.

Just notice.

Just notice.

Just notice how that experience was for you.

Allow yourself to watch the mind.

Now we're going to end the practice,

The game.

So start clicking your fingers.

Rubbing your hands together.

Rubbing your eyes.

So let me know how that went guys.

Maybe a different type of experience you've had before.

Maybe you've got a tension.

Maybe it wasn't fun for you.

You know,

Just like I said before,

Sometimes it's not always fun.

Feel free to share in the chat how that was for you,

If you want.

Someone put in the chat about reading.

Yeah,

We can have a conversation about that if you'd like privately.

Because it might be what is stopping you from having a peaceful reading practice.

Because if you're trying too hard to comprehend,

Yeah,

Because there's a lot of stuff in that book.

There is a lot of stuff in that book for sure.

So I get you.

I understand you.

And I've got a lot of compassion.

What I usually say is just read it through once.

Read it through once and not from a place of I want to complete the book.

Because I've done that before a lot.

I've been reading in terms of like I want to complete it.

I'd say really enjoy it.

Like when I was reading a lot of books,

I think I read like 200 books in like two years or something like that.

I was really,

Really into it.

But that's because I had a set time.

I would read every day for an hour at least.

An hour at least.

And I'd read quite fast,

But I was comprehending a lot of it.

Because I did it at a specific time where I was more susceptible to the information,

Let's call it.

So for example,

If you're in the day and your head is everywhere and you try and read,

It's very hard to take that in.

If I want to read a book and I really want to take it in,

I'll specifically choose a timing based on knowing myself and knowing where I got full clarity,

Full focus.

And I do that with a lot of things.

I'll use specific period of time in my day where I get myself into a different state.

And you know,

Like that hour,

The hour I spend is like worth five hours somehow.

I don't know if that makes sense because there's more focus.

It's all going in.

It's all happening.

So that's why I'd say for someone who wants to read more and absorb things,

Absorb the actual book rather than just read and then forget about it.

Yeah,

I'd say read in a time where you can,

Where you have more focus.

And it really becomes a habit.

You know,

It becomes,

Well,

Not a habit,

But it comes this thing that you're,

You're,

You're dissolved into,

You dissolve into the process.

And then they talk about going into flow states,

Kind of similar to that.

Perhaps.

Some people read twice.

Some people do this thing with,

You know,

You read once for information,

Twice for transformation.

That's something that one of these coaches taught me a long time ago to stop.

But that doesn't work for me.

I don't read,

I don't generally read a book twice unless there's a lot I want to relearn from it.

Generally I don't because I've absorbed it very well the first time.

But if it's a very powerful book,

There's been like a few select books where I have them,

I have read them twice or even three times or listen to the audio book because it's this specific things I want to get from it.

So yeah,

Maybe that helps.

Let me know.

Cool guys.

I think we're done for today.

We're done with playing and I want to wrap up with a quick summary.

Being a player in the game of life,

Whatever it is you want.

You know,

I've got to this place right now where when I'm having a conversation with someone,

Like I've had a few today,

I'm really,

Really in this knowing this belief that anything's possible.

If someone comes to me like today and they say,

Raj,

I just want to become calm.

I've achieved a lot of things in my life,

But I don't have this inner calm within myself.

So I said,

Okay,

Let's make that happen.

I really,

Really,

Really believe in the work now,

You know,

And it doesn't matter if someone works with me or not.

I truly believe that a person can have that.

So whatever it is you want right now,

You want to be calm,

You want to be more loving and have better relationships with people.

You want to be in better health.

You want to create a job that you like doing in.

I'm in that place where I just like,

There's no doubt.

There's no doubt when I'm,

When I'm speaking to someone and I'm going to help them make that happen no matter what.

Because I know that calm,

Love,

Joy,

Creativity is innate within us.

So the job I'm usually doing with them and with me as well is removing the things that are in the way of that.

We don't need to add creativity.

We're already creative.

We're born like that.

We just sometimes forgot.

So I'm reminding people of that,

Bringing that back into the zone,

You know?

So yeah,

Just to summarize guys,

Like whatever you want,

Whatever you want to create in your game of life,

You'll be surprised what's possible when you really apply yourself,

When you really apply yourself.

And then that's not in the sense of like go hard or go home.

It's in the sense of you want these things?

Yeah,

Okay.

Like let's make this a thing that you work on and you apply,

Apply a devotion to you.

You set time towards it.

Let's take some steps.

I call myself a scientist instead of a like,

I don't really like to play in the game of,

You know,

Like I call it right wing spiritual,

Where it's like,

It's too fluffy out there.

I like to say there's a science behind how we can have all of this stuff like calm,

Love.

That's what the,

For me,

That was my journey,

Like this whole system of yoga,

Yogic,

The yogic system is science.

So calm,

Creativity,

And freedom,

That's all already in here.

It's just doing the work to access it.

So I hope that helps guys.

And if you turn it into a game,

You gamify this thing and you are a bit more playful with it,

As well as like committing to it,

Like being a being playful,

But committing to doing the work,

Then like,

I wish someone said this to me.

That's why I'm,

That's why I'm harping on about this so much.

I wish someone said this to me when I was so challenged with my mind,

You know,

So I'm just going to tell you straight up.

Cool.

I'm gonna leave it as that guys.

And I'm sending you love,

Sending you playfulness on this Friday night.

I'm going to go and rest my throat because I've been doing a lot of talking and after a while my throat gets a bit tired.

So that's going to be my evening.

I'm going to have some ginger tea and put my phone away and then just go to sleep.

Most likely.

Maybe read.

I don't know.

So have a good evening.

And like I said,

I'm repeating it on purpose.

If there's something you're challenged by and you want to ask me anything,

You just want to share and speak to someone,

Then send me a message here or on widrage.

Com.

I might be able to help you directly.

I might send you a book.

I might send you an article,

A video,

Something that will help move you forward.

And if I don't know how to help you,

I'll just tell you,

You know,

That's it straight up.

So that's my invitation.

Have a wonderful evening.

And there's one more session on Sunday.

Sunday at 8pm UK time is called B-U-Tiful.

Can't wait.

It's called B-U-Tiful.

B-U-Tiful.

Getting the potential out by being more you.

That's the title.

So if you want to come to that,

Come along.

And that might be my last session or I don't know.

I might do another one after that.

But I might not be having as many sessions in the future.

That's all I want to say.

Cool guys.

Speak soon.

Love you lots.

Have a good one and play.

Play.

I'll leave you with that play.

Reviews

Thank you for this message. Offers an alternative way to approach life mentally 🙏🏻
Will commit to it for 30 days to see how it can slay deeply rooted fears.

Very inspiring. I want to take up my guitar again and be less anxious.