Emotional Regulation: Key To Healthy & Stable Relationships

Human beings are designed to feel deeply. It's what makes life juicy and exciting, and can also cause us real trouble when relating to other people. When we are highly emotional, it is very difficult, if not impossible, to think clearly. This can make resolving issues in relationships very challenging!

Let's chat about how to regulate our emotional state, while still honouring and listening to the important wisdom our body and mind are sharing with us.

Reviews

This session is jammed packed with great words of wisdom. Thank you for sharing.

What a wonderful topic to discuss! Emotional regulation. I’ve had a fallen out with my best friend over a year ago now. It has not been easy. To this day, she still needs to stay silent with me (or recently just repeated to me the same story that seems to be playing in her mind). She is not open to share with me (nor with herself it seems) the emotional part. What she shares with me is all about me, that it’s my fault, that I did not do the right thing. At first I felt very sorry that she had been hurt by me. Then I started to answer back defensively. Then I reached into expressing genuine compassion and kindness understanding that she was in pain. I still feel a lot of love for her. But then I started to feel ok being distant. Your talk helped me understand that she is choosing to stay in the drama, she is choosing to stay in her mind about what happened between us. It seems like she still wants “the cookie”. In our past friendship, when I was walking on eggshells with her, I would always end up “giving her the cookie before dinner”. I don’t know if my friend will eventually open up with me to the real emotions she was going through. Your talk has helped me understand more clearly what is happening between us. My practices to regulate my emotions have helped me process my own emotions around this. I feel good about it. I mean I don’t feel anxious about no longer having a relationship with my friend. Thank you for bringing up such complex topics related to our humanity where the answers are neither black nor white and discussing them with us.

I listened when it was live and have replayed it several times. This talk gave me more insight about relationship than all my years in therapy. 🙏🏼