Thriving As An Empath 4: How To Be Grounded As An Empath

As an intuitive and empath, we are tapping into the unknown, unseen world around us. This can cause us to feel very disconnected, almost dizzy sometimes as we struggle to "find ground" and understand how we fit into the world around us. Talk #4 of a 9-Part Series

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So today we're continuing our series all about thriving as an empath.

And today's focus is how to be grounded as an empath.

And this is really important because all humans are empathic.

It's how we're designed to truly communicate with each other.

Our most truthful,

Complete way of communicating is actually whole body,

Mind,

Spirit.

And so this follows,

It flows through the empathy channels,

The energy,

The aura,

The telepathy.

This is actually our natural wiring.

But everybody has different focuses in life.

I do something called an energy grid,

Which is similar to an astrological chart.

Not really,

But it's in the same realm.

And for example,

Some people,

It kind of charts you through your chakras.

And that's not what I am not selling that here.

I'm just saying some people are heavily wired,

Like there's a lot of planets in sort of the upper chakras,

For example.

And this isn't across the board,

But people are wired in different ways.

And so some people are heavily wired to be focusing on being empathic,

To be really focusing on connecting with others,

To be really that that community connection is really,

Really,

Really important.

And whereas other people,

They have other other focuses in life that they're really meant to be doing.

You know,

That one on one connection,

That connection of people,

It's just not their assignment this time kind of idea.

We all develop it over time.

But some of it,

It's really acute.

It's like if you had an astrology grid done,

Like for me in my astrology reading,

I think I have something like five planets in the house of service,

You know,

Which is why every job I've ever had,

Has always been in service.

Like it's just doesn't matter.

Like,

It wouldn't matter whether I was teaching spiritual things.

I kind of think the next job I'm going to have is serving coffee.

Like I just that's just my wiring.

You know,

So everybody has different wiring.

And if you're heavily wired into the empathic,

Telepathic connections,

Those those spirit not spiritual,

But non physical communion with others,

Life can be really confusing.

And what happens is,

If you imagine,

We end up being very focused in this non physical unseen world,

And we can get very lost there.

And so on the one hand,

It's really important that we do focus on that,

That we do hone those gifts that we do utilize them for the benefit of our own life to the benefit of the others.

So it's not that we're supposed to squash it.

But the problem is if we aren't grounded.

So if you imagine if you look at your body,

If you take the seven chakras,

The bottom chakra at your perineum is Mother Earth incarnate.

This is us manifest on the planet.

It is as grounded as you get and I mean literally grounded your physical life,

Your day to day life,

Your connection in the village.

And as you move through the chakras,

You come all the way up to the crown chakra,

Where we are literally connected to infinity.

You cannot touch it,

You cannot direct it,

You cannot even describe it.

This is all within us.

Within this human being,

We are equally infinite and indescribable and equally finite and physical.

And these are difficult things to blend together.

But it always reminds me of this ancient Chinese symbol for human,

Where it's actually two characters and the top character is heaven and the bottom character is Earth.

And when they come together,

This creates a human.

So we are designed to be the intersection of heaven and earth.

The challenge when we're heavily wired for empathy and telepathy and that kind of thing.

Again,

Everybody is but some are more,

You know,

There's just it's a higher development or whatever.

It's like everyone could run but some people are marathon runners kind of idea.

The problem is,

Is we can get so connected in the heaven part,

We're completely disconnected from the physical part.

And then we're not functional.

This isn't functional.

The human is both.

We incarnated on this earth in these bodies,

On the ground in villages in communities.

So it's really important to have both,

But as with all things,

It's the same thing.

Like let's say you're super grounded.

And you're super practical.

And if you know if it's not of any earthly good,

Then it's not of any earthly good.

Or if I can't see it,

It's not real.

Some people are super,

Super grounded.

Well,

It's really a benefit for them to imagine other possibilities.

So it's always about this balance.

So today's talk is all about,

Yeah,

But how do you get grounded?

Because we talk about this all the time in spiritual communities have to be grounded,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah.

And I say blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Because that's what it sounds like to me.

You know,

It's like you need to spend time in nature,

You need to walk barefoot,

You need to and all these things,

But none of it works.

