Exploring Abundance Part 3

In this series of podcasts, Arjun and Nasseema discuss the topic of abundance and unpack the various mindsets and skillsets which can raise our ability to welcome abundance in our lives. Arjun shares with us some 'gift' boxes and tools to practice in order to be even more receptive. Join us for another exciting and thought-provoking series.

Transcript

Hello,

Hello,

Hello,

Arjun!

Welcome again!

Here we are,

Wishing you guys an abundant day today.

So last time we talked about the topic of abundance and we had lots of goosebumps coming up as we opened the first gift box which was the question of what is abundance and you talked about the word dance which really resonated with me.

And within that topic we also explored three gifts within that box which was abundance is a belief system,

We also talked about how abundance is a direct correlation to our unique life purpose and finally we looked at what abundance means,

Plentiful,

Overflowing,

And all these amazing wonderful words which really resonated with us.

And the semantics and the spelling.

Absolutely.

Which is the word that casts the spell on you,

Choose that word,

Yeah?

Yes,

Absolutely.

So today I am excited to open my second gift box.

Fantastic!

Please!

Merry Christmas,

Happy birthday!

And a happy new year!

Fantastic.

Great,

Great.

So the second box,

Nasima,

Is a purple box with an orange ribbon.

And it has four gifts in it.

And the label on that box is,

What are the principles of abundance?

What are the principles of abundance?

Sometimes I even use the word tenets.

What are the tenets of abundance?

So it's the same thing.

So here we go,

We've got the purple box,

Orange ribbon,

What are the principles,

What are the tenets of abundance,

And there are four gifts in it.

So,

How do we go from here?

Once I've finished eating the grape in my mouth.

Munch,

Munch,

Munch.

So,

Let's have a look at the first tenet.

I thought it's like being caught with your hand in the cookie jar.

This is being caught with the grape in your mouth.

You know what,

When we're talking to each other and there's so much amazing food,

You can't blame me.

You will love podcasts with Nasima,

She just feeds you.

Alright,

So what are those four principles?

Let's get started with principle number one.

Now principle number one is the one that I'd like to spend most of my time on,

Because in this principle we're also going to supply you guys with three tools that you can use so that you can effectively apply this principle to attract abundance into your life.

Okay,

So here it is.

Principle number one says this.

Abundance requires you to indulge in both giving and receiving.

Abundance requires you to indulge in both giving and receiving.

Both are necessary.

Your indulgence in both is necessary to open that doorway to abundance.

And I'm going to talk a little bit about giving and I'm going to talk more about receiving.

In the experience that I've had as a coach,

I found that people have greater challenges with the latter than with the former.

Okay,

So fascinating.

The word indulge is intriguing to me right now.

Abundance requires you to indulge,

Which to me means fully surrendering to the act of giving and receiving.

Is that what you mean by indulge?

Yeah.

I view,

I perceive,

Sense indulgence as immersion.

Immersion.

Okay.

A whole body,

Whole spirit experience.

Whole body,

Whole spirit experience.

That's the indulgence.

That's the immersion.

Yeah.

It's like diving into the pool,

Submerging yourself in both.

Excellent.

Rather than being lopsided.

Yeah.

And doing things halfway.

Too much of one and not enough of the other.

And we're going to talk about why that happens also and tools to help you to recover and get into the indulgence of both.

Okay.

I can't wait to talk about this.

I have many amazing,

Beautiful,

Generous,

Giving,

Loving,

Adoring friends who give and give and give and struggle to receive.

Yeah.

Tell us more.

We'll give you tools to counter that as well.

Let's first talk about the giving.

So we said both are necessary,

Right?

And the way we can,

As a metaphor,

Understand,

Teach ourselves that both are necessary is this.

To receive is to breathe in and to give is to breathe out.

And therefore we realize biologically that there must be a balance in the breathing in and the breathing out.

You cannot do more of one and less of the other.

Otherwise you're going to be out of breath and you will die.

Therefore,

There must be the giving and the receiving and both must take place.

Both are equally valid and both can happen at different times.

Of course,

In the breathing exercise,

In the breathing analogy,

It's one followed by the other,

But in a nonlinear frame,

You could be doing both concurrently.

