Ending Self Destructive Behavior

Do you struggle with addictive or compulsive behavior? Are there behaviors you find yourself doing that cause harm to you but that also somehow promise relief? All three of us have struggled with self destructive behavior patterns that bring momentary relief but that end up hurting our physical, emotional, and spiritual selves. We hope to offer some tools that can help all of us move away from these kinds of behaviors and toward self-soothing. Listen now to hear what's worked for us.

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Thanks for sharing this. ♥️🙏🏾♥️

Very helpful. My self destructive behaviors come from me being tapped out and being overwhelmed- feeling like I don’t have the resources to cope with my current circumstances. My behavior right now is having explosive anger. I am so upset that I am entertaining not just hurting myself, but taking others out with me. I have a history of violence against people and property. I also have two violent suicide attempt-one of which I got tased by police and one where I was catastrophically injured. I am so destructive, overwhelmed and angry that I feel like striking out and destroying others with me. The advice about doing the least harmful behavior could help me.

Great to hear your three voices. Sharing. So open.

Wonderful discussion. I will be trying many of the tools. Thank you

Thank you amazing ladies, for being so open, honest and vulnerable. I love your willingness to share, and how you express where you’re at now and describe your tools that help you on your journey. Much love to you all ❤️🙏

thank you for this. it’s such a hard place to be and you remind me i am not alone. sending love from palm springs xox

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! I really needed this. I still feel a little like I want to throw my head into a concrete wall, but up until about an hour ago, the feelings were so much more intense. Thank you 🙏

I’ve been really trying to find other ways to “meditate” but I’ve been doing that by taking moments for myself when I’m feeling emotional, like having a long hot shower or I clean all over the house in no organized way Lol
Recognize and choose what to do next, how powerful 💪
What you described sounds so much like my brainspotting therapy and it WORKS!!! Sit with your emotions, don’t worry about the details or the whys, just listen to your body and observe what/where your feeling that emotion. It changes my way of thinking and responding.
Start where you are. How important to remember when feeing so overwhelmed.
Thank you spiritual friends! You are my inspiration ❤️

Thank you :)

All 3 of you... such beautiful souls ♡♡♡ have helped me quiet a in many different ways and I am so grateful for that, for all 3 of you!!!

Such a sensitive topic gently managed and held. Thank you for everything that you share and give to this community. I am so grateful for all of you. Love you dear friendies 😍 xx💙

thank you so much for this great podcast, so many helpful tools! 🧡

Wow I'm over the moon that you let this go public.
It's really hard to open up about, such a lot of shame behind it.
I too am a self harmer and mine, apart from the drugs and alcohol, and controlling relationship, sleeping around, reckless behaviour, dangerous behaviour, which I'm over and through all that, no regrets, just thankful I found my way out of the hell, didn't catch a nasty STI, or kill myself with class a drugs!
My one left is picking my FEET!
I put socks on when I'm triggered, and I literally go into a trance like state, like you mentioned, I didn't have control, and eventually I would wake up and look down and go "not again"!
Beat myself up, I won't do that again...blah blah blah... It's like a dream. I do realise now that I meditate daily, that it was my way of losing myself, and a comfort. We think we need to keep busy, but we have to be alone, with our thoughts and emotions, and not keep running away from that negative feeling, or anxiety. Then we begin to understand who we are. Go right back to our authentic selves. I learnt how to compartmentalise, to recognise the traumas that weren't my fault. I think telling someone and being told after a traumatic experience "it's okay, it's going to be okay, and it's not your fault, it's not your fault", being held, and heard, actually can really make a huge difference. Self love is the way through. Started forming some really lovely healthy habits and treating myself to hot baths with bombs and candles, face mask, and FOOT scrub and moisturiser.
Love myself including my scabby feet 😂
I encourage anyone in these trapped behaviours, that it's not going to be forever, and you are so important, and special.
Much love to you girls.
You know how much I appreciate and respect you all.
Hugs 🤗💖

Thank you