Easing A Difficult Relationship With An Elderly Parent

A meditation intending to help ease a difficult relationship with an elderly mom, dad, or another parental figure that you are taking care of — emotionally, physically, or financially — who never seems satisfied with all the good things you do for them. We begin with a balancing chakra meditation, followed by release affirmations for the negative build-up and an intake session so you rewire your mind to be more successful in managing and even overcoming your challenges.

Transcript

Hello and welcome to your Easing a Difficult Relationship with an Elderly Parent harmonizing session brought to you by the Organic World Club where you can find a good deal of wellness tips and programs.

I am Mila Loza,

Your guide for today.

In this session,

We will address challenges when dealing with your elderly parent that you are supporting either physically or financially or even emotionally.

It may feel at times that you are not getting the gratitude that you expect for all your hard work and care.

While you may not have the power to change others,

You can certainly make adjustments within yourself that will make it easy to handle everyday situations.

In the first part of this session,

You will be guided into deep meditation and relaxation.

In that state,

We will focus on releasing negative emotional build-up so you make space for positive emotions.

You will hear affirmations about what to release.

The second part is an intake session where you will accept positive affirmations to help you live a happier and more fulfilling life through empowering a healthy relationship with your beloved parent.

Before we begin,

Find a comfortable place where you can sit or lie down fully supported and comfortable for the duration of the session.

I will guide you to achieve a relaxed state that will allow you to follow through with the emotional adjustment.

To make it even easier,

Prior to starting the session,

You are welcome to listen to my Reiki Balancing and Relaxation recording.

You will find some of this content similar but shorter.

Now,

Even out your breathing.

Begin to quiet down your senses.

Allow your eyelids to fall heavily as you close your eyes.

Let noises feel distant.

Notice how you feel.

Connect with your skin,

Scanning down and up your body from toes through lower legs,

Knees,

Upper legs,

Hips,

Belly,

Back,

Chest,

Upper back,

Shoulders.

Notice if you are holding any tightness in the shoulders.

Release with a deep inhale and even deeper exhale.

Direct your attention down to your upper arms,

Lower arms,

Hands and back up to the shoulders,

The back of your head,

The tip of your head,

Your face,

Eyes,

Nose,

Mouth,

Chin.

Notice if you are clenching it.

Notice if you are clenching your chin.

Release with a deep inhale and even deeper exhale.

Once again say,

Ahhh.

How does this feel?

Good.

Now in this state,

You will begin to energize your energy centers,

Your chakras.

Starting with your crown chakra,

Your seven chakras,

The area on the tip of your head,

The highest point of your body when you are standing up tall.

Notice a warm wave from there all the way down through your spine.

Take three deep slow breaths every time we focus on the chakra.

Take a deep breath in,

Expanding your entire lungs through your belly and chest.

And take a deep breath out,

Compressing the chest first and then the belly.

Two more times,

One big flow in and one big flow out.

One more time on your own.

Direct your attention now to your third eye,

Your sixth chakra,

The area between your eyebrows and your forehead.

Take three breaths in.

Direct your attention down to your fifth chakra,

In the base of your neck,

The central point between your shoulders,

Front and back.

Notice if you are holding any tension in your shoulders that may prevent you from balancing your fifth chakra.

And relax.

Release the shoulders and even pull them down.

Now take three deep breaths together with me on your own.

One more time.

Release,

Compressing the chest and then the belly.

And now direct your attention down to your fourth chakra,

The middle of your chest,

By your heart,

Right in the center,

The front and in the back.

Hold your attention here until you feel radiating love out of it.

Take three deep breaths once again,

Filling up belly and chest and letting it out through the chest and then the belly.

Utilizing your full lung capacity,

Opening up your chest wider than you normally do,

Filling up your belly and pulling in chest and belly for a much deeper exhale than normally you do.

And when you're done,

Direct your attention down towards your third chakra,

Right below the breastbone,

Above the abdominal,

Right there in that gap under your chest where you may have experienced that gut feeling that we normally talk about.

Three breaths,

Directing your attention to your third chakra.

Energizing that area.

And when you're done,

Direct your attention down towards your second chakra,

Right below your navel in the center of your lower belly.

Let's take three deep breaths.

Deep inhales and deep exhales.

Energizing that area.

And last,

We'll focus on the first chakra.

Direct your attention down towards the base of your torso,

Behind your genitals.

