What Every Human Being Faces (7 Explorations)

With her signature humor and ability to put words to vague perceptions and feelings, together with her healing touch, Premasudha's work is life changing. She has a truly great knack of assisting people out of the emotional prison of their ego/intellect into true freedom. This means that sometimes even serious diseases disappear too, as part of the emotional shift into a new more love-based understanding.

Transcript

You know,

In each human life there are stages or transitions we go through and if you live to a ripe old age,

You will go through seven.

And the first one obviously is birth.

Birth,

A lot more is going on in birth than maybe we realize.

Right at the point of birth,

The child knows exactly how wanted he or she is and how each parent is feeling about everything,

About their lives.

Particularly about whether this child is wanted or not.

As well as,

You know,

Pick up on what's going on with the doctors and nurses in the birthing room.

As well as,

You know,

If anybody's scared,

Lighting obviously after being in the dark womb.

But it's not all bad,

But it's like we perhaps could understand that we're all imprinted by this.

This is our first experience of life.

And so as a baby and a youngster later on,

We make decisions about ourselves and life by our early experiences at birth.

As well as later,

You know,

When the ego comes on,

It's the second stage.

It's two,

Two and a half,

Three.

Now the ego comes on to help us and it does help us,

But it's built on sorrow.

Now you know,

To be a perfectly loving human being is not maybe that common.

You have to be a self-realized or we would call it self-actualized or in Hawaii they would call a really awake person,

A truly spiritually developed person,

A companion of God.

Now such people have actually healed their ego.

They've healed their early wounding and they have bonded with their true energy.

So they are bringing in and living their truth.

So they love as perfectly as a human being can.

Their level of compassion is just off the charts.

But maybe our parents weren't exactly that developed.

And you know,

In our culture with a lot of the focus on material well-being,

The spiritual development or emotional IQ isn't at the top of the list.

It's not the point of focus.

But actually it is,

We will probably learn to develop a higher emotional IQ because right now we are missing a lot of information and so it's causing a lot of despair and mental illness in our culture.

So that is actually why I'm doing the video because if we understand this realm of human experience better,

We will calm down emotionally and also we will be more reverent to mother nature and we will honor ourselves,

Honor our humanity more.

So really that's what's giving me the energy to do the video.

So I was very lucky.

I had an opportunity to study with a Hawaiian kahuna for some years and there was one point where I was getting four people were doing body work on me,

This ancient Hawaiian body work and there was so much going on on my skin.

I couldn't keep track of all the hands and whose hands were where.

And in that confusion I was thrown back onto my deeper experience underneath my ego on which my ego formed and in it,

It was a direct experience of how much my parents didn't want me really.

That was quite strong at the point of my birth and my dad actually was upset that I was a girl on top of just not wanting a third child.

The fact I was a girl was not a good thing.

So that came up very strongly and also that they didn't love the real me.

So when my ego formed,

This was all included in the one body work session.

When my ego formed,

I formed on the understanding they didn't love the real me.

They didn't really want to know the real me.

They loved me as much as they loved themselves.

I must say,

You know,

There was,

You know,

Perhaps there were lots of deficits.

Anyway,

My mom,

All this material came up and my mom did me the great gift of when I went to her to ask her about this.

Now the reason I went and spoke to her about this is I really wanted the life I came here to live.

I really did not want to live to just put band-aids on my emotional wounding,

Which is what I watched her do.

I did not want to repeat that.

I wanted a true healing.

So as part of that,

That's why I studied with a Hawaiian Kahuna,

But also it's why I found the courage to go to her and say,

This is the material that came up in a body work session.

Is this really true?

And she said,

Yes,

It's really true.

It really is.

It was a terrible time in our marriage.

We didn't want another child.

And I'm sorry,

She said,

You know,

Bless her heart,

You know.

So that really helped.

I was able to build on that level of truth then for my life.

