Are We Deserving Or Worthy

In this talk, Mary Ann Pack discusses the difference between the words deserving and worthy. Did you know there is an energetic, vibrational difference? Does it really matter? Is there more or less resistance to choosing one word over the other? Do we need to choose better for our highest good? Enjoy listening, and you may come away with the determination to choose your words more carefully to keep your vibration nice and high!

Transcript

Welcome.

This is your host,

Marianne Pack,

Spiritual medium,

Author,

And joyologist.

This reading is entitled,

Are We Deserving or Worthy?

What is the difference between being worthy and being deserving?

They almost seem like the same thing,

Don't they?

Why does it really matter if there is a difference?

Nuances of words can make a difference because behind the chosen word is a vibration.

The word itself,

Not so much the issue.

It is the feeling or emotion behind the words that are important.

We are vibrational beings in a vibrational universe,

Interpreting every vibration into what we see,

Hear,

Touch,

Smell,

And taste.

So choosing certain words over others that vibrate differently is because of the feeling behind the words.

Certain words conjure emotions within us,

Whether subtle or very blatant.

When a subject is very important to us,

It creates a very rapid vibration because of the emotions we have invested in thinking about it.

When we ponder a subject and give a lot of thoughtful attention to it,

That subject swells with momentum.

When we notice something we really do not want,

We immediately know what we do want.

When we speak a feeling deserving,

There is a hint of negativity contained in that word.

There is a hint of a feeling of lack.

We feel deserving because we notice the lack of what is wanted.

We might say,

I deserve this nice car.

If we could end the feeling there,

And by focusing on the nice car,

And enjoying the feeling of owning a nice car,

That would probably be okay.

The problem begins when we look at someone else who has the nice car that we want for ourselves and begin to think,

They have the very car I want.

Why should they have it and I don't?

I'm just as good as they are.

I've struggled so hard to get a new car.

I deserve that nice car.

And we begin to list all of the reasons we should have that particular car.

We may even begin to list all the reasons why we need to replace our old car.

Our justification kicks in.

By implying that we deserve something,

We are noticing the lack of what is wanted in our lives.

This attention to the lack simply brings more lack into our experiences by the law of attraction.

We can find ourselves trying to justify why we should get that thing that is so important to us.

When we try to justify anything,

We are actually pushing it away by the resistance that shows up in our emotions.

When we justify something,

We have to think about all the negative things that need to change in order for us to get it before we can feel good.

We notice the conditions more than wanting to feel good.

When we notice what is more of what is,

We'll continue to show up in our lives.

Take a moment to notice what you're noticing.

Notice what you're paying attention to.

And most importantly,

Notice how you're feeling.

When we require the condition to change before we will feel better,

We will be sorely disappointed every time.

We must feel better before the condition changes so the condition can change.

We need to change our perspective.

Worthiness speaks to who we are.

It is not conditional to feel worthy.

When we speak of feeling worthy,

To have something wanted,

There is no thought of lack.

We simply feel worthy.

It is our inner being.

Being worthy is who we are.

There is no need for comparing.

There is no notice of the condition.

There is no reason.

There is no notice of the lack of what is wanted.

We are worthy just because we are.

By recognizing that we are worthy,

There is no need for justification for the desire.

Feeling worthy is freedom.

Freedom to desire things without focusing on the condition of lack.

We don't need the condition to change to maintain our feeling of worthiness.

It's a knowing.

It feels safe,

Secure,

Happy,

Calm,

And fun.

The knowing that we are worthy is calm.

There is a relaxation in allowing things we want to come to us.

Not in a rushing or a demanding way,

But gentle and easy.

It's an expectation that all is well and that what we deserve and desire is on the way.

We simply know it's coming because we are worthy.

There is nothing broken in us that must be fixed or saved.

Worthiness produces a feeling of love.

If we have feelings of unworthiness because of something we were taught by people of influence around us,

It's time to look at how that makes us feel.

We are here to feel good.

If the feeling of unworthiness makes us feel bad,

That bad feeling is an indicator that this belief or thought is not in alignment with our inner being,

The eternal,

Pure,

Positive,

Non-physical spirit of who we really are.