Connect with the grounding energy and direct it down through your legs,

Through your feet,

Down the floor,

Down to the center of the earth.

Down within the planet,

As if you're growing roots,

Going deeper and deeper,

Down all the way to the core of Mother Earth,

Our home in this lifetime.

Breathe.

And when you're done,

With your three inhales and three exhales,

Come back.

Up through the legs,

Through your spine,

Up through every chakra,

From the base of your torso up through the belly,

Chest,

Neck.

Take a moment to notice your energy balancing and all the way up to your third eye and crown chakra.

Evening out your breath.

Now in this state,

You feel balanced and relaxed.

You're ready to receive affirmations that will help you connect deeper with your higher self and connect with the wisdom within you to help you navigate challenges.

We begin with release affirmations.

Later on,

We will focus on positive intake.

Now,

Repeat silently to yourself or even out loud to release blocked energy if it helps you connect with my words better.

Ready?

Take a deep breath in and let it go.

We will try to stay with the breath as we go through this with a lot of deep exhales in between releases.

I release worry for my mom,

Dad or other parental figure because I know that the Lord,

The universe or higher power will provide for him or her and our family.

Inhale and deep exhale.

I release worry.

I release any feeling that I'm bound as if by contract to my parent.

I release unhealthy connection that may be hurting me or both of us.

I release unhealthy attachment.

I release any feeling that I'm bound as if by contract to my parent.

I release unhealthy connection that may be hurting me or both of us.

I release unhealthy attachment.

I release any need for validation.

I release a need to please my mom or dad because I know she or he can only be happy if they choose to be happy.

I release a need to please my parent because I know that inner happiness is a choice and not something that comes from me.

I'm not responsible for others happiness.

I release a need to please.

I release my need to make my mom or dad happy.

I release my expectations for a specific reaction they may have in response to anything I do.

I release my expectations.

I release any need for approval by my parent because I know I'm doing the right thing and that's enough.

I release a need for validation.

I release a need for validation.

I release a need for approval.

I let go of my need for approval.

I release unhealthy emotions associated with my mom or dad.

I release unhealthy emotions associated with my parent.

I release unhealthy emotions.

I release all that emotional load that I've been holding on to.

I release all that emotional load that I've been holding on to.

I let go of all those emotions.

I let go of all those emotions that don't serve me anymore.

I let go.

I let go of my own goal.

I disconnect from any desire to see any specific results for the good deeds that I do for my parent.

I release a need for approval or validation.

I quit hoping that my parent is going to change.

There's no need for that.

I quit hoping that my parent is going to change.

There's no need for that.

It doesn't serve me.

I quit beating myself up for not being more for my parent or not doing more for them.

I quit beating myself up.

I quit trying to do more.

I quit trying to do more to the point of which it is hurting me.

I quit trying to do more and be more when that doesn't serve my higher purpose in life.

I quit trying to do more to the point of which it is hurting me.

I quit trying to do more and be more when that doesn't serve my higher purpose in life.

I quit trying to do more and be more when that doesn't serve my higher purpose in life.

I release my desire for specific results.

I release.

I forgive my parent if sometimes they're unable to express how grateful they really are.

I forgive.

I release any grudge I'm holding.

I let it go.

Let it go.

I let go of any tension I'm bottling in my heart that doesn't serve me anymore.

I let go of any tension I'm bottling in my heart that doesn't serve me anymore.

I let go of any tension I was holding on to.

I let go.

I release.

I release anything that doesn't serve me anymore.

I release.

Take a deep inhale and a deep exhale right here.

Now we begin to intake affirmations.

Again,

Repeat out loud or simply accept the affirmations,

Aligning yourself with their message.

Ready?

I trust that the Lord,

The universe,

Or higher power takes care of my mom,

Dad,

Parent,

And my family better than any person,

Not even I could.

I trust that the Lord,

The universe,

Or higher power takes care of my mom,

Dad,

Parent,

And my family better than any person,

Not even I could.

I trust that positive things are coming my way and my parent is in good hands.

I am calm and know that life brings good things to me and my family.

I am calm in knowing that life brings good things to me and my family.

I let the Lord,

The universe,

And higher power bring positivity into my life.

I am calm in my attitude towards my mom,

Dad,

Or parental fear.

I am calm.

I trust.

I give my mom or dad or other parental figure all my love in a very healthy way that makes me and them feel good.

I give my mom or dad or other parental figure all my love in a very healthy way.

