Healing the inner child process.
I encourage you to find a comfortable position and relax each time you listen,
So that you can allow these powerful and positive messages to bring you the greatest healing benefits possible.
The image of your inner child is a vehicle or tool to help you connect with your emotions and communicate directly with your subconscious mind.
One of the reasons it works so well is that you actually were a child physically in your past and the image helps you to activate the emotional memory of yourself as a child and those otherwise subconscious processes.
Your mind is brilliant and imagery and visualization provide a way for you to use your brilliance in a whole new healing way.
Your imagination is the creative mechanism of your mind,
So I want you to use it freely in this process.
There is much more to you than you have ever dreamed and your ability for healing,
Recovery,
Rejuvenation and joy are tremendous.
Images of your inner child can represent in ways that you have been hurt and wounded.
These images will appear sad,
Lonely,
Afraid or deeply traumatized according to which memory they are connected with.
They will usually appear curled up in a fetal position or sitting slumped over with their head down.
Trust the image that reveals itself to you.
The pictures you see in your mind's eye always have the best information for you.
In this healing process,
You will be finding helpful and nurturing ways to heal the wounded child within and to reconnect with the innocence,
Healing and goodness of your original child,
Who you were.
You will slowly but surely reconnect with the pure innocent child within that remains untouched by painful and harmful experiences.
Find a comfortable position.
Sit back and close your eyes.
Take a deep,
Relaxing breath and feel the tension leave your body as you settle into a place of self-reflection and healing.
Take another deep breath and be aware that with each breath you take,
You become more deeply relaxed and at ease.
Feel yourself drifting peacefully and relaxed deeper and deeper into a comfortable,
Safe place within yourself.
You can feel yourself becoming more relaxed now with each new breath.
Your body is breathing a sigh of relief as you just let go and settle into a deeper sense of ease and comfort.
Your mind and heart are becoming free from worry and a warm,
Peaceful sensation is growing within your chest.
You can feel your entire body breathing a sigh of comfort and relief as you drift further into a deep,
Soothing peace.
Allow any tension you find to be there and feel it slowly drifting away as you release your breath.
Now imagine a circle of warm,
Soft light at the top of your head.
Slowly feel that circle expand to spread across your head and face.
Soothing and caressing your skin as it gently relaxes all the muscles in your face and forehead.
Feel the warm waves of relaxation continue to drift easily and naturally down into your neck,
Then quietly spreading across your shoulders.
Notice the tension leaving your body as you take another deep,
Cleansing breath.
The mild,
Comforting waves of relaxation are spreading down your arms and across your chest now.
Washing away any distress,
Tension,
Or discomfort that was there.
Your entire torso is feeling more comfortable and more relaxed as the waves of comfort and ease spread further down your body.
Your hips and stomach are feeling the relaxations spread and wash through them,
Bringing soothing comfort naturally and easily into your upper legs and thighs.
As this feeling of letting go continues,
Notice how it slowly spreads across and around your knees,
Your lower legs and calves.
Now the warm waves of relaxation are reaching your feet and you notice how all the tension that was in your upper body is leaving through your toes.
Giving you a general sense of quiet,
Calm,
And ease.
Now imagine that you are traveling back in time into your own memories.
Your past experiences that you are entering are here with you now in your mind's recollections.
You are totally safe and in charge as you travel back into your own personal history to bring comfort,
Healing,
And reassuring to your younger self.
Remember a time from your childhood when you needed help,
Comfort,
And love.
It may be a time when you were deeply hurt,
Traumatized and afraid,
Or a time when you were alone and felt that you had no one to turn to.
As the adult you are today,
Travel back to that time,
That town,
And that situation and calmly,
Confidently look for that child that was you back then.
When you find the image of the child,
Approach slowly.
Pay attention to details as you go.
Notice the house,
Building or room.
The feeling of being in that building,
House,
Or room.
Notice the colors of the walls.