If you are spinning,

Because you are feeling the emotions of other people.

The fact that you went walking in the woods on the weekend might help a little bit.

But it doesn't actually help you go to work on Monday.

They still drive you crazy.

It still is like I just want to stay home and just only have my one friend that comes over.

And I totally get that.

So we really need to figure out,

But practically,

Assuming we're going to live in the world,

How do we circulate this beautiful intuition and communication that we can have through empathy and telepathy,

And actually circulate it through our entire being,

Throughout all the chakras,

Throughout all our relationships,

Through our work,

Through our children,

Through our parents,

Through the real stuff of life.

And that is what I really want to talk about today.

Because when we can truly ground,

What that means is we are a better empath.

When we actually ground,

Our empathy should become easier.

That's the trick.

So if let's say you have something you do to ground,

You have to ask yourself,

Does it work?

Do I feel better when I do this?

Or is it just something that someone wrote in a book?

Does it work?

That's so,

So important.

And it's a huge challenge because the reality is the world is crazy.

The world's nuts.

And it's emotionally,

Extremely immature.

People are,

They may be 50 years old,

But they're kind of acting like angry 12 year olds half the time.

Even like we talk about sex and relationships.

I mean,

Half the time we're like,

We're like animals in heat and we're completely driven by this massive desire for sex and love and blah,

Blah,

Blah,

And all this stuff.

And this is really important.

But it shouldn't be driving us like wild horses to the point that we're not conscious.

And so this is the world.

You know,

Whether we look at the pornography industry or everything else,

The reality is the world is nuts.

So if you're sensitive to that,

It's really easy to almost stay in the dysfunction of being a sensitive empath.

Because we can easily say,

Well,

Obviously,

I can't,

You know,

People are crazy.

I don't want to go out because the world is crazy and I'm a sensitive person.

It's really easy to say,

But I'm justified because the world's nuts.

But where does that leave us?

It leaves us in our own house,

Kind of not being able to go out,

Not being able to take that opportunity or do that job or be part of the community.

And it can lead to a lot of loneliness and a lot of feeling that we really don't belong.

Like we're really not part of the fabric of humanity.

And then this sort of exacerbates and makes it worse and worse and worse and we become more and more and more sensitive.

And so then the whole point of this series is how to thrive as an empath,

How to take your life,

Your incarnation,

Because the bottom line is whatever it is you're put here to do,

It isn't to be an empath.

That's not it.

Your point is to have fun,

Enjoy life,

Paint a painting,

Have a friend,

Do stuff,

Swim in the ocean.

The point is to thrive as a human.

You just happen to also be a highly tuned empath,

But it's not the point of life.

So you have this gift.

So how do you thrive with this gift?

So this is a really important thing.

Again,

This is part of the grounding,

To ground in your actual mission.

What are you really here for?

Because sometimes we like to self-identify based on our spiritual gifts.

I've told you guys this before,

But I'm going to tell you again because I like this story.

Years ago,

It had to have been like about 15 years ago,

I was sort of new in the whole healing,

Body,

Mind,

Spirit.

It was shortly after I was sick and I had so many realizations and I was seeing the world so differently and I was doing healing work with like electronic homeopathy,

Like a radionics board.

I was studying online to be a naturopath.

I was like really trying to find my niche.

I was really trying to figure out how do I fit into this alternative world.

And so of course I had all kinds of friends who were practicing Reiki and doing all these really cool things.

And one time there was a circle and it was a circle of women.

I don't know if it was a circle of women,

But there were only women there.

And Buffy St.

Marie was speaking,

Who is a very famous native woman up here in Canada.

And she sat with us in this circle and she said,

Okay,

Let's say all of us are living in a village.

What do you bring to the table that helps serve the village?

And she said,

I don't care if you're empathic,

Telepathic or a healer.

There can only be one healer in the village.

What else do you bring?

And it was so interesting because we had to be very practical.

Like we had to say,

I like caring for children.

I like doing laundry.

I like building homes.

I like protecting.

I like gathering the berries.

I like harvesting.

I like to garden.

We had to actually,

That first chakra question,

What do you love to do in that first chakra?

And it was amazing how hard it was for all of us.

And I include me in that because I was well honing myself as no,

No,

No.