All right.

So now we know these ideas and we've probably mentioned these in earlier podcasts,

But just the idea that the secret to living is giving.

We know this and I know many folks who are tuning in are philanthropic,

Altruistic,

Compassionate in their own different ways.

We realize that it's a philosophy to adopt here is that it's less about me and more about we.

We've also said in the past that the measure of your life is more in its donation than in its duration.

We've also said these words.

We've said it's good to be a go-getter,

But it's even better to be a go-giver.

And if you're feeling stuck with regard to abundance,

Whenever you feel stuck,

One great idea,

Method,

Means to clear up,

To unblock,

To release the energies and to allow flow to come into your life is to ask a few simple questions.

Question number one,

How can I help?

How can I help?

Question number two,

How can I serve?

How can I serve?

So now you are seeking abundance.

What you're doing is you're introspecting on how you can add value to others.

How can I help?

How can I serve?

Number three,

What can I do that's good for others even when things are bad for me?

What can I do that's good for others even when things are bad for me?

And number four,

How can I help someone else to receive the very same thing that I am seeking to receive?

Wow.

There you go.

That's when the penny drops or the shoe drops or the hammer drops.

Take your pick of intensity.

How can I help someone else to receive the very same thing that I am seeking to receive?

Because we live in a mirror universe.

Yeah.

Right?

And the bigger piece here is that as you put out is what you get back.

And so now this,

You take the focus off you and on to another.

And what is suffering?

Suffering is me obsessing about me.

Yeah.

Right?

The moment I take that attention off of me and on to another.

And the thing is,

You don't have to come up with an instantaneous answer to this question.

I'm just encouraging you to contemplate the question.

Yeah.

And it could take a week,

A month,

A year.

God knows,

Even if it takes five years for you to arrive at means or logical answers to this question,

It doesn't matter.

You probably will do it a lot sooner than that.

Just let the question sit and you sit in the question.

Yeah.

And be with it and observe what comes through.

You know the word that comes through to me as I ponder over this question now is kindness.

There you go.

Kindness.

And this is why kindness is such a powerful currency.

Yeah.

Because when we ask ourself this question,

We realize that we can give to others what we wish to have for ourselves.

And by giving,

We also receive back.

That's it.

That's it.

Oh my goodness.

It's such a powerful question.

In a sense,

You're opening the doorway to receiving by giving and that's the breathing in and the breathing out.

And ease with the breathing in and the breathing out.

Sometimes,

You know,

If we have body pains,

Okay,

It doesn't hurt when I breathe in,

But it hurts when I breathe out,

That kind of stuff.

But no,

Let both be easy.

Let there be ease in both those areas.

You know,

Basil taught me many years ago,

He said,

Beware,

This is a leadership lesson,

By the way,

Beware the omission of the little acts of kindness.

Beware the omission of the little acts of kindness.

The Dalai Lama said,

Whenever possible,

Be kind.

And then he paused.

So he says,

Whenever possible,

Be kind.

And then he pauses and he says,

Leans forward and smiles.

And it's always possible.

Yes,

It always is.

Oh my goodness.

It always is,

Isn't it?

Yeah.

Wow.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And this is when you move from inertia to inspiration,

Right?

This is coming out of the stuck state.

And the word inspiration,

Root form,

Inspirado,

Latin,

In spirit,

Inspirado,

In spirit,

Inspiration,

From inertia to inspiration,

From noun to verb.

I just feel like sighing and sighing and sighing.

This is amazing.

Okay,

Beautiful.

So that's principle one.

Abundance requires you to indulge in both giving and receiving.

So we've done the giving piece.

And there's a lot more on this,

But I'd rather move into the receiving because to me,

That is far more relevant in terms of a need in today's world,

Particularly among,

I sense,

The folks who are listening in on this conversation.

So shall we move on to receiving?

Yeah,

That's the bigger piece,

Which is your indulgence in receiving,

Developing your ability to indulge more in receiving.

So when we fail to indulge equitably in receiving versus giving,

We block the abundance from flowing towards us,

Which means we're doing a lot more giving and not enough receiving.

And therefore there is that block in abundance.

And we're confused.

