Are We Obsessed With Relationships?

Do you think about relationships all the time and wonder if a healthy one is really possible? Does it sometimes seem like our culture is obsessed with romantic love? Have you questioned your own relationship? I know I've struggled to find a healthy balance and I imagine others have as well.

In this recording, I explore this topic and these ideas as I've experienced them in my own life and what conclusions I can draw today.

Reviews

Hi Kate, Great talk on a complicated subject that I have struggled with for a long time. It took me until fairly recently to learn to love myself, treat myself with compassion and appreciate myself. I was so focused on others that I left myself in the dust. I also have wrestled with codependency a lot and still do at times. I grew up learning that being an adult was going to college, getting married, having kids, and growing old. It wasn' t until about 2 years ago at 71 years old when I separated from someone I cared a lot about. Something didn't feel right inside of me. We were together for 3 years. I kept on having depressive episodes until finally I told her that I need to separate because something isn't right with me and I care how that might affect you. We both went through alot of emotional ups and downs when it ended. As I have come to understand myself, I have realized that I never really loved myself in a healthy manner. I was empty inside generally focusing on all my mistakes from the past and my negative self criticisms and self -attributions wanting to please others or be cool. Now, I'm beginning to really love myself in a healthy way. Ive learned that I matter. Im worthy of love, i dont have to do anything that I would find uncomfortable, putting self- care and self compassion first in my life, connecting with my higher power. Each day gets a little better. I now focus on self care, taking care of my health and well being. Ive never really felt that all these years. It makes me glow inside. The person from whom I separated, we are now friendly with each other. Since I really still don't know how to be in a relationship in a healthy way, i have let that idea go. I still just really don't know how. Especially because Im just beginning to love myself. And I realize you can't give away something you dont have or have enough of. Its very freeing. Thanks for the reinforcement Kate. Blessings, Robt.

I think this is such a great talk to put things in to perspective. Great questions to ask ourselves. I wonder to if it is possible to commit to myself and another without losing myself in the process. I haven’t figured it out yet but I’m hopeful. For now I’ll stick to the relationship with me and see how it goes. Thank you.

Perfect. I feel this way too. It's great to hear another's point of view on the topic. Thank you

Great perspective! I really connected with this. Thanks!

Full circle, thanks again for sharing all these wonderfully different, yet similar observations throughout time that I stitched together just now. I have been on a walk a long a river in the beautiful mountains....and this has been such a great 'conversation' to listen to as I directly yet differently relate to this very common human challenge. Thanks for opening and sharing all these 🙏- so relatable - Happy Thanksgiving!