My role is much more ethereal.

And I had to really think about it.

I thought,

No,

But that's,

But there's food needed and people need to care for the children and people need to thatch the roofs.

So it was really,

Really,

I'm still talking about it.

I mean,

It was probably 20 years ago.

It was so powerful.

So years ago I saw the movie A Beautiful Mind with Russell Crowe and it's this amazing movie about this mathematician and you follow his life and he's got this epic job at the government and he's decrypting,

You know,

Codes and this and that and deciphering things.

And then he's got this great friend at school that he went to university with or college with and he's just got this perfect life.

And then partway through the movie,

You find out that none of it's real,

That he was actually schizophrenic,

But he had actually created a reality in his mind that wasn't true,

But he couldn't even tell the difference.

This movie blew my mind at the time.

They'd absolutely,

I actually,

I said to my husband and my kids at the time,

I said,

I can't talk for a few days.

Like I'll be here because my kids were little,

You know,

But I said,

I need to digest this because I'm really heady.

Like this being grounded thing is really,

It means something to me personally because I'm super in the clouds,

Right?

And I like it and it's a gift,

But it's really easy for me to forget I have a body,

To forget that no,

No,

Katrina,

Be in the village.

Don't just live in your bookshelf.

What he was talking about too was how there was this,

We have this ability to create a reality in our mind that is so clear and the more invested we are in the reality we're creating,

We color it in and we create nuances in it that even we can't tell the difference whether it's real or not.

Like it becomes more real than the world we're living in.

And I remember looking at my husband going,

Have I ever even met you?

Have I created a persona or an avatar of a perfect husband and built it up into this person and this is what he would do and this is what he would do and this is what he would do and this is what he would do.

And I've overlaid this over your actual reality and now I'm just watching you fail?

Is that what's happening?

You know,

Do we do that with our children?

Do we create avatars of our children and then watch them fail because they don't live up to what we wanted them to be?

And this is the weird thing.

I'm just saying this because if you struggle because you're an empath or you're very telepathic,

You have to ask yourself,

Are you so heavily wired up here that you've actually created realities that aren't real?

And it's really interesting because we can really cherry pick in the world.

And then someone else,

And like I'm so thankful for my friends because this is why I verbally process my stuff with my friends because I will go and the mind can move at light speed.

So all of a sudden something's wrong and my mind has gone boom,

Like I am in Alphys and Torah already.

So I call a friend or I talk to my kids or somebody and I'm like,

Okay,

Here's what happened.

Here's my thoughts and here's where I am now.

Does this sound right to you?

And this is what I do and they'll go,

I think you kind of jumped too far there.

I think we need to back up a little.

I'm like,

Okay,

Where did I jump too far?

And what's really interesting is one of the final scenes in this movie.

If you haven't seen it,

I apologize for ruining it for you,

But it's still worth watching.

But one of the final scenes is he is teaching in a university.

He's a professor and this girl comes up to him I think and she says,

Professor,

Sit down and she starts asking him a question and he looks at one of the kids in his class and he asks the kid in his class,

Can you see her?

Is she real?

Because he has to double check and the kids in his class know his story.

They know that this is his thing and then I realize this is what I do.

I literally am like,

Wait,

Do you see this?

Is it just me?

Because I know the nature of my mind and how easy it is to create these worlds.

And so it's a really interesting thing to be empathic because oftentimes we can think,

You know,

People are crazy.

I can't stand it.

But then you have to actually back up and go,

Hold on,

All people aren't crazy.

If I walk into,

There's a store down the road from me called Giant Tiger.

So that's where I go a lot because I bike around.

If I went into Giant Tiger,

I could easily focus on the ones that whose auras are like pulsing with all kinds of radical emotion and they're almost like sharp pointy things coming off of their auras.

I could easily focus on them because they're like neon lights to an empath.

They're just like,

Ahhhhh.

So it would be so easy for me to focus on them.

But I'll bet you as I walk through,

I'll bet over in the corner will be a nice little granny checking out some socks and there'll be someone over there buying some apples.

And they're not neon lights.

They're actually quiet.

So it's really interesting to actually start to walk through the world and say,

Wait a minute,

Everybody isn't crazy.

