Where I’m Choosing Ease

So many of us were taught that growth requires effort, discipline, and pushing through. In this reflective talk, you will explore what it means to choose ease without giving up depth or integrity. This session invites a nervous system aware approach to growth that values sustainability, alignment, and self respect over constant effort.

Transcript

For a long time,

Longer than I care to admit,

I believed that if something mattered,

It had to be hard.

Effort meant commitment.

Struggle meant depth.

Ease felt suspicious.

I did not question this for years because it was rewarded.

I was praised for pushing through,

For holding it together,

For doing more than was sustainable.

Eventually,

My body started asking better questions than my mind.

What if ease is not avoidance?

What if it is wisdom?

This has been a personal reckoning for me.

I noticed how often I defaulted to effort,

Even when something could be simpler.

How quickly I reached for control instead of listening.

How rarely I asked whether a path felt supportive instead of impressive.

If you've noticed this in yourself,

You're not alone.

Choosing ease does not mean choosing less.

It means choosing regulation over force.

It means honoring capacity instead of overriding it.

It means letting your nervous system be a part of the conversation.

For me,

Choosing ease has looked like doing fewer things with more presence.

Letting go of timelines that were never mine to begin with.

Trusting that rest is not a reward for exhaustion.

That shift took too long.

It took too long.

When we have lived in effort for so long,

Ease can feel unfamiliar,

Even unsafe.

If ease feels uncomfortable for you,

Nothing is wrong.

It just means your system is learning something new.

Here's a question I want to offer you.

Where are you still pushing out of habit rather than necessity?

You don't need to change anything in this moment.

Just pay attention.

And if something comes to mind,

Let me know in the comments.

Because better choices start with more awareness.

Choosing ease is not about doing less.

It's about doing what is true without burning yourself out to get there.

You do not have to prove your worth through effort.

Sometimes the most powerful growth happens when you stop forcing and start allowing.