I know that we have to grieve.
Grief can feel like an unwelcomed guest,
But we can learn to hold our grief,
To hold it and allow it to be here because there's nothing else to do.
We have to feel it.
Not feeling it actually prolongs it.
So we welcome it.
We invite it all the way in.
We allow it to take whatever form it needs to take and take however long it needs to take.
It is a guest that stays with you for an unknown amount of time.
I feel grief in my chest and in my heart.
You may ask yourself where you feel it in your body,
Where it resides,
And it may move around.
To me it feels like just a heavy,
Heavy heart and I just feel it.
I know that it's there.
I'm not trying to change it or make it go away.
Just acknowledging it.
I notice that grief really comes in waves.
One minute we can feel like,
Hey,
I'm not doing too bad.
Might actually go as far as to say I'm doing well.
And then another wave rolls in.
And you're like,
How could I have ever thought I was doing well?
But both are true.
That's the thing about grieving is that you can be happy and sad at the same time.
You can feel all the things at the same time.
It's all there.
We can allow all of it to be there.
So when you feel a wave of grief rolling in,
I would encourage you to welcome it.
Let it be there.
Feel what you need to feel.
Because the only way to heal and for grief to do its work on you is to feel it all.
There's no other option.
It's the work of grieving.
And it is,
It is work.
And it will change you.
And it will open you.
And it will expand your heart.
And it will draw you closer to the ones that you love.
It will bring you in to yourself.
It will ask quite a bit of you.
But if you do it,
If you do it,
It will evolve you.
You will be different when it's done with you.
And you'll be able to look back on a really hard time in your life and say,
I made it through.
And it's okay to be in this part of your life.
There's no rush.
There's no hurry to get through it.
You can't rush your grieving.
You can't rush your healing.
So just know that you're right where you need to be.
And give yourself that gift.
Give yourself the time and the space.
Give yourself what you need.
And just be in this part of your life until you're not anymore.
That's it.
That's really simple.
We don't have to get out of what we're in.
There's no reason to.
It's what you're in.
It's what is being asked of you.
And so there isn't anything else for you to do or anywhere else you should be.
It's okay to not be okay.
And it won't last forever.
It won't.
But you have to feel.
You have to feel everything that's there.
You got to move through it.
You have to be in pain.
It's a part of it.
We don't get to avoid that.
And oftentimes,
We,
We just don't want to be in pain.
So we push it away,
Thinking it'll be too hard or too much.
And really,
It's just fear.
It's just fear that it'll be too hard or too much.
But if you just feel it,
You'll be okay.
You will be okay.
I think that grieving and sadness and sorrow and loss is really beautiful.
I know it can be hard to see it that way,
But there's so much beauty in our pain.
So you may even ask yourself,
What can I do with this pain?
Is there something that wants to be created or seen?
I've always really loved sad songs,
Because to me,
They're the most beautiful.
They feel the most real.
They touch my soul deeper than any happy song.
And so I've always really appreciated art that comes from pain.
I think the biggest gift we can give ourselves when we're grieving is to be fully with our grief.
You just got to be totally in it.
And it'll get better.
It'll get lighter.
Take a big inhale and exhale.
Just allow yourself to absorb this information.
Allow it to resonate.
Just allowing whatever you needed to take shape within you,
To help you,
To become real for you.
And just leaving whatever you didn't need.
And again,
Just a big inhale and exhale.
Be well.
Take care of yourself.
Namaste.
