How To Become A More Compassionate Non-Judgmental Person

In the depth of belonging emerges a human need for compassionate connection. Compassion is the key to building a community with greater understanding that transcends our barriers of differences. Compassion turns 'being different' into 'respecting the uniqueness' of ourselves and each other with its transformative healing touch.

Apathy can prevent us from this expression of love called compassion. Choose compassion over apathy with its indifference, for in its gentle strength lies the power to heal, uplift, and create a world where diversity reigns and every heart beats to the rhythm of evolution. Compassion is a powerful and healing expression of caring. Like forgiveness, compassion is a spiritual quality that feeds our Soul and transforms everyone it touches."

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With how to become a more compassionate person and the first step is to know about the concept I'm going to call this the hologram of humanity does anybody know what a hologram is that you send light through it and it projects and it's a film that you can sense and the concept of what a Hologram is that if you take this thing that is the hologram and you take one little piece of it It contains the whole image It's not like a part of the image it's the whole thing every part of the hologram contains the whole it's like your DNA every cell in your body has the DNA and the blueprint for your whole being and As a humanity when you think about God God is all that is From that wellspring source of all that is emerges energy and from energy atoms and Atoms come into molecules and molecules become minerals and minerals become plants and plants become animals It becomes this evolution of consciousness that is all from the same source the same oneness the same essence is within all of it the same essence The point being is the essence of all that is is within everything and you are part of that essence And so is everyone else and to feel compassion is to understand that that we are all one And this is part of understanding that just because somebody's skin color isn't the same or their religion or their height or their look or their Language or their nationality is different We need to shore up our differences.

There is a crisis of compassion in our world It's because people in the ego wants to say you're right.

I'm wrong.

You're good.

I'm bad.

I'm Republican.

You're Democrat Ba-ba-ba-ba-ba-ba-ba-ba We need to let that go we need to see through the eyes of your soul and understanding the hologram of humanity That what is common to every human being?

We need what makes up humanity is human beings and human beings.

They have two arms.

They have two legs They have two eyes.

They have five senses.

Some of them can be damaged,

But they have five senses We all have an imagination.

We all have beliefs thoughts feelings choices and decisions Regardless of where you live in the world.

We all have the same organs and glands You can go to Europe and get surgery done.

They're not gonna say oh,

That's an American.

They don't have a liver They don't have a spleen There's so much commonality and to Recognize the commonality of the oneness of all of us as human beings is the way to tip the scales of automatic conditioning of seeing The differences to shore it up to shore up the differences is to see the hologram of humanity to see that oneness within life and To recognize it and to look for it when you're talking to somebody I've talked about one of the keys to communication the genuine key of Communication is emotional depth because you don't know what I've been through in my childhood and my adolescence And I don't know what you've been through in your childhood and adolescence per se But we all know we both know what it feels like to be rejected We both know what it feels like to be humiliated We know what it feels like to be betrayed and we know what it feels like to be celebrated We know what it feels like to be rejoiced.

We know what it feels like to be loved and that allows us to connect and communicate It's the common bond in every human being has that they've often said this a smile is universal And you can go anywhere in the world and look at somebody and know if they're happy.

They're sad.

They're angry There's it's the common bond and we all have that regardless We all have a soul and a spirit we're all of expression and reflection of God God is all that is and to have compassion is about Understanding that and being able to recognize and to value that Even the people that are the most different the ones who challenge you the most are though your greatest teachers About your own stuff coming to the surface because it's often easier to judge somebody else What's wrong with them because I don't want to see it within myself It's like I see it in others and I judge them,

But I don't own it within myself.

That's called your shadow I refuse to see it.

It's behind me.

It's dark and I don't want to look at it But it comes up and at me through other people.

That's the dark shadow There's also the light shadow the things that I don't own about myself that are beautiful the things that I won't own about my power And my strength and my love I refuse to see to me that I admire it and those other people that I Put up on a pedestal or I admire and I respect I see that within them and it's oh my gosh I wish I could be that way you could but you got to own it Do you see it another so you see the shadow is a reflection of what you deny?

Not just elbowing out the ugly parts the pain and the anger and the rage that you see in others and judge but it's also the love and the light and the beauty and the power that you also have elbowed out and Admire and respect and others that's part of that hologram of humanity to let yourself look through the eyes of your soul and to look for the commonality Because what we pay attention to is what we're gonna see I've talked about that for eons of time what you focus your attention on Expands in your reality if you focus on what's wrong about you That's all you're gonna see and guess what there's stuff wrong about everybody if you focus on what's right about you What's good about you?

