Becoming A Circle Holder

Becoming a circle holder. How to claim your unique quirks and gifts: Claim the parts of you that you think is wrong with you as your superpower; Connect with the essence/spirit of your circles; and understand who are you serving and holding inclusive circles.

Transcript

Hello,

Hello and welcome to the Spirited Sisters podcast.

I am Mitne Salvi.

I am an intuitive guide and circle holder on a mission to help as many women as possible experience the transformative power of circles.

If you're joining me as this is recorded,

It is over on my Facebook page being recorded live,

So please join in the conversation.

And if you're listening on the podcast,

Then I hope you enjoy listening and please come over and join us on the Facebook live.

So today we're talking about you as a circle holder,

Your role as a circle holder,

But more importantly,

Claiming your unique quirks and gifts as a circle holder.

And the doors to circle school are currently open,

So I'm doing seven lives in seven days to really give you a mini sister class for each of the parts of the curriculum of circle school.

And I shared a post earlier that obviously I would love you to join circle school,

But more importantly,

I really want to encourage you to have the courage and the confidence to step into that role.

And if you're already holding circles,

To continue to deepen your capacity as a circle holder,

Continue to expand your understanding of holding space.

And each time you hold a circle that ripples out and motivates and inspires another woman to do the same.

Hello,

Beautiful Jeanette.

Welcome,

Gorgeous.

How are you?

So today,

Claiming your unique quirks and gifts.

Through circle school,

We look at you as a whole.

And in week two,

We go through who we are as a circle holder.

So looking at our unique quirks,

Our unique gifts,

We connect with the soul or the spirit of our circles,

Understanding that she is a separate entity to us,

But she's coming through us.

We are her human.

And so how that relationship can work most effectively.

And then we also look at who are we serving with our circles?

Who is it that we wish to bring these to?

Why are we choosing to gather women in this way?

So claiming your unique quirks and gifts.

I love both those words,

But I particularly love the word quirks because we're all quirky.

We all have those things that make us who we are.

Hello,

Beth.

Welcome.

So thinking about your own journey,

Your own life experience,

All the things that have brought you to this moment,

This moment in time and space to this place in your life,

And really being willing to go on a journey of self discovery.

Who are you?

What do you stand for?

What do you stand against?

What is it that you want to share through the magic of circles?

And why do you want to hold circles?

So just gathering these different threads from your lived experience,

From your culture,

Your lineage,

Your heritage,

From the country that you're in,

From your own personal rituals and ceremonies,

From the modalities that you're trained in,

From the professional experience that you have undertaken.

Welcome,

Belinda.

Hello,

Beth and Tracy K.

Hello,

Gorgeous.

So bringing all these threads of who you are and being willing to,

Yes,

Have a journey of self discovery,

Being willing to go within to see who you are as a circle holder.

One of the elements that still surprises me,

And yet I see it every single time I hold circle school is that we have,

It's like a collective fear of stepping into this role and holding space for others.

And from my experience of working with so many women,

It still stems from the history of the witch hunt.

It still stems from us being persecuted and killed for stepping into roles where we supported other people,

Where we were healers,

Where we did conduct ritual and ceremony for each other.

And we have been stopped from doing that for such a long time that there is this incredibly powerful collective energy around that.

And that's why I use the word courage when I'm asking us to step into this role of circle holder,

Because obviously on the face of it,

In the time and age,

For those of us living in the UK or Australia or the States or New Zealand,

In this moment of time and space,

We can step into this role.

We're not going to be persecuted or killed for it,

But still it can hold us back.

So in this first part of the curriculum,

Which is week two in circle school,

We really start to unpack that,

What is actually holding us back and then looking at our quirks and our gifts and really claiming those.

And one of the things that I share,

There are fun personality tests that you can do.

The Mies-Briggs test is one that I often encourage women to do because it just gives you an insight.

It's not that you are defined by a personality test.

Perhaps you do the Enneagram test or what are the other ones?

There's various things that give us,

But for me,

What they do is they give you an insight into who you are.

There is an introduction to a part of you that you may not have connected with before.

So for me,

The reason the Mies-Briggs test was so powerful because it gave me an understanding of being an introvert.

And that introversion is a superpower.

And I think it's a superpower for a lot of circle holders,

But claiming those parts of us where we think that there is something wrong with us,

It's often the thing that we think makes us less is actually our superpower.

It's the thing that makes us unique.

It is the quirk that gives us that beautiful,

Energetic resonance with the women who are called to work with us.

And Jeanette,

I've done that awesome insight.

Yes,

I found it really helpful as well,

Jeanette,

And I share the link in Circle School.

It's also really helpful for me because it's really interesting to see the women that I work with in terms of where they are on that.

But I think it's anything that helps us understand ourselves can be really powerful.

So claiming those quirks,

Claiming what you probably think or may think is wrong with you as your superpower and seeing how we can fully embrace that in that full expression of yourself as a circle holder.

And I've said in an article recently that I wrote that becoming a circle holder is a process.

It's a journey of becoming that fullest and truest expression of yourself for so,

So many reasons.

And this is also an overused word,

But it is a journey.

So when you hold that first circle,

Each time you hold stand,

You know,

Each time you show up for your next circle,

You're learning more,

You're deepening your understanding of yourself.