So that's where I started building that I wasn't wanted and I had to have compassion for myself and the wounding that that created.

And gradually as time went on,

A healing occurred and it will occur.

It will occur because we are eternal beings.

And if you keep at it,

You will tap into that healing power.

You will allow it.

You will allow it to come in and heal you.

And that's what happened with me.

So just trying to think about what else about the ego.

The ego is built on the terrible sorrow of separation from your true nature and from all that is.

And it's like when a child realizes they pick up on the family climate and about what's allowed and what's acceptable.

And so they become that.

They turn away from their huge understanding,

The huge wisdom and understanding and they chunk down and become smaller energetically.

It's like you become like a cookie cutter.

It's like you go in and you allow yourself to have a cookie cutter pressured on you and you become that cookie.

So I became my parents liked me as a sunny loving little girl who didn't cry much.

So it's something I think about with little kids like what is really going on about them because I was a sunny little kid who didn't cry much.

But then there was this great sorrow that I fell into during this body work and this feeling of being such a little one but on another hand being such a very powerful being underneath and not being allowed to live that out in my family.

So this you know with children any child will be experiencing sorrow if they feel that they cannot have their true nature.

So I mean one of the things I think is this like good to just let children talk and give them crayons to draw.

What I did with my son,

He went through this period where his behavior was really wild and I finally I sat him down and I gave him a big pad with a whole bunch of crayons and I said draw what you're feeling.

And so he would he just picked up this thing and he drew all kinds of pictures and then I'd say okay what's the meaning of this picture and then he'd tell me and I would write that in capitals underneath his picture.

And one of them I have to say there was a picture of him with his hair standing up on end right the top of his head and I said okay what is the meaning of this and he said I'm scared I'm going to have to live with my mother my whole life.

It was very humbling.

But I could you know I knew enough about myself I could understand how maybe a child might feel that you know.

So and I was a you know single mom so they had a lot of me.

Anyway bless his heart after that he calmed down just that one time and actually it's a regret of mine that I didn't just always have a pad available.

You know once he calmed down I just sort of forgot about it but it's the kind of thing that a child where a child can you know express more about what's going on with them and you know if you can be an observer and just back the child and don't take it personally you know about what they're expressing you know because we all get upset sometimes.

So the third stage is picking picking up roots.

Now it's where we we're leaving home we've become adults and we're leaving home so in the you know recently when as recently as when I was young you know 40 years but you know it would be 18 to 22 and the child you know you go off to college and come back in the summers or you come back for time but you're you're beginning to you know pull up your roots in order for your roots to go down into the life that you're going to live that you came here live.

So this is in our culture it's a it's a difficult time and it may be becoming more difficult it's like now it's it's not 18 to 22 anymore it might be 18 to 25 or even into the 30s before somebody actually leaves home and right at that time you know we all have we all think about what it's going to be like when we grow up we have these rosy pictures but then when that period comes we realize we have to you know find some way to earn our living and pay our bills and you know life has challenges to be solved.

The thing is and this is another thing I again for our emotional IQ for our culture I think it would really help to understand it is the extent of the trauma that happens to us zero to six that determines the amount of fear we have that comes on at that stage.

Now it isn't just trauma it's like if the emotional climate of your family is very different from who you came to be so maybe you know maybe you're emotional maybe there are a whole bunch of doctors in your family and you know maybe you but you have the talents for a doctor you become a doctor too so that might be a pretty easy transition but if you're maybe in a family of doctors and you're kind of a potter you came here to be potter you know it might be a more of a challenging transition to come to find your true calling and live it you know you know you could imagine that maybe the family might not understand that choice depending on you know how broad-minded in the family we are.