There are all kinds of people out there that I can actually rest in.

I find this all the time when I teach in public to rooms full of people or something,

That there'll always be this one person that you land on all the time.

You'll be teaching,

You'll be scanning like this,

But you'll always come back to that one person that's going,

Yes,

They're nodding and it's like your heart rests in this one person.

It's just such a blessing.

So it's very similar when you're an empath to walk out the door and say,

No,

There are only calm people out there and I'm going to focus on them energetically,

Not like weird and staring at them or something,

But I'm going to focus on them and I'm going to say to myself,

You know what?

I know that there are crazy people.

I don't mean that in a bad way.

I just mean that there are people who are really lost and some people really do have real mental issues and they're on heavy medication and they're really struggling and they're really trying to find their balance.

That's really hard energy to be around,

But they're probably surrounded by five people who aren't.

Sort of that opposite of the squeaky wheel gets the most grease to kind of go like I do this all the time when I'm teaching.

It's so easy to focus on the people who don't like what you're saying.

If I'm teaching meditation,

The person in the corner that's got their arms crossed and they're just glaring at you.

It took me a little while when I started teaching to not focus on those guys,

To focus on everybody who's there.

It's the same thing as I can be here on Insight Timer and I can wonder,

Oh,

I wonder who came and left.

Oh,

They probably didn't like that thing I said.

It's like,

Who cares who left?

All that matters are the people that's here.

These are the ones that we resonate.

This is the tribe.

These are the ones that are like,

No.

We have something to share together.

So it's a really interesting thing to go out in the world and find the people where your heart rests with because they exist.

There might be more of them than the ones that spin you sideways.

I believe there are.

So this is where part of being an empath and part of grounding is first deeply connecting with your feminine side.

And this is all genders,

Right?

This is just the yin yang that we have within each of us.

And now the feminine isn't the sensitive,

Emotional woman avatar that we've been taught the feminine is for the last millennia.

The feminine isn't weak.

The feminine isn't crying in the corner.

The feminine isn't showing your emotions and all that stuff.

It's not that.

It's not a weak state.

The feminine is deep wisdom.

The feminine is what is real.

This is why emotions do live here,

But they're not kind of a childish,

Just,

You know,

I'm so out of control and I'm so sad and I'm so weak.

It's not like that.

It's when you're sad,

You're sad and you cry.

But it's not from a place of weakness.

It's from a place of response to the universe.

If you're angry,

You stand strong in your anger,

In that strong feminine,

Male or female,

Strong,

Because you honor that emotion.

You know it's real and you know that this is a valid response to the universe.

That is the strong feminine.

If you're happy,

You're so happy,

The whole world becomes happy,

Because this is your response to the universe.

Emotions are simply our truth in the moment.

We just can't let our brains get in there and get all swirly and make up stories and to create monsters out of molehills.

But the deep feminine inside every one of us says,

What is my truth right now?

That's what the deep feminine says.

The deep feminine is connected to creation.

In Kundalini Yoga,

There's a mantra that we use like,

Adh,

Such.

Adh,

In English,

We would translate it.

It's not in English,

But it's,

We would say A-A-D,

Adh.

And like you hear that sound.

This is the eternal,

The beginning,

All where all things come from.

Adh.

This is the primal feminine.

When we are extremely telepathic and pathic,

We must have practices that connect us to our deep feminine.

And it could be a yoga practice,

Kundalini Yoga,

Meditation,

Ecstatic dance,

Something that deeply connects you to your truth,

To your soul,

To that eternal,

Grounded,

Primal self.

Because then when you go out into the world and you feel an emotion,

You also have this deep feminine that says,

Is this real?

Is it mine?

Is it theirs?

Is it nonsense?

No,

It's real.

All right,

Let's look at it.

But we need to have that grounding in our deep truth to even have a center to go to.

This is part of that ground,

That this balance that if we're going to play in the unseen,

In the upper chakras,

We have to have the equal balance of being grounded in the scene.

Here's what you can't see.

Here's what you can see.

Here's when the energy,

Here's the matter.

The feminine is matter.

What's real?

How do you really feel?

Do you feel like running?

Do you feel like staying?

Do you feel like fighting?

Do you what?

