Remothering

It would take too long to explain why the West so profoundly de-values the divine dance of bonding between mother and child. But we sure feel the terrible cost of this disrespect when we try to pick up the pieces of our deeply, broken hearts. Therapists describe the work of rebonding later in life as restructuring of the internal family system. Premasudha speaks to us on how to re-mother ourselves through experiencing the Love & Compassion that we are in Essence.

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Sometimes when I'm speaking to students,

It's like I'm describing the ocean to someone who hasn't put their foot in the ocean yet.

Really,

As soon as you put your foot in the ocean and feel it,

Then you know what the ocean is.

You know what the ocean feels like,

Even if it's just a tiny bit of your body that's in it.

And once you know what the ocean feels like,

You can swim.

You can just step out farther and then learn to swim.

Our usual logical perspective based in the head,

Because I talk about how this work is very logical,

But it's more of a heart logic.

But I'm talking about the usual,

What we're trained in,

That logic of the head that has never touched the ocean.

That is the perspective of a person who has no idea about this ocean of love that we're all in.

And it's very normal.

And it says any other perspective is crazy.

And this is particularly hard on women,

As I've said to you before,

Because the feminine polarity,

It's the dreams and the imaginations and the whisperings of guidance.

That's the realm of the feminine.

So,

Alma would say during pregnancy,

Women should have reduced responsibility and have time just to dream.

Dream and get to know their child.

Connect up with the child,

Bond with the child energetically before birth.

So,

This is what this work reweaves in you guys.

So,

Think of it like a remothering.

So,

It's as if you have a mother now who is in the pregnancy,

Is dreaming about you,

Thinking about you,

Who's related to you in this deeper way.

It's not like the opposite of you are an object.

It's like the opposite.

It's like you are God in her belly,

And then you're born,

And then this mother and how she is with you.

I'm trying to remother you this way.

This is a remothering of you.

It's just whether you get it or not.

And it is completely beyond our logic or our normal head-based logic.