Speaking At The Right Time

This is the last talk of the series on the Buddha's criteria of Wise Communication. We started with a truthful speech, and next is a speech that is delivered kindly. From there, is what we are about to say beneficial? Will it bring us together? This final talk is on timeliness. Is what I am about to communicate, is the right time? This is really important, especially when there are conflicts and challenges, because people in conflicts have different needs.

Some people need to have time to process and be quiet, to be by themselves for a while before they're ready to be in conversation about a conflict. Some people need to address it right away. Like, letting the conflict stay in their mind and fester is difficult for them.

So there is a range of how people are, and it’s important to understand how you are in conflict. What do you need?

Reviews

Excellent reminders! I've been considering this alot lately. Over and above when it's the right time there are some conversations I am putting off because I know what I have to say will permanently change the relationship and I need to be sure I'm soft and honest with my words and intention. I need to be sure my current feelings are actually my real ones because I know the words said cannot be unsaid and will change everything. Tricky business. These days when people are getting into loops with text I just call them. It's a terrible way to communicate anything remotely complex.

Thank you 🙏🏼

Thank you 🙏🏻

A very good and important reminder.