MS 30 - Enemies

Mohanji speaks about enemies and shares a story from his personal life. Enmity happens in life, it is part of existence. The best medicine to cure it is to remain as love, kindness, and compassion. ''What we should do with our enmities?'' This is today's 'food for thought'.

Transcript

Welcome to Mohanji Speaks,

My friends.

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Today we talk about enemies.

We all have our set of enemies in our life.

People who dislike us,

People who hate us or people who judge us.

This is part of existence.

Just like we have friendships,

We have enemies as well.

Are they good or bad?

They are as they are.

Everything has its value in life.

Life is a variety.

Life has all these things.

But have you observed what we should do with our enemies?

First and foremost,

We have every right to be peaceful,

Contented,

Satisfied with what we have.

Every right.

And this right is our birthright and we must cherish it.

Because we are unique beings on earth,

We have our ability to experience life as we are.

We do.

And we must experience life.

Using those capacities and abilities.

In that context,

If somebody does not like what you do,

For sure if there is meaning in their dislike,

You must change your ways.

You must practice it.

But if there is no meaning in their enmity and the reason is jealousy,

You have nothing to do with it.

We need not be jealous of anybody nor we entertain somebody's jealousy.

Because these are two unwanted things or unimportant things.

They are not important in life.

So it's important to understand that enmities are our choice.

We don't need enemies.

We accept people.

When we accept there is no enmity.

Lack of acceptance causes enmity.

So it's our choice to have enemies or not.

We always have the choice to have friendships as well and use that.

That's a beautiful feeling to have nice friendships.

I'll tell you about one example in my case,

Which I recently sorted out.

I have one of my very old friends,

Schoolmates,

And we used to have a good relationship for a long time.

In 2014,

A group of people turned against me,

Scandalized me,

Talked very bad things about me and tried to pull down the whole infrastructure which I painfully built.

And I was told that this man,

My classmate,

Ex-classmate and close friend,

He was also part of them.

Means people have seen him moving with those people who were against me.

I was annoyed and I was,

Well,

I was pretty much disturbed by it.

Why this man is doing this?

If he has a question,

He can ask me.

But what happens is in such cases where people are oriented in tarnishing your name etc.

They don't talk to you.

They just go out and do it.

I was pretty disturbed by this man's action.

So I detached from him.

I didn't say anything to him.

We didn't have communication.

And then later on one day when I spoke to his brother,

I told about this.

And he in turn told him about what I said.

He became annoyed.

He said,

Why you couldn't speak to me?

Why did you speak to my brother?

I said,

Once I told about this,

It's over.

It's out of my system.

I don't keep anything in my mind.

But then last week I thought,

Oh,

This one thing is pending.

And why should we keep anything pending?

This relationship has become sour.

We don't need sour relationships in our life.

As much as possible,

We can sort them out.

You can have a peaceful existence.

Why do we need enemies?

So I sent a message to him.

I love you.

And later he replied back with a picture of a book I had gifted him a long time ago,

Which I autographed.

He sent me the picture of that autograph.

I'm wishing him something good,

Et cetera.

So that he told me.

And he said,

You know what?

I read this book every day.

And I remember you.

I said,

I'm very happy.

When he sent this picture,

I sent my phone number to him.

I said,

Please call me.

He didn't call me,

But he sent me his phone number.

Immediately I called him.

And then he said this.

I read this book every day.

And I remember you.

And then he said also about one incident.

You know,

I never knew that you have a deep connection or we have deep connection,

So deep that it can influence my life.

When we were having the connection,

I didn't realize it.

I didn't really realize it's so important.

But I didn't party with anybody who was against you.

I even told them,

I know Mohan since many years.

And he's not what you think he is or as you perceive.

But that was not the impression which I had because he was with those people.

Apparently he says that he was with them because he was trying to solve the issue.

Anyway,

That's besides the point.

But he told me one thing.

The day he fought with me,

Coincidentally,

He lost a big contract,

A very big contract,

Which was very important for him for the future.

It just went away.

And he did not know what to do about it.

And he tried his best to win the contract back.

It's a job.

It's a contract job.

It's a huge money involved.

But he just lost it.

They just canceled it.

So he couldn't win it back.

It's almost a year and a half since we had an argument in the first place.

And the day I sent him I love you,

Those people,

Same people called him and said,

They're not happy with this company they're working with.

And they want to give you the contract back to him.

So he said,

I think there was an energetic support in our relationship.

And he got the contract back after a year and a half.

So he said,

See,

You have been an integral part in my life and I'm part of your life.

Because many times when I lost my job and I had no way to enter into another job because I had to leave the country,

Etc.

He has helped me in 1990s and 2000s,

Etc.

So there has been a connection with us.

And when he lost a job,

Or he couldn't enter a country,

I brought him back to a different country so he could continue with his business.

So we had a give and take in there.

There was a mutual relationship and there was a mutual energy exchange.

So this was lost when we disconnected.

And he said,

A sign of that is that the day I wrote him I love you,

He got the contract back.

And then the rest is history.

Then I spoke to him and then we decided that it's not worth it to have enmity and stuff like that.

So that's done.

But the point is that we can pick up if possible,

The enemies that have happened in our life.

But on the other side,

If somebody decides you as an enemy,

Or somebody decides you are an enemy,

Then there's nothing much you can do because actually it's there in their mind.

But you can still counter it with love,

Whether they accept or not,

You can choose to love.

So enmities are a crippling situation or it's a very uneasy situation which we can avoid in life.

We can choose to love,

We can choose to have contentment,

Satisfaction,

And we can be balanced in our life.

And enmities if it happens,

Try to solve it or ignore it or just try to counter it with love.

This is the thought I would like to give today and we can discuss further about it.

I strongly,

Strongly believe that life should be embalmed with love every moment.

We give what we can,

We share what we have,

We love.

And that should be a good medicine in all situations.

And we can really,

Really,

Really be happy with love.

Enmity happens,

Enemies happen with or without your knowledge and control.

We remain as love,

We remain as kindness,

We remain as compassion.

We exercise only those high qualities of life and then you will have a better life.

Be selflessness and be kindness always.

This is Mohanji for you.

Lots of love.

Have a great day and a great week ahead.