Thriving As An Empath 3: Whose Feelings Are These?

It is an interesting journey of discerning our feelings from others. In one way "we are one" and we are also independent beings. Let's explore the value of feeling others and the importance of being able to release the feelings within because they truly belong to someone else.

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Today is the third talk in our series called thriving as an empath And you don't have to have watched the previous ones to jump in today They're all standalone,

But there are more if you want to listen to the other ones the topic of today is all about Being able to discern whether the feelings I feel inside are mine or whether there's someone else's And this is really really important because we often feel things and the hard things when we feel things If it's not ours We'll start to analyze it if we don't know that it's not ours We'll start to analyze it and we'll start to try to connect dots in our head and our stories to try to make the emotion feel reasonable So let's say I'm just walking along or I'm chatting with people and all of a sudden they feel really sad If I think that's mine,

But maybe it's not maybe it's someone's over there.

But if I think it's mine I'm gonna start to Wonder what am I sad about?

Well,

I wonder if it's that thing that my partner said earlier.

I wonder if it's this situation going on In that city over there.

I wonder if it's because of that person's situation I'll bet it's that you know,

And they oh,

You know,

I should do something about that and suddenly we're connecting dots in our head That don't belong that don't need to be connected because the emotion was never ours to begin with So then what can happen is we can start to feel a little crazy because it's almost like we're constantly Navel-gazing we're constantly going in going is it me like what am I afraid of now?

What's going on?

How come I feel so uncomfortable?

Why do I have all this anxiety?

What's you know what forget it?

I'm just gonna go and I'm gonna hide in my house and I'm not go outside Because you know as much as we say,

I think those people out there are crazy It's us that we think is crazy.

It's us that we think I can't handle it out there But none of it what if it none of its ours?

Some of it might be But not all of it and this gets really really confusing fast and also the other big thing is because emotions are something that Because in the last millennia or so the energy on the planet Has been all about oppressing the feminine and I don't mean just women.

I mean the feminine I mean emotion I mean deep wisdom.

I mean truth.

I mean I mean ignoring the body ignoring the land.

I mean oppressing the feminine right totally living in this state of separation So we've learned to bury these emotions So then all of a sudden if you're walking around and you're feeling happy then you're feeling sad Then you're feeling frightened then you're feeling anxious You're just like this is not acceptable.

This isn't it not an acceptable way to be I'm supposed to be stoic.

I'm supposed to have it all together.

I'm not supposed to be driven by my emotions This isn't right and we feel like there's something wrong with us And I mean and there's always we even see it in movies and stuff Well,

That's the overly emotional crazy person or there's that person that can't control themselves And they're just so childish and you know all this kind of thing like we really have these Avatars almost of the overly emotional person and that they're just they just it's a character flaw and all this nonsense Right,

And it's really easy to internalize that it's really easy to believe that's us so this ability this simple ability to be able to discern is This my feeling or is it someone else's is?

Foundational to really thriving as an empath So first let's imagine the context here.

Like what are we talking about?

Here?

We are we talk about how we are all one So in many ways all of us all of us here Are part of a singular consciousness?

This is this Singularity God space oneness this general consciousness say that Edgar Cayce tapped into And that we all can tap into this So it was so that was one of the great things about the matrix the movie the matrix they talk about that,

Right?

They play it out in a sci-fi way that I need to be able to fly this helicopter Tank download the data Right,

But really they're showing us that that's all we have to do to tap into that general consciousness I need to be able to do this Done I can do it.

I personally believe it's a hundred percent true I believe that whatever we ask for if we need it if we need it It's important that it has to actually be real.

It can't just be I want a million dollars.

Oh,

I got a million Oh,

That's stuff.

That's nonsense.

That's silly But when we actually need something and we ask for it,

It is downloaded a hundred percent So here we are.

We're all part of this general consciousness And what connects us?

Right once we split into duality,

Right?

We're one miss and then we all split into duality and now we're all these individual beings We are all different right here.