It's not in alignment with the all-knowing of Source.

That bad feeling is telling us that we are not thinking the same thoughts as what our inner being is thinking about the same subject.

So where did we pick up that feeling of unworthiness?

We didn't come into this life feeling unworthy.

When we chose to come into this physical life,

Our inner being was fully intact and knew our worthiness.

Any belief of unworthiness is a lie.

We learned unworthiness.

We learned it from our parents,

Our church beliefs,

Our society.

Because of their feeling of unworthiness,

They taught it to us.

They felt unworthy because of what they were taught.

When previous generations lived out of alignment with their inner beings and had a desire for something,

They didn't receive what they wanted.

So,

Not receiving their desire created a belief that God or something outside of them must not love them enough to give it to them.

They made up stories of their unworthiness because good people should receive good things they want.

This type of story was repeated every time they didn't receive what they wanted.

They began to justify their deservedness rather than focusing on their worthiness.

They deserve what they want because they work hard.

They deserve what they want because they sacrifice for others.

They deserve what they want because they follow the rules of the church which say God provides for those who love Him.

God blesses the children He loves,

And when they don't see blessings,

They took it to mean that God didn't love them or that they were unworthy of God's love.

They must work harder to be deserving to get God's attention and stay in His good graces.

But when you make up stories like this,

You simply perpetuate your own misalignment with who you really are—worthy.

When you repeat these stories over and over,

They become your belief and you look for evidence to prove your belief is true.

The universe simply obliges your search for proof and gives it to you.

So what happens when we begin to acknowledge our worthiness instead?

When we begin to think about our worthiness and repeat it to ourselves over and over,

Guess what becomes our new belief?

We unlearn our unworthiness.

We learn that we are worthy.

Then,

When we look for evidence of our worthiness,

The universe obliges us and gives us proof that our new beliefs are true.

How cool is that?

And the best part about believing in our worthiness is that it feels awesome.

That good feeling is how we know we are aligned with our inner being's belief about us.

That good feeling indicates we are knowing,

Thinking,

And feeling exactly as our inner being is knowing,

Thinking,

And feeling.

That alignment with our wholeness of who we are really is who we are.

We are actually feeling the vibration of being worthy.

How do we begin to believe in our worthiness when we've always believed we weren't?

Number one,

Notice how you're feeling when you think about something you want.

If you think about a desire,

It will feel really good until you allow your mind to kick in and throw a but in there of doubt.

So when you notice that but I can't have it or but it's impossible because no one ever gets everything they want type of language,

Stop and shrink your but.

Shift your thinking and say,

I want this and I can have this.

I will watch for the signs and be happy while I wait.

Number two,

Begin repeating loving affirmations about your worthiness.

Even though you may not believe what you're saying just yet,

You will eventually begin to feel more of your worthiness.

You learned to believe in your unworthiness for so long,

So it may take a while to install this new belief to deactivate the old feelings of unworthiness.

You can even begin with,

I want to believe in my worthiness.

Simply setting that intention that you want to eventually believe that you are truly worthy will move you forward.

And number three,

Begin to laugh more.

Life is supposed to be fun.

If you're not freely smiling or laughing throughout your day,

It could be because you really don't feel worthy and you are.

Laughter aligns us with our inner beings.

You know you're in alignment when you feel really good and laughter certainly feels great.

That alignment will allow you to accept your worthiness much more quickly.

So where are you on this path to recognizing and owning your worthiness?

Do you need a boost in your worthiness belief system?

If so,

Make sure you practice the three suggestions.

Make it a game.

Turn it into a challenge by engaging the help and support of a friend.

Maybe you even want to seek coaching.

I have access to so many amazing coachings that I will find a perfect fit for you.

Whatever you decide to do to activate your belief of worthiness,

Begin appreciating the fact that you are worthy.

You cannot be less than worthy because it's who you are eternally.

It's only our mind body that gets out of alignment with our worthiness.

Our inner beings always know that you are worthy.

That is the truth you need to focus on.

Appreciation is always the key to alignment with who we are.

No matter the subject we're thinking about,

If we can begin appreciating anything and everything,

We will come into true love and joy that we are.

We are worthy.

Big hugs,

Marianne.