How To Conquer Procrastination & Reduce Stress

In this recording, an attempt is made to explain the reasons why we have compulsive cognitive behavioural patterns when we attempt to do something. it unpacks the potential stagnate self-limiting beliefs associated with procrastination. Its prime purpose is to educate the participant to achieve oour ease and flow. The recording unpacks the reason we procrastinate.

Transcript

Hello everyone welcome back welcome back.

This is Nick here from holistic health and fitness coaching now today I will Give you my impression on what I think procrastination is There's a lot of There's some wonderful knowledge coming up your way,

So I'm happy to share and You know I think we need it need to look at at What?

Procrastination is what is it first you know and I've researched a question.

What is it?

You could say that it is Someone someone that is lacking focus Someone that is a tension deficit you can say someone who is easily distracted and Usually maybe some people with some label like ADHD You can't seem to focus on a task too long And maybe it's someone someone who has Symptoms of guilt shame and apathy and also thinking that they're not good enough to achieve things So that is some definitions of it,

But we can carry on Now in scientific form and usually in learning something new or as a teacher And you can look at something called aberration the word aberration now it is like a a misfiring of direction of thought of cognitive of cognitive processing In other words for that is like the ability to think and in this case Let's say that's like when someone's trying to complete something and in thought and it's usually from You you start thinking from a the normal way will be a b c and to get to the end result to complete the cycle of thought and without distractions and basically,

The aberration is the the ability to distort information easily and I guess it's um,

It's something that we do Who don't have a strict disciplined mind?

What they normally do as they process their thought they tend to go a C and then get lost and they wander around and Then they become B.

So the directions lost or a focus mind is able to go a B C D and they've come on to them the complete a full cycle of activity so someone who is consistently creates who creates the habit of procrastination is Really distorting themselves and not completing a cycle Which kind of leads into something another thing that leads into self-esteem.

So I guess self-esteem can be looked at as the more time more times we Say something we want to do but never complete it It is like it is like really Becomes like we become guilty We actually become feeling like shame.

We feel like we're going to an apathetic stage Because we promised ourselves that we complete something so complete So commit to complete so we haven't if we don't commit to it,

But we have a Desire and aspiration to complete it but we never do that kind of it's like sweeping something underneath the carpet and Building a wall around us and then really procrastinating where something can be done quite quickly And we kind of build a wall of you know of doing something not doing something a strong wall They're not performing and giving up at the last end So There's also other reasons what people procrastinate Or procrastination is that some people have this thing called the perfection syndrome They feel not good enough because they have to feel perfect at doing something.

It's kind of a conditioning Conditioning maybe they were That's the way they were thought of being loved.

I guess when you look at You know You needed attention as a youth And the best way to get attention with your parents is you've just started completing things and with perfection and you got your top marks and you're focused and every time and you were kind of driven on the perfection syndrome and and you do want to fail because you were addicted to this to this perfection of completing something perfectly and then when The item or that when you've not when you've completed something,

But it wasn't good enough Or you thought it's not good enough well that that is kind of a A negative spiral to the perfectionist and they think that if I complete this it has to be perfect.

But when they When they become slightly non-perfect,

Well,

They don't even begin the process at all.

They give up Or they don't want to tempt it and never get through it and it will complete the full cycle of activity So that's a good one.

Um Yeah,

That's a good one now we can also look at um Ignorance Task at hand we delay Procrastination could also be something we delay or ignore the task at hand I know that i'm i've got a Bit of that in me.

Um,

I want to do things by i'm delaying I'm ignoring a certain task until it gets a bit to the point of necessary of doing it Someone Someone once said that,

You know,

You think of count backwards You say five four three,

Two one just do without too much thinking because sometimes That'll that might get you a little bit Of ignorance or the task at hand by just completing Something on a task list and not delaying doing it as we delay doing something that also brings us to another war another brick in a war of not doing something so Yeah,

That was an interesting Another thing has come up is mind clutter We could Have this as clutters.