We all have a different DNA sequence We are all we all have a different mission a different set of gifts challenges.

Joys hopes beliefs everything Everybody here is perfectly unique and separate all the ones in some dimension we are one in this dimension that we are having a Conversation in right now.

We're separate because it's fun.

It's fun to be separate It's fun to get to experience each other It's fun to chat and joke and learn things and make love and eat chocolate and feel the sunshine.

It's fun to be in duality But we are both and it's interesting to kind of hold both of those Realities in our minds.

So now here we are.

We're all wandering around But there's a part of us that's still connected We can still feel each other Our hearts are still connected probably even our second chakras are still connected It's natural to be empathic That we feel each other's emotions.

It's natural to be telepathic that we can Intuit each other's thoughts.

I Remember reading the book mutant message down under by Marlo Morgan and it was such an interesting book and short long story short she was a New York journalist and she went down to Australia to do a story on the Aboriginals and Unbeknownst to her they you know kind of put her through something and said okay Just come follow us and then they took her on a six-month walkabout in in the outback and one of the things that was really interesting is they'd all be walking along and all of a sudden everyone would turn and they would walk this way and Then they would turn and they would walk this way and she said to her guide She said I don't understand like how can you do this and he said humans are meant to be telepathic the only reason you and he called her a mutant right that most of us are actually living as mutants of humans were not living our full human capacity because and he said because your society is based in judgment and and because you believe in judgment you believe there's right and wrong you believe that this is an okay feeling and that's not an Okay feeling and this is an okay thought and that's a not an okay thought You all guard yourself from your telepathy I Can't read your thoughts because I have too much judgment in my mind.

I'm my foundation is judgment So I'm gonna read your thoughts and I'm gonna think well,

That's not a good thought and you shouldn't be thinking that Oh my gosh,

You think that about me.

Oh,

Okay,

Whatever good bad It doesn't matter whether it's a good or bad thought the fact is that we're judging it at all and of course,

I'm also it's a double guard because I'm gonna guard you from Reading my thoughts because I'm afraid of your judgment,

Too so instead of just simply allowing thoughts to be thoughts and Just reading the field for whatever thoughts are out there.

We have to guard ourselves from each other Because we're so we are our whole society is based in judgment But imagine telepathy is natural that may just be how?

How we are struggling to integrate this frontal cortex in a healthy way that actually lets us thrive,

Right?

Like when you think about this frontal cortex and I talk about that because we're in many parts of the brain for example Like in the back of the brain here.

This is the part that they believe governs movement This part of the brain they believe governs Sound and voice and that kind of thing and I say they believe because we really don't have any idea what's going on in the Brain,

All we can do is map where there's activity when certain things are happening or if there's been an accident If you know,

Especially motorcycle accidents if part of the brain is damaged what a person can no longer do It doesn't mean we understand what's going on.

We've observed a lot So and and even neuroscientists will say that I'm not being I'm not being a jerk here But what's interesting is this part of the brain this frontal cortex is not actually developed until We're about eight nine ten years old when we actually start to be able to have abstract thought as opposed to kind of this instinctual abilities in the in the other parts of the brain So what we've done in this frontal cortex is we've Gotten all these ideas in our head like these ideas of judgment Or these ideas that emotions are bad or that sadness is bad or that anger is bad or that happiness is good and We have these ideas,

But they're all being stored up here in the frontal cortex But they're not integrated properly.

They're not integrated into reality They're not integrated into Understanding life in a way that is helpful Real like a lot of this frontal cortex is used for fantasy So this is one of the huge challenges of being empathic and to understand that all humans are empathic but we all develop different gifts and in different ways I Was thinking this morning.