I am so appreciative of everything my parent has done for me and feel good taking care of them.

I am so appreciative of everything my parent has done for me and feel good taking care of them.

I nurture positive emotions associated with my parent.

I nurture the healthiest emotions only.

I hold on to positive vibes such as love and appreciation.

I hold on to wonderful positive vibes.

There is place in my heart only for those wonderful higher feelings.

Those positive emotions serve me and my parent well.

I am pleased and fulfilled.

My heart is full of gratefulness.

I nurture a healthy relationship with my parent.

I take care of my parent because I want to.

I use my free will and make a conscious choice to take care of my parent without being forced to or feel like I have to.

I choose to take care of my parent physically or emotionally,

Not because I have to.

And when I do,

I am open to any reaction he or she may have in response to my care.

I understand that sometimes,

Especially when my parent is in pain,

He or she doesn't see things clearly and I forgive them.

I understand that sometimes,

Especially when my parent is in pain,

They may not see things clearly and I forgive them.

My connection with my mom,

Dad or other in parental row is pure,

Healthy and conscious.

My connection with my parent is pure,

Healthy and conscious.

I'm open to any outcome of my positive deeds.

Most importantly,

I'm pleased with myself and honor my ability to provide care for another human being.

I'm pleased with myself and honor my ability to provide care for another human being.

I'm OK with any reaction to my care.

I'm OK,

However my parent reacts to my good deeds.

I know if my mom or dad choose to be happy,

That is their choice and I honor it.

If there is anything I can do to contribute to their choice,

I'm grateful for that opportunity.

I'm grateful for the opportunity to bring joy to my mom,

Dad or other parent.

I'm honoring my ability to help my parent when they're open to accepting my help.

I'm honoring my ability to help my parent when they are open to accepting my help.

Any reaction from my mom or dad is OK.

I let life be as it is and I'm content.

I approve of my good deeds and that's all that matters.

I am content.

I choose to stand by my parent and help him or her in a very healthy way.

I honor my parent in a very healthy and positive way.

I know in their heart of hearts they appreciate everything I do,

Even if they can't always fully express it.

I know in their heart of hearts they appreciate everything I do,

Even if they can't fully express it.

I know I'm doing the right thing and my mom,

Dad or other parental figure are pleased whether or not they express it well.

I feel approved and validated because I know I'm doing the right thing.

I feel approved and validated because I know I'm doing the right thing.

I'm open to whatever comes and I'm happy with any outcome from my good deeds.

I'm open to whatever comes and I'm happy with the outcome from my good deeds.

I give care and love in a very healthy way that serves me well.

I give care and love in a very healthy way that serves me well.

I give and it feels good and that's enough for me.

It serves me well.

My good deeds of care for my parents serve me well.

I'm content and happy with any outcome.

Everyone is allowed to be as they are and I accept that.

I accept that my parent may not always react in a way I hoped for and that's okay.

I accept my parent as he or she is and send them all my love anyway.

However,

My parent accepts my care,

I'm okay with it because I know I did the right thing.

I hold only positive feelings in my heart.

I nurture a wonderful healthy relationship.

I meet my parent with acceptance.

I'm okay.

Everything is okay.

Wonderful.

Take a deep breath in and let it out.

Before we end our session,

You will connect again with your energy centers and affirm this renewed state of being that you have accepted.

Let's go through our chakras.

Starting with the first,

The base of your torso.

Connect once more with the grounding energy,

Tracing up from the core of the planet all the way up to yourself where you are in this moment.

And direct your energy up to your lower belly.

Lower back.

Up to the third chakra below the breastbone and the back.

And up to your heart chakra from and back.

And fifth chakra to the base of your neck,

Central point between your very relaxed shoulders.

That's your communication center.

Direct your attention to your third eye or sixth chakra,

The area between your eyebrows and your forehead.

And up to your seventh crown chakra,

Your connection with the spiritual world,

Your higher self,

Higher power.

Notice how this feels.

Notice how your body feels.

Notice how your mind feels.

And go back to this memory.

You have the ability to bring back this state whenever you need it for lasting results.

Of course this meditation is here for you and you're welcome to listen to it regularly or as long as it serves you well.

And you can stay here,

Take all the time you need.

And when you're done,

Keep the energy of giving flowing and contribute at your own comfort level.

Empower us to empower you.

Stay with your breath.

Be one with your breath.

Namaste.