Hi,
This is Ori Krug,
Board-certified dance movement therapist and trauma and relationship expert.
Today,
I would love to guide you through a movement-based meditation to embody secure attachment.
When you've gone through a lot of therapy,
Affirmations,
And meditations to help you become more secure,
But you don't feel it in your body,
And your body does not follow through on the behaviors or the actions that your mind intends to,
It can be really frustrating to feel that disconnect and the lack of integration between your mind and body.
So in this movement meditation,
You will have an experience of embodying more secure attachment so that you can follow through with aligned action in your relationships so that you can experience deeper,
More fulfilling love with less sabotage.
To begin this meditation,
Please find a comfortable position that feels supportive to your body right now.
You may close your eyes or gently lower your gaze.
And once you feel comfortable,
We're going to take three breaths together.
Breathing in and breathing out.
Again,
Breathing in and breathing out.
One last time,
Breathing in and breathing out.
I'm going to invite you now to imagine and visualize your most securely attached self without fear,
Anxiety,
Self-doubting,
Overgiving,
Without abandoning yourself.
Imagine your most secure,
Confident,
Self-loving version of you.
See this version of you as if you're watching yourself on a movie screen or perhaps a vision in your mind's eye.
How are you holding yourself in your body?
How are you moving your body?
What is your posture like?
What are your gestures like within a relationship?
This could be really simple from the way that you walk from one room to another,
Or you walk down the street,
Or maybe you envision yourself interacting in a relationship and you see that you are holding and moving your body in a certain way.
What qualities of movement are present,
Whether that's softness or firmness or fluidity,
Standing up tall,
Walking with your head up,
Anything.
Envision all that's coming to you and begin to try that on right now in your body.
So if you envisioned yourself walking with your shoulders back and your chest up and your head up high,
Do that right now.
If you had a sense that you would be more open and fluid yet firm,
How could you move that right now?
Could you maybe take up more space right now?
Could you literally open up your body with certain movements with a sense of firmness,
A sense of balance?
Try not to think about it too much and just allow your body to lead you here.
There is no right or wrong.
As long as you are doing your best to match the essence of your vision in your physical body right now,
That's all you need.
Move this version of you,
And if you have any judgments or doubts that come in,
If you find that you end up feeling disconnected from your body,
That is okay.
Even when we heal from anxious attachment and we are our most secure,
Confident,
And self-loving versions of ourselves,
We still have moments of disconnection,
Of regressing a little bit,
And definitely not being perfect.
That's part of self-love.
That's part of security,
Is to still feel secure even as a normally flawed human.
And if that resonates with you right now,
You can even work that into your movement.
You could move a little clumsy.
You could move in a way that's not even the most attractive or quote-unquote beautiful and still love yourself through it.
Maybe even laugh a little bit at yourself.
There's nothing more beautiful than being able to be authentically you and still smile and maybe even laugh through it.
So go on.
Go ahead.
Be 100% unapologetically yourself and trust that you are so loved no matter what that looks and feels like right now.
I'm going to leave a minute of space here so you can continue exploring in movement.
And then when the minute is up,
I will prompt us to bring our movements to a close.
Whatever you're doing,
However you're moving right now,
Start to gradually,
Slowly,
Gently bring your movements to a close.
Perhaps you organically find yourself in an ending position that feels satisfying to you right now.
And when you get there,
Let's take a deep breath together.
Breathing in and breathing out.
Gently open your eyes and look around your space.
Make physical contact with your body,
Perhaps a firm gentle squeeze on your arms,
A light soft caressing on your lap,
Just letting your body know that you are back in the here and now.
Whatever your experience was today,
Just know that this is a practice and you can come back to this meditation as many times as you need.
And if you'd like to do a deeper dive on healing anxious attachment through your body and through movement,
You can take my five-day course on Insight Timer called Heal Anxious Attachment Embody Security,
Confidence,
And Self-Love.
I hope to see you in there.
And until then,
You deserve all the love that you desire.