I don't know why I was thinking about this this morning I was thinking but you know how in the spiritual community will say things like this is very condescending But we'll say things like oh well that person's not as far along on their journey That person's not as enlightened as this person we see things it's so funny There's a real assumption that everybody's on the same journey Really if we look out at all these people and we think that all these people are on the same journey But I'm about five miles ahead of you and that person's five miles ahead of me or whatever and it's like We're not on the same journey There's no comparison that that person's not less evolved or less enlightened than you are They're on a completely different mountain Just I don't know why I was thinking about that this morning how funny that is how we just create again This is all this frontal cortex.

Just making stuff up Like literally creating maps that we have to live according to but that aren't true so this is one of the challenges with With being empathic in this world with this frontal cortex that is not properly developed yet or not properly I imagine it like a motherboard that has to be put into a computer and connected but it's not quite connected properly Or maybe all of its not connected or maybe even some of them are crosswired or something if you imagine a herd of animals or this tribe of aboriginals and They're walking through the world And all of a sudden someone sees something There's danger they look everybody will tune into it and then everybody can make a Change they can run they can do whatever they can hide because one person saw it they all see it.

This is really valuable This does not hurt the empaths heart Because you're feeling something very real if you're sitting with a friend and And Someone they love has died or something bad has happened and your friend is hurting This doesn't hurt us as an empath This is a natural feeling and we're just simply there for our friend.

We don't run from that kind of thing,

But the world And these curious frontal cortexes Isn't properly adapted So then what happens is?

Most of the emotions that we are throwing out at the world aren't real They're actually created by our minds They're created by unresolved issues in this frontal cortex or unresolved issues even from past experience So for example you imagine So you're an empath right super power you know super sensitive and you see a child walking along the other side of the street and they're eating an ice cream cone and The ice cream cone all of a sudden drops and the child cries This isn't upsetting the child is genuinely upset because they drop their ice cream now imagine take some 25 year old and They're walking along and they're eating their ice cream and all of a sudden they trip and their ice cream falls Well initially they're like ah Okay as an empath.

We're still okay The problem is this frontal cortex gets a hold of this and goes to town and Suddenly,

It's like ah You're so clumsy.

What's wrong with you.

Why are you always so clumsy?

Why are you always such a loser?

What are you doing?

You know what if this is my mom's fault It's because she always said this thing and she just cut my feet off from me all the time You know and you know what else my last husband.

That's what they were like too,

And they Imagine the emotional cloud that's coming off of this person There's nothing to do with reality.

They have literally jumped into seven different timelines That have nothing to do with this reality right here,

And they're emoting like Mount Vesuvius out into the world and The hard thing about these kinds of emotions these kind of false emotions these emotions that are created by the mind Because the mind can take us into any alternate timeline it wants Right if you want to feel something again if you want to go to something that's difficult whether you want to you don't want to Your mind.

It's like it has this little little Filing cabinet,

And you can just go in and go let's dive into this experience That is still unresolved or I'm struggling with and bam your whole body's feeling it It's just you're full out there this is like endemic in the world this is so common in the world that I Don't know what if the percentage is but I would say that it's a very high percentage of the emotions We feel in a day Have nothing to do with the current reality We're thinking about the past.

We're reliving something that is from another time We are projecting into the future.

We're worrying.

We're stressing out.

We're doing all kinds of things and Don't get me wrong sometimes.

It's really important to go into those dark corners to heal,

But again even that's okay a Lot of people who do healing work are empaths and when you're working with someone and you get into those dark corners That's not throwing you Because they're genuinely feeling something The stories that are wrapped up around it and stuff that are creating all these other kind of rabbit holes of emotions that aren't real that that's exhausting that's crazy,

So This is another really really really really important reason to be able to discern Between is this my emotion and is this someone else's?

Because if it's not yours,

And it's someone else's there's a high probability.

It's not even real and you are responding to people could be Was a teenager We watched like young and the restless So papa's and general hospital and things like that You could sit around pissed off because victor said something to victoria or whatever their names were and Really be pissed about it and really be all jacked up about a TV show You know and in many ways a lot of us are walking around all upset about things that are as real as a soap opera So this is really really important because as an empath this is not we don't want to have to hide in our homes And I'm not judging whether or not we're caught up in things in the world.