So the other thing about this period is trauma and you know if you were really you know it depends how you're treated you know zero to six how your how did your family handle your nightmares that were you comforted or were you on your own you know what was your nightmare that's always an interesting thing to say I mean my reoccurring nightmare around the time I was three I had this great memory so I remembered this stuff was of a castle and I was in this castle and there all these suits of armor and ghosts and it was a terrible nightmare and I would climb into my parents bed and sweet they let me do that like it comforted me and it was only years later that I realized that this dream was actually just a picture of how I felt our family emotional climate was that everybody was wearing suits of armor and there was a lot of fear in the family like the ghosts people being haunted right so it is interesting to think about your dreams and what it was like for you zero to six if you can remember but you know you can also ask to remember you can ask for gradually at a pace the best possible pace for you for this information to surface to trickle up so you could have some feeling about what your early childhood was so when I hit the pulling up roots it was a very difficult time for me and a lot of fear came up and that ties in with what my early childhood was like my mom you know my mom actually ended up having a nervous breakdown as you know in my early early years and my brother got encephalitis and it left him with irregular brain waves and so he would just go into random violence so I never knew it was going to happen he was four years older and he would just he would just like come up to me and punch me in the nose and I would look down and there's all this blood now it was a very traumatic early childhood but it was all healable this is my point it doesn't matter what you experienced that it can be healed and it's actually what you came to to allow to be healed and you all you can do is your best but you can steer that way I mean one of the things that's great I think right now is it that all this how people are feeling emotionally is being seen and there's concern but there's another level that you know mental distress and anxiety is getting normalized and that seems like a big mistake because it is all healable and we just you just need to practice to understand how to allow healing of yourself yeah how to allow it yeah they'll tell you on your deathbed you'll be really glad that you chose to heal rather than to repeat the patterns it was always something that stuck in my mind about what kind of deathbed did I want and actually I think last life I had a pretty uncomfortable deathbed with some regrets which is part of why this lifetime it's like no not going to do that I'm going to wake up and heal so that's the third monad or third transition now the fourth one is one of the most important ones it's the in the 30s the soul really starts to call loudly and again this doesn't seem to be recognized in our psychology it's it's understood in India far more but this is a very fertile time for spiritual development they are very they've had spiritual traditions for thousands of years now our strength is you know problem solving and building bridges and technology which is great but perhaps we're a little undeveloped on the inner spiritual side and just as in India they are correcting their industrializing are moving very quickly to catch up with us we too could perhaps receive the gift of India's deeper knowledge deeper spiritual knowledge so just like the yoga and meditation but the knowledge is even deeper than that there's an understanding of spiritual development as an individual and that's part of what I feel I really wish to share so that there's the Westerners have more understanding of how the spiritual journey really works so at this stage it's often it will be maybe all through the 30s will be a call but particularly it will start getting really loud about 35 and it's quite an insecure time I found because we don't know how to walk in truth we we've we know our conditioning and we think that's us but our true self is more than that it's eternal and to weave it in can be unsettling because it's the unknown and we were scared of it frequently you see when we're born and then we're two and we feel like oh our deeper soul knowledge isn't allowed we have to turn against it so then in the 30s it's the turning towards it in fear will come up and maybe they even though be people and your family that that maybe discourage it that you know let's say like you're getting weird you know because maybe you're doing meditation you know but but it's really good you are and it's really good you're opening you know just making your idea of yourself a little bit bigger so you can allow your soul energy to come in and inform you and learn how to flow with it right it can be really scary but it's sort of like a really false fear because it's actually so blissful and rewarding and you get so much more validation like you will get so much more praise really for doing it but at first you might get what seems like pressure not to but if you just keep being true to yourself you will start getting pats in the back you will you the universe will show you that they will validate you and it will be enough to keep you going so you know I think that with this widespread unease that's going on a lot of people are in their 30s and they they are getting the call and they're feeling unsettled and they think something's wrong with them and you know if you if you're going to somebody for therapy