I'm doing so much.

And so let's just go through this.

Okay,

So Basil taught me that the reason why people don't get rich is because of their reluctance to receive.

And I'm going to segue into very specific tools here to help you intellectually,

Emotionally,

And spiritually to open up the doorways to receiving.

So get ready.

Buckle up and hunker down.

I am ready.

Go for it.

Eschew your reluctance to receive.

And eschew your reluctance to receive in any one form.

The word eschew is to give up.

All right.

Yeah.

And there's a book that I learned that from and I'm going to make reference to that book later on because it's part of our subject of abundance.

So give up your reluctance to receive in any one form,

Because there are five forms of abundance.

And we will be talking about the five forms of abundance at the conclusion of this conversation of abundance,

Which is a few podcasts in the future further down.

So watch this space.

Now by receiving,

Let's just get through some of these ideas in terms of receptivity and understand what receptivity is before we get into the tools.

By receiving,

Know this,

That you are giving the giver the joy of giving to you.

And therefore you are really giving.

That's what you're doing.

By receiving,

You are giving the giver the joy of giving to you because that individual human being wants to give you and there is joy and when you block that,

You are taking that joy away from him.

Ascended Lady Master Kuan Yin said this.

She said,

We are limited only by what we are ready to receive.

And I've shared this with at least two people when I coached them,

One gentleman who had major blocks to receiving.

And this is something that I kind of put together with a few sources.

And this is what it says.

It says,

If you're hurting,

If you're hurting,

Then perhaps your purpose is to receive help.

If you're hurting,

If you're in pain,

Then perhaps your purpose is to receive help.

And when you allow yourself to receive,

You actually help the person who is helping you because it is their purpose to give you help.

Lovely.

I love that.

I absolutely love that.

There you go.

There you go.

So receiving is actually an act of giving.

Giving.

Oh my goodness.

Yes,

Yes.

This stuff is intense.

I'm telling you,

The more I read it and just indulge in it,

The more mind spaces,

Heart spaces,

It just opens up.

Every cell in your being just comes alive when you tune in to the meaning behind these words,

The essence where it comes from.

And yeah,

There's so much wisdom out there that we can utilise.

So I'm going to play the devil's advocate here.

If somebody says,

No,

I'm a giver,

I'm not a taker,

I struggle to receive.

Could you,

You know,

Would this almost be an act of selfishness in a way?

That's one way to look at it.

My inquiry into someone saying that is,

Do you want to receive?

Because sometimes people are scared to receive.

They are scared to receive.

We'll talk about that.

And there's one emotion that is the block.

We'll talk about that emotion.

And then once we identify the devil,

The devil's advocate,

We're able to address it accordingly.

All right.

So there you go.

There you go.

Brilliant.

Yeah,

Yeah,

Yeah.

Okay,

So.

You know,

As a leader who's giving,

When you start receiving,

You set an example to others on how to receive.

Yes.

And therefore,

That expands your influence in giving.

Yes.

Absolutely.

That's leadership.

Yeah.

Lead by example.

Oh,

See how easily I receive?

That's how easily you can receive too.

Yeah.

Here,

I'm giving to you.

So in a sense,

By allowing yourself to receive,

You are motivating your receivers to receive with more ease.

Yes.

Enabling you to give more.

Love it.

I knew today was going to be a wild day.

Shall we,

For the sake of time,

Move to principle two?

Okay.

How do we want to do it?

Because I've got specific tools here with regard to principle one.

Okay.

And there are three tools that correlate to this particular principle.

Let's do this then.

Let's cover these principles.

Let's cover these tools.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Let's do that.

And then in the next podcast,

You can get into further.

The other principles are not as detailed as this.

It's usually the first one because that's the foundation that we're building.

Think of a triangle.

The base is the broadest.

And then as we approach the pinnacle,

It's easier and easier to build upon that.

Makes perfect sense.

So tool number one,

Tool number one is a self-assessment to,

And here is the operative word,

Measure,

Measure your propensity to receive.

Ooh.

Oh my goodness.

Tell me more.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So now you will have a tool to measure,

I repeat the word,

Measure your propensity to receive,

Measure your proclivity to receive,

Measure your willingness to receive.