What's true about you?

Shift that to make a conscious choice all of these exercises and becoming a conduit of compassion Requires you being fully conscious rather than being asleep to wake up being asleep keeps you asleep And I can't feel compassionate.

I need to wake up and be conscious and be aware and understand and value and know That's part of being a conduit of compassion is being awake being conscious being in the present moment You can't be somewhere else thinking about something else and feel compassion for somebody You need to be connected and in the present moment.

So if practice being in the present moment,

How do I do that?

Learn to listen the second component learn to listen learn to listen paying attention and Hearing it's different to just listen in but to let yourself hear what's being said When you're talking to somebody and they're talking about with a bad day at work Listening is beautiful But hearing what's behind the words between the sentences to hear about their struggle their pain to hear it Not again them talking about it,

But here the essence when you have a compassion and you connect you can hear things That are beyond the words that they speak Learning to listen which means I need to pay attention and be in the present moment.

I need to be open and connected.

I Can't be shut down and self-important and worrying about my own needs and what's going on with me and or when I'm talking to somebody thinking About what I'm gonna say and not listening those kind of people that just when you're talking to them They're not really hearing what you're saying.

They're sitting there thinking about their response And then listen to create space Compassion is about creating a space of safety for that person Like I mentioned it begins with caring and so when you're wanting to be more compassionate towards somebody in your life Let's say you and a friend are going out to lunch and you're gonna have lunch or breakfast or brunch or whatever You're gonna hang out with that person to set your intention before you go there I want to be and practice being more compassionate with them And so I'm gonna create a space and I can even see it as a bubble that my energy field and their energy field create Together this bubble around us and I can ask my spirit to fill that bubble with light to fill that bubble that Space their energy field as well as mine with hope with peace with presence to fill it with Compassion and then to sit down and to be present and to listen and beyond just listening to really hear what they're saying What they're trying to communicate beyond the words between the sentences it's being compassionate It's being connected being vulnerable enough to open your heart and to feel what they're going through to be willing to feel their pain Be empathic to be open to be connected to be empathic to learn and to listen and to hear It's a big part of what allows for compassion your spirit to come out and to connect with their spirit And when it does,

There's a sizzle.

There's a crackle in your auric field.

You can feel this oneness this timelessness We had this conversation at lunch and we got into it and we were talking it's like our minds had intercourse with each other My mind and their mind became one my emotions and their emotions became one my consciousness and their consciousness became one and we Suspended time and space and it was so Rewarding it was so deep and I felt like I got to know this person on a level That I feel greater closeness and belonging and tenderness and intimacy That's compassion That's the magic of compassion and allow yourself to be a conduit and to spark the compassion with that person that you are talking with So these are all ways to become a conduit of compassion Also,

The next thing is to ponder reflect and to let in be all that is that I want to be loved by God Goddess all That is them which is everything my spirituality isn't something I do It isn't a book.

I read it isn't a church or a temple.

I go to once a week It's not about that It's about my living breathing Relationship with life from the mineral to the plant to the animal to the human kingdom to beyond the spiritual kingdom It is my relationship to my emotions is my spirituality.

Is it functional or dysfunctional?

It's my relationship to my body this body temple that's housing my soul and spirit.

Do I criticize it?

Do I judge it?

Do I hate my body?

Do I look at how old it's getting with every wrinkle or do I?

Celebrate it and love it and nurture it and honor it.

That's my spirituality.

It's the way I live my life and everyone's spiritual Everyone has a spirituality.

Everybody has a relationship to their body to their Finances to their other people and all of that is an expression and reflection of all that is When you just ponder that think about that reflect on that let it in Don't just let it graze over the top of your head,

But take some time to meditate think about that I'm connected to life and life is connected to me and What I do matters to life what I think and feel matters to life who I am matters to all that is And to be conscious and to grow and to develop your spirituality It's about being conscious of what you are contributing being conscious of knowing every thought I think even that when I have a judgmental thought It's creating pain on some level Some level it's not about I'm gonna control my judgmentalness.

No,

I need to let it go When I find myself doing it when I catch myself judging others Stop it Recognize it acknowledge.

I'm doing it But why we judge is because there's something I don't want to feel this person is triggering something I don't want to feel therefore.

I'm judging them to separate myself from my feelings and to recognize acknowledge to forgive yourself And To look at what am I afraid to feel as you forgive you can change into being discerning You can change into being more understanding you can change into say,

You know what?