and that person has awoken to their true self they can't help you awaken to your true self so that's the danger is that you know the wiser the person you go to the better yeah and you know if it doesn't feel good working with a therapist stop yeah yeah and I you know I'm my whole life finally it was built on prayer maybe you know when you start off praying you think well is there anything there does it really help but if you keep going and develop a relationship to all that is you will really experience how much prayer helps so if if you you know pray to find a good teacher or therapist who can really help you okay so at this period it goes on for then you know 30 years it's sort of 35 to 65 is where you do your work where you as best you can maybe allow your soul to come in now you also have the choice to say no okay now if you do say no it's sort of easier in the short term but in the long term you walk into basically a repeat of what happened to you as a child because you will walk into a repeat of your conditioning if you stay in it yeah so it's not safe to just stay in your condition it might feel it but it's not um you don't think of the acorns there's an acorn that's sprouting and on their way to become a great oak but maybe it looks a little messy and the the beautiful shiny brown shell of the acorn it you know starts turning to mush to sprout you know it's not so pretty we we look a little eccentric you know all the acorns who aren't going to sprout go oh you're weird you know but you're the one who turns into the great oak you're the one who brings your gift back to the society that needs it the deeper the wounding if you turn and heal it the bigger the gift to the society yeah it's the role of the outsider the wounded healer you acknowledge your wound you you face the wounding you do your best with it and you actually help things you do it by you allow your soul to love you basically when you turn and face this and allow god or your soul to love you then you share that energy and you also help show other people that it's safe to open up to your true nature and the more of us in this world the more normalized it will be to wake up and have incredibly enhanced lives so the despair and sorrow emotional unease is just the transition it's like it actually comes on because it's it's what people listen to like if you hear a voice going okay it's time for you to wake up you need to really find out who you are so you might just be eating your cereal hearing this and you just keep eating your cereal and you go okay that's interesting but if one day you wake up and you're really upset and you feel kind of suicidal that is what is going to catalyze you to looking for answers now the thing about suicide is it is actually the ego trying to kill the soul which is impossible right because it's the soul that is eternal so it's when the person has been grabbed when the consciousness has been grabbed by the conditioning and it's the conditioning is holding on and trying to keep the person in the ego and the ego is trying to hold on keep the person there but it's just like a virus that if the ego holds on too tight and the person you know commits suicide the person dies the ego dies it's like the virus that gets so virulent that it kills the host well actually that kills off the viruses so you know we need to understand that no matter how strong that feeling is about you know self-hatred and that it it will be better off the planet just gotta know that that's what it feels like just before the breakthrough it's the darkest darkest time is just before dawn it is just when you are about to make a big breakthrough into your big understanding and we need to hold people very carefully to help them go through that period and just be very compassionate with them it's the extent of our low emotional IQ that we're not that we don't understand that is where the ego is trying to grab the soul trying to kill the soul and of course that can't be done which is why you know if you hear listen to enough stories of suicide survivors they all say basically they stepped off the bridge and then they knew they were making a terrible mistake every time the ones that survived they all know that because it's ego trying to kill the soul it just can't be done and it just interrupts the learning for that life and actually if someone does something like that they have to come back and start exactly where they were and probably with a little bit of a bigger burden because the universe will go like don't don't go that way don't do that again it's not the way to go yeah blessings to everybody watching blessings loving blessings compassion for us all it's a hard time to be alive lots of change but it's a great time because it's a tremendous time for spiritual development you can grow very quickly at this time just because there's so many difficulties so the fifth this stage is you know it's off of retirement it's you know the golden years and somebody is faced with how much of their truth they lived and how productive they were how many of their dreams came true and you know it's a difficult time in that probably more time has been lived than there is in the future so the regrets you know you you regret they're they're gonna come up some regrets and again it's what you do with them whether you forgive them or not you know we're human everybody's gonna make mistakes everybody's life isn't exactly what they maybe wanted but we get the life that teaches us we get the things that happen to us that teach us so it's all choreographed for us out of love but it doesn't always feel like that you know so