Be Grateful

This talk is about discussing the resistances we might feel about gratefulness and it's also talking about the process our mind might go through when receiving something to be grateful for. It talks about how gratefulness is about what you have in the present and not what you want in the future. It talks about the importance of being grateful as the world mirrors us our internal feeling.

Transcript

Hi!

So today I wanted to talk about gratefulness and what is behind it really,

What is happening inside of us,

In our minds and hearts when we think of the word grateful.

What are the processes that happen and why is it important to be grateful?

My own story with gratefulness is that I had heard of it but I never really took it seriously until it started to call out for my attention more and more.

You know how sometimes you hear of something but then don't pay much attention to it and you until you hear it repeatedly and then you're like okay I should definitely look into this it's obviously trying to get my attention.

So when I started paying more attention attention to the concept of being grateful I felt resistance to it because I felt that if I were to be grateful then that thing that I'm grateful for it would be taken away from me.

I was afraid that if I acknowledged something of value to me it would be taken away from me.

When I told my friend about this fear she was surprised.

So I'm curious what's your resistance to gratefulness if you have any?

Do you have any?

What's your thing?

How do you feel about being grateful?

Does it come easy naturally to you?

Do you have any belief systems that are surrounding gratefulness?

Let me know I would love to know.

Message me or leave me a message on this talk or however you want.

For me personally my journey with gratefulness started you could say with a gratefulness journal which was an excellent tool that I really recommend for anyone to use.

The prompts there were not simply I am grateful for and dot dot dot but they were different and genuinely showing up almost each day and writing something in that journal using those beautiful prompts.

It was a great practice and at first my body response to that was to feel uncomfortable but it was a great tool for me to ease into gratefulness and it was a great start so I definitely recommend that as a starting point to anyone who's looking to start somewhere.

So why is being grateful important?

From my own life I have an example of when I didn't appreciate my current experience back then.

I wasn't grateful for it and I ended up sabotaging it because I didn't know what I had because I had never paid enough attention to it.

I never took the time to look at it and acknowledge it for what it was really like all the beautiful things that it gave me.

I didn't appreciate it I wasn't grateful for it because I felt like I didn't deserve it.

Would I have made a different decision that wouldn't sabotage experience if I had appreciated?

Maybe,

Who knows.

I think gratefulness goes a long way.

Gratefulness is something that we can choose to reframe our experience.

By being grateful we say I deserve.

Gratefulness is something that is talked a lot about these days and at the core of it really is the deservingness part.

Am I good enough to have this?

If I'm grateful then it means that I accept it as mine and I say thank you.

It means being humble too.

Another resistance of mine was that if I'm grateful that means that I accept something less than what I want which is not at all the case because it's about being grateful for what you already have.

Gratefulness has nothing to do with what you want.

It has everything to do with what you have.

Imagine if you want ten apples and somebody gives you two.

Do you think they are going to give you the rest of the eight if you throw the two away that you already have?

You already have things in your life to be grateful for.

The air you breathe,

Being alive,

Having a body,

Being able to experience this life,

Being able to experience nature.

There are so many things to be grateful for in this life for all of us.

Imagine now if you would take the things that you are grateful for and you would add to it.

How would that make you feel?

If you took what you already had and multiplied it by ten,

Hundred or even a thousand that would feel super good right?

So coming back to the example of apples thinking oh but it's not enough is a lack mindset.

Instead what we focus on is that we do have it.

Just saying thank you.

Lack mindset is treating those two apples with no appreciation because it's not ten.

Does it make sense?

No.

Because when you receive the two apples instead of appreciating them you're focusing on what you don't have.

Why?

Because the current reality doesn't match the desired one.

Does that mean that the two apples are at fault?

Imagine how they feel the apples.

Absolutely not.

They are not at fault.

Gratefulness is about the present and it's about being present.

If you want the ten apples and if you have two,

If you have received two,

What do you do?

You go and get the rest of the eight or you wait for the rest of the eight to come to you if you're expecting them to come from the same source or if another person comes along and offers you the rest of the eight you say yes because that's what you want.

And basically you say thank you for the two and I know that the rest will come my way in this moment or another one and I'll make sure that I get the rest and I'm grateful for the two and I will go and get the eight that I want and I'm grateful for the two.

You know what I mean?

It's about the feeling as well.

How does it make you feel?

Is the universe going to give you more of that or less?

If you focus on the feeling that you get from what you have,

There is more of it that comes your way.

If you tune into that feeling of appreciation and bliss and just joy of having those two apples,

You're gonna get more of that.

The universe responds on what you put out there.

You're showing it how much you value what you have.

And you know,

Same goes with other life experiences.

Any negative emotion that you might have about something,

Just be grateful.

Someone humiliated you and made you feel bad,

Be grateful for the opportunity to take your power back and not let that affect you.

You made a mistake,

Be grateful for the learning opportunity.

You don't have something,

Focus on what you do.

Why would you focus on lack when you can focus on abundance that is already there?

Why?

Think about it.

It's a training of the mind to train it to focus on what we do have.

Because the mind is wired to fix problems.

But in reality,

The universe works in a way that it reflects our internal state back to us.

So when we're focusing on lack,

Which is what the mind tries to do sometimes,

More often than not,

That's what we get in return.

If we focus on abundance,

That's what we get as well.

There is fear in letting go of the control of the mind.

Because if I let go,

What is going to happen?

If I don't worry,

If I don't focus on the bad,

Like,

That's what the fear says.

What is going to happen?

So the answer to being grateful is trust.

Of letting go of the control of the mind.

Because it's way better to focus on what you have and trust and go for what you want.

Gratefulness is in the present moment and it's about you tuning into that feeling of the abundance that is all around you,

That is already here.

And it's saying about the fact that you are good enough,

You deserve it.

And you know,

Whatever other stories you might have about gratefulness,

It's about really learning how to be grateful.

And it's the best way,

One of the best ways to view life or anything that happens to us.

Because there is opportunity everywhere.

Let me know how do you feel about gratefulness and being grateful.

Do you have any assumptions,

Any ideas about it beforehand?

What has been your experience?

Are you completely at ease with it or not?

Let me know.

I would love to know.

Have a nice day.

I'm so grateful for you listening to this and to this beautiful community on Insight Timer.

So grateful for all the people that I've connected with and I would love to connect with more with you as well.

Feel free to follow me or,

You know,

Check my about,

My bio.

There are links that you can connect with me on there.

And just I'm grateful for you.

Thank you for existing.

Thank you for being you.

Thank you for making this world a better place,

Really.

Thank you for hearing this and listening and being here.

Thank you.

I love you so much,

All of you.

Bye bye.

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