Channeled Wisdom Recap Jan 14: Boundaries And Communication

This is a quick recap of the live from Jan 14, 2024. However, I believe in divine timing. If you are called towards this recording then the messages in it are for you. This one talked about boundary setting with clear and concise communication, the concept of helping vs enabling, and allowing ourselves to rise.

Transcript

Hello everyone,

Nancy here from Nancy Inspired and I'm here with a quick recap from my live on January the 14th.

So when I do lives,

I do a collective reading for the group and then I do some individual readings and I've had lots of requests if there was any chance that I could do recaps.

So here is the recap,

Just a summary of what was channeled through on the live January 14th.

But if you're listening to this at any time,

I really believe in divine timing.

If you were called for some reason,

You just,

This recording stood out and you decided to listen to it,

It's probably because the messages in it are for you.

I know this one in particular hit home for me.

I felt a little bit like I was maybe hijacking the reading because it's all stuff that I need to focus on.

So,

Um,

I definitely will be re-listening to it.

Um,

Myself.

So the first bit of messaging that came through was be clear and concise with your words.

So there's lots of situations that are tricky to communicate for us.

So sometimes we find ourselves just giving in rather than communicating.

It seems trickier to communicate the boundaries sometimes than to just give in and do it.

I know I can very much relate to this.

The advice this week was to be as clear and concise and minimalistic with your words.

When you're in conflict with someone,

Say what needs to be said in order to get the point across,

But be careful about any,

Maybe passive aggressive tendencies or blaming,

Be careful about trying to make justifications or explanations.

You don't owe anybody anything when you're trying to set a boundary.

Um,

If you're not wanting to do something,

It's your right to be able to set that boundary.

As soon as you start justifying or giving up explanations,

It offers the opportunity for a little bit of clarity.

So if you're in conflict with someone,

Say what needs to be said in the loop holes or ways for them to convince you.

Otherwise,

If you're genuinely trying to set a boundary,

You don't need a justification.

The other bit of messaging that came on this is don't engage.

If you have already said,

No,

Don't continue to engage.

The more you engage,

The more the other person can wear you down.

And the more likely you are to give in.

I also heard that some people were dealing with,

Communicating with people that may have narcissistic personality disorder or have narcissistic tendencies.

And I was given the communication to differentiate between narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic tendencies.

I'm not a psychologist,

But I have done a fair amount of reading as I've dealt with some of that myself before.

Um,

And I was told in the messaging to differentiate.

So a person with narcissistic personality disorder,

They never feel like they've done anything wrong.

They genuinely feel superior to everyone.

Like I said,

I'm not a psychologist,

But I was hearing that the differentiation of that was important for some of the listeners.

So,

Um,

Some people are,

You know,

Reacting with narcissistic tendencies from places of pain and whatnot.

Um,

But there is a difference between someone who genuinely can feel the remorse and recognize that they're not a psychologist.

And I was told that some people recognize they're doing something wrong,

Um,

Versus someone who doesn't.

And so there was just some of that,

You know,

Encouragement to sort of pay attention to that because narcissistic traits,

If they genuinely are able to feel remorseful,

Um,

You can work with that.

You can set your boundaries and they can respond to the boundaries when you're dealing with actual narcissistic personality disorder.

It's a lot more difficult,

Um,

To,

To deal with that.

So that was just something that came up as something to consider when you're trying to,

You know,

Set boundaries with,

Uh,

Difficult people.

Um,

But if you are having to set boundaries with people that maybe have some of these traits,

Again,

The messaging was being clear and concise without justifications or defending.

As soon as you justify and defend that gives a little wiggle room to eventually wear you down,

Say what you need to say.

And that's it.

Extras.

Um,

Some of you that are trying to set clear boundaries,

You don't need to justify anything.

Just stand strong.

One of my listeners put in the chat that if you,

If you give them the room about what did they say here?

If you give them the room,

They will negotiate you into doing it.

And you won't even know what all happened.

I'm pretty sure that I myself have come to this planet to learn boundaries.

Cause that definitely hit home for me.

Um,

I just want to say thank you so much for watching this video.

I hope you enjoyed it.

I shared that when sometimes I try to set boundaries with a particular person,

Uh,

They start to let me know how terrible their life is and,

And it's this and it's that,

And it's awful,

Awful,

Awful.

And then I started to feel selfish,

Like,

Like I should be helping,

Which kind of led to the next bit of messaging.

So the next download was the difference between helping and enabling.

So I ended up telling a story about a relationship I was in where the person,

You know,

There was a lot of love.

He was a really great person.

