Welcome,
My hyper-independent friend,
To this custom meditation I created for you to help you with the role you play in your family and in life.
If you identify with the hyper-independent archetype,
You're someone who's had to rely on yourself,
Maybe for as long as you can remember.
Independence has become your safety,
Your strategy,
Your shield.
And while it's made you incredibly capable,
Strong,
And self-sufficient,
It may also be keeping you from the connection your heart truly craves.
So this meditation isn't about changing you.
It's about honoring all that you've carried while gently inviting in the possibility of support.
So let's begin by settling in,
Closing your eyes,
And bringing one hand to your heart and the other to your belly.
Taking a slow,
Deep breath in and exhaling fully.
Doing that two more times as you ground your awareness into your body.
You are someone who knows how to survive.
You've navigated life's storms with resilience,
Resourcefulness,
And grit.
These are gifts.
They are not wrong.
They are evidence of your brilliance.
Your body has a built-in genius to keep you alive for so long.
Your brain has learned how to navigate tough situations and be resourceful.
But even warriors get tired.
Even strong ones need rest.
Even those who can do it all are allowed to ask for help.
So with your next inhale,
I want you to breathe in and imagine your body opening to receive.
Maybe rolling your shoulders back and away from the ears and relaxing the belly,
Letting your chest open and expand.
Imagining your body opening on the inhale,
Your energy,
The feeling in your body opening and expanding,
Lightening and softening.
And with your exhale,
Letting go of the belief that you need to hide.
On the inhale,
Saying to yourself,
I am safe to receive.
And on the exhale,
I soften my guard.
On the inhale,
Support is safe.
And on the exhale,
I do not have to do it all alone.
Let yourself imagine being held.
Not fixed.
Not managed.
Just held.
Who holds you?
How are you held?
What is holding you?
The image or feeling you're experiencing now is something you can come back to over and over again in your heart when you need to feel supported.
It's okay to not always know how to ask or feel like a burden when you do.
These are just old stories running a false program of the mind.
When you come back to this feeling of being open and held,
You remember the younger version of you who needed this so badly.
There is strength in knowing when to lean in.
There is power in allowing yourself to be vulnerable.
You are still you.
Even in rest.
Even in softness.
Even when you allow yourself to let someone in.
You carry a great possession of the gift of discernment.
But don't let it take you too far away from your heart.
Take a few more breaths here.
Let this moment and this feeling embed itself in your nervous system.
A new kind of safety.
One that says,
I can ask for help and still be whole.
I can be supported and still be strong.
I can choose softness without losing my edge.
And when you're ready,
Begin to bring some gentle movement back into your body.
Wiggling your fingers and toes.
Maybe taking a full body stretch.
And when it feels right,
Open your eyes.
Welcome home.