I know some people that the gratification of the mind is to be some people that the gratification Which is interesting whenever come to self gratification All right.

Some of us actually put You know we reward ourselves before the work Uh,

I know when I was um training for the marathon I actually ran I ran 25 kilometer marathons about five years ago I I knew that I had to put the work in And then I would secondly create,

You know,

Secondly,

Then I would reward myself But in today's modern society we get credit cards And really just go spending Aimlessly and then it's always staying broke and stay and then we get negative about that But yeah self gratification before the work.

So why don't we would do the work first?

And self gratification second now,

There are simple.

I just like to add on about that this Doing the work sitting still sitting still and still stillness stillness can create voids Avoid Needs to be filled Avoid is something that is filled by us Or we don't want to face our voids once we stay still avoid comes up.

That's what meditation is difficult some people because They have mind they have mind chatty mind over chatty mind over thinking mind Where they they allow the monkey mind to create the world forum their thoughts and that creates anxieties So yeah,

Um drifted a little bit on that story,

But um,

Yeah,

Let's do the work first before we get the gratification All right,

There's another one Procrastination could be caused by habit of non-priority in life a lot of us Disciplined enough,

Um,

Or we're just too fatigued to create a perfect ritual of priority First thing in the morning and end of the day I remember a long time ago when I was in real estate and I was um Doing quite well because I was super prioritized prioritized I wouldn't sound that super prioritized at a moment because that habit Is no longer with me But I know those days where I would look at my diary from the beginning Look at my diary in the midday and look at my end of diary And and feel good about my achievements at end of the day and that was my ritual And I remember going back to my marathon days.

I I marathon running days.

I to practice in practice of um,

I need I needed to be prioritized I need to run at least two hours a day just to get to the level of competing for um,

You know Uh a 20,

You know a 24 kilometer a kilometer run So that was interesting um Yeah,

So be careful of our non-priority we need to have that We need to look at our diaries regularly need to pat on our get a pat on our backs,

You know that we are cheating And now I want to talk to you about the monkey mind the monkey mind is something that That is a playful nature You know,

Um,

I think the monkey mind How do you explain the monkey mind?

The monkey mind is like our mind overstimulated mind Mind where we don't we have this habit of non-working.

We don't want to work All the monkey mind what monkey might want to do is take control and take it to a disneyland park where everything is like fun fun fun and And nothing gets done and we distract and we might be trying to focus and completing something like at the moment I'm looking at writing a bio And i've gone I've completed half the bio or research in the bio uh because i'm i'm Going to be an insight time teacher in meditation very shortly But I need to complete this bio and then work on my profile photo But my monkey mind is just said to me.

Okay.

Well,

This will be more fun.

Let's talk about Let's uh upload a new new recorder called lucky recorder And let's um,

Yeah,

Let's have fun with that and let's learn how to use this recorder Uh,

Let's just be playful and let's engage your inner child.

The inner child just wants to play I think how we um We need to engage the inner child in our work.

Also,

We kind of neglect that to get the inner child on on on our on our On our performance on the server we need to be playful in what we do our work Otherwise the monkey mind and the inner child kind of kind of and and um Engages in their own world In their own way of doing things and then they take control of our thoughts Another thing about the monkey the inner child.

We must keep that inner child happy So we need our hobbies if we don't have hobbies the inner child's engaged with the hobbies and fun.

They're here To have fun the inner child we can't be too rigid too strong too strict on each child We need to be able to engage the inner child And therefore the monkey mind will go.

All right,

If the inner child's happy then the monkey mind joins joins hands with the inner child and they actually Engage with us and we get to do our work wonderfully and then we get to reward ourselves and there will be no Procrastination we do the one if we just did that Now,

Um Yeah This is a biggie and a lot of life coaches would say to this and and a lot of them would say You know when I address someone a client That needs to get over procrastination or learn not not procrastinate and the reasons for procrastinating Procrastinating or not doing things it's called emotional pains of which are associated with past or temps fails Which is a difficult cognition,

Let's move on to that one that that's a good one.