He was a really great person,

But really struggled with his mental health and just had never gone for any kind of support or help or diagnoses or anything like that.

And it just got to the point that,

Um,

I had to make a choice.

I had to make a choice that it was kind of him or me.

And in that choice,

Um,

I realized that I was helping him.

Well,

I thought I was helping him,

But I was actually enabling him.

And when it came down to it,

I had to sort of remove myself from the possible outcome.

And I heard that this was an important bit of messaging that was coming through as well.

The reason why I was telling that story is because you need to remove yourself from the reactions and responses of the other person.

It is not,

Um,

You don't owe them anything.

You,

It's not your fault if they,

Uh,

React badly or,

Um,

Do something,

You know,

To hurt themselves or whatever,

Because of you setting a boundary,

That's,

Uh,

Not fair to you.

And so I heard that that was some important messaging for the people listening was that you have to make sure that you remove yourself from their reactions and their struggles.

Well,

What happened is when I did finally separate myself from this person,

They went and got help.

They went to see a psychologist,

They received a diagnosis,

I believe,

Um,

They began taking some medication or they were at least going for therapy and they began really working on themselves,

But they had to hit rock bottom first.

They had to hit that place of,

You know,

Low.

And so the messaging was that sometimes when we think that we're helping,

I was just delaying him recognizing and getting help for himself.

And then the other story that I was told to relay is the story of the butterfly.

This is one of my very favorite stories.

And that is,

There is a man who is watching a butterfly trying to come out of his chrysalis and it's struggling and struggling and he's watching it.

And finally he decides to help it.

So he takes a tiny pair of scissors and clips back the,

The casing of the chrysalis.

And sure enough,

The butterfly emerges out of the chrysalis quickly.

Well,

The wings were crippled and it wasn't able to fly.

And the reason why is because it was through the struggle of getting out of the chrysalis.

So sometimes when we think we're helping,

We're actually enabling the person to stay down,

To stay in a lowered place,

Um,

To not help themselves.

So,

Um,

And yes,

Part of the secondary message is that what the person chooses to do when you set your boundaries,

Um,

Is not your responsibility.

So sometimes when we think we're helping,

We're actually enabling the person responsibility and that you have to remove yourself from feeling like you own that.

The next bit of messaging was about learned helplessness.

So,

Um,

There were a number of us that were feeling tired,

Overworked,

Overburdened,

Overwhelmed,

And a lot of us feeling that we have created cycles of learned helplessness around us.

So people around us have learned that it's easier to get us to do stuff.

And to do it themselves.

And a few people really related to this in the chat.

Um,

But we've kind of got to the point that it's easier sometimes to just do it ourselves than to put in the effort to get someone else to do it.

Um,

So the messaging was be aware of the learned helplessness around you.

The people around you are a lot more capable than you're giving them credit for allow them to rise rather than keeping them in that cycle of expecting you to do it.

It might take a little bit of work initially,

But eventually it will help lessen your load.

So,

And then the next bit of messaging is that you can't change everything for everyone.

You can't help everyone.

So this was a tricky one because I was thinking about,

You know,

At the time,

Uh,

When I recorded,

When we did the live,

It was minus 44 where I lived and it was really cold.

And I was thinking about,

Our homeless population,

Our houseless population,

And,

You know,

Wishing that I could somehow,

You know,

Change the world.

And I was reflecting on how sometimes I feel a little bit bogged down by that.

And the messaging that came is that you can't,

Um,

You can't help everyone.

You can't change everybody's situation.

That's not your job.

And that by looking after yourself,

It then gives you the capacity to help others.

So,

Um,

And then the next bit of messaging was be aware of the this really resonated for me.

And,

You know,

Sometimes I get bogged down about some of the world problems and like climate problems and stuff like that.

So the messaging was that it's important for us to understand the problems that are happening and it's important,

But it's also important for us to focus on the blessings that we have so that we can continue to work from a place of our blessings for our blessings.

So,

Um,

Not with a sense of shame or guilt,

But with a sense of guilt or I shouldn't have this because others don't.

Um,

But it was to be grateful and celebrate what you have and work towards bettering yourself.

So this messaging was a little bit hard,

But what I was hearing was that we all come here in this lifetime to learn something.

Our souls have kind of created a bit of a contract,

If you will,

In order to try and learn something.

And so,

We are given the exact scenario,

Um,

That allows us to learn.

And now the trick is because of free will,

We can choose whether we want to learn it or not.

And sometimes we forget why we've come here.

I mean,

If you really reflect,

You'll notice some patterns in your life and go,

Okay,

This is a pattern that I'm doing.

