It Is Not Your Fault

This is a healing guided meditation to help you heal abandonment trauma, shame, rejection, and narcissistic discard. Enjoy these healing frequencies and affirmations to help your brain understand that being abused and abandoned was not your fault.

Transcript

Please begin by making yourselves very,

Very comfortable.

This meditation has been created to help you understand some basic ideas that have the power to help you expand your awareness of self and liberate any bonds that are holding you back and preventing you from living your authentic life.

When children are born,

It is not their fault that they do not know that they are enough.

When children are born,

It is not their fault that they need a sense of love to be mirrored back to them in order to believe that they are enough.

It is not your fault if,

As a child,

You were taught to believe that what you felt was unimportant or irrelevant.

It is not your fault if,

As a child,

You believed what you saw.

It is not your fault if,

As a child,

You did not know that the adults in your life were asleep.

It is not your fault if you did not understand that human beings have the ability to be both conscious and unconscious at the same time.

It is not your fault if,

As a child,

What you saw you believed and interpreted as truth.

It is not your fault if you never felt seen.

It is not your fault if you never felt enough.

It is not your fault if your parents never felt enough.

It is not your fault if your parents never felt seen.

It is not your fault if your parents suffered with addictions,

Depression,

Or any other emotional or mental health issue.

It is not your fault if you could not save your parents from themselves.

It is not your fault if you grew up in a home full of anger and angst,

Anxiety,

Trauma,

And abuse.

It is not your fault if your needs went unmet.

It is not your fault if the people who raised you were unable to meet your needs.

It is not your fault you had needs.

It is not your fault you required love in order to believe you were love.

It is not your fault if the people who raised you were abusive and in denial of how their actions were molding the belief systems that would one day run your life.

It is not your fault you were born asleep.

It is not your fault that the nature of the mind is both conscious and unconscious at the same time.

It is not your fault you lived in a state of survival.

It is not your fault you learned to shut down.

It is not your fault you feared criticism and punishment.

It is not your fault you were called names,

Minimized,

Marginalized,

Or victimized.

It is not your fault that what you needed you did not receive.

It is not your fault that you grew up believing that you were not enough.

It is not your fault that children all presume that when they are unable to gain the validation of their parents that they assume it is their fault they were unable to gain their parents' love.

It is not your fault all children judge their worth by how worthy their parents treat them.

It is not your fault that all children need to feel seen in order to be able to see the self.

It is not your fault if today you feel disconnected from your authentic self.

It is not your fault all children need to feel attuned to their parents in order to feel attuned to the self.

It is not your fault if your home was one of chaos and unpredictability.

It is not your fault you grew up in an unpredictable home.

It is not your fault you needed to dissociate and to flee your feelings in order to survive.

It is not your fault if you suffer from low self-worth today if the people you loved refused to see or were unable to see worth in you.

It is not your fault if others were unable or too unconscious to see worth in you.

It is not your fault if those who raised you saw no worth in themselves and therefore could not see worth in others.

It is not your fault if the people who raised you treated you the way they were treated as children.

It is not your fault that people who were supposed to love you may not have.

It is not your fault if you never felt connected to.

It is not your fault if today you struggle with healthy relationships.

It is not your fault if the relationships of the past were unhealthy.

It is not your fault if today you crave love like you crave air.

It is not your fault you were denied the love you deserved and needed.

It is not your fault if today you feel invisible to the self.

It is not your fault you were raised by people who were unable to see themselves.

It is not your fault you are in pain.

It is not your fault if you fear that you are not enough.

It is not your fault if today you are confused as to what to do about how you feel.

It is not your fault if you do not know how to honor what you feel.

It is not your fault you were raised by people who did not honor how you felt.

All children are programmed to see themselves the way their parents and their caretakers or authority figures in their lives have seen them.

All children are impacted by the input and quality of their environments.

All internal environments are the result of what we have experienced externally.

Today we can awaken.

We can rise up out of the subconscious mind.

We can understand that we have been asleep and running patterns from the past.

Today we can understand that it is not us,

It is just our programming.

And if we stay on the path we can continue and will break through.

Today remember you are enough.

Today remember you were never not enough.

Today remember the past is but a dream.

It is time to awaken to the reality that you are enough.

You are enough.

Dear one,

You are enough.

Namaste.

Namaste.

Namaste.

Namaste.

Namaste.

Namaste.

Reviews

Wow... thank you. So very much.
the content and pacing, your tone and delivery, the calm music at the end to help segue out out of the meditation and back to life... it was all just so perfect for me today. Will be sharing 💖

I wonder… when can a child feel that they are enough when one narcissistic parent is in the midst of programming negativity in their lives!! Maybe adulthood, when they are not so dependent on the parent!

This teacher has made such a difference for me. Addressing out wounds hurts. But with her guidance I have done profound work in those wounds.

Wow I thought that this wasn't going to do much but well when she would say certain things especially like it's not your fault control your parents addiction it helped me pinpoint and understand certain things where I got to work on in my journey of healing what to focus on and to realize I guess yes it is not my fault

Excellent message! We ARE enough! Thank you Lisa Romano!

Thank you for these healing words. Kindness is what a hurt child needs in difficult times and you provide it through this guided meditation.

Being bombarded with "it's not my fault" is exactly what I needed this morning. Many of the affirmations you voiced resonated with me . What does ghos mean? I am 37 years old and feel caught in the emotional state of an 18 year old.
I'm currently dealing with alot of digestive issues at the moment and anxiety. Meditation really helps but it's a practice I have to do at least twice a day in order to reap the benefits.
Anyway, Godbless you and thank you for your guidance this morning.

Thanks for normalizing my experiences

Absolutely incredible. I needed this in ways I probably don't fully grasp even now. Thank you so much. Namaste

WOW!🤩🌺😊💖🥰This meditation seems like you were in my brain and heart when you created it. I never felt worth because I was the youngest of ten children. I still feel like I am not enough. I am going to listen to this often so eventually I do feel like I am enough. Thanks for taking the time to share this. 💖

It is so helpful to understand that you are not alone, that’s others have had similar experiences and have healed. Thank you, Lisa. 💚

Lisa, thank you so much for this. It’s exactly what I needed to hear in this moment. I’m grateful to you! 🙏🏽🦋💙

Bless you Lisa 🙏 I believe it is not coincidence my path led me to you. My road to true recovery from narcissistic abuse started when I stumbled across a video you posted on YouTube. I had searched a totally non-related video and happened to glance over and see “10 Lies Codependent People Believe about a Narcissist that Keeps You Seeking Approval.” It’s like a light switch turned on!! That is the day I signed up in your “Breakthrough Warrior Journey” program. I, deep down, knew I must be codependent but I’ve only recently gotten a better idea of what a narcissist is. Your program is what led me here to Insight Timer and I want you to know, it’s the BEST thing I’ve done for myself!!!! I have a long journey but have never felt SO happy just knowing I’m on the right path!!! You have NO idea!!!
Thank GOD for you!!!!!

I always benefit from your insights and teachings! Thank you very much ❤️

Thank you. It wasn’t my fault your children received death threats. Letting go of that also means I can let go of that person. Xx

Her meditations always help me feel better in the morning

I found Lisa on YouTube originally. You have been so helpful and I am loving your meditations. I have a long way to go still. Thank you

What caught my eye about this meditation was the title "It's Not Your Fault". What I took away from it was an Empowering and Affirmative message - You Are Enough!

Extremely helpful and what was needed, thank you so much!

Beautiful!! Thank you so much!! 🙏🏼 🙏🏼🙏🏼