Welcome,
Everyone.
My name is Kavo Jahan.
I'll be your guide for today.
We are going to go on a journey.
So get a cup of tea or cacao and let's talk about evolving,
Becoming and finding the one.
There was a moment recently when I was sitting with a cup of tea in my backyard and asking myself a simple question as I was connecting to mama nature,
To the Pachamama,
Just listening to the birds chirping,
Really enjoying this greenery as we have entered summer.
And the simple question came up after a long time.
And it was,
What am I becoming?
Not in the way society often frames it,
Career,
Partner,
Title,
But in a much deeper,
Subtler way.
What is this presence inside of me?
What's actually becoming?
I realized for so long,
I wasn't looking for the one,
The soulmate,
The divine counterpart,
The completion.
But after years of meditation,
Silence and turning inward,
Something has shifted.
The longing didn't disappear.
It just transformed.
Because slowly I realized,
I am the one I have been seeking.
That the soul doesn't split into halves,
It expands.
And when you expand with it,
You begin to see everyone is the one.
Every soul is your mirror.
Every connection is a reflection.
So you might be saying,
That's ridiculous.
How can everyone be the one?
That's so many the ones.
The way we're talking about is a bit different.
I want you to see that it's all interconnected.
You are an interconnected being.
Everything in nature affects you.
You affect nature as well.
If nature can evolve,
So do you.
And when you understand that,
Not just with your mind,
Not intellectualizing this,
But with your being,
By experiencing it,
But by pure experience,
Direct experience,
You no longer search for someone to complete you.
You begin to create from your own wholeness.
Modern psychology now aligns with this ancient truth.
Carl Jung called it individuation,
The process of becoming whole through the integration of the unconscious and the conscious self.
In other words,
To access your full creative power,
You must first become yourself fully,
Freely,
Authentically.
It's not about adding more.
It's about shedding what you're not.
So it's the opposite.
No additions.
We're just shedding.
In spiritual practice,
This is the essence of what many call becoming truth.
Not just learning it,
Not just believing it,
Not just reading it.
It's pure experiencing it.
And through experience,
You're becoming it.
You're the embodiment of that which you say you are.
That which you're willing to shed.
You are the wisdom you seek.
You are the light you long for.
To understand this,
I'd like to share a story of the Buddha and the wanderer.
This will help land what we're talking about a bit deeper.
There's this beautiful and profound encounter the Buddha has with the wanderer Vajra Gautam.
The wanderer approaches the Buddha with a question.
Is there a self?
Venerable Gautama.
The Buddha remains silent.
The wanderer asks again.
Then,
There is no self?
Again,
The Buddha remains silent.
Eventually,
The wanderer walks away.
Confused.
Later,
His cousin,
His closest attendant,
Ananda,
Asks the Buddha why he did not answer him.
And the Buddha replied,
Ananda,
If I had said,
Yes,
There is a self,
That would not align with the truth I have realized.
It would support the view that the self is something eternal and unchanging.
Which it is not.
If I had said,
No,
There is no self,
That too would not be accurate.
Because it could lead someone confused.
Like the wanderer,
To believe that nothing exists at all.
Or that the person is completely annihilated.
He was already confused.
And either answer would have made him more confused.
I teach the Dhamma in a way that goes beyond both of these views.
Not clinging to the idea of a permanent self.
And not falling into the belief in total nothingness.
The Buddha's silence was not avoidance,
It was wisdom.
He knew the truth is not grasped through concepts,
But by direct realization.
To say I am or I am not is already a misunderstanding of what the self is.
The self is not a fixed thing.
It is a process and unfolding.
It's just like becoming.
So what if your purpose isn't to find the one?
What if it's to become whole?
To walk this life as a soul remembering itself?
What if your art,
Your love,
Your presence,
Comes from the truth that you're already complete?
You don't need to find yourself in another.
You can return to yourself,
Breath by breath.
And when you do,
You don't just access creativity.
You become it.
So whatever you're seeking,
You become it.
Take a moment after listening to this,
To pause,
To go for a walk in nature.
To just experience life as is in the present moment.
And to see what's coming through you,
Just naturally.
How are you becoming in every moment that you're living?
Thank you for listening.
Thank you for being here.
And I'll see you soon.
