Hi,
This is Auric Krug,
Board-certified dance movement therapist and trauma and relationship expert.
Today,
I would love to guide you through a movement-based meditation to help alleviate and ease your anxious attachment.
A lot of times when we are anxiously attached and something doesn't feel right,
Whether real or perceived,
We feel like we have to make it okay.
And if we don't make it okay,
Then something really bad is going to happen.
We are going to get abandoned and the relationship is going to end.
In this meditation,
I would love to help your body feel more comfortable with not making things okay,
Because when we are okay with not being okay,
We can save ourselves from a lot of anxiety and tension.
We can start this meditation in any position that feels comfortable and supportive to you,
Whether that's sitting down,
Standing,
Or lying down.
Once you get into a position,
Ask your body,
Is there a way I can feel even more supported right now?
And make whatever adjustments you want to follow.
You may close your eyes,
Lower your gaze,
Open your eyes,
Or switch between those three options throughout this entire experience.
Let's take two deep breaths together.
Breathing in and breathing out.
Again,
Breathing in and breathing out.
As you return your breath to normal,
I'd love to invite you to focus on a sensation in your body that feels slightly uncomfortable right now.
Don't change it.
Don't try to fix it.
Don't try to do anything with it except feel it and notice it.
Wherever the sensation is,
Whatever it feels like,
Maybe you imagine a color or a texture or temperature with it.
Notice the attributes,
But don't try to change anything about it,
Even as it feels uncomfortable.
Know that it's there,
Feeling it there,
Without doing anything in particular about it.
From this place of noticing,
Allow your body to invite organic movement into this sensation.
Again,
Not to try to change it or fix it,
But to just move with it.
For instance,
If you feel tension in your shoulders,
Don't try to move to relieve that tension.
Instead,
Allow movement to organically develop.
That movement may very well end up helping you relieve your tension,
But this is more so about what does my body naturally want to do in response without forcing it,
Without having an agenda to fix it.
Follow your impulses here without judgment and without trying to resolve anything.
There's nothing to resolve.
This is simply a sensation you feel inside of your body.
It is not good or bad,
Even if it feels uncomfortable.
It is simply an opportunity to meet yourself where you are at.
Spend the next couple of minutes moving with your sensations without trying to fix them or do anything about them,
Even if they feel uncomfortable the entire time.
However you are moving,
Whatever you are doing starts to bring your movements to a gradual close.
You may find yourself landing in an ending position,
And once you do,
Let's take a deep breath together.
Breathing in,
And breathing out.
You may begin to open your eyes,
Look around your physical space,
And make intentional physical contact with yourself,
Letting your body know that you are back in the here and now.
You may notice that you still feel uncomfortable.
You may notice that you now feel more at ease,
Or something in between.
The point of this experience is that you didn't have to fix anything.
Even if you still feel uncomfortable sensations right now,
That's okay.
You can revisit this meditation tomorrow and find that you feel differently by the time you come back to it.
Where you feel differently after your next experience with it.
If you feel more at ease now,
Notice how you didn't have to change anything or fix anything in order for your uncomfortable feelings to shift.
We can apply that to our relationships.
As a recovering anxious attacher,
I understand it can feel so uncomfortable when things don't feel right or perfect in a relationship,
And we want to do everything we can to try to make it better.
But hopefully,
This experience has shown you,
In your body,
That you don't have to do much for things to shift.
If you allow yourself to be where you are,
And naturally move with that,
Naturally move with the ebbs and the flows and the changes,
The transitions,
The anxiety will shift regardless.
And you will break the cycle of believing that you have to fix and control things in order for them,
And for you,
To feel secure.
If this meditation resonates with you and you'd love to dive deeper to really healing your anxious attachment and past relationship traumas,
Check out my Insight Timer profile and see what retreats I'm offering.
I'd love to see you in person and work with you,
If it feels right.
Until next time,
You deserve all the love that you desire.
