Hello friends,
This is Mohanji.
Today I would like to answer a question from a young man.
He asked me this question,
That how do you make other people successful when you have lots of things to do?
Well,
Beautiful question.
I liked it.
Why?
Because making other people successful,
That's a very big thought.
To be honest with you,
I never thought in those ways.
I did not think I'm making other people successful.
I made this platform called Mohanji and so many people are finding fulfilment with this.
I would like to attribute it to the tradition.
I always attribute everything to the tradition.
I do not take any ownership.
Having said that,
Where do we start,
It's a big question,
Right?
We have to start from somewhere.
We have to help ourselves.
We have to be stable to hold hands of another person who's probably looking for help or maybe he may have not explored himself in any ways.
We can guide a person to himself or we can give guidance to those who need guidance.
So all are possible.
Anyway,
Everything is fine.
So I was looking at myself,
How did I help myself?
So I went back to my own life,
My childhood,
My youth,
My working time,
Working in a company.
All these times,
What was I doing?
I was helping myself.
I was basically helping myself and in the bargain,
I might have helped others.
But what are we doing actually in life?
This question we should ask always,
It's a very important question.
I was looking at this whole perspective in a very,
Very logical way or logically,
Not a spiritual,
Not in any other way,
But just logically.
The building up stage,
I have received a lot of assistance,
We all have from our parents,
From the teachers,
From everybody.
So many factors have built us up.
This being which we call us today have a lot of background.
There has been a lot of support from many people,
Starting from your mother first of all,
Because a mother has always nine months more relationship with you than anybody,
Than the society,
Because you stayed in her stomach for nine months before you came out into the society.
So mother has a deeper connection.
So starting from mother,
Step by step,
Stage by stage,
We have received a lot of help from the people,
From the society,
From environment,
From nature.
And all of our aspirations,
All of our feelings,
All of our emotions have something to do with something.
It's not just stand alone.
So if you look at this large canvas of who helped us,
We will have to say so many things,
Uncountable,
You don't even know how to count.
It's been so many.
And it will give you a lot of wonder,
My God,
All these years we have walked on earth,
But we never acknowledged anybody,
Any being,
We took almost everything for granted.
We never appreciated deeply.
We never appreciated deeply.
Are we right?
Probably we have appreciated partially,
You know,
Selectively,
That's all fine.
But have we really,
Really understood and appreciated?
That makes a difference here.
So we complain,
Oh,
This is not right,
That's not right,
People are not okay,
They are not giving me enough,
Etc.
But have we started appreciating everything that has happened to us?
Everything has contributed.
What you are today is a sum total of all these contributions and experiences,
Good experiences,
Bad experiences,
Everything together.
We have understood life,
We have understood people in whichever capacity because of all these experiences.
Isn't this wonderful?
It's really wonderful.
So then you reach a level of maturity where you start giving what you have to others,
Your experience,
Your time,
Your love,
Your money,
Your what you have in abundance,
Whatever you have in abundance,
You would like to share because you realize that this makes you more happy.
This is happiness.
This makes you more happy.
This makes you more purposeful.
This is life.
At that point in time,
We don't look back,
We go ahead,
Okay,
This is what it is.
Likewise,
We are born in a family,
But do we have a family?
Do we really have a family?
This question should be asked because why did we not have a family?
Because we never accepted ourself in the first place.
So we have to help ourselves and only when we help ourselves,
We can help the world.
Only when we accept ourselves,
We can accept others.
So it is all about us,
How we handle ourselves.
If we handle ourselves with anger,
Disappointment,
Insecurity,
So many factors which pulls us down,
Then we will handle the world the same way.
The world is just a reflection.
It's like a mirror.
So what you see outside will be this.
When we blame somebody else,
Understand we are actually blaming ourselves.
Because we can't blame ourselves and get away with it,
We blame other people.
And in that bargain,
You saw a spoiler relationship.
We compare.
Why do we compare?
Those who compare are heavily insecure.
Those who are really secure,
Very happy,
Very contented with oneself will never compare.
There is nothing to compare.
You appreciate another person,
Not compare.
So when we compete,
It's the same thing.
We have some deficiency.
We feel that we are not up there.
So we try to compete with another,
To beat that person in certain game,
In certain aspects of life,
And then we feel good.
But look at this whole thing.
Are we really happy with all this?
Never.
We are never contented.
We become contented only when we become helpful in the world.
That gives us perpetual peace.
That gives us contentment.
That's very important to remember.
So when we try to help others,
When we decide,
I would like to help the world spontaneously,
Automatically,
We're helping ourselves and we're stabilizing ourselves.
We are being stable.
We are being purposeful.
So helping others is spontaneous when you are already stable.
That you can see in the world,
Most of the people who are of great level of awareness,
They always are available to the world.
They don't sit at home and then just have personal enjoyments.
Those who are insecure and sometimes those who have not accepted themselves,
Those who have not helped themselves,
Or those who have not really groomed themselves beyond the competitions and comparisons,
They have to do that first.
They are not available to the world because they are leading a selfish life.
They do not agree with people.
They do not accept people.
They do not really love people,
But they expect love.
Can you get love when you don't give love?
You can't.
You get only what you give.
This is the way the world is made.
So we have to understand,
We have to look within and we have to find ourselves.
And that platform,
Which I think I have provided,
That is my biggest contribution.
A platform where you can find yourself and you can express yourself freely.
It's not behind somebody,
Ahead of somebody,
It's together with everybody.
So this is something which I would like to give you as a foot for thought.
Why do we fail to help others?
Try to find the answer.
Go within,
Look within,
Contemplate and see what makes you not help others or what makes you compare with others,
What makes you compete with others.
Understand that this is all sitting within us.
We don't have to do any of this.
We are unique.
We have all the power,
All the facilities that the existence can ever provide and we are unique,
Absolutely unique.
This is the thought I would like to leave you with and until I see you next time,
Ponder over it.
Discuss amongst yourself.
Try to build something out of it.
Try to build a structure out of it.
All the things I am giving you are to improve your standards of life,
Improve yourself and your standards of life.
So I would like to leave you with this.
Wish you a great day and time and I am always with you.
This is Mohinji.
