Hi,
This is Orit Krug,
Board certified dance therapist and trauma and relationship expert.
Today I would love to guide you through a movement meditation to get clarity if you should have an open relationship or transition to non-monogamy or polyamory with your partner.
This is a huge decision that works really well if you're doing it from the right place.
So let's connect with your body today to make sure that this will be a healthy and incredible decision for you and your relationship.
You can start this meditation by sitting,
Standing,
Or lying down,
Or whatever position feels good for you right now.
Let's take three deep breaths together.
Breathing in and breathing out.
Again,
Breathing in and breathing out.
One last time.
Breathing in and breathing out.
I'm going to invite you now to close your eyes or lower your gaze and visualize or imagine the foundation of your current relationship.
You may see an image pop up immediately or you can just slowly allow an image or feeling to come to you.
Sense what the foundation of your relationship feels like and looks like.
You may imagine that there's a solid rock or roots deeply embedded into the earth.
Or maybe as you sense your foundation,
It feels like there might be some cracks or holes or some parts that need patching up.
And as you're imagining this,
I'm going to invite you to start bringing movement into this experience.
Allow your body to naturally and organically start moving in response to this visualization of your foundation.
So if you imagine that there's a solid rock,
You might instinctively try to pick up the rock or feel the texture of it,
Maybe to make sure that it's really solid.
You might try to move it.
If you visualized roots deeply embedded into the earth,
You might find yourself naturally pressing down on the earth,
Making that foundation even stronger.
The point of this is not to fix anything or to change anything,
But rather to just allow your body to see what it wants to do.
If you imagine that there are cracks in the foundation,
What does your body want you to do with that?
You may simply look through the cracks and see what's there.
In your imagination,
You might have some glue that fills in those cracks and then see how your body responds.
Maybe that feels like enough.
Maybe you notice that the glue doesn't stick.
There's no right or wrong here.
This is about listening to your body as you see what messages come up,
As you see how your body responds to each action that you choose in this moment.
Keep moving with your foundation.
Now,
If you have a sense that your foundation feels really secure and really strong,
You can journey with me to this next part.
If you feel like there still needs to be some work,
You still really need to explore and strengthen your foundation,
Just keep moving that for the rest of this meditation.
For those of you who are ready to explore a little further,
I want you to go back into visualization and imagine now that you and your partner begin to explore non-traditional types of ethical and consensual non-monogamy,
Whichever way you and your partner are considering this,
You can imagine this now in your mind's eye.
You can visualize what experiences you might have and as you do,
Notice the sensations coming up in your body.
What comes up in your body right now as you visualize opening up your relationship?
Whatever that sensation is,
I'm going to invite you to invite movement into the sensation.
So if you felt butterflies in your stomach,
Maybe your body has the natural instinctual desire to move your torso in the direction of the butterflies.
If you felt your body getting smaller,
Allow your body to respond to that.
Does your body naturally want to follow that urge and become smaller or does something else want to happen?
Let your body lead you here.
Your mind may want to take over and tell you to resolve any uncomfortable feelings or to control the way that your body responds now,
But allow your body to move you instead of your mind moving your body.
And as you're moving right now and visualizing and feeling into a non-monogamous relationship with your partner,
Make sure you keep the image and the sensation of your foundation with you.
You could be repeating the same movements over and over again as they naturally come up or it's possible that whatever way you're moving right now expands into something else.
And we're doing this,
We're letting your body lead you through this exploration to really deeply reveal and see how this feels for you.
In whatever way you're moving right now,
Does it feel constricting?
Does it feel anxiety-provoking?
Or does it feel expansive and free?
You might be taking up more space right now.
You might be trying new movements on in your body that feel empowering and exciting.
And that may be a reflection that trying this new way of being with your partner and with others excites you instead of scares you.
If you're finding that your body is feeling a little too scared to move,
To try new things,
To take up space,
To be spontaneous,
That's okay,
That's normal.
This is a big decision and it's okay if you don't feel ready for it right now.
Instead of judging how you're feeling or what you're doing,
Try to just notice what's making it feel unsafe.
And if you're one of the ones who's simply still working on your foundation through movement,
Then that's great.
You know that that's where the work needs to happen before changing up your relationship dynamic.
Take another minute to move however your body is leading you.
Whatever movements come up organically through your body.
And at the end of the minute,
I will prompt you to start slowing down and bring this movement to a close.
Whatever you're doing,
However you're moving right now,
Start to slow down gradually and make your movements incrementally smaller until you eventually reach a pause that feels satisfying enough to you right now.
This exploration may not be close to being over,
But for now it's important to have some closure until you try this out again.
You may find yourself naturally ending in a position that feels good to you,
Maybe your hands on your heart or holding yourself in some way,
Maybe standing up tall.
There's no right or wrong.
Just see where your body leads you.
And we'll take one deep breath together,
Breathing in and breathing out.
Gently open your eyes and look around the room.
Look around your space.
Make physical contact with yourself,
Letting yourself know that you are right here right now.
And do anything else,
Any other slight movement that feels helpful for you right now.
I hope that this meditation has brought you some clarity and understanding about your readiness to open up your relationship or what you need to do in order to become ready if this is a deep desire of yours.
I recommend trying this meditation several times to explore more deeply everything that you might need in order to make this transition a healthy,
Transformational,
Incredible experience for you and your partner.
If you'd like a safe space to talk about this,
Come join my Insight Timer Circle called Women Healing Trauma.
And we will be so happy to support you.
Until next time,
You deserve to be able to let all the love in.
