Releasing Resentment

Resentment feels heavy and stressful to carry around, but it's not like you can just "flip a switch" to stop feeling resentful (or can you?). This meditation is centered around how we can release resentments that we feel and step into more courageous freedom.

Transcript

Hello,

Everybody.

I'm Kate Swaboda,

Author of The Courage Habit and creator of YourCourageousLife.

Com and director of the Courageous Living Coach Certification at TeamCLCC.

Com.

And here's today's meditation.

Today's meditation is about releasing resentment.

You might have tried a couple of times before to release resentment around a situation,

And if you've been there before and you're thinking,

How is this going to be any different?

One invitation I would give to you is to see releasing resentment as a process rather than a decision.

And today's meditation will be designed to really get you thinking about how to be in that process.

And it might not happen immediately.

But with acknowledging your experience,

The reality of it,

The truth of it,

And with time and with compassion and patience for yourself,

The other people involved,

Or the situation,

You can get to a place where you are releasing resentment more easily.

Let's go ahead and begin.

Deep breath.

Notice that you always have access to your breath.

No matter what situation has come up or how other people have treated you in the past or any of the other factors that might play a role in the resentment you feel,

You always have your breath.

Let's take three slow deep breaths together now.

Here's the first one.

And now here's the second one.

And here's the third one.

Okay,

Let's begin.

Some food for thought.

That resentment is easier to release when we step into our sovereignty,

When we feel empowered to say our true yes and our true no,

And we can trust ourselves.

We trust ourselves more every time we say a true yes and true no.

We abandon ourselves and we create resentment when we don't say our true yes or our true no.

So in the spirit of reclaiming the truth of who we are and honoring those needs,

Let's use today's practice as a space for this moment onward.

In the past,

You may have made choices that left you feeling resentful.

By making a firm commitment in the here and now to shift starting now and moving forward,

You automatically start to break those past ties to past choices.

In this moment now,

You start the creation of a new pattern.

It may take time,

But the more you practice believing that you're sovereign over your choices and the more you practice letting go of past resentments from a place of trust that you are creating a new pattern,

The more you feel free.

So moving forward,

I'm going to offer some acknowledgments.

As I'm reading these acknowledgments,

Perhaps put a hand over your heart or close your eyes or keep your eyes open and just find a fixed point on the wall.

Maybe wrap yourself in a blanket.

Get into a position where as I'm reading each acknowledgement,

You experience the acknowledgement as coming from yourself,

Even though I'm the one reading the words.

Let's take one more deep breath together.

And here we go.

I acknowledge that in the past,

I have not always aligned myself with my true yes or true no.

This created resentments.

In this new moment,

I let them go.

I acknowledge that in the past,

I have held expectations of others and resented them for not meeting my shoulds,

And this created resentments.

In this new moment,

I let them go.

I acknowledge that in the past,

I have held expectations of the world and how events have unfolded and I have felt resentment when the world did not conform as I thought it should.

This created resentment.

But in this new moment,

I let them go.

Every moment is a new moment.

This is one new moment.

And now this is another new moment.

And now this is another new moment.

All the resentments I have ever felt are part of the past and in this new moment,

I have an opportunity to release.

In this new moment,

I let them go.

Every single new moment becomes the past and drops away.

And a new moment arises again and it's a new opportunity to make a new choice.

In the past,

I have not always chosen to let go of my resentments.

But in this moment,

This fresh new moment,

I choose to let them go.

And now see that all of my new choices moving forward could be choices to align with my true yes and true no.

All of my new choices moving forward can be choices to communicate my needs without holding tight control,

Judgment,

Expectations,

Or shoulds about what others do.

All of my new choices moving forward can be choices to release expectations or release an attachment to my happiness being dependent on how events unfold in the world.

If I find myself out of alignment,

I can always trust that that will drop into the past and a fresh new moment with a new opportunity to step into alignment,

To be aligned in my life,

Will appear.

What has caused me to feel resentment in the past is now in the past.

With this new moment right here,

This new moment,

I take a new breath.

And in this new moment right here,

I quietly declare that from this new moment forward,

I am committed to creating a life that is free of any new resentments.

I honor my true yes.

I honor my true no.

I honor that I have valid needs.

I honor that other people's needs may be different than mine.

I honor that other people's capabilities in communicating or behavior might be different than my own.

I honor that I have desires for how my life unfolds.

I honor that the world unfolds as it will.

I honor that I am sovereign in playing my part in how the world goes on.

I honor that at any moment,

I am sovereign.

I honor that in every moment,

I am the one who can choose to feel resentful or choose to let a resentment go as part of creating a life free of resentment.

And now,

Start taking a deep breath,

Coming back to that breath yet again,

That delicious,

Delicious breath.

And remember that any time you find yourself feeling resentful again,

You can come back to these helpful reminders.

Again,

You might have tried to release resentment before and found that it just didn't work the way you had thought it would.

And that can be very frustrating.

You might have even felt a little resentful about that.

Resentment accrues over time,

And it is released over time.

So give yourself patience and keep coming back to these reminders.

The more you connect to them,

The easier it will be to continue to live the life that you have just declared and committed that you want to live,

Which is a life that is free of resentment.

I hope that you have a beautiful rest of your day.

Reviews

Excellent meditation for releasing resentment. Thank you 🙏

Thank you. Beautiful way to start the day. Namaste.💜🫶🏼

Thank you for sharing this very helpful way of seeing resentment. I will definitely return to this practice.

Thanks a lot. Just what I needed and was looking for.

This is the best meditation on resentment. Super helpful!! Thank you. 🙏🏻

This was very helpful, thank you. I didn't see the resentment before, it just appeared to be as unfixable problems or mistakes stuck in the past.

Really like the concept of each moment is different and it takes time to let go. Wish the affirmations are read a bit slower so I can aborb and repeat after.

Very helpful to be reminded that releasing resentment is a process and doesn’t just happen overnight. 🧡👍🏼

Thank you for this practice. I'll come back to it every time I need it 💙

So helpful and truly appreciated! I feel like I’ve taken some real steps towards letting go. Thank you so very much, Kate 🙏🏻💚

I appreciate the reminder of each moment being separate. Each is an opportunity to let go.

Very helpful! Thank you

I will definitely revisit this meditation. Thank you 🌱

Thank you, I really needed that at this moment.

Thank you… this really helped 🙏🏼

Thank you so much for this gift. It’s helped me realize that letting go of resentments is both a process and tied to making future agreements based on an honest, authentic, sovereign yes or no.

Great meditation which immediately put my resentments into perspective and gave me both some present relief from some I have/had as well as hope addressing them in the future.

More of a talk than a meditation but your voice is still so soothing and I was able to relax my whole body while listening and opening my mind. I am feeling excited and hopeful that with continued use your practice will help me release resentment. Blessings

Great, love hearing another perspective on resentments. Will def keep listening to this one 🙏🏽🌸

Utterly fantastic!! I only wish it was a little longer because it was so relaxing, yet profoundly thought provoking and inspirational at the same time..I might have to put it on loop and definitely while taking some notes. Thank you so much for your time and offering this most beautiful reminder to honor our own beliefs, while remembering not to compare them with those of others simply because they don’t match with our own..such a great lesson on letting go and not resenting anything or anyone “in this moment” 💗🙏