In the fourth of our five prayers for self-transformation,
We're going to take even a deeper look at how we can begin to become active in a new way,
Not just in the world around us,
But within ourselves,
As the world appears to ask us for some of the ways in which we've always responded.
Hi,
This is Guy Finley.
And we're learning about a completely new way to respond to those moments that come up where,
For whatever reason,
We feel a little bit off-balance.
And in our fourth prayer for self-transformation,
Which is called Leave Uncomfortable Moments Alone,
We're going to learn about a completely new kind of balance.
But before I get into that,
I just want to encourage you to stay vigilant,
Willing,
Wanting to understand these principles.
I know that can be confusing a little bit anyway.
But there's great reasoning behind the reality that we're being shown through these new exercises.
In the Far East,
All those who seek relationship with what is divine,
With their true nature,
They understand that there's a certain kind of path.
It's kind of a strange way.
It's called Not This and Not That.
And it's a path of negation,
Meaning that the individual comes upon what's true by placing themselves consistently within an awareness that can show them what actually works and what doesn't for them.
In this instance,
And in our fourth prayer for self-transformation,
We all know what it's like when we're with another person or a group of people,
Maybe family dinner,
Sitting around the table.
And have you ever noticed how in those moments,
Always unexpected,
There will come a sudden kind of uncomfortable silence and it pours in.
And when it does,
We feel compelled to fill in that moment with some kind of commentary.
We think to ourselves in that moment,
Anything would be better than sitting with this strange emptiness because everyone's aware of it and everyone's trying to figure out what to do with it.
And we always fill in that silence because we don't want to sit there in that uncomfortable moment which is actually a discomfort in our own consciousness.
What is it within us that wants to rush and fill in that space?
Among other unconscious and actually self-compromising ideas is a social belief that unless we do something or someone else does to fill in that moment,
There's somehow or other an indictment of our social unsuitability.
We just don't fit in.
But if we can understand that the part of us that wants to fill the spot is actually trying to fill in the feeling it has of being inadequate,
Then we understand that this spot of silence is actually an opportunity for a new kind of discovery about ourselves.
Just for the record,
I want you to understand that everyone in those moments feels the same kind of fear,
The same kind of worry over that silent spot.
We can change ourselves if we want to use it properly.
And that's the lesson in this particular prayer.
It is in that moment instructing us that rather than jumping in to fill that empty moment,
Not to jump in but instead turn our attention back around on ourselves.
To watch these same moments and to use them to become in touch with the part of you,
The inner man,
The inner woman,
Whose true nature doesn't fear silence,
It relishes the opportunity to discover itself through those moments where something in us wants to rush in and try to fill it.
If you're ever out in the woods in nature,
You look up at a night sky,
You know that part of the beauty of that moment is the silence there.
What if we could find that same beauty in every moment of silence including the ones where we momentarily feel uncomfortable?
Working to put ourselves in touch with our own fearless silent self,
If you will,
Will change our relationship with ourselves and with life itself.
And as we'll see,
That turning around of our attention and using the silence instead of trying to fill it is a new kind of prayer because it places us in the one place where we can finally be free of the fear of that silence and of what it may mean about us in the eyes of others.