Like just whatever it is,

Be honest,

Be real.

That's the feminine.

And we have to connect with that.

And we have been taught for millennia,

Every one of us,

Like all genders,

To ignore the feminine,

To work past it,

To override it with our brains.

If you imagine that the masculine is energy and the feminine is the physical that we're constantly blending and dancing with,

For millennia,

We have been told to override the physical with the mental.

This fact that we are ignoring our body,

We're ignoring our emotions,

We're not being grounded,

We've practically been trained to do it.

Because being ungrounded can just be lost in your head too.

You could just be a philosopher,

Like forget about being an empath.

You could just simply be a philosopher that's completely driven in our mind.

And of course,

There's other things to think about there because as soon as we go into our feminine,

We have to ask ourselves,

Are there other reasons why I'm not in my body?

Are there other reasons why I've been driven out of my home?

Was there trauma?

Was there sexual trauma?

Was there physical trauma?

Was there emotional trauma?

What happened?

Did you have surgical procedures done when you were a child?

What happened that you learned that the best thing is to leave your body and live in another state?

Because if that's you,

Then being an empath is really hard.

Because we have actually learned to disconnect from our body to survive.

And now the empathic world,

The energy,

The telepathy is all we've got.

And that's not how it was designed.

We aren't designed to be a disembodied head.

We are meant to be fully embodied.

And so this is where we deeply go into that feminine.

We deeply go into the mother.

And again,

All genders here.

We deeply go into that mother and say,

Okay,

We need to come back in the body.

Whatever work we need to do,

Whether it's somatic healing,

Whether it's Kundalini yoga,

Whether it's OSHO meditations,

Whether it's finding a good counselor,

Whatever it is,

We need to get back in our body.

We need to heal this or else being an empath is just going to make me crazy.

So it's extremely important to also be deeply aware of our own story and our own path.

That if there's a reason we're not grounded,

This is why we can say,

Oh,

Well,

I'm just going to go to the woods to get grounded.

Well,

That's a really gentle thing.

And sometimes going to the woods is really important.

You know,

If you work in a city or if you work in an office to go out into the woods and to smell fresh air and be in a place that is actually a natural symbiotic ecosystem is so good for our soul.

It reminds us of what's real in the universe.

It's so healthy.

But it also can be an escape from our lives.

If our family drives us crazy or if our work,

We hate our work,

Or if everything is triggering us all over the place,

We may escape to the woods.

This isn't grounding.

At some point in our journey,

We need to enter that deep feminine and begin that journey of healing and integrating back into our bodies.

The other side of the feminine is the masculine.

The feminine and the masculine,

If we're not speaking of them together,

Then we're not actually speaking about the masculine and feminine.

So if we're going to go deep into the feminine this way,

There has to be an equal response in the masculine as well.

We have to stay in balance.

So if we go deeply into the feminine this way,

And we start to realize things,

We also need to have that masculine side.

And we may be strengthening it at the same time as we're strengthening our feminine.

We need to have that masculine energy that rises and says,

Okay,

Let's do something about this.

Let's find someone that can help us.

Let's protect ourselves from people who are hurting us.

Let's leave if I don't like this situation.

We need to know if we're going to go deep into the feminine,

We need to know that the masculine is there to respond to that feminine wisdom.

Otherwise there's no point going into the feminine.

If we're just going to go in and dive and just stay in the hole,

There's no point.

That's not feminine.

That's just despair.

Feminine wisdom is only there for its counterpart in the masculine to take action in our lives so that we can heal.

And it's the same thing like this balance of the masculine and feminine in thriving as an empath.

You know,

You're walking through your life and things are difficult and you go,

Whoa,

Or you walk into a room and it's just like walking into a dust bowl of wild energy and you're like,

Holy mackerel,

What is going on here?

The deep feminine says,

Hold on a minute,

You kind of close your eyes and you go,

And then all of a sudden your eyes will scan and you will find someone in the room inevitably who is causing the problem.

There'll be somebody stirring the pot or something going on,

Or maybe you can't tell,

You can't tell what's actually going on.

You can't sort it,

But maybe it is the full moon.

Maybe something weird is going on with Jupiter.

I have no idea.

