Hi,
This is Ori Krug,
Board-certified dance movement therapist and trauma and relationship expert.
Today,
I would love to guide you through a movement-based meditation on differentiating between love and attachment,
Specifically secure love versus insecure attachment.
When you've related to others with insecure attachment for your entire life and you start to heal and shift into secure attachment,
It can still be really difficult to differentiate or distinguish between love and unhealthy attachment.
So in this meditation,
We will do our best to have a full body understanding of this difference and how it can positively impact your relationships.
To begin this meditation,
Find a comfy spot for you,
Whether that's sitting down,
Laying down or standing up.
And when you feel like your body is supported in whatever position you land in,
You may close your eyes or lower your gaze.
And we're going to take a deep breath together,
Breathing in and breathing out.
Let's do that one more time,
Breathing in and breathing out.
I'd love to invite you now to imagine or visualize a version of yourself that is feeling love or in love without the insecurity,
Without the anxiety,
And without focusing on what's not right in the relationship.
Imagine yourself truly,
Deeply feeling love in a way where you can unconditionally accept your partner,
You have their best interests in your heart,
And you make a great effort to help them grow,
And you really see them for who they are.
Even if you don't like all of it,
You really feel love anyway.
Start to feel what that feels like in your body and see in your visual how you might be holding your body in this feeling of love,
What your posture is like,
How you're gesturing towards your partner or anyone else,
How you might be walking down the street or entering a room feeling this love with none of the worry,
Just really,
Really loving someone.
How are you moving?
How are you feeling inside of your body?
And now start to invite that right here,
Right now,
Physically into your body.
So if you saw a certain way that you were walking or holding your posture,
Or in a more abstract way,
Just bringing movement organically to this feeling,
So if you feel open,
You might do movements that are opening up.
Let your body take the lead,
Even if it takes a few moments,
To naturally let your body start to move this version of you.
And remember,
You are moving the feeling of love without insecurity right now.
And if it helps,
Or if it deepens your experience,
You may even start to visualize your partner or your love interests or whoever standing across from you and see how this selfless,
Accepting love that helps both of you grow,
See how that allows you to move with or around your partner as you visualize them across from you.
Start to bring in some of that insecure attachment into this experience of love.
Notice what your body does as soon as you bring that in,
Or as soon as I mentioned it.
Perhaps your body contracts,
Or you move away from the visual of your partner,
Or something else happens with your body as you bring in this attachment that is more selfish,
That begs this person to change,
That hinders your growth.
How does that make you move differently?
How does that make you hold yourself and your body differently?
How does it change the way you interact with your partner?
Notice what your body is doing.
Notice how your body moves differently as you bring in this attachment.
And when you've had enough of that,
Move back into love without the attachment stuff.
Go back to the way you were moving and holding yourself when it was pure,
Unconditional love without the insecure attachment.
Notice what does your body do to get back to that feeling of love without the attachment stuff.
You can do this for the next minute,
Being in that pure love and then bringing attachment back into it,
Noticing how your body changes,
What your movements do to go back into attachment,
And then explore going back into pure love so you can really feel the difference between love and attachment in your body.
You may notice simple differences.
Love is open.
Attachment is restricted.
Maybe it's more complex than that.
There's no right or wrong.
Just notice how you move between love and attachment and feel into what is different about each of them.
Whatever you're doing right now,
However you're moving,
Start to bring your movements to a gradual ending,
Slowly bringing your movements to a close,
Perhaps finding yourself landing in an ending position.
And when you get there,
Let's take a deep breath in and out.
Gently open your eyes,
Look around your space,
Make some physical contact with yourself to let your body know that you are here and you're in this space right now.
I encourage you to take some notes or journal some of the differences that you noticed in your body and in your movements between love and insecure attachment.
Write down everything you noticed from the way that you were breathing differently,
That your posture was different,
Perhaps the speed that you were moving,
The size,
Anything that you noticed.
Whatever your experience was today,
Just know that this is a practice and you can come back to this meditation as many times as you need.
And if you'd like to do a deeper dive on healing anxious attachment through your body and through movement,
You can take my five-day course on Insight Timer called Heal Anxious Attachment in Body Security,
Confidence,
And Self-Love.
I hope to see you in there,
And until then,
You deserve all the love that you desire.