That's just life.

This is our journey It's all good.

We all do it We all do it It's part of what we're doing here but as an empath We'll need to be able to discern and again to just simply accept it to understand it.

Okay.

I'm part of a herd most of the herd Maybe all of the herd hasn't quite figured out how to integrate this thing in their brain that can create Fantasy it can also in the positive its imagination.

It's where we Dream and build amazing things like I think the frontal cortex is genius It's what allows us to actually project into a different timeline and say here's what I want to do next week That's why children under the age of eight can't really do that They can only live in this moment the frontal cortex has amazing amazing things that are possible But we use it for all the wrong reasons like this So now if you imagine a proper context for being an empath We are part of a great consciousness.

We are emotionally and mentally connected to everyone within it Some people are really suffering and going through things Other people might not be Then I need to be really clear as to how to use this empathic ability within this tribe within this consciousness So the number one question we ask as soon as we're feeling a certain emotion is We have to ask ourselves.

Is it mine and it's that simple Maybe you're going you're walking along in here all of a sudden.

You're like wow You know our thoughts start coming into your head and you're like This is mine And you have and this is what's interesting when we play with intuition that we have to yes.

No answers are really helpful Because if it's yes your heart kind of lifts or you feel kind of light and if it's no it's no and every one of us has to Discern that how do I hear?

Yes?

How do I hear and no it's kind of like when people use pendulums?

And you have to first ask the pendulum.

What's a yes?

It's a circle.

What's a no?

It's a line You have to ask you to make sure we have to figure that out inside of us What's a yes?

What's a no?

Really really important because every one of us might feel differently you might feel a No is a certain tensing in some part of your body or maybe your lower back hurts or something like that and a yes is like a Deep breath or something like that every one of us has to figure that out and the only way we can figure it out is by playing with it is By doing it and testing it.

That's all there's no I can't explain it to you.

No one else can do it It's only through experience that we learn this and one of the big reasons that this is so hard is that as children We often naturally empathize with our parents and our siblings and whoever we were raised with and It doesn't it's not necessarily a negative thing It's just like if you were born into that aboriginal tribe It would be completely natural that you would develop the empathy and the telepathy to communicate with the tribe on mass It's very healthy But again,

We don't live in a tribe.

That is well connected in our minds and emotions and spirit so now we live in a family and Maybe maybe it's a great family.

Maybe it's a happy family total leave it to beaver family and So your desire as a child is to make your parents happy So you're always reading the emotional temperature of the room What can you do to make it happy?

What can you do to make your parents happy?

What can you do to make them proud?

What can you do to be seen very important to be seen?

How do we keep the peace?

Maybe the family really prides themselves on being very happy and joyful Well,

How do I keep doing it no matter what or maybe?

We live in a family where there's alcohol abuse or drug abuse.

Maybe there's violence Now we're actually tuning in to the whole to stay safe To know I mean you kind of walk in the door and you almost like you just feel your whole heart just sink and you're like oh and Then you go Maybe I'll go out for another hour and you close the door and you don't even walk into the house.

We Develop this ability to feel What's going on in the family and this is natural?

It's a very natural thing the challenge again is this frontal cortex and This challenge that so many emotions don't actually reflect or so many people's actions don't reflect their actual emotions So let's say for example One of your parents was actually hurt hurting but they drank a lot and Because of the drinking they would be violent or they would be mean So now as an empath you've got this anger coming in this violence coming towards you whether it's emotional mental or physical or sexual or whatever But what you feel as the empath as the child because as children we're still kind of part of the herd We're not disconnected yet What we feel is pain or sadness This is wiring inside of us that if I feel sadness or pain in someone There could be an emotional outburst and I could get hurt You know,

So it's really important to be able to understand the journey.