I need to overcome this.

How can I overcome this?

And sometimes we get so bogged down with the lesson that we aren't able to rise and learn.

And I personally,

Believe we're then given another chance in the next time,

But our soul created this contract to learn what we need.

And sometimes,

Um,

We just choose not to learn.

Now I'm,

I'm not at all saying that houseless people or people that are struggling have chosen to be there,

Um,

On,

On this lifetime or this plane,

Nobody chooses that.

Um,

But on a soul level,

There is something,

More,

There's a deeper level learning going on.

I know when I read the book,

The power of now by Eckhart Tolle,

Um,

He was,

He had spent some time being homeless and he was in that place where he said,

I can't live with myself.

And all of a sudden realized who is the myself that can't live with myself in that statement.

And that sort of launched his whole philosophy and thinking now he's a multimillionaire.

So he went from,

You know,

Homelessness and,

You know,

Destitution and whatnot to,

To rising above.

And because he learned the lesson now,

I'm,

I don't know that much about Eckhart Tolle,

But,

Um,

That's an example of what,

What the messaging was that was coming through.

Sometimes the most terrible things that happen to us are exactly what our souls are here to learn from.

And that's really hard.

So what I'm hearing is of course,

Help when you can,

Um,

And do what you can.

Look after our fellow people.

And that is regularly a message in the lives.

However,

Um,

It's also important to not let it get you to a place where you're so bogged down with,

Um,

You know,

Worry and,

And,

You know,

Feeling selfish that,

That you can't function or celebrate your blessings.

And instead the messaging was let it inspire you,

Let it inspire you to make the changes you need to make.

To build the relationships you need to build,

Use it as inspiration to make the changes you need to make,

To,

To make your life,

What you want it to be,

Be inspired,

To be grateful for what you have be inspired,

To make your life all that it can be.

So one of the participants wrote in the chat at that point,

Don't help to fill your cup,

But fill your cup and then help.

And I thought that was actually a pretty cool thing to say.

And another person said,

Do what you can to help.

And then,

And also do what you need to do to inspire your own life so that you can be an inspiration to others.

And I thought that was really fantastic as well.

Then moving on to the next bit of messaging had to do with struggles around manifestation.

A lot of us are struggling,

Um,

Because we feel selfish.

We feel like somehow if we manifest wealth and whatnot,

That that makes us selfish.

So this goes back to kind of setting boundaries.

Um,

You know,

When we,

When we struggle,

Does that boundaries are manifest because we feel selfish.

You're not selfish for looking after yourself and you're not selfish for manifesting.

You're not selfish for setting boundaries.

Um,

If you are no longer enabling others,

Then you're actually giving them the chance to rise by setting those boundaries.

I also heard a message,

Um,

That I heard the other day while I was meditating.

And that is that there's kind of a faction of energetic wisdom holders that are trying to help humans evolve to some degree.

And they are,

Um,

Helping us to recognize that if we resonate at a higher vibration and we become,

You know,

The wealthy decision makers and whatnot,

Then,

Then that can create change.

And so this faction of energetic wisdom holders actually want us to rise and become wealthy and,

And whatnot.

So,

And Mercedes,

Who is on the live with me,

She is my web designer,

Um,

Reminded me,

Uh,

That Brené Brown also said that the most benevolent and altruistic people are the ones who are also have a strong boundaries.

So the last little bit of messaging that came was that sometimes as you start to rise,

Others around you may feel left behind or frustrated because your rise becomes a bit of a reflection of what they're not doing or what they need to do.

And the messaging was,

Don't let that hold you back from rising,

Allow them to be inspired by you.

Um,

Sometimes our sense of responsibility for others will then kind of hold us back because again,

We start to feel selfish.

Like we need to bring them along with us or something,

But that is,

That is their choice.

They can choose to rise with you or not.

Either way,

If you allow yourself,

To rise,

You are in a better position,

Uh,

To both help yourself and others.

So that was the recap for the January 14th live.

If you have chosen to listen to this,

The messaging is probably for you.

I would love to hear if you wanted to leave a comment,

I'd love to hear if this resonates with you or,

Uh,

You're welcome to message me on insight timer.

I would love to hear,

Uh,

How this messaging resonates with you.

I know it's certainly resonated with me.

I hope you have an absolutely fantastic week and maybe we'll see you on my next life.

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Was to this recap.. I picked up something additional to the live ..so glad I listened. Always a pleasure to listen to Nancy. Inspiring information that allows the feelings of strength and togetherness ..as well as many empowering messaging. Always something to tuck into my tool box.

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This recap was awesome. Thank you for making these.