We're going to actually be able to now look at this as a measure.

Okay.

Here we go.

Question number one.

Question number one.

How do you,

How do you usually respond to praise and compliments?

And there's more.

There's more.

Okay.

So hang on.

We're still on question number one.

This is the first tool in the first principle in the second box.

And did I mention the second box was a purple box with an orange ribbon?

Yes.

Yes.

Very good.

And did I mention there are four gifts in there?

And these four gifts are four principles.

So we're in the first principle.

We've covered the giving and the receiving,

Spoken about that.

We're into the first tool.

The first tool has three questions to measure your propensity to receive.

So you can't hit a target that you can't see.

Yes.

So if one says that here,

I want to become more receiving,

Let's first figure out where you are on the scale of receiving first.

And then after that,

Set a target for where you want to be on that receptivity scale index,

Whatever you want to call it,

And then move forward from there.

So this is very scientific.

It's a process.

How do you usually respond to praise and compliments?

Extension to this question,

Because it's more than this.

What is the exact feeling that you feel?

Please write it down.

That's the coaching exercise.

Okay.

How do you usually respond to praise and compliments?

Please be honest.

This is your conversation with you.

What is the exact feeling that you feel?

Please write it down.

The highest form of truth is truth to yourself.

Don't say this to impress me.

Say this to impact yourself.

Okay.

I have my own answer to this and I'm embarrassed to say it.

Great.

Great.

Great.

Great.

Great.

Great.

Excellent.

Yeah.

Move forward or any query on the first question?

No,

I'm still mulling over this question.

I can't get it out of my head now.

You should see Nasima's expression now.

She's like a deer caught in the headlights.

What?

Exactly.

Exactly.

All right.

Okay.

You know a dancer who's forgotten her steps?

Yeah.

Holy cow.

What's next?

Okay.

Let's give me some time to digest this.

And our listeners some time to process this.

How do you usually respond to praise and compliments?

What is the exact feeling that you feel?

Write it down,

Please.

Excellent.

Okay.

Question two.

How do you usually respond when someone gives you a gift?

What is the exact feeling that you feel?

Write it down,

Please.

How do you usually respond when someone gives you a gift?

So,

In a sense,

The praise and compliment is an intangible,

But the gift that I'm alluding to here is a tangible.

Yeah.

Whatever that tangible form might be.

Value.

Okay.

How do you usually respond when someone gives you a gift?

What is the exact feeling that you feel?

Write it down,

Please.

Are we ready for question number three?

Yes.

Okay.

Question number three.

How would you respond to an unusually large sum of money that suddenly and surprisingly comes to you?

How would you respond or how would you usually respond to an unusually large sum of money that suddenly and surprisingly comes to you?

What is the exact feeling that you feel?

Write it down,

Please.

These are the three questions.

The praise and compliments,

The gift,

The unusually large sum of money that suddenly and surprisingly comes to you.

What is that exact feeling that you feel?

Write it down,

Please.

And the overarching question or curiosity as a coach that I have at the end of this is,

What are your habitual feelings in each of these circumstances?

What are your habitual feelings in each of these circumstances?

So you've been asking me questions.

I've got to ask you a question,

Naseema,

And you probably know the answer to this.

And I'm asking the viewers,

Listeners,

This question.

Do you know what most people who don't attract abundance write as responses to these three questions?

Primarily the part that says,

What is the feeling that you feel when offered praise,

Given a gift,

Or endowed with a large sum of money?

Do you know what that feeling is that most people feel?

I'm talking about the folks who are struggling with receiving abundance.

What might that feeling be?

So if I had to take a guess,

I would say embarrassment.

Yes.

I would say a sense of I'm not worthy of it.

Yes.

Therefore,

I'm embarrassed.

Fantastic.

And almost a sense of let me go and make myself small because this is too much to receive.

Yeah.

You know,

In a quiz competition,

If your answer is close enough,

The quiz master says,

I'll give you that.

Thank you very much,

Arjun.

I'll give you that.

I'll beat.

The answer is guilt.

Guilt.

Yes,

Absolutely.

Oh,

My goodness.

Yes.

It's the G word.