Notice the sensations in your body.
If you're indoors or the surroundings are there plants,
Other people.
If you're outdoors,
What was the weather like?
Remember you are yourself as the present day adult in this exercise.
You're not becoming the child.
You're observing the child.
If you have trouble seeing an image of your younger self,
Take your time and allow the child to reveal itself to you when it's ready.
If there is an adult in the room that was an abuser,
Were they critical or hurting the child,
In any way turn your attention to the adult.
With no aggression,
Just pure power of right and good,
Approach that adult.
Then hold up your open hand towards them and say,
Stop,
No more,
You're wrong,
You have to go now.
Then as if they were a force field of justice and goodness emanating from your hand,
Move that person away from your child self.
And keep moving them away until they are completely gone.
If you have difficulty with this,
Don't worry,
You'll get there with repeated efforts.
Now return to the hurt,
Frightened child.
The child might be afraid of you,
Or frozen or numb.
That's okay.
If the child seems afraid or disconnected in any way,
Just say,
I know you don't trust me yet.
That's all right.
I'm here.
And I'm not going to leave you.
Anything you feel is okay with me.
Be patient and hold your position at a distance that seems comfortable to the child.
Just like a real child,
Your inner child will warm up to you when it is clear that you're going to be steady and present.
Simply revisit the image until you feel the child is ready to connect with you.
When it feels right to you,
Take the child in your arms and hold them softly to your chest.
Or if it feels better,
Sit by the child's side or hold both their hands in yours and look into their eyes.
Once you have made some kind of positive physical connection with the child in your imagery process,
Say these words directly to the child.
It wasn't your fault.
You didn't do anything wrong.
You are good.
You were just a child doing what children do.
I love you exactly like you are.
And I will never leave you.
If the message is really getting through,
You will see the child relax.
And you will feel this relaxation in your own body.
Keep working with this process until you feel a comfortable connection between you and the child.
Now take the child to a safe,
Healing place.
This can be a place in your imagination or a real place that actually exists.
It needs to be somewhere that the child would be comfortable.
It may be a place for the child to play,
To rest,
Or to be cleansed and healed.
If the memory you are working with involves being touched inappropriately,
Such as physical or sexual abuse,
You might want to give the child a warm cleansing bath to cleanse away any bad or dirty feelings.
Just conjure up some fresh,
Warm water,
Or perhaps a pool of warm water fed by a waterfall or grounded spring,
Gently,
Slowly cleansing the child's body in all those places where they were hurt.
Spend time with your inner child in this healing place.
Tend to their wounds.
Hold the child.
Rock them in your arms.
And tenderly caress and nurture this precious,
Wounded child.
When this feels complete and you're ready to transition,
Bring the child into the present moment with you.
Whether you are right now,
If that doesn't feel safe,
Or you're not quite ready,
You can leave the child in a healing place for a while.
Just imagine yourself as the adult you are today,
Staying there to watch over and protect them until they're ready to join you in your normal life.
When you do bring the child into your present moment,
Feel their small,
Warm body in your arms,
And gradually allow the child's body to merge with yours,
As if it were actually moving into your heart.
That is,
After all,
Where your inner child lives.
Now together,
The two of you look back at the memory where the child was hurt,
Alone,
Abused,
And notice that place is empty.
The child is no longer stuck.
The child is with you now.
The child is safe.
The child is in a place of belonging.
If your present environment is a safe,
Loving place with healthy relationships,
Then show the child around your present home and life,
Saying,
This is your home now.
I'm so glad you're with me.
You come first from now on.
I will always make sure your needs are met before I focus on the needs of others.
As you hold and welcome your inner child into your life,
Be aware that you are this child and your adult self all at the same time.
You are vulnerable,
Innocent,
Open,
Creative,
And spontaneous as the child.
And you are also responsible,
Strong,
Loving,
And capable as an adult.
You have everything you need in order to be whole and complete.