We've taken so far as a soul and If that's the home we were raised in and we don't have to wish we had it differently or anything like that We just have to be aware That I have been wired to believe that if someone's sad they might snap and do something to me or Someone might be drinking and I can't trust what they're gonna say or do like this is just important information to know And then we can unpack it and then especially as an adult say okay That's not true actually Sadness doesn't mean violence It doesn't mean they're gonna lash out But we have learned that sometimes it does And that's really valuable That can really keep us safe and that's very helpful Let's say even you're in a relationship and they are lashing out But let's say you still want to resolve it if you know this you you've seen this pattern before You've watched people lash out Then you know that there's something else underneath it.

You know that there's sadness.

You know that there's pain you know that there's hurt and you can sit there in your wisdom and Experience them lashing out And experience them lashing out and say That's not necessarily what I'm feeling and I'm not saying you should go around and read people and all I'm talking about an intimate experience Where you're trying to sort something out with someone you love Then you can say like are you sure this is how you feel?

Because my heart's breaking right now All I just feel is is so much sadness And if we can find the right words it can change the conversation and you can really talk about what's real So a lot of times the things we've experienced in our past even if they're really hard are really powerful maps to unpattern Things that happen later in our lives because a lot of people have experienced real trauma in the childhood home So it's interesting to have that witness mind to be able to really see that pattern So now let's say you're in a situation And you ask the question is it mine?

And it's a yes-no answer if it's yes Okay,

Then you can go and connect the dots and sort it out and try to understand it Talk to a friend journal talk to a counselor do something go for a run Beat pillows do whatever you got to do if the answer is no The next question is whose is it?

And if you like out in a busy street,

You'll be surprised how your head will suddenly turn and Maybe it's that person's Or maybe a face that you know will kind of flash into your head Or an awareness of someone in your life will kind of flash into your head Okay,

So maybe it's that person that you know The next question is is there something I meant to do about it?

There's some way I meant to help and again We have to if you ask it as a yes-no answer a yes-no question if the answer is no Then the answer is no For whatever reason you landed on the same frequency as them You felt it And you can release it if the answer is yes,

Then maybe you call them you say hey How's it going?

Because empathy is also a way of communicating with each other.

It is a way of calling out It's a brilliant gift as a human For example as a parent To be able to be empathic with our children When they can't explain themselves they can't save and maybe they're a baby Maybe they're a toddler or maybe they're a teenager who's struggling But to be able to have that heart connection and really feel them It's a way of them communicating with us You know and we can kind of know something's not right Something sounds not right.

We need to dig deeper.

We need to look into this something's Something's going on.

This is really really valuable And it could be anyone it could be a friend It could be someone who is it's sort of like if I was to say that someone's nonverbal I don't mean that they're you know catatonic or they're unable to speak but sometimes Sometimes life's so overwhelming That you don't even know where to start You know when you might be sitting with a friend or a partner or someone and you're just like and they're like well What's going on?

And you're like I just don't You know you've kind of maybe analyzed it to death.

Maybe you're exhausted,

And you're just like I don't even know where to start And as a friend if they've given you kind of this kind of permission to connect in this way And you you sort of close your eyes and you're like oh,

I'm not going to do this I don't know my heart's kind of just filled with pain right now Is that what's going on and then the other person can talk like you know there's a real beauty in being able to share Empathic communication with each other because life can get really overwhelming It's like When we're young if life is hard for us to be able to talk about it It's like when we're young if life is hard for many reasons it could just simply be Exclusion in high school it could be difficult siblings.

It could be difficult parents could be all kinds of things It's like we create a secondary persona That can be very aloof Or it can be protective or it can have a different persona altogether and it protects our gentle self here and a lot of times we live in this other persona for most of our life and So all of a sudden if someone's upset It could be that their persona is what's chewing that their pride is being hurt or this and that or they're angry And they're like But as an empath we're feeling the true self we feel the actual soul Not the persona we feel the soul Which is one of the great gifts of being a friend or being a loving part of family that you can really sit with someone you love and Feel the real person and Get underneath the persona and really get to the soul Yeah,

Being an empath is incredibly incredibly important and so even if you imagine yourself as part of this this tribe and You sense danger It's still important to honor that If suddenly you sense danger You can run But be aware Is it real danger is this something I learned as a child?