It's the guilt.

And what is guilt?

It is shame,

It is embarrassment,

And it is a feeling of undeservedness.

And that's the common theme that emerges from these three.

It really,

Really is.

What are your habitual feelings in each of these circumstances?

And what a revelation that is saying,

Wow,

That's interesting.

And now we cognize,

We recognize the block,

The hurdle,

The barrier between us and receptivity and the extent to which we are in a state of proclivity to receive or readiness to receive or unreadiness to receive.

And this is measuring your propensity to receive.

And if there's a lot of guilt,

Guilt,

Guilt coming up,

No surprise,

No surprise that the abundance is not being flown to you,

Flowing to you because it's there.

You're just not receiving it.

And am I right to say that sometimes people would mask this as modesty?

Oh,

Yeah.

That's the intellect.

That's the intelligence.

That is the smarty pants who comes forward and says,

Yes,

But you know,

I want to be humble.

Yes.

Well,

Who said that you are being unhumble by receiving?

Which means every person you're giving to is being unhumble.

How dare you insult those people who you are giving to?

Good Lord.

Yes,

Good Lord.

You want them to receive when you give,

Don't you?

Yes.

Are you saying that they're being immodest?

Hang on a second.

Breathe in,

Breathe out,

Breathe in,

Breathe out.

Life,

Life,

Life.

If our listeners could see me right now,

They would know why Arjun is laughing.

Now it's like a herd of deer caught in several headlights.

Okay.

I am going to go and think about this long and hard,

My dear.

Tool number one.

And we've got two more tools because now that we've arrived,

Let's say we've spent some time.

And we're accelerating this because this is a podcast.

But,

You know,

My humble request to our listeners is to take each of these pieces and allow time to apply these ideas.

So that first toolkit that I shared with you,

Three questions,

Is in order for you to reveal to yourself what is that feeling.

And I'm not labeling you saying that you will have the guilt,

But I'm pretty much willing to bet money on that there are high chances that you probably have the guilt,

Which is where the abundance is being blocked.

And this is the greatest area of work I have found with people.

Someone I'm working very closely with,

Her resistance to receive primarily comes from that shame,

Embarrassment,

Undeservedness that she hasn't provided value.

So it isn't a fair exchange.

It's not fair.

Well,

It's actually guilt.

That's actually guilt.

You might be,

You know,

The thing with the universe is,

Basil taught me,

Deposit in the south and collect in the north.

You may help people in one segment of society and receive from another segment in society.

The universe does not differentiate because there is oneness.

It is the entire,

Humanity is like the one beingness.

So you might give to some people who may never give back to you and you may receive from some people who you may never be able to balance off with.

But the accounts do balance.

It just does.

Absolutely.

I believe that it does.

With some people,

Their purpose is to give you where your purpose is to receive.

And with some people,

Your purpose is to give them and their purpose is just to receive.

And as long as you are open,

Equally open to both these channels,

You now create that space of equanimity,

Which is the ultimate sweet spot for manifestation,

For your dreams and desires.

Brilliant.

That's where we're going with this.

And then tool number two.

Okay.

Now that we've done the measure of your propensity to receive,

Tool number two is one powerful question to accelerate receiving.

One powerful question to accelerate receiving.

So we've got to do the first tool and then we do the second tool.

Here's the question.

Whose generosity am I rejecting?

There you go.

Let that sink in.

Let that sink in.

So we're doing this after tool number one and this is just one bang.

All right.

Whose generosity am I resisting?

Rejecting.

Rejecting.

Rejecting.

Yes.

It's rejecting.

Hmm.

Rejecting is a strong word as well.

It's stronger than resisting.

Yes.

Yes.

And let's put it out there.

Because,

You know,

We like to play with words.

Well,

I'm just resisting.

Well,

Actually,

You're rejecting it because you're not allowing the person.

Your resistance is blocking that receptivity,

That gift from coming to you.

And so you're actually rejecting it.

Whose generosity am I rejecting?

Hmm.

Think about that.

And it's not even the answer to this question is not even the name of the person.

It's a realization that you are rejecting.

Yes.

That's what it is.

Yes.

You know what?