But all you know is,

Whoa,

Something weird is going on,

But it doesn't throw us off.

It's just an awareness that this place is right sideways.

So maybe you find another room to go to,

Maybe you go outside for a bit,

Maybe you head for the snack table and get some food into the ground,

You know,

Because this is one of the challenges too.

If we don't find ways of naturally grounding,

For example,

Exercise,

Exercise is the best way to ground in our bodies,

Because this body is my most intimate manifestation of self.

I can ground in the village,

Which we'll talk about and all that,

But first grounding in this body,

First maybe through that honoring of the emotions,

But remembering that this body matters.

And when we eat food,

To ask ourselves,

What does my body want right now to actually respond to my body,

Have a communication with my body,

To listen to her.

We can say all we want,

Like,

Oh,

No one listens to me and blah,

Blah,

Blah.

It's like,

But do you listen to you?

Do you actually listen to your body?

Do you actually listen to your emotions?

Do you actually listen to the fact that you're tired?

Do we listen to our feminine?

Do we ground?

Like this is grounding.

The very idea of listening to our feminine truth about anything.

If we're feeling sluggish,

Do we get up and go for a walk?

This is the whole thing.

The feminine feels,

Oh,

Wow,

I feel so sluggish.

Does our masculine get our shoes on and get outside in the sunshine?

We need to actually take action.

We need to be in our bodies.

It's so easy to be disembodied head,

Disembodied spirit.

We don't need to be a disembodied spirit.

We can do that when we're dead.

We can do that in the ethers.

For some reason,

We are here.

We are incarnate right now.

Another really important part of that first chakra is in many ways,

The first chakra is nature.

So connecting with nature is really important,

But we don't live in nature.

We live in the village.

We live in the city.

We live in the town.

We live wherever we live.

We live in a rural setting,

Whatever.

We need to connect with the other people.

We need to connect with,

I'm just going to keep saying the village because that's also first chakra.

Human beings are social creatures and not because we have to be social like extroverted and parties and stuff like that,

But we do connect with other humans.

It's really healthy.

So the question becomes,

How do I get out into the world and connect with the village?

Maybe it's getting a job.

Maybe you haven't worked for a while or maybe you've never worked.

Maybe you've always had money and you've never had to work.

Talk about like not being grounded.

I know a lot of really,

Really wealthy people who have,

They work,

Maybe they sit on this board or they sit on that board or they do a little bit of work here and there,

But they've never had to work.

And so there's this complete again,

Disembodied head thing going on because there's no requirement to connect into the village.

Let's see,

What kind of advice would you give someone who is extremely wealthy and they kind of lived in their mansion and I know I have friends who are like this and they live very,

Very well off,

But they don't feel connected to the village.

What would we tell them?

I remember saying,

If you want to really connect with the village,

Then find a cause that you're really passionate about.

Maybe it's children or homelessness or drugs or something that's really a struggle,

A real struggle in your community.

And instead of just writing a check,

Get on the boots on the ground,

Get down there and actually meet people and talk to people and not from a high and mighty place,

But from a human place.

Like get in with the people.

And when you start connecting with the people about things that you're passionate about,

You are now part of the community.

You are now woven into the community.

You are grounded.

You are now a part of.

Wealthy or not,

It could be volunteering.

It could be reading at an old folks home.

It could be shoveling your neighbor's driveway.

It could be anything.

It could be volunteering at the theater or working part time over there,

Whether you need to or not.

But there is something so powerful and literally grounding about being a part of the community in some way.

It doesn't matter how it is.

This is where I mean it has to be practical.

The groundedness has to be in your life,

Part of your life.

How do you connect to the earth?

How do you connect to the village in your day to day life?

That's what makes all the difference because then suddenly all of our empathy and telepathy makes sense because we're surrounded by people that we want to connect with,

That we want to be able to intuit their desires and their needs in some way that we can serve them and we can help.

It's like having a shepherd,

Not a shepherd,

An Australian sheepdog.

An Australian sheepdog has to work.

They have to herd.

You have to give them a job.

And as soon as we're actually in the village,

Connecting makes sense.

But it's so because we get so focused on the bright,

Shiny,

Painful ones,

We tend to withdraw from society.

We tend to try to work from home.