especially you know at 65 it's quite a sobering time you really you know you're seeing your mortality and you're seeing you know you're reaping what you've sowed so far okay so it's a great time for growth and correction and even if you've been going a certain way when you're 65 you can still alter there are people so grandma Moses who I don't know started painting at 77 there are all kinds of stories of people who who do incredible things later in life you know you can get one of those books about them and you know inspire yourself they it's a it's trying to think of what else to say about it it's really just sort of a time of noticing and you're also often your body is not functioning quite the way it used to so there's also that but they can be golden years you know if you're peaceable about your journey if you're accepting of things then it's very peaceful and quite sweet then the next level the next transition is you know what illness you get that finally causes your death so you know sometimes it happens people retire and like within a month they have a heart attack they start that it happens quickly other people maybe have 30 years of good health from 65 so it just depends but often there's some kind of illness that will start and that will signal the mortality and one of them like breaking the hip is a perfect example doctors know that's going to be a serious thing for an older person often signatures that signifies a decline is starting and then there's a point of death and you know in the east they say if you think about God right at the point of death you don't have to come back but the thing is that if you thought about everything else and you didn't think about God much you know as you're at that point it still may be hard to think about God you you would you will tend to think the way you thought in your life at that point so but it's interesting to know that in the east they say you can you know if you think about God at that time you could remind your caretaker remind you to think about God I shouldn't laugh it's just um yeah it's uh and you know in the east also they say you know the kind of thought you have when you're dying really determines your next life there's a whole other thought you know in the east I have to say like after you died for something like three days supposing you did no emotional work in your life and but it three after after you die like for three days somebody prays or a lot of people pray for you it is possible to drop a lot of emotional garbage at that time so even if you didn't do it when you were living you can do it then like it's so sweet how there's so many opportunities to help us we just you know have to use some of them yeah it helps to use some of them so those are the monads or or you know units uh transition units of a life and they really happen like clockwork um and they're to help us they're to help us with our journey and another thing that happens around especially you know for example with any of these transitions sometimes we meet somebody who really helps speed us through one of these transitions and sometimes this person isn't meant to be in our life long term but they come and we have maybe a big emotional reaction to them and this is part of what speeds us through one of these transition periods yeah that's fascinating so maybe even if somebody upsets you you know if they helped you through one of these periods like it's all good news it's all for your benefit it's just uncomfortable sometimes yeah my feeling just about our spiritual development is one of the most important things in the west for us to understand i feel is we're we're human and we're eternal beings both and it's by respect for the humanness and acceptance of our humanity that we actually can transcend our ego and transcend our humanity and become more than the usual human being but it's through loving and accepting our humanity so i feel as we do this more we will receive children at birth we will have a bigger understanding of reverence around the birth and what happens in the weeks and months after that we will take better care of little children emotionally once we understand the importance of it on our emotional welfare and our spiritual welfare and you know gandhi said if we took better care of the innocence of children many of our social problems will disappear and that is true and are we doing that or are we doing the opposite i mean and look at not what's been talked about or said in our culture but just look at what we're doing so you know i'm speaking from you know my mom was at home yeah i remember even when i was 11 coming around the corner and and thinking and just praying that her car was home you know she'd be there yeah and i think we underestimate the the what the feminine brings and sure guys can you know be at home too but it's just good if the children feel loved and cared for and you know the pad and paper the crayons little kids anyway blessings to all of you and thank you for listening and you know you're better than you think you're more valuable than you think you're more valuable than you know you're more precious you know okay

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Out of the mouths of babes ( your son lol). Loved your talk and all the paths you took us to. It was like speaking with an old friend. Thank you for your wisdom and sharing.💜

I’m glad I found this talk. Thanks for sharing your experience with me today. Namaste 🙏

Very interesting to ponder on. I’ll be listening again to soak more in. Thank you 🙏💗🙏💗🙏💗

Every talk you give is such a blessing 🙏🪷✨💖✨Thank you for everything you do!