Namaste.
Kumari Devi here.
Today I want to talk to you about anger and frustration.
Anger and frustration is rampant right now in the world.
But what are we so angry about?
Biologically it's often an overloaded liver or gallbladder according to Chinese medicine.
If we decrease the load on the liver you might feel less reactive.
Also can be a dehydration issue.
My take on it as a collective is that we're angry because we don't feel loved and appreciated.
In my work I dismantle the patterning and get to the root of the issues which are buried in the subconscious mind.
I love the patterning in the mind.
It's so interesting.
The subconscious is layered by experiences.
It's not logical.
And anger is a reaction from an unresolved earlier life experience.
There is no new anger.
I think anger is helpful as long as it's not directed at anyone including yourself.
Because in an angry exchange you can get to the root of issues faster.
So the goal in life is not to be reactive or triggered.
The goal is calmness and mindfulness.
Next time you get triggered and reactive ask yourself what am I so angry about?
Besides the obvious you'll need to go back to an earlier life experience.
Ask yourself what does this current situation remind me of from the past?
Let's say you aren't getting your way and that makes you very frustrated.
You'll need to go back to an earlier situation when you weren't getting your own way.
Often this begins around four or five years old with siblings or children at school.
Try and remember in the heat of anger when you didn't get your own way as a child.
Often it's right there in the conscious mind.
So the pattern is you wanted something and you couldn't get your way.
Mom,
Dad or caregiver said no or not now.
And you got frustrated.
No resolve to the situation.
Probably not explained to either.
More frustration.
Perhaps you were told to sit in the corner.
Still not getting your way.
So this idea I can't have it my way is still not resolved but parents say perhaps move on and eventually it gets forgotten and buried in the subconscious mind.
It's still not resolved.
So you're an adult now.
Someone triggers you at work or at home and what comes up?
Why can't I have it my way?
To remedy this you need to ask yourself how can I resolve it?
How can I resolve not getting my own way?
What do I need?
What do I need to resolve this?
Understanding?
Do you need to talk it out?
Do you need love?
Do you need someone to see your point of view?
A hug?
Perhaps compassion?
What is needed for you to feel appreciated and loved?
The trigger and what is making you reactive and angry is something in your adult life but the source of this anger is from childhood.
Driving is often good triggers.
Many people get reactive while driving.
Here's another example.
You're driving along and someone cuts you off on the road and you go crazy in the car swearing at the driver.
Again ask yourself why am I so angry?
You want to go back to an earlier experience where perhaps your mom or dad cut you off and said shush don't speak just be silent and you had no recourse then.
All that pent up energy is in you.
You got cut off for speaking or doing something.
Perhaps the mom said sit down and be quiet.
Now when someone cuts you off you are subconsciously reminded of that unresolved experience and react.
It's done so fast it's like a nanosecond.
That's why anger is so healing.
It's a gateway to help you resolve old patterning.
It's so much more challenging to conjure up an old memory when you're happy.
It's so much easier to find issue when you're in the heat of anger or frustration,
Hurt and even fear.
Remember emotions are energy and action or non-action in this case.
This is why it's so important to resolve everything as it occurs rather than hold on to it for some other time.
Talk it out and let it go.
Once we hold on to emotional experiences memory is created and the mind starts to build a tremendous story around the experience that is not true.
It's the commentary in the mind that you want to resolve through meditation or working on yourself.
So once you know the issue as an adult it's so much easier to resolve it.
How will you know everything cleared?
Next time someone cuts you off on their freeway you won't react.
So let me know how you do or if you need any help send me an email at info at Kumari Davey dot org.
Namaste.
