Beginning The Process: Episode 2

This is the second episode of Kyle Mercer’s “Life at Altitude” series. Throughout this podcast, Kyle outlines the beginning stages of the process of living at altitude, and emphasizes the significance of our love in our lives. We hope you enjoy and look forward to your feedback!

Transcript

Welcome to Life at Altitude with Kyle Mercer,

A podcast about upgrading the way we participate in life through changing our behaviors and raising our consciousness.

Hi,

It's Kyle Mercer again with another installation of the podcast around inquiry method and just another monologue,

Meaning there's something I want to share with you and some of my present thoughts on things.

This is fairly advanced in the work,

But I want to share it with you because it's really present with me right now.

You know,

A lot of times on this podcast I'll be sharing kind of the cutting edge of what I'm thinking and working with myself.

It's not that I have arrived at any kind of level of enlightenment or anything.

I just really like thinking about and talking about these subjects.

I always see myself as the test subject.

It's fun for me to share what I'm working on with myself with you.

Even as I'm sharing it with you,

I'm learning more because I'm not operating from any script here.

I'm just really talking from a present awareness of what I'm tapping into.

A lot of times when I'm sharing with you,

I'm discovering new things for myself.

It's really fun to be in this dialogue together.

A lot of times we're in life and for a long time I've been looking for what's going to make me happy or what I'm really yearning for in life.

I've thought different things at different times.

Sometimes it's been around relationship or sometimes it's been around success or play or vacation or money.

I've really pursued and been successful in all those different levels.

Even being successful at those different levels,

I've never really experienced a deep level of satisfaction.

Maybe for a moment I was like,

Ah,

That feels so good.

Really a sustainable level of satisfaction hasn't necessarily been true for me even as I've accomplished so many different things.

I've been thinking about this later and I say,

What is it that I really want?

I love when people come to me and ask me,

I need to figure out what I want.

I need to figure out what I want for relationship or for my career.

What I've discovered is knowing what we want is impossible.

What I notice for myself and other people is that what we want is always changing.

It's ephemeral.

What I want in one moment isn't necessarily what I want in the next moment.

Today I want vanilla and maybe tomorrow I want rocky road.

It's always changing this what we want on a moment-to-moment basis.

This idea that we can anchor it down,

Well,

I know exactly the career I want and I know exactly the relationship I want.

It's much more of a fluid flowing kind of engagement.

If we can't lock that down,

What is it that we really want?

What I'm discovering for myself and has been useful I think for my clients is ultimately what we all want is to experience the feeling of love.

Now a lot of us get confused around this feeling of love and we say,

Ah,

I want people to love me.

I want to be loved.

And I really like playing with that phrase.

When I say I want to be loved,

In a way it's to be means into the future in a way and loved means in the past.

And so as I start correcting it is I want to be loved,

I put it in the present.

I want to be loved instead of I want to be loved,

I put it in the present.

I want to be loved.

It's not about receiving.

It's about being the presence of love.

And ultimately to me it's not even so much to be loved but it is to experience the feeling of love.

Like I notice like I've had and you probably have too,

Had people love you and you didn't feel anything.

It was their feeling that they were getting to have.

And the idea that if somebody loves me enough it's going to solve it for me.

It really doesn't because we can be loved all over the place and not feel anything.

It's an illusion that love can be transferred from one person to another.

The only way that I can really experience love is when I'm loving something.

And I just notice how gravitational that is in my life.

And it doesn't have to be a person.

It could be a book.

I have books I love.

In fact there's one series of books I love so much,

The Aubrey Matron series.

It's about the seafaring novels.

I just love those books and I've been through them three or four times because I love those books.

And I get to feel that experience of love again and again when I read those books.

Or I'll find a new sport or a new activity that I love and that's so precious.

Or to find a movie that we love.

So precious to find those experiences of love.

As we practice our loving we can actually learn to love more through practice.

So for an example,

Presently for me I go for a walk on the beach in LA early in the morning.

And it's about a five and a half mile walk.

And I walk down the beach and one of my practices is to,

From childhood we did a lot of beach coming so I love to find a stone or a shell on the beach.

And I'll find one and I'll pick it up and I will just notice how precious it is.

And really practice noticing how precious it is just in its uniqueness.

Maybe not in its specialness but in its uniqueness or in the miracle that it even exists.

Like a little starfish or a sand dollar.

Just what a miracle that is.

And really that is the practice of love.

When I bring my presence to that sand dollar and just think of the design of it,

The miracle that exists,

That it's a living creature.

I mean just all those things is really practicing that capacity for love.

And so that's one altitude.

You know we've been talking about altitude in this podcast quite a bit.

And the next altitude really is when I cross the I-weave barrier,

How much fun it is to share that with somebody else.

Or to share it,

You know just like right now I'm really appreciating the opportunity to share it with you.

You know that preciousness,

The sand dollar,

It seems like it even takes it up a level to have it shared or participate with others in the sharing of that awareness.

Or a sunset.

Maybe we can love a sunset or you know a partner.

And part of that is developmental.

You know the lower we are in the levels,

If we're in judgment on ourself or we're stuck in more of the exchange level of participation,

We're much more in our judgments.

And it's harder to find that experience of love.

We need a much higher level of perfection to experience that feeling of love.

And as we evolve and learn to be more accepting,

More present,

More appreciative of imperfection even.

And I don't even mean imperfection,

I mean more in the quality like the Japanese quality of Labi-Sabi where we say I'm seeing the beauty in imperfection.

Like we can appreciate that in a tree or the waves crashing on the beach.

I mean they're not perfectly formed.

They're chaotic.

And we can recognize that chaotic nature even of ourselves ultimately.

I mean that's a very high level to really get into that level of acceptance where we can love ourselves without being perfect.

And so there's just you know there's all these opportunities to experience the feeling of love around us and we can expand that as we grow our consciousness to see from higher and higher altitude.

So what we all want ultimately is that feeling of love.

And it gets constrained and restricted by our judgments,

By our emotional pains,

By our wanting things to be different than they are right now.

And we can expand and experience more of that love which is the ultimate feeling that we can feel as human beings by being able to connect with what's happening right now in a loving way.

So let's just all you know go out and practice that and just see you know at any moment as soon as you stop listening to this you can pick anything in your surroundings and just start to appreciate it for what it is.

Start to recognize the miracle of everything around us.

I mean the fact that we have a car is a miracle.

I mean not just that not everybody on the planet has a car but how did evolution or how did this universe get to a place where cars were even a thing?

Or the fact that you could listen to my voice from so far away,

Not only away physically but also in time.

It's like a time machine you're listening to right now.

I spoke this before you're listening to it.

And just that we can do all that is just truly a miracle.

So the more you can appreciate the more you can connect with the miracle of everything around you the more love you get to experience and the more fulfilling it will be for you.

So it's just great to talk to you again and looking forward to doing more podcasts and looking forward to having you some of you on my podcast.

So that'll be great and would love to hear any comments that you have or responses to this podcast.

And also invite you to share this with other people.

I mean let's spread the word and start to get more people just opening up some of these ideas.

So once again have a great evening.

Take care.

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