We don't want to be out there because it's just too,

It's not even just that it's painful.

It's no fun.

Like I totally get it.

It's just no fun to play in a lot of people's worlds.

So the key is to find the places you do like playing.

Like one of my sisters,

She's an animal psychic.

She actually can talk to dogs and animals.

She's just amazing and she just really recently discovered this.

Actually weirdly enough,

Taking my tantra course years ago,

She suddenly realized that she could talk to animals and they could talk back to her and she was like,

So crazy.

But she also easily would prefer just to be with her dogs and go hiking and work by herself because she just doesn't get people.

She doesn't understand where they're coming from and it's exhausting to talk to them.

It's a completely understandable situation.

And she's been volunteering at this animal rescue north of Toronto called Dog Tales.

Apparently they have like a TV show and an Instagram and all kinds of,

I don't know,

It's really cool.

She's been volunteering there for the last couple of years.

Well,

Of course,

She's meeting people who she clicks with.

She's meeting the coolest people and she talks to the horses now and she talks to the pigs and she talks to the chickens and she talks and she's surrounded by people who are just like her and who get how empathic she is and they love her gifts and she has this place for them to go.

So suddenly now she goes out for lunch with this person and there's these persons,

These people and she's so enjoying it and she's really part of the village.

So it's a very interesting thing to actually look into our lives and say,

What's one thing I could do to get out in the village?

One day a week.

Because without that we really can easily feel extremely isolated.

And I actually,

When I was a child,

I knew someone who was a hermit,

A genuine hermit.

He lived in a shack in the woods.

When the only human contact he had was this friend of my parents and every so often we would go over there when I was a child and he would be there,

Max would be there and he would recite Robert's service,

Which is why I memorized the cremation of Sam McGee when I was like eight years old.

But that's not everybody's thing and he liked being a hermit.

And the question is,

It's all about does this make you thrive,

Not does it protect me from the world,

But does it allow me to thrive?

So that really becomes the question.

The last thing I want to mention is the other part of being out in the village is to stay connected to other people,

To find people that you really do feel comfortable with.

And again,

If you don't have anyone,

It might come from connecting out into the village.

But one of the great challenges is sometimes when we're extremely sensitive to energies in the world,

We may not know what's going on in the world.

If we don't know,

If we're not aware,

We may have all kinds of experiences that we internalize that aren't ours to internalize.

On the day that the twin towers crash happened,

My kids were really little.

Like it was,

What was that like 2001 maybe so my kids were four and two,

Five and three,

They're really little.

So,

We were on the farm and we were walking out the lane to get the mail.

And so,

We're totally isolated.

Like we live in the middle of nowhere.

We don't have TV.

Like I think we did have TV with three channels.

That's right,

We had three channels,

But there was no internet and all that stuff.

I was walking to the end of that lane way to the mailbox.

On the way there,

All of a sudden it was like a knife jabbed into my stomach and I curled over and I fell onto the ground and it was like there's this knife in my stomach.

It was so overwhelming.

Like I was completely incapacitated.

So I told Aaron,

My son,

I said,

Just go get the mail and we'll just go back to the house.

So I kind of limped back to the house.

I drew myself a bath and I said to the kids,

Okay,

Just go watch TV.

Mommy's really in pain right now.

And so,

Aaron turned on the TV and I'm like lying in the tub and my gut is just being ripped apart,

Like just ripped apart.

And all of a sudden Aaron walks in,

He says,

Mommy,

There's nothing on TV except for these planes hitting these buildings.

Every channel,

It was only three channels.

I thought,

It's weird.

So I got out of the tub and I went and I looked and I saw what had happened and all the pain went away.

And it was so interesting.

And again,

I could be connecting dots that don't connect,

But what it felt like in the moment was somehow I had experienced some part of that.

But there was something about knowing what it was that alleviated the pain for me.

And I believe there's something to that around being empathic.

That if we are isolated for too long,

Things become extremely painful.

And it's really important sometimes to get out into the world and talk to friends,

Belong to a group,

Do something.

And then you find out,

Wait,

Everyone else is feeling a little off too.

And there's something so relieving about knowing it's not just you.

I don't understand how that works.

But I've had it that you just wake up and you're just sideways.