After this podcast,

I am going to accept and receive.

Big time.

There you go.

Okay.

And tool number three.

Hmm.

This is a tool to build your receptivity muscles.

Hmm.

All right.

So what we did with tool number one is we measured our propensity to receive.

With tool number two,

We accelerated receiving.

And with tool number three,

Now we're building our receptivity muscles.

This is the receptivity gym that we go to.

And we can keep coming back to this gym every now so often to tone the receptivity body and to make it stronger and stronger and more supple and more flexible and more versatile.

Three questions again.

Hmm.

Question number one.

What are the reasons that I deserve to receive money?

And I'm using money here.

Later on,

I will talk about the other forms of abundance.

But in a sense,

The reason I'm using money here is because that tends to evoke the strongest feelings when it comes to the subject of abundance.

Really?

I thought it was love.

It's a sensitive thing.

So the thing about love is we're enjoying love,

But we have so many dark feelings in our misaligned relationship with money and belief systems around that and the darkness around money and what we think about rich people and how they are that there is that high degree of intensity that comes through,

Etc.

I'll also talk to you.

Maybe later on,

We can also talk a little bit about how we even resist the love of others.

Because a form of abundance is also someone just giving you a hug.

A form of abundance is also someone just saying,

Thank you.

Yes.

And I've heard so many people saying,

No,

You don't have to thank me for that.

Hang on a second.

They just thanked you,

Receive it.

Yeah.

So many light bulbs are going on.

What are the reasons that I am.

.

.

That I deserve.

.

.

That I deserve.

.

.

To receive money?

Yeah.

Okay,

Questions.

Question one.

Question two,

What more reasons are there that I deserve to receive money?

So this is like the what else version.

Okay,

For question number one.

So question one,

What are the reasons that I deserve to receive money?

Question two,

What more reasons are there that I deserve to receive money?

Question three,

What new reasons are there today that I deserve to receive money?

Let's not shy away from the conversation around money.

Let's bring it out on the table,

Have that conversation.

Let there be no shame to the earning,

To the receiving of money.

And we'll talk as we go forward,

We'll talk about principles and ideas and so on and so forth.

With this tool,

I would encourage you to visit it once a month,

Once in three months or twice a year.

See how it goes.

Whenever you feel that your resistance is kind,

Your resistance is increasing,

Your rejection is increasing.

You could use any of these three tools at any time.

But this is a great tool to come back to every now so often to remind yourself that you are in fact deserving to receive money.

When in a courtroom a lawyer wants to present a strong case to the judge,

He needs to present multiple pieces of empirical evidence.

That strengthens the case in front of the judge or the jury,

Who then are inclined to rule in his favour.

As compared to the opposing lawyer who is not able to provide enough quantity and quality in terms of evidence.

And what these questions do,

They bring evidence out.

Number one,

What are the reasons?

Reason number one,

Reason number two,

Reason number three.

What are more reasons?

And then there's some more.

And what new reasons are there today?

The reason we ask that is something has happened just in the last week,

Month,

Year,

Quarter,

Year.

And there's some new reasons that come forth that I deserve to receive money.

Sometimes you might repeat this exercise in three months and find yourself writing similar or same points and that's okay.

Because now you're just affirming,

Reminding yourself of that.

And when you write it down,

Hand write it,

Psychoneuromotor activity,

You see what you write,

You hear what you're writing in your mind.

You feel what you write because it's a pen and a piece of paper,

Pencil.

And so that's visual,

Auditory,

Kinesthetic,

Engaging three out of five senses,

And away we go.

And this is now what it is.

I've seen a lot of people use,

Well,

I've seen a few people use this third tool without using tool number two and tool number one.

And that's why I like to bring in one and two,

As I mentioned earlier,

As a foundation,

Fundamental to this third one.

Because it stands upon the foundation of those two.

So that concludes principle number one in box number two,

The first gift.

And a lot of goosebumps afterwards.

Amazing,

Amazing,

Amazing.

Lots of food for thought.

Thank you,

As usual,

Arjun,

For your insightful conversation and content shared with us today.

Thank you so much.

Thank you.

God bless you.

See you guys again.

Bye,

Everyone.

Bye.