But you don't bury it Just because it might be something you learned as a child just because it might be a knee-jerk reaction It doesn't mean you don't honor it Because that's that's the dance right we have to we're never gonna figure it out by avoiding it We're never gonna figure out by judging ourselves.

We have to honor those instincts.

We have to honor those emotional responses That's how we sort it out all we have to do.

We just have to make sure that we know that we are sorting this out You know because it's really really important I'm the youngest and really dismissed by family in most cases How can I break through to really help or connect with family I feel them,

But they are so difficult My sense is the best thing is to Always ask is there something I meant to do right now?

Because just because I mean there's a lot of families that are really crazy.

There's a lot of dysfunction It's just reality.

It's just really really dysfunctional And it might not be ours to fix They may have to go down a hundred more roads That you don't ever want to go down So whenever things are amok you always ask within is there something I meant to do right now,

And if the answer is yes then Ask what you're supposed to do And and wait for the words to come and allow them to be different Than what you might normally say and if the answer is no Then we just take a step back and we allow The play to continue So if I have a predisposition to connect this deeply With my business partners is something we need To help them with in order to actually help myself,

Too That's what I feel That's what I feel but he sometimes says you just feel so much.

It's as if it's all story And I know that isn't accurate I may not understand your question totally But it is an interesting thing When we work in the healing world Jim who was my teacher He was so brilliant at this.

He he was really able to separate himself from other people's journeys You know in the last talk we talked about the difference between sort of creating a bubble around us so that we didn't absorb other people's stuff And the ability to be like a flow-through teabag That when we're really clear about who we are and we're really connected to our own emotions Then we understand that emotions come and go A healthy emotional pattern rises and falls We feel deeply sad and as long as we go deeply into it,

It will pass We feel grief and as long as we fully go into it,

Then it passes and this is a natural flow of emotions And it's really important when we're working with other people that When they have emotions that it flows through us the same Like that nothing gets caught inside of us It's almost like when we work as a healer It can be really dangerous because we can Take them on our system.

It's almost like we take their story We internalize the story we sort it out and it's almost like we try to process it through our own system To try to find the solution To try to find the solution And this is exhausting And this is often when we feel too much And it's a very different way of doing it when we actually Listen and trust and just simply listen for guidance as opposed to taking it into ourselves And being more the flow-through teabag It's a great challenge when we're working like intimately with with people in their emotional journey I have dealt with both siblings as a narcissist as narcissist one.

I rarely see one.

I'm in her life with strong boundaries She is great.

She has great parts too,

And I love her.

I feel I need to love her and support her because she's in pain Yet it throws me off my path sometimes I realize it's not my responsibility her journey How do you let it flow away through you without attachment?

You know,

It's a funny thing like even like philosophically to ask ourselves about this idea of attachment to another person's journey What are we attached to What are we saying Are we attached to this person?

Because I love them So I I love them and I care about them and I want them to be okay But they're hurting But that's normal We all have hurt in the past Like it's an interesting thing sometimes it's like we really have to go inside of ourselves and say Why am I so uncomfortable with them hurting?

And it's interesting too because like our society has this thing about hurting It's sort of the heavy medication thing That if i'm hurting I should take something so I don't hurt anymore I should take a pharmaceutical.

I should have a drink.

I should smoke pot.

I should take something I should buy some clothes.

I should go gambling.

I should have sex.

I should do something to stop hurting Because we don't know how to handle hurting So it's really really common To then be really uncomfortable with someone else who's hurting because we're working really hard to bury the hurt inside of ourselves And I wonder if it's a really interesting journey for all of us To really explore hurting Without any kind of medication and not don't get me wrong.

I'm not saying go off meds or anything like that.

I'm saying philosophically To look at this and ask ourselves Why are we so uncomfortable with pain?