You're also deepening your capacity as a space holder and you're deepening your capabilities as a circle holder.

So I've shared this story before,

But when I started holding circles,

I was very serious.

I took it very seriously.

And I didn't bring my humor with me.

I didn't bring my wit.

I like to think I'm witty and funny,

But I didn't bring that with me at all.

It was like I left that aspect of me at the door because I took this role so seriously and was so scared of getting it wrong or not holding space adequately or the conflict would arise and I wouldn't know what to do.

And as this journey has unraveled for me in a good way,

Unraveled in that way that it is allowing me to be all of me,

I can now bring my humor.

I sometimes even bring my sarcasm to circles.

I warn people,

But it's allowing us to bring all of us to that.

And then when we look at who are we serving,

That's where that's so important.

This is why we need so many circles.

There isn't one circle fits all.

There's no one circle holder will appeal to everybody.

We can be holding circles across so many themes,

Across so many areas for so many groups of women and for all women.

So it is really important to understand your role in this and who you are as you step into this role,

But also knowing that over time that will evolve and you will develop as a circle holder as we do,

We grow and we evolve.

So the second part of this is connecting with the soul of your circle and remembering that she is her own entity.

So if we can see ourselves as the vessel for her to come through,

Sometimes I say we're the human for our circles.

And often when we forget this,

I know that when I forget this,

This is when I trip myself up,

When I start to think it's all about me and what am I doing and how am I showing up and I'm not doing this or that and that little inner voice tells me that I'm not good enough,

When I can sidestep that again and remind myself it actually has nothing to do with me,

I have one quite easy job which is to listen and to share.

Everything starts to flow again.

We find our rhythm,

Everything comes back.

And so one of the beautiful things that we do in circle school is I take you on a guided journey to meet the spirit,

The essence,

The soul of your circle.

It's different every time,

I don't have a pre-recorded version for you because it is guided for the women who gather for that circle.

And it is similar but it is always different.

But you can do this for yourself if you already have a meditation practice or if you have a visualization practice that you do,

Take yourself on a journey.

So go into heart coherence or meditation and then start to visualize that journey.

So in your mind,

Take yourself to a beautiful place,

One of your favorite places that's often in nature or a sacred place that really means a lot to you and imagine yourself there.

And as you do so and as you allow yourself to get quiet,

Connect inwards and ask to meet the spirit or soul of your circle.

You can do this for your business as well,

You can do this for any project.

Ask to meet her and sit with her.

Let her appear in whatever form she takes for you.

Let go of any expectation.

She may appear in a beautiful human form,

She may not.

You may just sense her presence.

In the meditation,

The visualization that we do in circle school,

She often starts as a tree and then she appears in a different form for each of the women who are going on that journey with me.

And when she's appeared for you and when you are with her,

When you are in her presence,

Feel into her energy and take that opportunity to ask her a question.

It may be what do you need to do next?

It may be what would she have you do?

It may be what would she have you know?

But just be willing to be present to the process and see what you can receive from her.

And then I recommend journaling afterwards.

Just stream of consciousness journaling.

Just that connection,

The more you connect with her,

The more you listen,

The more you journal,

The deeper that understanding of your role you as a circle holder will become.

And then the third part of this part of the curriculum is looking at who are you serving.

So there are ways for circles to be for a particular group of women,

A particular niche.

So I have beautiful women who for instance create circles for mothers and daughters or create circles for teens and tweens.

One beautiful client,

Actually he recently interviewed me on her podcast,

Wise Women Conversations,

Angela Council,

She holds wise women circles for women who are going through the menopause.

And they're very specific because she has specific topics and specific wisdom that she wishes them to share and be present with.

But there's also a wonderful way of holding circles across age,

Across experience.

So having open circles that anybody can attend.

So just exploring why you're holding your circles and who you are serving.

And we also within that area of the curriculum is really looking about being inclusive and what is your inclusivity policy?

How do we make sure that our circles are inclusive to all women,

Regardless of cultural background,

Race,

And not just cis white women.

So it's a really important and juicy part of circles for us to start to open this up and see where we can be more inclusive,

See where we need to ensure that we are reaching out to all women and making sure that all women know that they are welcome.

So thank you so much for joining me.

That is a little insight into what we cover in week two of circle school.

But more importantly,

I hope that that gives you some pointers of things that you can do,

Things that you can think about in terms of who you are as a circle holder.

Taking yourself on that journey to meet the soul or the spirit of your circle and seeking her guidance.

And then just looking at your own inclusivity policy,

Your own anti-racism policies,

And just see where there's maybe more,

There's always more work for us to do in terms of unpacking our privilege and our bias,

But where we can each be doing that to ensure and to support us in creating inclusive spaces.

So thank you so much for joining me.

Those who joined me on the Facebook live,

What an absolute pleasure to have you here.

And if you're listening on the podcast,

I would love to know what you think.

You can leave comments on underneath the podcast or come over to my Facebook page and join in the conversation.

So this is number one of seven that I'll be sharing each day this week.

And I will be back tomorrow with number two.

So I hope you have a beautiful rest of your day and I cannot wait to sit in circle with you.

Goodbye for now.

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