I'm not gonna project onto them I'm gonna listen and hear what they're all about.

I'm gonna have Humility to let this be brand new to let this situation be different not to project the past onto it Not to judge it and project but to be in the present moment to listen to learn to hear and to love To let your love shine.

Let your compassion shine.

It can be the love of just being heard You know how many people don't feel heard?

I have several friends that I connect with and talk with and there some of them are astounded Sometimes they'll be like I'll come up and I'll talk to them.

I'll say oh,

Yeah So what happened with that event that took place last week?

And how did it go?

They're like,

Oh you remember I talked about that.

I'm like,

Yeah,

I pay attention Love pays attention to detail.

God is love and he pays attention to every detail.

God knows your name And knows everything about you And knows your pain And when you can let yourself pay attention be present to listen to let yourself hear you are being compassionate and You can let that heart open to be vulnerable and it does take a little bit of vulnerability To let your heart open to connect more deeply with the other person But you've all had those conversations that I described haven't you with somebody?

It might have been a couple glasses of wine that got you to be vulnerable enough to connect But whatever it took at that time that you don't need the glass of wine That was not that actually probably hindered the impact and helped But my point being is that you can consciously create this map the world Needs people to listen to each other and not to judge and to seek to understand what they're going through To understand the commonality of our emotions to understand that we are all One humanity that we are all from the same source We are all divine and my spirituality is my relationship to this person Everybody that it crosses my path is my spirituality another tip and secret that I can say to help you,

Especially if you find yourself judging or going into a place of judgment and Or you're feeling yourself pulling away from somebody in a conversation You're feeling uncomfortable is to look into their eyes to see that person standing in front of you that grown-up and try to see them As a child what must their childhood been like?

When they're being so mean and cruel and to try to see there in her child to try to sense what that little boy looked Like this man in front of you to wonder what they were as a little boy to see their innocence Can help you to let go of the judgment and to be more compassionate to sense and see and in your heart and mind that Little child they once were that woman that little girl.

She once was can help you to be more understanding Another thing you can do is to let your parents let them be people Stop projecting mother and father and daddy and mommy and and that's nothing wrong with it.

They're gonna always be your mother and father Whether they're alive or not They're still gonna be your mother and father But to see them as people allowed me to open my heart to a deeper level to let yourself do the same to let yourself choose To be more conscious of being a conduit of compassion when you find yourself judging make a list of all your judgments about yourself Start with yourself.

It's easy start about your judgments with people and then recognize them and say I'm not gonna do this anymore I'm gonna forgive myself for being judgmental I'm gonna forgive myself and that ego in me that does it to try to feel safe to fight try to feel superior to be self-important to try to be in control to Avoid any feeling to be indifferent and now I'm gonna take my power back from that part of me and be willing to feel And even be willing to feel the uncomfortable feelings of another Because when you are compassionate and you are connected to somebody there is a spiritual healing that takes place.

That's what I say Compassion is an evolved form of caring and it heals It's a healing force to be with somebody who's compassionate.

You can feel it And it reaches beyond space and time and it connects to you and it can shift and change something within you That's what the magic and the beauty and the grace of compassion can do That feels complete to me for now as far as what I want to share today.

I Hope you've got some value from it.

I hope you got some insights as I always try to over deliver in all my classes and give as much as I can

Reviews

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Great share. I am working on reducing my judgement of others and increasing my compassion. It's certainly not something we hear once and it's done. Yep it's a practice and this talk was mine today. Of course I need to also deal with the judgement and lack of compassion for myself. 😂
I loved that you mention seeing your parents as people. It's so important so we are not forever wondering once they are gone. Who were my mum/dad really?

WOW, just amazing the session, love the content taken up and compliments, you are really vibing on the topic 👌🏾👌🏾💪🏾💪🏾🙏🏼🙏🏼
Especially another point, love your way how you describe spirituality without linking it to any religion 😻

I am eager to implement the suggestions offered in this discussion about compassion, listening, compassion and recognizing when, where, and why judgment might appear in our lives and using them to be a more kind and loving human. Thank you for taking the time to generously share your insights and experience!

What if my self judgments are true? It’s hard to accept the chronic pain and nerve damage that makes me less whole. I have compassion but that doesn’t change the reality.
I appreciate the reminder to listen without trying to fix the problem like I made a habit of doing as a single mom. Thank you for sharing this though provoking session and I look forward to hearing more of your talks and meditations. 🙏🏼 Namaste

I am going to listen to this one multiple times. 🙏 🫶🏻