Why are we so uncomfortable with with hurting?

Why are we not instead like Sometimes I swear A lot of the medication we're on Is just helping us stay in really painful situations You know,

It's helping us stay in painful relationships or painful jobs or painful Whatever i'm not talking about taking drugs for body pain.

I'm talking about taking drugs for Body pain things like that.

That's not what i'm talking about So sometimes I think we have a hard time feeling other people's pain Because we don't feel our own We run from it So it might just be an interesting journey to kind of look within and say what do I do with pain?

Am I okay with it?

Do I believe that there's something to be learned?

Is there something i'm supposed to pay attention to is there action?

I meant to take?

Because when we're okay with our own pain someone else can really be hurting And we can sit with them And we don't take it on Because we know for some reason it's really important It's kind of like,

You know,

Sometimes it has to hurt enough To take your hand off the hot burner Someone standing there convincing you or giving you medication so that you can't feel your hand anymore isn't helpful I think people think the pain is going to last forever.

I think so But again,

I think this comes out of a time when we didn't have a lot of choices You couldn't get divorced Your family owned you If you were born into a certain level of society you had no choice.

This was your lot in life You were controlled by the church or the militia or the family or the clan or whatever like we have a lot of deep ancestral history That if you don't enjoy the family you're living in or where you're living in this is never going to end But we don't live in that time now.

We're in 2022 we do have choice and I think that's part of the You know people were talking about Non-attachment To not be attached anymore to this false security of the herd Or the opinions of other people or will the clan still approve of me?

Or will they still feed me?

These are old old old ideas We have choice And even the people who are in pain have choice Everybody has choice We may not like the choices or we might be afraid of the choices or we may have to change in order to Do the choices but we do have choice People are afraid of pain non-acceptance And this is the challenge with the pain is that Pain is an important feeling If you step on something that's sharp pain makes us pull our foot up If we touch a hot burner pain makes us take the hand off the burner pain is really important Pain is really important if I have a broken leg Pain will make me sit on the couch until it's healed or make me go to a doctor and have it set pain is really important The pain that people are feeling That we're talking about isn't that kind of pain?

It's again this frontal cortex problem That we don't let anything go We just relive things or we We make stuff up like we'll say things like I'm in so much pain because my son is living a life.

I can't approve of or i'm in so much pain because I didn't get my way with this thing like It's it's all made up in our mind Or i'm in so much pain because my relationship broke up Well,

Yeah,

Okay.

You have to grieve for a while.

We have to disentangle our hearts from this huge experience and this huge merging with another soul And that's part of it But we have to dive into it.

We can't just we have to dive into it.

It's okay.

I'm grieving.

I'm angry We go through all the stages of of death of something The fact that we then still have residual pain That's our brain holding on to something.

I'll never find anyone else.

I'll always be alone I'll always be a loser.

I'll never have enough money Oh,

You know,

It's it's weird And we have to be so careful like I don't even sometimes know where those thoughts come from Because if we can possibly snap ourselves out of them We realize whoa,

What was I?

What was I caught in that for?

And sometimes as much as I hate to say it Sometimes people stay in pain to keep you close It's a huge manipulation tactic it's not conscious But they just desperately want someone close.

They want someone to take care of them.

They want someone to love them.

They want someone to care So they stay in a state of pain Because then our maternal instinct all gender will step in and try to care for them So it's really important for us to stay in our own lane Really listen within really pray am I meant to be here?

Am I not meant to be here?

Where am I meant to be?

Right?

Thank you so much for being here.

I hope you have a wonderful day

Reviews

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Wow! I don't think I have heard such an awakening talk before on Insight Timer. Talk about insights! What clarity and depth of understanding this brought. And the laughter was like icing on the cake!
Thank you!

This was incredible. Thanks a lot for being here sharing ur journey, your wisdom.

This empath series has been eye opening and so helpful. Thank you Katrina.

Wonderful talk 💜