Um How does that say?

I attempted something long time ago and I failed at it And I took that quite personally and it wasn't much fun I knew that was emotionally painful for me and I felt like My self-esteem dropped to a level And also created this cycle of nonactivity And not feeling the esteem And then just sweeping things underneath the carpet But we've got to be disciplined enough to to not Not to be not to be get trapped in this emotional pain and association With past experiences and attempts or fails You know,

It's okay to fail As long as we get back on that get back on that horse and start steering it before the monkey line takes over So this uh,

There's no there's no failure only people perceive this failure and this association Yes,

We don't need to go into that There's only moving forward and it's okay because we you need to we need to know that failure is moving forward It is something that we need to learn and overcome through failure we are we are Enlightened and given with divine divine purpose with divine acknowledgement With divine wisdom to move forward there is something that's missing but we don't want to ignore that But what what we do is build another another brick wall against that through the emotional pains and past associations And i'm now moving on to something else called this is coming from buddhism In buddhism,

They have something called the word they use the word potentiality in life Now in potentiality is um we have positive and negative potentialities of doing Of completing something doing something and everything has a potential potential energy Sometimes very similar to emotional pains and associations,

But We have to look at how do we you have to look at Recognizing that we have negative potentialities stored from day one in our subconscious Which is like millions of mini-mes um controlling our thoughts And the moment we try to act be active on something we actually don't don't succeed because of that Sometimes the word we use also can be can crush our streams,

You know,

Who's listening?

Who is listening to what we think and what we say?

This says all this is potentialities potentials So the way to To understand and overcome negative potentialities So beautiful to have positive potentialities Is the east we need to understand virtues and the word virtue is love Love what is is another thing we can work out work from love.

What is expression?

Love what is expression?

Loving our negative potential being being compassionate to ourselves showing love To the things that give our negative in our life Because then what we do is then we're open to potential open to the silver linings of life So we need to understand You know potentials and the past experiences Of our of our life now,

Here's an example What would be like for someone to that had?

That it didn't even have any potentials or past experiences of of stimulated pains or or emotions which kind of covers the last subject many associations it'll be like an example I can think of Because don't forget this brushes our self-esteem if we have negative potential stuck in our timeline That are easily drawn out by our little minimies if you if we ever study neuro-linguistic programming the mind is able to Connect to these potentialities and then and live through them and believe these things that we can't do things and therefore we don't we don't do things because Yeah,

Because of that we can't Procrastinate from doing something and getting more active in doing something.

So let's look at An example Um you have You you might have let's let's let's take you to on a journey Let's say maybe you've you as a teenager You've worked in in woolies or coals in the past or whatever Your your mega super stories in your part of the world or your country And you've worked you've got a job in in this in this store and um,

It was those days where um with those days where Where credit cards were just created and you had to you know print out on this device And imprint it to put your card on and if you remember that if you're in my kind of era at my age You'll find that it's just showing my age now,

But you were able to flip-flop It's before the computers we had computers to to actually do credit cards Um made it easy for us with the ai intelligence But those days we had to carbon copy those three copies you had to put the put the slip into the into the printer Put your card in and then swipe over and over until it it kind of created a carbon copy And it was three copies then you had to file One for the give one to the customer when they bought something from the store Or if you're working on the checkout you know checking out items and yeah,

One copy goes into one pigeonhole one copy goes into accounting and And one copy goes to the customer Customer and later on this copy goes gets transferred to the bankers and the bankers kind of bill Build the credit card.

So it was a big process.

It was very Very monotonous took a lot of time and now you can got the eight eight type of person.

It was kind of stressing You know,

It took a lot of time.

