Hi,
This is Orit Krug,
Board certified dance movement therapist and trauma and relationship expert.
Today,
I would love to share a talk with you about why you are really afraid.
And I'm going to try to be as quick and direct as possible so that you understand what your fear is really about,
Whether you're experiencing your fear in relationships,
The fear of abandonment,
Intimacy,
Deep connection,
Or general fear of going after your dreams,
Whatever it is you're afraid of,
You're not really afraid of what you think you are.
Because underneath all those things that I just named,
There's a bigger fear.
It's not a fear of failure.
It's not a fear of success.
Because people will tell you that's what's underneath your fear,
But your fear is about feeling your feelings.
And I recently discovered this on a whole new level because I was talking to my business coach about how afraid I was of succeeding and being more seen.
And she said,
Why are you afraid of your feelings?
And I said,
What me?
No,
I'm not afraid of my feelings.
I experienced about 20 years of trauma.
I felt a lot of feelings that I did not like to feel that I was uncomfortable with.
And now that I've healed my trauma,
I am,
I'm good.
I can feel my feelings.
It's no problem.
And then I took another moment before saying anything else.
And I realized exactly what she meant as I was telling her about my fears.
I realized that if my fears actually came true,
It would make me feel ashamed.
It would make me feel like I'm not good enough.
It would make me feel like other people were going to judge me.
And I would feel embarrassed.
So it wasn't really about a fear of what was going to happen.
It was a fear of how I would be left feeling.
So if you're afraid of your partner leaving you,
Of course,
There's a fear of abandonment there.
But what happens if you do get abandoned?
How would that make you feel?
It might make you feel so sad.
It might make you feel angry.
It might make you feel ashamed that other people might see this happening to you.
So what you're really afraid of are your feelings.
Now this session with my coach happened about six months ago.
And I have been letting this idea really process in my experience,
In my body.
And she was right.
Because I have gone through a lot of ups and downs in my business and allowing myself to feel the feelings of that.
And when it comes down to it,
I have felt sad.
I have felt angry.
I have felt desperate.
I have felt hopeless.
I have felt hopeful.
I have felt excited.
I have felt a rollercoaster of emotions around things that have gone on in my business.
And what's different is that I have been allowing myself to feel them in my body,
Allowing myself to move with them and move through them.
And the wild thing is I am getting through these feelings and these ups and downs so much quicker.
And to the point where it's not even that up and down,
It's little curves where I come back to baseline so much quicker because I am not pushing those feelings away.
I am not repressing those feelings.
I'm letting myself feel them.
And they're really not that bad.
Feelings are simply sensations that we feel in the body.
And that is it.
But feelings become so much more complicated because we put labels on them.
We name heated energy in our body as anger.
We name heaviness in our body as sadness,
Depression.
And not only do we do that,
We put feelings on these feelings.
We tell ourselves that we shouldn't be feeling sad.
We shouldn't be feeling angry.
We shouldn't be feeling excited or hopeful about this thing.
And it becomes so complex.
But again,
If you really take all of that away,
Feelings are sensations in the body.
And if we know how to respond to those sensations in the body,
Specifically with movement that allows us to feel like we are connecting with them,
We're taking care of them,
We're taking care of ourselves,
Then there is no issue.
The issue actually is that most of us adults have experienced trauma.
And most of us,
Despite many,
Many years of therapy and meditation and energy healings are still storing unresolved trauma in the body because the most common forms of therapy are not backed by research to be enough to heal trauma.
So most adults are still dealing with unresolved trauma that makes feeling,
That makes even the thought of connecting to the body so uncomfortable that we are in an epidemic,
A pandemic of stuffing down,
Escaping numbing feelings through social media,
Through different kinds of substances,
Through over analyzing,
Overthinking,
Through toxic self-awareness,
Meaning digesting so many hours of quotes and articles and podcasts being stuck in the mind instead of really making change through the body.
That's the issue.
And if you resonate with this issue and if you've resonated with this whole talk and you want to be able to get to a place to feel your feelings so that you can allow yourself to feel deeply satisfying love and connection with not only your romantic relationships,
But yourself and everyone else in your life,
Then I encourage you to sign up for my insight timer course called you are worthy of love healing from trauma because this is going to be a game changer.
That's a quote actually that I stole from someone who left a recent review on the course.
It will be a game changer for how you approach healing your trauma and how you understand it and what has been the most common feedback is how you stop blaming yourself,
How you realize that none of this is your fault and it will put you on the right path to healing without wasting any more time or money in five,
10,
20 plus years of therapy like most of my clients have.
So come sign up for the course.
You can find it on my profile and I hope to see you inside.
Until next time,
You deserve to be able to let healthy,
Lasting love in and feel all of your feelings without fear.
