Baby Loss Connection Meditation

Amid the heart-wrenching journey of baby loss, this meditation track offers a soothing sanctuary for those grappling with grief. With tenderly crafted guidance, it creates a space where you can navigate complex emotions while fostering a profound connection to others who have walked this path

Transcript

Hello and welcome to this mindfulness meditation.

My name is Lucy and I am a bereaved mum,

A mum to Ellie,

And this meditation today is all about connection.

So it's that recognition that even while grief can feel so isolating and so lonely,

That in fact we're all connected in some way.

And this meditation is to help you find a little bit of ease and to bring this idea of connection into your mind,

Which I'm hoping will help to bring some comfort,

As it does with me.

I also want you to know that I'm also here as a bereaved mother,

Understanding to some extent what you're currently going through right now.

And I am sending all my heart out to you,

Whoever you are,

Because I recognise what it means to walk in these shoes,

And how the world can misunderstand,

And how often friends and family can misunderstand.

So whilst you may feel all alone right now,

I want you to know that I see you,

I recognise your pain,

And this meditation is here for you anytime you need.

So finding somewhere then to rest comfortably,

Making sure that you won't be interrupted,

And using any cushions or blankets if needed to promote comfort.

So mindfulness practices play a huge role in human connection,

Because many mindful practices highlight this idea that we're all connected through our common human experience.

The experiences that we all share,

Because we're all simply existing on this planet together.

But we as bereaved parents also understand that we too share another common experience,

This common experience of grief that nobody understands unless you are literally walking in these shoes.

So this meditation is really about recognising that connection to others,

This human connection,

Really allowing us to feel seen and validated,

And to help us feel less alone.

So just allowing yourself then to connect with this moment now.

If you find that your mind has been wandering since the start of this meditation,

That's absolutely normal.

Mindfulness invites us to connect to the present moment,

And to also bring in a kind acceptance to whatever we find.

So if the mind's busy,

It's busy,

So what?

What we do is we try our best,

As best as we can,

To bring our attention back to the present moment.

So extending that invitation out to yourself now,

Connecting to this moment now.

And it can be helpful to,

First of all,

Connect with sound.

Sound can be a great anchor into the present moment because it's real,

It's happening.

So what sounds can you hear?

It may even be sounds of your own body,

Sounds of your breath,

Sounds of maybe your belly,

Your belly rumbling,

Maybe sounds from outside,

There may be other people around,

Sounds from the weather,

Sounds from the TV or the radio.

Just connecting to these sounds,

And then connecting to your own body.

So getting a sense of the whole of your body resting here,

The shape of your body,

The weight of your body as it rests on the surface beneath it or behind it,

And how your body feels today.

Is the body tired?

Are you energetic?

Are you restless?

And also,

What's the emotional weather of your mind like,

Of your body like?

Emotional weather refers to how we can liken the way that we are,

The weather state.

So for example,

If you feel in physical pain today,

You may identify that with thunderstorms,

Or if you feel emotionally sad today,

You may identify that with a rainy day.

So what's your emotional weather like today?

What's your physical weather like?

And we're not getting caught up in the stories about how we are,

We're just noticing how we are,

And we're doing that with kindness and with acceptance.

And then getting a sense of your body breathing.

So as your body moves with your breath,

Where in your body do you notice your breath today?

So sometimes there can be a misconception that the breath can only be noticed at maybe the nose or the mouth,

When in fact we can notice the breath in many areas in the body.

So for me,

Sometimes when I do a meditation practice,

I notice the breath in my hands as my body moves with the breath.

There's often subtle movements in my hands,

And that can be a really lovely place to connect to,

To place my attention.

So again,

Just finding where in your body you notice your breath,

And stay there for a while.

Anytime the mind feels busy or wanders off,

Just bringing your attention back,

Time and time again.

And as you get an awareness and sense of your breath,

I wonder if you can bring to mind then,

Anyone that you know within the Babyloss community,

Who is also suffering too.

Now you may not know anybody,

If you haven't connected with anybody yet,

But you're aware that within the world there isn't just yourself and your family that are suffering with this.

Because of course,

Babyloss sadly is very common.

So even just getting a sense that there are others too,

Who suffer like you.

So either bringing to mind somebody who you know,

Who walks in these shoes,

Or just bringing to your mind this idea that there are others too.

And I'd like you to imagine that you are with this person now,

Or maybe you get a sense that you're not alone.

So that there are other people who too suffer in a similar way,

Or maybe this other person who suffers.

And you can either imagine sitting with this person,

Maybe holding their hand.

Or you can imagine being in a room and being surrounded by all these other people,

Who you don't know,

But you recognise that they too are bereaved.

And you're all together,

Holding hands.

So I want you to feel this sense of connection with others,

Or with another person.

Feel this sense of connection.

And thinking about what you'd say in terms of any words of comfort to this other person,

Or to these other people.

What you could say to them.

It may be,

I'm here for you.

I understand.

I see you.

I'm listening.

And then whatever words that you choose,

I'd like you to also imagine that other person saying that back to you also.

So you're,

You're really giving support,

But you're also receiving it for you.

So there's that real understanding and that real sense of connection between you and another.

That connection,

That feeling less alone,

Recognising that this is a community,

That really at the essence of this community is love and support and care.

Because this awful truth that we all recognise and know to be our life,

Is unfortunately,

A truth for many others too.

So just really getting a sense of that feeling of connection.

Like I said,

You can imagine holding hands with another person,

Or holding hands with a group of people,

Or even just sitting in comfort,

Sitting with others,

Recognising that this is a shared connection.

This unbroken connection.

And I also want to say that I'm also here with you too.

I'm here with you too.

So whilst I may not be physically with you,

My essence,

My thoughts,

This recording,

A representation of this tangible support that is here for you,

In this moment now.

And I'm imagining holding your hand and placing my hand on your shoulder,

With you in your grief,

Recognising that you also recognise my grief too.

And if you notice any sensations in your body,

There may be strong emotions coming up,

There may be,

There may be sensations of comfort,

Of warmth in your body.

There may even be sensations that you can't quite describe.

But whatever's there,

Just seeing if you can embrace that,

Whether it be pleasant or unpleasant.

Remember,

Mindfulness is about turning towards and being with.

Noticing,

Opening up,

Accepting what we find.

But also just being kind with yourself.

If it's just too much,

Then also recognising that you can also pull away too.

So just a few more moments then,

Imagining.

Also,

Aware of your breath still in the background,

That wonderful anchor that's available to us anytime.

And then so gently bringing this meditation to a close then.

So if your eyes have been closed today,

You can gently open your eyes.

Maybe gently moving your body in any way that you feel is necessary.

And you may just want to sit just for another,

Maybe another minute or so,

Before you move on to the activities of your day.

Maybe you want to use this opportunity to journal,

To write down how that practice was and how you feel.

You just want to sit and watch the sky for a little bit.

So as always then,

I am sending all my love to you,

Wherever you are,

Whoever you are in the world.

Until next time,

You take care.

Reviews

Thank you it was really helpful to hear your words and use the meditation practice