Well,

They had a lot of people waiting to be processed Some had cash to be processed But you know,

You have this click clack click clack and you know the whole store and and people are getting edgy They want to get they've got their items and they just want to get out of the store and go on with their life But there was a backup for people just feel just feel into that How stressful that was to to process people in the checkout counter with their goods?

Okay,

So you got this you got a a type of um,

You know youngster that that's working um and he's and now you can see the stimulation the negative potential of creating of their stresses of You know the click clack all that that machine in the olden days And uh,

You know dreadful not much fun You know people want to be served people are looking at you funny.

They're stressing out you're stressing out as a checkout counter person So they're stimulating these potentials And you kind of wonder why we procrastinate when that comes up and create this kind of um stress environment And then you got this other type of bee type of person Okay Who has no idea and of this potential potential hardship no idea and you and um,

You kind of look at this youngster and you say well You are you're doing checkout duties today and unique and he's actually great.

I love it.

I love it When you look at when you kind of ask him,

What do you love about it?

He said I just love it I can't explain why I love doing that And then he kind of clicks to you and and and you look at this youngster and he's enjoying it He's just there.

He's not assessing any past pains or stimulus of a Of a negativity whatsoever And the key word he's virtuous.

He's loving what he's doing So this is what we um need to understand is Is whatever comes up for us in our potentiality of past experience We need to show compassion and love to get over that And life would be so cruisin and I mean we wouldn't wouldn't procrastinate Another example is doing your dishes now In mindfulness coaching I actually help people stay focused and stay present and stay mindful of of washing a simple dish,

You know,

You might look at that as um,

You might look at it as you know,

You've got the dish the water hot water is running warm water is running and you feel the water on your hands and and you take the um,

The cleaner or the brush to clean clean the uh,

Check to clean and being present of uh,

What was a soiled plate Soaping plate now has become a crystal clear plate and it's had a transformation And i'm attaching my virtuous values here To even just cleaning a plate and the forks and knives and i'm feeling the soapy water and you know the warm water on my hands and i'm not thinking about I don't have the you know I don't have the you know,

When you when we're mindful teach mindful we take out the potentiality of cleaning this place would for some would be like a Serious,

I don't want to go there.

This is like boring and um,

That's just creating procrastination In in even the smallest and new tasks Yes,

So I think i'll wind it down.

I hope that everyone has um Uh an idea,

Um or some tools they can use to to um understanding of procrastination and um Once we can achieve that we can do much more in this life and oh she you know and actually enjoy the pleasantries of doing things and being active in in this life and uh,

Just uh,

Yes,

I'm wishing you More production and in the fun way of doing it In a more holistic holistic way.

So love what you do and love what is and uh,

Once again,

It's nick here from folk from um Holistic health and fitness coaching And just wishing you a pleasant night pleasant day wherever you are in this world Yeah,

We don't have to do anything alone.

It is better done you get more done in a group Or in a buddy system Or in a buddy system and um,

Also just before I go I do have one more to share If you hear this recording you might want to get into something on facebook,

Um I do have a private group called Focus,

Uh buddies which is designed to work together Um and achieve much more together and encourage anyone that's listening to this join up.

It's it's free It is self.

It's a self-coaching system to get things more done so we can knock out the procrastination So I encourage you to look up look it up.

Um Yes,

I searched out on facebook.

It's called focus buddies.

Okay,

And send me Send me something on the nick chance of um,

Send me a link if I can help you there or send me a message direct direct message to that and um And i'll help happily join you to our group and we can do things together and we can do much more things together Rather than do it alone.

So let's knock out Procrastination out of the out of the park and just slam those things and in a calm gentle way So blessings everyone and um,

Yep.

Hope you can Hope you enjoyed it and hope you can join me at my next podcast.

Bye for now So So So So

Reviews

Thanks Nick for some interesting insights and tips to move through procrastination. Very helpful 🙏

Very interesting! Thank you!