Then I call a friend and my friend's like,

Oh my God,

I didn't sleep at all last night.

Oh,

Like emotionally,

My whole body relaxes.

But it's not just me.

I don't know why.

So this is why that it's so important to be connected out into the world out into people out into the village.

Somehow we have to allow this energy to flow top to bottom throughout all the chakras.

Or else I'm not sure what the benefit of being an empath is.

I mean,

It's literally about connecting with others.

That's what empathy is.

And it's almost like if we don't have someone to actually use the empathy on,

It's like it circles back and destroys us or something or it reads our own brain and it creates an entire universe unto itself because it just doesn't know what else to do because there's not another person to be empathic with.

So very interesting finding our personal way to really be grounded with this.

If you have any questions,

I'd be happy.

What question do we ask to know our grounding?

I would ask what would sound fun to you?

I was living in a little town four years ago,

Stratford,

Ontario.

And I didn't know anyone.

And I again,

I was just teaching and totally living in my head.

And really,

And again,

I'm not I don't tend to be a very physical person because I just not terribly grounded.

Not naturally.

And so I really wanted to be out in the village.

I wanted to be out in the community.

And I love classical music.

And so I decided to volunteer for the symphony.

I thought,

Wow,

Wouldn't that be fun?

Even if all I did was hand out brochures and tell people where the bathroom was and show people where their seats were.

And I don't know,

There was just something joyful about the idea of hanging out with people who are going to the symphony.

And maybe it'd be joyful to volunteer at a zoo because you love animals and love being outside.

That's an interesting question.

If you closed your eyes and you said,

Okay,

Where's the perfect place for me to volunteer or work or live or whatever that would really allow for me to ground to be part of the village?

And you close your eyes and you ask,

Am I inside or outside?

Oh,

I'm outside.

Am I with lots of people or am I with one person?

Oh,

I'm with lots of people.

Am I in the city limits or out of the,

You know,

And just kind of keep asking yourself binary questions that are kind of this or this or this or this and just see what you come up with.

And then you just sort of put it out to the universe to say,

This is what I love.

And then it always appears that we have to kind of put it out there.

You know,

It's like Abraham Hicks.

They'll say,

Just put out the question and let the universe fill in the details.

But we just have to put it out there.

And then inevitably someone will say,

Hey,

You know,

I could really use some help doing this.

You know,

My daughter and friend,

They started the new pride chapter here in Huron County and they're desperate for volunteers for their drag bingo event coming up.

There's so many,

There might be,

There's an Oktoberfest event coming up.

I'll bet they need help for tear down.

You know what I mean?

Like there's,

It's so interesting when she starts going,

You know,

I'd actually,

What I'd love to do,

I don't really want to do it every day or every week,

But I'd love to do it once in a while.

Maybe I'm that person that just goes out and helps people tear down the festival and clean up and maybe I just love doing that.

I love being more spontaneous that way,

But I like being that person that always shows up,

You know,

And we just sort of really honor our nature,

What we really love to do and put it out there and see what appears.

I saw this one,

I don't know where it was,

But you could volunteer to bike seniors around town.

Like they would have a bicycle with like a chair on the front and then the senior would be like wrapped in as you would go to the old age home and the senior would get it and you'd bike them around town.

Maybe that'd be fun because you're like really athletic or you want to be athletic or something,

Right?

And you live in a town that's relatively flat.

So thank you so much for being here.

Hope you have a wonderful day.

Reviews

I take great comfort knowing someone else (You, Katrina!) understands and lives the Life of an empath/telepath. You channel the clarity of language I have needed for decades! Thank you 🙏🏽🕊️♥️

You speak to my soul. Thank you Katrina.

Excellent as always Katrina! Grateful for you and your wisdom!
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These talks are amazing! I was enjoying them live, but it doesn't work with my schedule right now. I'm grateful they're recorded and posted later. I appreciate the wisdom, insight, calm energy, and presence!

That’s really intersting what you say about spending too much time alone & the energy circling back around. I was in an Indian village during covid, mostly alone & I really struggled with this. It got really intense sometimes. It balanced out significantly when I was able to get out & meet people & talk.

Very much needed reminders for myself today.
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Thank you Katrina 💜