Many of us tend to fear anger and regard it as wrong because in the heat of it we might say things that are harmful to ourselves and others.
And of course it can get out of control and it can turn destructive in some cases.
What tends to happen is that we suppress anger for long as we regard it as an unhealthy emotion and tend to shy away from it.
But anger is a completely normal,
Usually healthy human emotion.
Anger is information.
It's information about our unmet needs.
At its roots anger is a signal to us that something in our environment isn't right.
It captures our attention and motivates us to take action to correct that wrong thing.
So now I will invite you to take a moment to be with your anger.
If you could please do this exercise in a place where you feel comfortable and where you can be undisturbed for some time,
That would be great.
So when you have found that place,
Take some deep breaths and get comfortable.
Imagine you are in your safe place,
Wherever that is.
Get into this place and feel the safety.
Feel how it is to be safe and to feel safe.
At any point in time during this exercise you feel overwhelmed.
Please remember to come back to this safe place.
So here you are.
Something has happened that has made you angry.
I will invite you to feel it and not suppress or censor it.
Let it come alive.
What has happened?
Where do you feel anger in your body?
What color is your anger?
What temperature?
Where do you feel it most?
What shape is your anger?
How does it want to express itself?
If it has words,
What would it say?
How would you say it?
What are the unmet needs here?
If you feel comfortable saying them out loud,
Please do that.
Connect with you and say in whatever way,
Shape and form your anger wants to come out.
Now you are allowed to speak from your anger.
It's safe.
Give yourself time to fully say,
Shout or find your way of how your anger wants to be expressed.
Don't censor yourself.
And if tears and other emotions come up,
Please let them come.
It's all energy in motion.
And if you feel overwhelmed by it,
Remember to go back to your safe place and be there as long as you need and come back to release your anger when you're ready.
Listen to you.
Take some time to be with what is present right here and right now.
Listen to your body,
Your needs.
Take the time you need.
And thank you for taking the time to listen to your anger and be with it so you can better respond to what life will bring your way.
Thank you.
